Should I give up

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  • Going4Lean
    Going4Lean Posts: 1,078 Member
    maybe you should unlock your diary to see what your eating and calories.
  • czuniga03
    czuniga03 Posts: 99
    I log in everyday, I get some sort of exercise daily, and log everything I each and I've lost 6 lbs in 3 1/2 weeks.. persistence is the key! How bad do you want it?
  • senyosmom
    senyosmom Posts: 613 Member
    the answer is no.

    Even if you have to try to "star t over" each day then do that. Try to be better about logging your foods so you can see the error of your ways and make changes. Try small exercises and do stuff you like - do you like to swim? do you like to bike ride? do you like taking walks?

    You CAN do this - start with baby steps.
  • katejkelley
    katejkelley Posts: 839 Member
    I'm 53 and have been menopausal for what seems like 10 years. I understand your frustration! I went through the same funk you seem to be in, but really wanted to lose some weight and get back into shape. So, this is what I did.
    1. Log in EVERY DAY. Keep track of all meals and exercise.
    2. Make some friends of MFP. They really do help!
    3. Give yourself a kickstart on the weight loss. I recommend the South Beach Diet or the 17 Day Diet, but there are others that work, too. What these did for me is to clean out my system of sugar, bad fats and carbs. The first phase generally takes about 2 weeks (or 17 days, obviously, in the 17 Day Diet). They also then slowly introduce good carbs and fats - a whole new way to eat.
    4. Start an exercise regimine slowly. I started with just walking 20 minutes a day, and as my fitness level increased, I increased the time/distance.
    5. Once you've gotten used to walking every day, start some sort of strength training with your cardio. I love pilates and yoga, but you find what you enjoy.
    6. Measure yourself in addition to weighing. You'll be amazed that the inches will fall faster than the scale numbers.
    7. Don't give up. We all have days where we fall off the wagon. Get back up the next day and keep moving. You can do this!
  • Momjogger
    Momjogger Posts: 750 Member
    Good for you for reaching out! Sounds like you need motivation. I have been on this rollercoaster a few times and this last year for some reason has stuck. I am 3 pounds away from my 58 pound weight loss goal- for my 42nd birthday, which is in 9 days. I think 4 things helped me the most, so I'll share them with you: I started on sparkpeople.com and tracked my nutrients and found I was lacking vitamin D, calcium, B-12, and iron, so I started taking Centrum Silver +50 for women which increased my energy ALOT! Then I went on a site that figured out my resting calories and figured if I eat within 200 calories of the amount of my resting calories (and recalculate them every 5 pounds I lose) that with mild exercise I will lose weight. This is ALOT MORE calories than I realized I could eat AND IT WORKS! I also track my calories every day when I am having a hard time and I joined a gym I like and work out every day (I had to build up to it). Oh, and I make myself eat breakfast. Please do not give up - sounds like you are too hard on yourself! Try to commit to a couple of small goals and build up a little at a time. Maybe your first 2 goals should be to commit to tracking your calories and exercising a certain amount of days a week. Good luck!
  • aprilgrl27
    aprilgrl27 Posts: 176 Member
    Nothing any of can say is going to make you give up or keep going. If you want to do it. You will.
  • Fit_2013
    Fit_2013 Posts: 326 Member
    I am absolutely overwhelmed by the MFP community ,I can't thank all for so much of support. Well,a little about me I have been on these boards from last December. I eat within my 1300-1400 calorie limit.Predominantly carbs, dairy. I have read most health books there is, read most advices comments on this forum.My TSH, iron and all blood work are normal . I just feel stuck in my weight, call it brown fat,plateau . I cannot do heavy Jillian type exercises can only do walking.The only time I felt during my menopausl time that my weight truly budged was when I was in a residential weightloss /naturopathic weightloss center called Jindall in India where the fast you or put you on a vegan diet. Off course such drastic measures leads to a rebound and I am back at my set point weight.Forgot one thing I also use the fitbit.

