Need support after miscarriage

Oh, honey, I am so very, very sorry. A miscarriage is what got me started. I had hopes of trying again, but what we went through after was just too painful and my husband doesn't have it in him to try again.

You may want to go talk to someone. Perhaps an anti-depressant is in order. My depression lasted for a good 6 months after mine.

As far as diet goes, take care of yourself first. Get back to who you know you are. The rest will come.

So sorry for your loss. I understand how heart-breaking it can be. I found it helped to talk to people about it. The more I talked about it, them more I realized I wasn't alone. You are right that you are grieving and food can be a great comfort for many. Try and make small steps to curb the binging and you'll gain control of your eating again in time.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My sister has suffered 5 miscarriages (6 babies) since she had her son 6 years ago. Each one is devastating and takes a toll on not just her body, but on nearly every area of the family's life. I haven't been there myself, but here is my advice: Be kind to yourself and, as I think you are, continue acknowledging that you are mourning right now. Treat yourself as you would a friend. Also, when you're eating too much junk, remind yourself that you want to keep your body healthy so that you'll have a greater chance of maintaining a healthy pregnancy, should you get pregnant again. Again, I'm so sorry to hear that you have to go through this.

It sounds like you may be punishing yourself and using food as your weapon. Have you spoken to anyone about the miscarriage? Is there anyone to help you through your grieving process...family, clergy, anyone? You have to remind yourself that the miscarriage was NOT your fault, that you were doing everything humanly possible to have your baby arrive safely. Sometimes, these things are taken out of our hands, and there's just nothing we can do. YOU still deserve to have a healthy life. YOU still deserve to make healthy choices. YOU have to love YOURSELF enough to carry on and be healthy, even if you don't really want to right now. If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here.

I am much older now but I know where you are coming from. Just know that when you hormones get back to "normal" you will feel better. Remember you not only had an emotional loss, your hormones bottomed out. Next tiime you feel like eating a box of something, go outside and find something beautifull to look at, do something to shift gears even temporarily. I remember leaving the place where I worked for just a few minutes to take long deep breaths outside. Pretend you're giving some of that grief to me. It may seem trite but you can make it through this.:flowerforyou:

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please feel free to add me.

I have had 2- pain is there- its real- Talk to someone- find a support group even. There is an old book that helped me called "i'll hold you in Heaven". Excellent resource. ((((hugs)))))

Hugs. Sorry for your loss....

I have had two miscarriages in the last few years. It is not an easy process to go through, and it isn't one you can get through without stopping to mourn every once in awhile. Your husband is not allowed to be "talked out" - in a few weeks, when you would have had your first appointment, or a few months, when you pass another milestone, you need to be able to tell him "You know, today would have been...." and he needs to offer sympathy and comfort. You aren't dwelling on it, it's part of the grieving process. For me, and maybe it's because I have already had a child, but every milestone had to be acknowledged and I would tell my husband and we would talk about it for a few minutes and then move on with our day. The hardest part was getting beyond the due date, but do you know what happened atfter that? Like a breath of fresh air, an oppressive weight began to lift off of my heart and it was only then that I felt like it was in my past. The grieving process for miscarriage does not end when you get your next normal period. It doesn't end when your HCG levels return to normal. It begins to end long after. Do not rush through just because someone else thinks you should be "over it" by now. And as far as your mom goes... only you know what's right, but if your husband isn't giving you what you need along the way, then your mom probably will. Maybe she has even been through it. Sometimes it really is beyond the ability of some men to truly understand that which we can't put into words. Good luck to you, it does get easier. I promise.