"you don't need to lose weight"

My stepmom does this! She always tells me that I am going to look sick if I lose more weight. It drives me crazy. She even told me that once I got to 150 that I wasn't allowed to lose anymore weight! WTF?! But the way I see it, she is just saying that because she has gained weight. I figure as long as I'm in my healthy weight range and not Skeletor, then just brush off what they say even though it's SO ANNOYING!

I get this all the time. I used to be a "healthy" 282lbs. I am 170 now and want to drop a few final lbs and everyone is telling my I have an eating disorder, need to eat more, and throwing food at me in general. One of my good friends finally admitted he was acting that way because he was jealous of my progress. I offered help and he is starting out and getting results.

In the end, do what YOU want to do and ignore those who want to hold you back.

ive lost 50+ ibs so far since last Nov, everyone thinks im sick or i dont eat, they tell me that i need to gain my weight back or stop losing weight. someone asked me the other day why are you losing weight and i told them cause i wanted to, i want to be healthy and live a long life and im not getting any younger so i rather do this now that 10-15 years later down the road.

Ah yes, I get told this all the time mainly by guys online but I just tell them I'm doing it for myself and not you, if you can't appreciate my decision for wanting to lose some weight...its not going to kill me and if I get to skinny I can always gain a little weight. OR if its girls..they are probably jealous that you are losing weight and getting smaller.

Some people carry weight well and sometimes don't look as big as they are....most people don't realize how much I weigh and when I say I need to lose 60pounds they are like NOOOO....but to look at me I feel bigger than what I am! Then if you family is big maybe you are smaller than them so to them that is healthy! I would just tell them you don't feel healthy and are trying to be healthy. Sometimes it can even be that they see your ambition when maybe they don't have that to try to lose.

I think a lot of people just say it because it's polite. If you're agreeing with someone that says they need to lose weight/are going to, that means you think that they are in fact in need of weight loss.

Also I know from experience that having a smaller friend tell you that they need to lose weight/feel fat, feels awful. Even if they do have a target weight it's so hard to support them because if they think they're fat at 50 lbs lighter than you, what sort of obese monster do they take you for?

I agree, keep it to this community where support is support is support.

Yes, I get it all the time from my best friend and mom. My best friend is the one who got me into going to the gym and my mom goes alot too. They say it's too much of a priority and get mad when they see me tracking calories. It's really hard not to have their support. I'm 5'3 117. I'm at a good weight but I could be better. What you are doing for yourself is HEALTHY and it is for.yourself. Don't forget that. I think some jealousy is factored in too, I can bet that's what going on with me too. Let them hate, they should be proud of you. I am! Keep it up!

Ive noticed the last 15 pounds or so I been getting comments like are you sick? or why? To be honest I just tell people I am being monitored by a doctor (which is true) and she told me my weight should be X and thats what im going by.

My husbands family is a tad supportive (they are obese) but dont have a problem wishing the weight away. The fact is its my body and I feel I should get my weight under control before I get pregos, if anyone has a problem with wanting to be a healthy mom I guess they got more problems then I do

It's actually infuriating. They think their opinion of your body is the be-all and end-all and that their approval means something to you. I'm sick of the "you don't need to lose any more weights", too. "You're fine the way you are," is one of the more insulting ones. I am trying to better myself to be happy and you're telling me to stay the way I am because YOU like it. It makes me so, so mad.

it dsnt matter what they think or say its all about how you feel about your body

I just think to myself, "If you think I'm good enough now - wait until I've reached MY goal. Then look again."
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This is great, put in to words what I think all the time!!

Unfortunately, your family is trying to sabotage your good efforts for their own selfish reasons..they feel guilty themselves about their weight issues and you are making them reflect on themselves. I think it is a good idea to be conscious of this when they are making these comments. You look fabulous and if you lost weight it would be healthy.

I get it too. Nobody "apparently" wants to believe me that I gained 40lb when I was injured and tells me I don't need to lose that much...

Well.... partly people are just trying to be kind, so when I went back to the gym and chatted to some old faces, when they say "where have you been" I explain and I am quite open about the fact that I gained 40lb... so they say "nooooo. never... where??" etc... but what are they supposed to say? LOL it's not acceptable in polite society to turn about and be honest and say "yeah I can see that, good luck to you!". :laugh:

But there are other folk in the office who are much larger than me and who have noticed that I have made a lot of changes, no longer use the canteen but bring in my own food etc... and they can get quite funny when I say I want to lose 40lb... because effectively it unintentionally puts a mirror up to them which says to them "and you should be loosing at least 80!"

The cultural issue is the one that infuriates me the most. In my culture (Black American) it is acceptable to be overweight, even acceptable to be obese. 70% of black women are obese!! It angers me so because this causes us to have higher rates of diabetes, heart disease, hypertension, shortness of breath, sleep apnea, all sorts of bad conditions. It shortens our lives...black women are DYING because of obesity and all folks can think about is having a damn big *kitten*. Excuse my language. One woman said to me, Well aren't you worried about losing your behind? LOL! I told her Look I am more than 100 pounds overweight, believe me my bum isn't 100 pounds!!

No one in my family has said anything negative about me losing weight, actually a great aunt who saw me last summer commented on how big I'd gotten. She said it nicely and matter-of-factly but it still hurt. I think she will be glad to see my progress this summer. I have had a few friends kind of say something...they are 'fat-positive' people who think it's all about accepting your body as it is. They truly don't seem to understand the health consequences of being obese or even overweight. I just told them, OK if you feel that way, then you'll be paying for my medicine when I develop diabetes then, right? Shut them up.

I get called an idiot for trying to lose weight and it is so awkward. I also get sighed at if i'm seen looking at calories or saying no to something bad. I don't mind the comments like 'ah you're tiny!' and things as I know it doesn't mean you are literally tiny but when someone hasn't seen you for a while and you have lost a bit then you do look tiny for you.

When i've lost weight before people use to try to make me eat. This time I have said I am not depriving myself, I am just being healthier and if I lose weight it's a bonus and it seems to have helped with the comments. Also as I am eating a larger quantity of food than I did when I was bigger, but being better thought out meals, they all seem to want my advice