Just been told I am too thin

larkiedeek
larkiedeek Posts: 203 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I was at a business meeting today and was told I was too skinny. :noway:

I am about a BMI of 24.8-25.0 so on one scale I am at the high end of healthy. I don't want to go down the whole body size debate but why would someone say that? :frown:


I'm training for a 10k run and would like to drop another few pounds and the training might help with that. I kind of feel like I have done all this hard work to clean up my diet and excersise and people don't value my hard work!


Never mind. I think I will go for a run and put it all behind me. :tongue:
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  • joybedford
    joybedford Posts: 1,680 Member
    I get this all the time and I am the same of you BMI of 24. I still have a tummy that I need to shift for me. It is about how you feel not others as long as you are sensible and within a healthy weight range. Don,t let it get you down you have done really well and good luck with the training. I am doing a couple of 10k soon and I am also training for a marathon in october.
  • half_moon
    half_moon Posts: 807 Member
    Geesh I would love to hear that! At least you know what's good for you-- nobody's opinion matters.
  • redshoeshelley
    redshoeshelley Posts: 206 Member
    Just looked at your profile pic.
    I wouldn't say you're too thin although you may need a clean shave :laugh:

    All kidding aside, stay true to you !
    There are so many people out there who are only out to squash another person's efforts. Hold your head high and be proud of your accomplishments !!
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
    People say what people say, and whatever.
    There is only one vote that counts: YOURS! :drinker:
  • selig0730
    selig0730 Posts: 509 Member
    i get that too, but im way off for being too thin, and im still overweight according to bmi, (almost to high end of normal weight though)
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    Geesh I would love to hear that! At least you know what's good for you-- nobody's opinion matters.

    Haha right!!
  • scinamon1
    scinamon1 Posts: 158 Member
    I have this problem with elderly relatives, but i think its cos they are seeing how much less of me there is now compared to how much there used to be- I know I still have a bit to lose, and so don't take them seriously. I think it might be partly a shock-thing- they were expecting the same old you maybe!

    Think of it as a compliment! People can see a difference, so you're getting to where you want to be :smile:
  • kickers19
    kickers19 Posts: 63 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.
  • casperuk
    casperuk Posts: 195 Member
    People say what people say, and whatever.
    There is only one vote that counts: YOURS! :drinker:

    True to a point but I know so many people who go too far and become ill with their weight, the obsess over every oz of food they have, and maybe the person saying it has genuine concerns? We dont know the OP< maybe he sat through the meeting telling everyone how he is going to have water and a wafer for dinner and then do a 5 mile run because he ate a grape for breakfast?

    In instances like that I wouldnt trust the person who is dieting to know what is healthy.

    I am not saying that any of this applies to you OP but you have to ask yourself, are they saying it to be *****y and they a jealous of you, which is just as likely to be fair. Or are they your friend and they are worried you might be overdoing it and on the verge of having an illness?

    Like I said I don't presume to know you and I mean no offense.
  • casperuk
    casperuk Posts: 195 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

    Now this is a classic case of *****y.

    Just tell her to go F herself :) or himself.
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    I get this too - old relatives, co-workers.. - it's annoying, ignore it. Ultimately, it's your body and you need to be comfortable in it.
  • susiebear29
    susiebear29 Posts: 266
    I get told that a lot, it used to upset me and people would say oh you look so ill or you looked better when you were bigger, I don't listen to them because I know that I eat really healthy and do lots of exercise, I am fit and strong and my heart is really good so don't worry about what other people say only you know what's best for you!!!! :smile:
  • chivalryder
    chivalryder Posts: 4,391 Member
    I'm willing to bet they're just saying that because they're jealous of their fat stomachs. You should feel awesome for doing something they wish they could do.

    People only ever insult other people to boost their own self esteem.
  • FuneralDiner
    FuneralDiner Posts: 438 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.
    WOW. WOWOWOWOWWO. Just wow.

    Do something about this. Seriously.
  • Martina_Who
    Martina_Who Posts: 172 Member
    BMI is rubbish, it really is!
    Many excellent medical professionals think so too....

    It needs to be scraped before perfectly healthy people develop eating disorders :/
  • chivalryder
    chivalryder Posts: 4,391 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

    If you live in North America, that sort of behaviour is against the law. You can sue them, or report them for doing so, and they would be fined for harassment.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.
    If this is true... why, exactly, are you not suing that company out of existence??

