How can u find the right guy.

The right guy and what you think you want are always the same thing. Stop looking. Love you. Beam with confidence and someone who loves the true you will be there. OR do what I did and go on craigslist....no really I married him....never said he was mr right but we are good together and that is what matters. If he was mr right he would be Steven Tyler but I hear he is in a committed relationship.

Right there with you...looking for the right girl.

With ZERO luck I might add.

find the wrong guy and pick his best friend next to him. lol

wow... this is exactly what i did. HHAAH... thats funny!!

It's not when you stop looking, it's when you stop looking desperate! Oh, and yes, the best man really is the "best man".

I'm the wrong guy. Hi.

Ha, perhaps you could be the right now guy then. :drinker:

Oooh, I'm a big fan of Mr. Right Now. They are always sooo much fun.


Seriously though to the OP, One day you will find the man who is perfect for you, and you will be perfect for him. Its not something that can be rushed or forced.

There are also online dating sites just for Christians, maybe try that out?

Don't be in a hurry. When the right guy comes along, you'll know it. Whatever you do, don't force a relationship and listen to your friends and family. They will see more in a guy than you will because, what's the old saying? "Love is Blind"? No truer words have ever been spoken.

You're young. Take your time. Live life to the fullest and eventually, it will happen.

Here I am... brought a 6 pack of beer.
I'll be looking good when your done:smokin: :flowerforyou:

Perhaps not "stop looking," but simply not making it your only goal. Going out and trying new things because you've always wanted to, not because you might find a man. If a woman is fixated on trying to get married, men will feel like a means to an end, which isn't fair.

Don't wait to live your life until you have a man to share it with.

after a string of disastrous relationships (and i MEAN disastrous, my last boyfriend lasted 3 years before cheating on me with a 14 year old asian transgender kid) I'm certain i've found the right guy. We started hanging out through a different ex. We both burn it, so we would meet up and burn and then spend hours just talking. When I first met him I didn't think he was attractive- not that he was ugly, I just never saw him that way. It was completely platonic. We started hanging out more and more over a period of almost a year, and one day I realized I wanted him. Since we had never even discussed the remote possibility in being involved with one another, so I was incredibly hesitant to bring it up, but finally I blurted it out and it turned out he'd been feeling that way too. Two days later I informed him that we were now dating (I'm fed up with asking guys things). It's been a year and four months and we just moved in together and it's been freaking great. A few HUGE things that are different about this guy (as opposed to my terrible relationships):

-My friends like him, including my gay best friend (he is almost always right about these things)
-We were friends for a long while first
-I didn't come into the friendship expecting anything to develop
-I was single for a year before we got together (the longest before that was 2 months)
-we hooked up a few days before we started dating.... sexual compatibility is REALLY important to me
-he's never asked me to change anything about myself, and vice versa
-I didn't tell him everything about my past right off the bat, it's been a process
-i had gotten over most of the symptoms associated with the mood disorder I have, and i'm still actively seeking help
-neither of us does hard drugs anymore and i no longer have a drinking problem
-he gets along with my family, and they like him
-when we fight (all couples fight, it's healthy to a certain extent) it never lasts more than an hour (or the period of time in which we're talking about it), as in we don't sleep on the couch, there's no awkward period after. we actually resolve the issue.
-his flaws don't drive me up the wall, i've learned to accept and even love them

a good man is HARD to find. just remember that the most attractive man is usually not the best man. I had always tried to initiate things with people I picked out as "hot" before, and it turns out that's not a good basis for a relationship. Also, the best relationships occur naturally. If you can't be a friend to someone, how do you expect to be a girlfriend to them? not every relationship starts out as a friendship, but if you've been on a few dates and you're still super anxious about impressing them, instead of just looking forward to the flow of things, it's not right. I've internet dated a lot and it's never turned out well- that's another thing. The best person for you is going to have common interests (in my case, burning). If you're really interested in biology or rock climbing or culture or something, take a class on those things, and the people in that class already have common ground with you! Internet dates or hookups at clubs and stuff rarely have common interests.

also, don't "try out" a ton of guys. I was dating around a lot and being pretty sexually promiscuous for a long while and it turned out that people weren't attracted to me specifically because of that, and if they were they wanted that side of me, not the committed, loving, sane side. BE YOUR BEST SELF.

I hope I helped.

It's not when you stop looking, it's when you stop looking desperate!

LOL

^TRUE THIS

Stop needing a man and you'll find one.
Good luck to you!

A friend hooked me up with mine, like 2 months after I stopped actively looking, lol. Sadly I only get to see him 1-2 times a month since we live 1.5 hours away from each other and stuff and I don't drive. *sigh* >.<

You don't, he will find you.

Where should I send my application lol :happy:

I gave up looking. Two horribly failed marriages (one when I was VERY young and one more recent) and then falling in love with someone so far out of my reach for so many reasons has left me numb on the subject.

Currently working with the state of mind that if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with . . . there's a lot of self love going on in my house.

Am I looking in the mirror? hmmm....