Little Kids Telling You That You Are Fat

OMG!!! Do their parents not talk to them about this? My "step daughter" (boyfriend's daughter) is 5 and she called me fat once. We scolded her and explained why that is incredibly rude and mean to say to someone. She understood and hasn't done anything like that before. In fact, when her and I were talking about me eating differently and exercising more this last weekend, she caught herself before using the word "fat" and said something like "getting even smaller." Kids can be hurtful, but they don't know any better. It's the parents that should be taking responsibility for their actions and correcting them.

Wow, looking at your profile pic, you don't even look fat to me. I'd hate to hear what your niece would say to me LOL!

Proper sympathy. On the other hand just because they're kids doesn't mean they're right. My 3-year old told another mother at pre-school that she had fat legs. The lady was completely normal sized. I was horrified but she took it in apparent good humour. I do hope her feelings weren't hurt as her legs were perfectly fine. Tried to explain to my kid but hard to tell if it sunk in...

If you want brutal honesty, ask a child. I don't ask my boyfriend how I look before I go out, I ask my 5 year old niece. She's starting to grow a filter now, though, she's getting polite in her 'old age'.

OUCH!! Kids can be brutally honest in their innocence.

My oldest daughter is 7. She was called fat by a girl in her class last year and she is one of the healthiest and fittest kids and by no means even close to having any fat on her body. It tore her to pieces! "Fat" is a bad word in our house. We use healthy or unhealthy. I wanted to punch that little girl for saying that. And I know the girl's mother and I can guarantee that the little girl learned to criticize others by her mother's actions. Its ridiculous!

My daughter is brutally honest about my clothes and size. She tells me that I'm doing good with my workouts and that I will be "healthy" in no time. Which is nice. She says she doesn't like me "unhealthy."

Its frustrating that kids say that and I'm sorry that your niece said that to you. Its a wonder sometimes what goes on inside their little heads.

Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like its been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

But it does make it that more awesome when a kid says you look good. Gotta take the good with the bad. Best compliment ever was when my 3-year-old son, came into the room and on his own accord said, "Mommy, you're pretty."

Never had the good. Only bad. She also has a tendency to tell me I'm ugly. Oh well.

But from your profile pic, you are gorgeous! Your son was right

Well take it from someone who still has the thought filter of a 5 year old, though perhaps a better vocabulary...you are a very pretty girl!

Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like it's been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

Oh I can definitely relate. Once during a dinner party, my grandmother apologized to everyone on how fat I've gotten. In her own words, "I'm sorry that you have to see her like this. She's a blimp. She used to be so much prettier."

I've also gotten "At least, you have a cute face." from other relatives.

I don't want to step on any toes, but your family sounds kinda mean, like meaner than most family ribbing. I'm sorry they aren't more sensitive.

Lots of families are like that. While not as insulting as hers appears to be, my Dad's side of the family is brutally honest on pretty much any topic.

When I was about 8 my step-mother's family nic-named me sumo and as I enjoyed ballet so much they also called me the sugar plump fairy.
I may have been stocky as I'm not delicately built, but I was never overweight as a child. As an adult it actually shocks me that somebody would call a child that

Yep...had it from kids......from adult, especially little old ladies at church, they are as blunt as children....even had it from the family doctor......went to him for the first time, my parents had been to him for years, and the first thing out of his mouth was "So, you're the fat one in the family."

kids call it like they see it. i love that they don't lie.
it's a nice wakeup call to kickstart weight loss!

Kids are way too honest but innocent.
They don't get that grown ups have feelings. Just know this.
Whatever kids ever said about me being fat?
Everybody else was thinking it. What's the difference?

That's why we're all here.
God luck to you - All Is Possible:flowerforyou:

I haven't been insulted by children...yet...but I know if I EVER spoke to anyone in that manner, at that age, my mom would have kicked my butt and then actually punished me. Then she probably would have given me a lesson/lecture on bullying everyday until I was 30. It would have been the first and last time I was ever rude.

Parents should be more responsible and teach their kids that they only way to be accepted in society is to lie to people and tell them only what they want to hear.