Being fat is just easier..
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You aren't COMMITTED. People want to lose weight, look good, feel good etc., but only a few will truly COMMIT to doing it. Commitment means "hell or high water". No matter what tries to derail you, you stick to the commitment. If a person TRULY wants something, they will do WHATEVER it takes to achieve it.Why do I lose my motivation so quickly?!?? I have my days where I get so pumped up to exercise and eat healthy but then a few days later or even weeks I just completely lose it. Idk if anyone can help ('cause I'm sure this is more of a mental thing) but, why can't I stay motivated? And what keeps you motivated??
Until you have that commitment, then you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............you'll wander aimlessly. You'll hit land every once in awhile, but without a rudder, you don't steer.
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As for myself, I think about my diabetes, PCOS & those heavy TOM moments before & how my new lifestyle help improved it. That if I slip back into my old habits then my condition would get worse.
Did the weight loss really help the PCOS and heavy TOM moments? The biggest problem I have with PCOS is the hair growth and I'm hoping that if I lose enough then it will stop growing!!
YES. Well I did had a hard time losing weight & in fact it took me 3 years just to lose those 22 kilos (50 pounds). As for hair growth, I don't think that will have an effect at all because I still having those facial hairs specifically on the mustache & chin area. PCOS happened because we have testosterone levels that is above average for a woman which is why we are having some unusual things such as hair growth. However the other problems of PCOS such as insulin resistance & the heavy period greatly improved with the weight loss.
By the way I lift heavy but the testosterone levels hardly gave me an advantage of building muscle quick.0 -
Being LAZY is easy, being fat is really hard, hard on your knees, hard on your motivation, hard on your mentality, hard on your life. Being thin & healthy is much easier, it just takes a little hard work to get there. I agree with the earlier post, make small changes, park furthest away when you go to the grocery store or work, use a small plate when you serve yourself food, and dont expect to be 10 pound lighter in a few days, that only happens on TV and its not realistic. Watch for small victories, like "It was a little easier to tie my shoes today", or "my jeans weren't as uncomfortable today".
Best wishes on your journey! ~Bre0 -
Of course being fat is easier, if it wasn't everyone would be lean and have sexy bodies!
From what it sounds, you might be eating away your emotions. It's not what you're eating, it's what's eating you. People who have a tendency to fall off track like that are usually eating out of stress. Before you reach for that "cookie," or whatever it may be, stop and ask yourself, what are you feeling, writing it down will help a lot too! If you feel like you have to have the need to cheat, do it only once a week and only 1-2 meals, and keep it controlled and portioned out so you won't feel, "deprived."
What keeps me motivated are a lot of things. The envisioned self of me having a sexy muscular bod with abs of steel! I look at a lot of female body builders and it motivates me a lot too to be like them one day. My boyfriend also motivates me a lot, I really want to look my best and feel my best! Nothing tastes as good as being slim feels! I also reward myself here and there by shopping like I would buy a new workout top or shorts/etc. Also looking back at what I was before the weight loss helps tremendously. It shows how far I've gone and makes me realize I've come a long way! 
Don't give up, motivation comes from within you. You have to love yourself and want to do this for yourself. 0 -
Being fat is way easier.
There's also nothing wrong with being fat. It doesn't make you lazy, ugly, worthless, etc.
If being fat is really what you prefer, go with it. If weight loss is something you really want deep down, then go with that. Do what makes you happy. 0 -
The more you exercise, and eat healthier...the more you'll crave it. I seem to have swapped one addiction for another....I still like food and at times I am more hungry than normal.
Exercise really does make you feel good...it releases endorphins...yada yada...this isn't a science class. Experiment..just try...to do a little bit everyday and eventually it turns into a habbit.
Keep your head up...and do it for yourself!!!0 -
''being fat is hard.
losing weight is hard.
pick your hard.''
:laugh: Love it!0 -
<---- THIS!0
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I think getting over the hump and to a point where you see real and feel the results- more energy- clothing fit- people noticing- etc. is the hardest part. Once the results start popping up it always adds to my motivation anyway.0
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At first being fat is easier, but it doesn't take very much weight loss to feel like a rock star. When I decided I wanted to make a change once and for all, I made a list of all the things I couldn't do because of my weight and all the health problems I had. It had major things like my blood sugar creeping up past normal to little things like not being able to bend down without huffing and puffing. I have a lot of weight to lose, but It only took a short amount of time before I was able to start crossing things off the list.
Then I got rid of my all or nothing mentality. I've had a ton of slip ups along the way, but the important thing is to just keep going. No matter what. When I feel like it's all too hard, I make myself log my food and get some exercise anyway. No excuses. I do it even if everything in me is screaming that I want to quit.