    Thanks again for all the support. I truly am looking into the Mayo clinic diet book which was suggested in this thread.
  • jakidb
    jakidb Posts: 1,010 Member
    There are MANY DAYS I'm unproductive but I just can't give up--we may feel that way at times but hang in there. I've been at the same weight for a while now (go up and come down from time to time) but find a "motivation" and once you do that, set a plan of action and STICK TO IT. When I stick to my "plan", I lose. When I don't I either gain or remain at a stand still. You can do this. I agree with some of the other comments, it sounds as though you've already given up but don't; you can do this!:wink:
  • MFPBrandy
    MFPBrandy Posts: 564 Member
    2) wear your fitbit all day w/o thinking about it, what is your normal activity? Customize your daily goals to slightly increase this activity. If you walked only 1 mile, set your goal at 1.5 or 2, not the default of 5. As these small goals get easier to obtain, raise them a little bit.
    What is a fitbit? Is this like a pedometer? Have you found one that is reliable? I've had a couple in the past, and I followed the calibration instructions carefully, but the step counts were so ridiculously off as to be useless so I tossed them.
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    Never. Give. Up.
  • jennnnn2u
    jennnnn2u Posts: 133
    No. I didn't even need to read your post to know that the answer is an unequivocal "NO!"
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
    You sort of sound like you already gave up. Maybe you need to find out if losing weight is really what you want to do then work on finding a good method from there. You won't get any help from supplements. They only work for people who just want to put in extra effort and are already working out pretty hard.
    ^^^
    THIS
    People can offer you encouragement and inspiration but true motivation is all internal.
    We either have that drive or need to find a way to ignite it.

    To light that fire, be honest, and answer for yourself:
    Why do I want to be healthy and fit? Discover the real answer, and attach great pleasure to that as you set your goals.
    Feel and experience that joy when you think of being healthy and fit.

    And then ask yourself why do you NOT want to be fat?
    Connect with that reason burning pain that you can really feel every time you think about being fat.

    This is the key to internal motivation.
    Few people can actually do this which is why most people fail in their efforts over and over.
    Take the time to do this, and you'll touch off a powder keg of determination and drive.
    Sure, you may have challenges; we all do, but you'll keep punching and reach your goals.

    All Is Possible!
  • Pheonix2012
    Pheonix2012 Posts: 61 Member
    Hang in there. There is NEVER a good enough reason to give up in life. Talk to your doctor and see how they can help.
  • Pete969
    Pete969 Posts: 5
    I've just watched the 'Beyond Dieting' video about what and not to eat.

    The 'Fat burning zone' was an interesting revelation to me.

    Pete
  • jennnnn2u
    jennnnn2u Posts: 133
    Okay, so now that I've read it... :tongue:

    I think you just need to be more consistent with logging. Give yourself pep talks and keep reminding yourself that even though you might want the food, you don't necessarily NEED the food. Don't let the food control you. When I feel like I want to eat when I know I'm not really hungry, I start looking at success stories. Before you know it, the urge will pass.

    Good luck!
  • Linda_Darlene
    Linda_Darlene Posts: 453 Member
    You sound like you already gave up. And you sound like, to date, you have not put much effort into it anyway. It takes more than logging occasionally. I am menopausal as well. It is not a reason to give up. It may mean a little extra effort. But never give up.
  • deevatude
    deevatude Posts: 322 Member
    Eat more calories OP

    How can you say that when you have no clue what she is doing now?

    And on a completely unrelated note, is it really so much more effort to write "you" instead of "u", "you're" instead of "ur," "people" instead of "ppl," etc.? Sorry, perhaps you're 12, not a native speaker, and learned English from texting. If so, my apologies. But it's incredibly annoying trying to have an adult discussion when you write like that.

    u no waht im sayn?

