Would you tell?

If it was one of my real close friends, which I only have like 5 real close ones then yes

If its an acquaintance....hell naw because then you get stuck in the baby mama drama

I would tell. If my friend was being cheated on, I would definitely let her know. If she turns on me for it, then I would know we didn't have the kind of friendship I thought we had. Personally, I would not remain friends with someone who was cheating on their SO. It speaks to a certain lack in moral fiber with which I prefer not to associate. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some sort of prude, but if this person is willing to be so disrespectful and underhanded towards their SO, what are they doing behind your back?

If it was a close/best friend who was being cheated on, then I would tell them. If you're that close with someone, I would hope that the friendship would be strong enough to survive. I think it partly also depends what you say/how you say it and what evidence you have.. there's a difference between having a suspicion (ex. seeing a friend's SO once or twice with someone you don't know around town) and knowing for sure (ex. seeing the two of them making out together etc). If you only have a suspicion, depending on the friend/circumstance it might seem like you're trying to meddle in the relationship.

If my friend was the one cheating on someone, I probably wouldn't tell the other person (assuming that person is not a close friend of mine), I might not agree with it, but when it comes down to it - it's not my choice or my life, I probably don't know the whole situation and it's not my place to judge their actions.

depends of my realtionship with the couple. if I was better friends with the Cheater, I would call them out, ask WTF, and wait for the lame excuses. If I was better friends with the Cheated, I rat the cheater out.

but I agree that letting someone know this can slam back on you big time. A friend was all gaga over a guy who was in "law enforcement" but it was all hush-hush. He kept having to travel to a city across the state to work with a well-know anti-gang unit. When I informed her that the gang unit had been shut down 3 years earlier for corruption and was not in operation anymore, she freaked out.

She asked me to do a bunch of research on the subject so she could confront him. I was opposed to the idea because I knew it would end badly, but dug up the dirt on him none the less. She confronts him and it turns out *gasp* that it was all a cover story, because he was doing deep cover for the DEA and my research could get him killed and a 5 year operation was blown.

In the end, it turned out he was over $100 K in debt to Vegas casinos and worked for a company that did security work for large department stores. She still feels like I ruined her relationship.

On the positive side learned a valuable lesson if I ever become a playa: when confronted with a lie, come back with a even bigger lie. :laugh: :laugh:

Depends. If it was a family member being cheated on, I'd be up in the grill of the person cheating. If it was a family member doing the cheating, I'd be up in their grill.
If it was a friend, I'd let it go. To me there's a difference with family and friends when it comes to relationships.

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So on a side note to the whole "side chick" topic. If you knew a couple and you knew one of them was cheating (had been for a significant amount of time, one night fling, whichever).
Would you tell the other person in the committed relationship?
Would you talk to the one cheating to try to get them to stop?
Or would you do nothing?

I'd let the person know, but I'd bring proof. Otherwise you risk losing your friend over their disbelief.

I would try Black Mail first.

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As much as I hate getting into other people's business, I would most likely say something. If the situation was turned around, I would really like someone to tell me.

This- out of respect for the person, and just in case of health issues

Personally i wouldn't get involved.. This has happened to me and i decided to do nothing.. It's not really up to me.. and also i think she knew her bloke was cheating so i didn't want to tell her i knew as well! It is a tricky one.