You've lost 23lbs so far - that's amazing! When you want to give up, focus on that accomplishment and how much better you feel. Think about how hard it was to move around when you were heavier - you don't want to go back to that!0 -
I know someone else has posted it already, but this saying really helps me:
Losing weight is hard.
Maintaining weight is hard.
Being fat is hard.
Choose your hard.
I don't think that being fat is easy, but it is often easier to stick with the particular brand of unhappiness that we are familiar with and comfortable with. Losing weight is definitely not easy. I have days and weeks where I really can't be bothered, don't want to exercise, am dsick of counting calories, can't be bothered eating healthily and just want to go and hide somewhere and eat. These are the times you need to be prepared for. On the good days, your motivation will naturally carry you through. It's the bad times that you need strategies for. Try to figure out where you really have problems at those times. Get into the habit of making yourself go and exercise - even just for 10 mins - when you really don't want to. It's so easy to skip one time, and then let it spiral. With food, try to plan your meals so that even if you're feeling low or stressed, you know what you have planned to eat and don't have to think about it too much. Don't expect to always be in that great, motivated frame of mind. I think the difference between the people who succeed and the ones who don't is that the successful people learn to somehow drag themselves through the bad times, keeping on track. I've found MFP to be a great tool, especially when I feel the least motivated. I know that as long as I log eveerything, I can kep on track with my eating.
Never forget why you started trying to lose weight in the first place. Think about all the reasons, and which ones are most important, whether it's health, confidence, being able to wear certain clothes. Write them down and dont let yourself forget why you're doing this.
If you think you might need to talk to a psychologist about some of your issues with food, then go for it! It might be the best investment you can make in your physical and mental health. There's a great guy on here who lost over 300 lbs who says that he knew from the beginning that he had to fix what was going on in his head with regards to food, otherwise he would never be successful. Check him out: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/626293-3-yr-anniversary-307-lbs-lost-picture-heavy I'm not saying you're in the same place, mentally, as he was, but getting some extra help with food issues can't hurt.
A big part of this process is about forming habits. As boring as it is, you just have to keep doing things that feel uncomfortable until they become a habit. Make exercise a non-negotiable part of your life. Success isn't about never messing up, never taking a step backwards, it's about having the determination to just keep on going until you reach your goal. You can do this!0 -
I truly forget how much motivation and help is on here! You all gave such great advice. I realize that I make VERY unrealistic goals for myself. I usually try to push myself to lose 10lbs a month when I should know that it could take longer than that. It's not the only unrealistic goal I so sadly try to attempt but it shall be my last. From now on I think I'm going to make mini goals for myself. Such as: eat a healthy meal, drink more water, exercise for an hour etc.
Now, psychologically I know I have reasons for why I put on the weight and keep it on. They're just things I push to the back of my head because I do not want to recall them. Perhaps I need to see a psychologist so I can move on from those things. As for now, I'm going to stay as postive as possible and keep pushing myself.
Obviously I know being fat isn't really easier it's just more... convenient, per se, but I'm so over being fat. I hate being extra hot in the summer and still hot in the winter because I have too much weight. I hate not being able to just jump on a roller coaster because I'm afraid of not fitting & being asked to get off (happened to me when I was about 8/9). And I definately hate being self concisous when I'm intimate with a boyfriend. I wanna feel good about myself from the inside out and in order to do that I gotta start small and MUST be strong.
Thank you ALL for you support advice. Feel free to add me as well 'cause I'm sure I might need the continued motivation or just someone to chat with. Good luck to all of you on your journies!
Everyone has pretty much hit the nail on the head. Change is difficult, when you are young the prospect of having long term health issues related to weight as you get older just doesn't click; having unrealistic goals that negate a lifestyle change versus a quick fix, etc. Staying motivated is not easy, particularly if an individual pins all the happiness and satisfaction in the world will happen with weight loss. (If I only lose weight, THEN I'll be happy). There really isn't any guarantee of that in the long run.
Oftentimes being overweight or having "weight issues," or "eating issues," are manifestations of deeper psychological issues and even trauma, not just bad or uninformed eating habits. Even for a few sessions you may want to explore your challenges and the feelings you struggle with a psychologist or a social worker with an advanced degree in counseliing.
The very best to you.0 -
Everyday I'm alive is my motivation.0
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eh, some aspects of being fat is easier.
most suck. maybe when you get older you'll realize it!
i do low carb. i know it works, so i stay motivated. losing inches and seeing the number on the scale go down is the best motivation.
''being fat is hard.
losing weight is hard.
pick your hard.''
may not apply to you, but i repeat this over and over when i workout
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<---- THIS!
I like this too! "If you're tired of starting over, stop giving up!"0 -
Birds who decide breaking out of their shell is too much bother, never get to spread their wings or breathe the fresh air. Keep going, one piece at a time. Forgive yourself if you backslide and keep moving forward--and you will get there! 0
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Hi,
We've all been there... read my blog see how my journey changed, hope it helps.
GOOD LUCK X
PEACE
Dieting is a life choice not life sentence, so don't punish yourself.0 -
Like someone else said, you have to remember why you want to get healthy. If you can remember your why, you can tolerate any how. (I totally stole that from Jillian Michaels, BTW.) I have that on my computer monitor at work on a Post-It, and at home on my refrigerator to remind myself when I feel like I'm losing my motivation. I want to feel sexy for my husband, I want to be a good role model for my daughter, I want to live to see my grandchildren, and, well, I'm just plain sick of having to spend so much more money than my friends on clothes. (I mean, is it just me, or is it really hard to find cute plus size clothing on clearance like all my smaller friends seem to be able to find in their size?)
Also, use MFP and anyone around you that you know will be a good motivator. I tell my husband to push me, to not let me give in, to not give in to me when I start to get whiny. All of my co-workers know I'm working to lose weight and are supportive, but there's one in particular who pushes me and will really call me out if I seem to be slacking or not eating right. There's no shame at all in using other people for this.
Also, don't beat yourself up. This IS hard. If it was easy, we wouldn't all be here. But it is definitely worth it in the end.
If you need another motivational friend, please feel free to add me, and hang in there! 0 -
Its much harder to be fat! this is crazy talk. I cannot even count the ways my life has become easier in the past few months.0
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Being fat is easier.... AND you are less likely to be kidnapped. BONUS!!!0
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Read Good Calories, Bad Calories by Gary Taubes and go on a low-carb diet. Then you will very quickly find motivation. Thanks.0
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I don't believe in God or anything so I think of it like - you only live once...and even if you do believe in God I suppose the same thing can be said!0
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the members of the opposite sex that want me now that i look completely different.0
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Health keeps me motivated. If all I cared about was being thin, I'd lose motivation pretty quickly. But outside quitting smoking, eating a healthy diet and exercising to maintain a healthy weight is about the best thing you can do for your overall health. Carrying around extra weight increases your risk of so many diseases.0
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I associate pleasure with being fit, and pain with being fat.
It's just that simple.
It's an internal drive that is unstoppable. People who find this reach their goals in any situation.
Those that do not remain in the large herd of failures that populate the majority of planet earth.
Decide right now where you want to be.
Success is a choice. Good Luck :flowerforyou:0 -
Life doesn't need motivation... it'll keep going one way or the other... Make this your life!
Change your life! Not your motivations!0 -
I don't know if being fat is easier, but I had more free time since I wasn't exercising and meal planning was easier...
definately! but the clothing options and being able to cross my legs again is making it worthwhile. My biggest motivational issue is the limited menu i was using... so this time around i am not changing what i eat, but tweaking to make the meals healthier, entering dinner into my menu first and planning the rest of the day around that. Everybody has things they aren't willing to give up. MAYBE your diet is too strict and you get to the "eff it" part too often?0 -
Why do I lose my motivation so quickly?!?? I have my days where I get so pumped up to exercise and eat healthy but then a few days later or even weeks I just completely lose it. Idk if anyone can help ('cause I'm sure this is more of a mental thing) but, why can't I stay motivated? And what keeps you motivated??
Find yourself great support! Hold yourself accountable. I'm guilty of roller coaster dieting and fads! Every morning that I wake up sluggish I take in the coffee and I call myself not nice names LOL and say time to get moving!! Then once you start moving it's grand stuff! I am probably the biggest sloth ever LOL...I love sleep and video games! Well no video games or anything "fun" for me until I get in my exercise.
So in the morning when you wake up tell yourself first thing "Today is going to be EPIC! I'm going work out and eat right!"
Keeping positive is the best form....and like I said I'm one to give up quickly...and so is my partner and she's doing great! You can do it!!0 -
Being fat is easier.... AND you are less likely to be kidnapped. BONUS!!!
Hahah and more likely to be eatin by the aliens first!0 -
What a freakin' copout.
Being fat is easier - so is dying from several obesity-related health conditions at a young age. Being fat is easier - so is hiding behind your inadequacies for the rest of your "good enough" life. Being fat is easier - so is avoiding mirrors and human contact and shopping and inhibition-free sex and fun and adventure and *happiness* for the rest of your easier life.
Go ahead, take the easy way out.0
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