    --P


    im not trying to have a conversation with U


    go sit down somewhere
  • joyhite
    joyhite Posts: 1
    Looks like you are getting some great advice. LOG log LOG!!! I have felt like you feel many times. Writing down everything has been the missing ingredient for success. I have lost 60 pounds. I am stuggling to lose the last bit of weight, but I keep writing everything down. I made lots of excuses before. When I knew that I really wanted it and was willing to do the work, that is when I finally started working.
  • DaveRCF
    DaveRCF Posts: 266
    I have been in this site for 6-7 months and have gained weight. I log occasionally. I need a jump start. I truly feel low and I started the year 188.8 lbs and now I am 193.7lbs. I am menopausal and all the will power I have is seeming to be drained. I feel maybe I am destined to be this weight. I would some constructive advice,do I take a break,do I start slowly cutting calories, what am I supposed to do.Should I take supplements like L carnithine, green tea, zinc or any thing to see some light.

    It seems like you need to set yourself up for some small victories to kickstart your motivation.

    Definitely log everything, logging occasionally isn't going to do it.

    Are you exercising? Even just getting out for a daily walk will do wonders.

    At the end of the day, losing weight is about mental fortitude. Other things in your life need to be in order to be in the right frame of mind to lose weight. Is the rest of your life all good?
  • ravenchick
    ravenchick Posts: 345 Member
    I'm peri-menopausal and I've lost 38 pounds since March. Using menopause is just an excuse. You have to want to do this. It's not something you can do just to lose weight. It's a lifetime commitment. If you don't want to change, you wont. If you just take a few weeks and dedicate yourself to logging all of your food and trying to get some exercise, even just walking, then you will see results. Maybe that's what you need to boost your motivation. Until you want to commit, there is really nothing anyone can say that can help you.
  • PandaCustard
    PandaCustard Posts: 204 Member
    You should never give up on something you truly want. If you persist, somehow, you'll find a way to make it work. There are people on this website that have lost 100, 200, and even 300 pounds or more! They had MUCH more weight to lose than you do and they sure didn't give up! Maybe you should check out the Success Story subforum. Everyone there is a great inspiration, especially on days that you feel like you can't do it anymore.
  • kikih64
    kikih64 Posts: 349 Member
    I didn't read all the posts, but...if it's what you really want - DON'T GIVE UP!!

    Log everyday - all day....I don't always eat perfectly, but my trick is that I pack a bag for work. It is food that I've typically put a lot of thought into - good proteins, carbs... I log everything, first thing in the morning...if I know what I'm planning for dinner I log that too. Then I see if I have anything left, how I've done with my calories, macros...I log the bad stuff too, and I have some really bad days, but it's not everyday.

    Slow and steady, but you have to really want it. Good luck!
  • kzandarski
    kzandarski Posts: 51
    I'll tell you why you shouldn't give up...

    My dad had cancer for 8 years. He made a lot of plans for end of life. He wanted to die at home. The home he had raised his family in surrounded by his family. However, when it came down to it his weight prevented us from caring for him at home. it breaks my heart to think that I couldn't honor his last wish because of his weight. I never want to do that to my children.

    That being said, some morning exercise is the best motivation for me. A walk gives me time to think about what I want my day to be like nutrition wise. I can plan my meals and snacks. I can plan to journal. (some days I pre journal). I take one day at a time. I forgive myself for mistakes and start each day as Day 1.

    Good luck - Work hard
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    The best advice I can give you is to log everyday, even if you go WAY over on your calories. I hit spells where I don't want to eat healthy or really try. They are MUCH shorter if I am tracking and so there is less yo-yoing. It took me like 7 years to finally get that.

    So, please don't be discouraged because it happens to a of people. I've been within 5-10 pounds of my current weight for 8 years. I have maybe 15 more pounds to lose and sometimes I want to say "screw it" and just quit. But I know if I do all the weight I have lost (about 40 pounds on WW in 2004) will come back -- plus more. About a year ago I realized if I tracked all the time, even when I was "off" -- I got back "on" a lot sooner. I'm just about to crack into the 140's after trying for what seems like ever.

    If you just keep with it, you will get there.

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