Feeling down, just sad and in need of virtual hugs..

HUGS khadeejah1!

Your brave to lay it all out like you have. Your writing also seems to confirm your comment that some people think you're intelligent.

Everybody has a bad day now and then. This too will pass.

I understand your concern about appearance and attracting a partner. It is unfortunate that attraction depends so much "initially" on appearance. I suspect that if you are successful with your diet plan (and nutrition), that not only physical appearance will improve (yep.....I see excellent bone structure in one of your profile pics) as well as your aura (how you feel about yourself will improve too)!

My first wife was a real beauty. It lasted 5 years. My second/current wife has a heart of gold (and yes, I was physically attracted to her too). We've been together for 27 years, and I suspect we'll go through all those old age transitions together.

It can happen to you too.

Most importantly, what little I can see of your facial body language (involuntary muscles) leads me to believe you are also a good person.

Lemme' see now......good facial bone structure.......eyes that participate in smiles.......a glandular glisten in the eye .... intelligent...wanting babies implies loving nature.......

Seems to me you've got a lot going for you..........

So just that initial physical attraction issue to address via diet/exercise.....some "circulating" to increase the chances of contact with someone with "the right stuff" .... and life could turn 180 degrees in your favor.

Good luck! And HUGS.....we who are about to loose weight (or just lost weight) salute YOU!

you are beautiful!! OWN IT!! i am sorry that your having a crappy week. Sometimes it gets worse b4 it gets better! **HUGS**

hugs you are a beautiful person! chin up!

And just to make sure one more BIG hug. This to shall pass.

:flowerforyou: I understand where you are coming from. Hope you feel better soon. You may need to take a few weeks off of work if you can and just have some me time. I'm doing that now. Took a month off. When it gets stressful like that, its time to back away for a bit. :flowerforyou:

(((hugs)))

I am so sorry your feeling so down that breaks my heart.. I know how it feels to feel unsexy and I struggle with it myself. Its funny how some days I feel GREAT!!! a real hottie than BAM fat, ugly, blah.. Truth is I see you as very beautiful and intelligent and thoughtful like a prev. poster said " If a guy don't want you for your weight. Fu&#k em!!"

I like the saying : "Bones are for the Dogs, Meat is for a man!"

hope you feel uplifted very soon!!

huggles xoxox

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How are you feeling today?

I hope you're feeling much better this morning! I moved around a lot when I was single, and although the packing and moving part was very stressful, I always enjoyed the unpacking, as it was a chance to "get my house in order". As for being single, enjoy it! Sleep in, lounge around in your pajamas with coffee in the morning, exercise if you want to, read a great book. I didn't get married until I was 32 (most of my friends married young) and had my sons at 33 and 38, very few relaxing mornings now! Sending hugs, I know exactly how you feel....

hugs to you... I hope you're feeling better today!

Do a little something for yourself... make a sugar scrub and make your hands really soft... or put a facial mask on to make your skin feel smooth... or soak your feet in the tub and give yourself a pedicure - paint your toenails... pamper yourself because you're worth it! Don't binge - that's self-defeating - find something else to do - be good to yourself! Or... (sometimes what I do)... bake a bunch of dessert and then give it away!

Oh... and watch this (I do when I need a pick-me-up!) http://www.xfit.org/motivational-speech-by-rocky-balboa/

Yeah, I understand it might be hard to accept right now, but being single is a gift. You will never have more time to do what you want to do. I remember feeling like you do about getting older and being alone... I didn't meet my husband until I was 36... here is what my favorite aunt used to tell me when I got down and lonely, "Don't worry about meeting a guy... work on yourself and get yourself where you want to be. Don't worry about finding a guy... work on yourself." and baking goods for others also helps... gives you practice without the calories! Take care sweetie, everything has a season... this is is just one of them and it won't last... it WILL get BETTER!!! <hugs>

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Sending lots of hugs. love and prayers your way.:flowerforyou:

Big hug! :flowerforyou:

Honey, I swear, not long ago I could have written that. It sounded so much like me I even read it in my voice. I've never had the apartment bully problem but the guy buddies who talk about how hot other girls are and find me invisible or just one of the guys, story of my life. I've always fit in better with the guys. I think I've always been too big to really fit in with the girls. I've always been the fat friend. It sucks. And what crappy luck on the tablet!!! UGH! Insult to injury :frown: I hope so much today is better for you. Maybe when you get out of that apartment and into your new place you can make a whole new beginning for yourself. Someone else commented on how beautiful you are, I went and looked and you really are. Chin up, girlfriend. You sound like a wonderful person. Wonderful things are bound to come your way soon. :flowerforyou: