Ideas on How to Get REAL-LIFE Friends
MaryPhillips90
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My friends are few and far between and have slowly deminished over the years. Co-workers are the closest friends I have and that's the extent of it.
I really don't know HOW to go about finding new friends, but I know I will have to venture out alone.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to meet new people?
I really don't know HOW to go about finding new friends, but I know I will have to venture out alone.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to meet new people?
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Girls bathroom at the bar. I go in by myself and leave with a new BFF every time.0
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gym, church, hobby groups0
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I prefer stalking....0
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no idea0
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Yeah, the bar would be GREAT ...if there were some around! That would entail going to one by myself, though. Does anyone do that? Lol
I don't really do the whole church thing...0 -
Meeting people at a bar seems perfectly logical.0
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www.meetup.org0
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You could try Meet Up. It's a site where people organize groups and meet for events. it's a good way top meet people.0
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I am an introverted extrovert myself. (if that makes any sense)
I usually don't like just walking up to/talking to someone out of the blue, but will will talk to someone if it is done to me. I hear what you are saying. It can be difficult.
I went to a bar alone...doesn't work too well for a guy. The guys in the bathroom that want to be your friends have other things on their mind, so that is huge NO-NO for me.
You do need to put yourself out there, or make yourself available and it happens. When forced, I can say it doesn't. Do you have a hobby that you like to do, that my have events and such? Stalking works, but you then might have friends on the inside of a bar scene if you catch my drift...0 -
Yeah, the bar would be GREAT ...if there were some around! That would entail going to one by myself, though. Does anyone do that? Lol
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My husband and I are going through the SAME thing.
And we always just end up hanging out by ourselves or with my sister and her husband.
We've hung out with co-workers outside of work here and there but nothing like a "Real" friend.
Mine have all moved away or are still REALLY into the bar scene (they are quite a few years younger and it's just not my thing anymore)
I have no advice for you, but just wanted to let you know you aren't alone! lol0 -
When I got divorced a couple of years ago, I lost all my friends. My friends were all married and their wives were not about to let me be a negative influence in their lives. I didn't blame them because I certainly would have distracted them with my lifestyle.
I had to be completely open and friendlier than otherwise I would be. I started inviting coworkers out for a round or for a barbeque at the house and I would have them invite a friend or two. Over time I was able to forge new relationships.
It really just comes down to being yourself, being open, but also stepping outside your comfort zone and just hoping that someone will actually be a true, real-life friend. Those are very few and far between, but it starts with you being a friend to them...even when they may not merit your friendship at times.0 -
I moved to a small town just under two years ago, and I have the same problem. I am "friends" with a few of the people I work with, but only during work hours... I would love to meet some people to be friends with outside of work, but it's so hard.
I totally know what you're going through.0 -
Put yourself out there. The more your seen, the more people interact with you. So join a gym, become a regular at a new spot (be it a coffee shop, pool, etc), explore a hobby you've always wanted to do, or joint a single adventure club/rec league of some sort. Good luck!!!0
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3 years ago I answered a Craig's List ad from the "Activities" section. There was a 27 year old woman in my area looking for someone to walk/jog/bike with and even though it was only a few lines, it sounded like I wrote the ad. I had to respond! She and I are now the best of friends.0
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Yeah, the bar would be GREAT ...if there were some around! That would entail going to one by myself, though. Does anyone do that? Lol
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Girls bathroom at the bar. I go in by myself and leave with a new BFF every time.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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I teach bellydance class. It seems that there are always a core of girls who tend to bond at the classes. I have also met some really good friends who have taken my classes. So, I'm going to vote for a fitness class.0
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Click windows start icon, .... shut down computer......0
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I moved to a new city a few years ago and have met most of my friends here through activities -- volunteering, meet-up groups, book groups, taking classes in one thing or another. Finding group activities that you enjoy and can feel comfortable attending alone helps, especially if the same people come back a lot.0
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My husband and I are going through the SAME thing.
And we always just end up hanging out by ourselves or with my sister and her husband.
We've hung out with co-workers outside of work here and there but nothing like a "Real" friend.
Mine have all moved away or are still REALLY into the bar scene (they are quite a few years younger and it's just not my thing anymore)
I have no advice for you, but just wanted to let you know you aren't alone! lol
Exact same issue.0 -
I go to the bar myself all the time. I've met some really cool friends that way, actually.Yeah, the bar would be GREAT ...if there were some around! That would entail going to one by myself, though. Does anyone do that? Lol
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The hubby says I am anti-social, but I prefer to think of myself as socially selective. Joking aside, I really do have a hard time making friends, but I may try meetup.com and see what happens.0
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Would suggest taking up a new hobby. Golf perhaps.... I met my best friend on a driving range many years ago and we still talk almost every day.
And swinging a club is good exercise.0 -
I usually walk up to them and slap the....
I kid I kid...
This is how I meet people:0 -
My husband and I are going through the SAME thing.
And we always just end up hanging out by ourselves or with my sister and her husband.
We've hung out with co-workers outside of work here and there but nothing like a "Real" friend.
Mine have all moved away or are still REALLY into the bar scene (they are quite a few years younger and it's just not my thing anymore)
I have no advice for you, but just wanted to let you know you aren't alone! lol
100% agree. Parenting often times isolate us to not having much friends. Best to enjoy the hubby and I for our date times. I find it very difficult to have close friends due to my healthy lifestyle.0 -
I took a few classes at the local craft store (for things like jewelry making and sewing) and I met some great people.0
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Wish I had advice for you, I am going through the same thing. All my friends whom I used to hang out with kind of don't mesh with my lifestyle anymore.
You're not alone! If I had the opportunity I would join a gym and become a "regular" at the classes, those women all seem to be friends with common interests.
good luck
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And a swinging club is good exercise.
If you're into that sort of thing...
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there is only one answer, get the *kitten* out and start having fun...its the only way...friends follow every time...0
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