    I mean...that's def an HR issue right there!
  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    At a business meeting? When you're a perfectly reasonable weight? How big are the idiots saying such things?

    It scares me that people's idea of normal would make that kind of BMI 'too thin'. Where are you, exactly?
  • j1wright
    j1wright Posts: 286 Member
    I work in a physicians group. Three doctors have said something to the effect "you have lost a lot of weight, are you okay?". I get their concern but I did just have a kid in December which had me gain 48 pounds (alot was fluid) and I had lost an additional 20 pounds more than than the 48 that I had gained. So yes 68 pounds in 6 months but do take in account most was baby weight.

    I don't plan on losing anymore than 1.5 more pounds and that is just for mental reason (be at an exact number). My BMI is 21.7 and that is normal weight range.

    I too am like you and question what they have said, especially since they are physicians. Then I just have to remember that the physicians who say something are the ones who haven't seem me in months so to them I have lost a lot of weight since the last time they had seen me. Maybe that is your case as well and you just come as a shock to someoene.
  • MrsWibbly
    MrsWibbly Posts: 415 Member
    Sad reflection on the current state of the world and the obesity epidemic if they think 'normal' (according to your BMI) is thin... but most likely a combination of jealously and denial.
  • kickers19
    kickers19 Posts: 63 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.
    If this is true... why, exactly, are you not suing that company out of existence??

    I don't have proof that she is saying anything, so nothing gets done about it...
    She's also called me "white trash" If I lost too much weight, I'd look stupid and too skinny... The list goes on.
  • 50anita
    50anita Posts: 7 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

    My reply to his next (her next? - though I can't imagine a female nit picking about a lack of boobs...) unwelcome comment:
    "Wow, that sounds incredibly close to harassment. Surely you didn't mean to express that out loud?"

    OR a simple: Wow. followed by a look of amazement (even though I am sure you're no longer surprised by the insensitive comments). Sometimes a look of incredulity can convey so much!

    Hang in there. YOU know you are doing what is right by your body. I knew a friend of my mom who claimed she didn't want to lose weight b/c she'd lose it in the bust line. How sad. I want to be healthy and able to keep up with grandkids (ten or more years in the future - if I am lucky).
  • 50anita
    50anita Posts: 7 Member
    Oops, missed that last about it being behind your back.
    Obviously motivated by jealousy.
    SAD. Just pity that person. They aren't worth your time.
    And brush up your resume! ;-)
  • Kupe
    Kupe Posts: 758 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.
    If this is true... why, exactly, are you not suing that company out of existence??

    I don't have proof that she is saying anything, so nothing gets done about it...
    She's also called me "white trash" If I lost too much weight, I'd look stupid and too skinny... The list goes on.

    If you got a phone which is able to record. Then I suggest you record some of her statements and also make notes of them in a document that is inaccessible to any one but you. Once you have a few of this statements take it to HR. If they don't do anything about it, take the complaint to your local work council.
  • belle_74
    belle_74 Posts: 957 Member
    I have this problem with elderly relatives, but i think its cos they are seeing how much less of me there is now compared to how much there used to be- I know I still have a bit to lose, and so don't take them seriously. I think it might be partly a shock-thing- they were expecting the same old you maybe!

    Think of it as a compliment! People can see a difference, so you're getting to where you want to be :smile:

    ^^^ This

    If I heard once in the past weekend that I was 'thin' enough now and that I didn't need to lose any more weight from my family and friends I heard it a thousand times. According to my BMI I am still overweight! I have 3lbs to lose to get to a normal BMI but I will will by no means be 'too thin' or 'skinny' then!

    To the people who knew me when I was obese I probably do look thin now but if someone was just meeting me for the first time I am sure that they would describe me as 'chubby'! I am only 5ft 2lbs and I carry what is left of my weight in my tummy and hips so I do still look a little chubby (well roly more than chubby) so they would be right :smile:

    When I point out to my family and friends that say 'I am thin enough now' that I am still carrying a lot of weight on my tummy/ hips and am a moderate risk for diabetes all they say is 'well there is a lot less of it there now than there were last year so you will be fine' ... It's funny the way some people think!

    @larkiedeek : Most likely the people/person who made the comments are jealous of your success and as long as you are happy with what you are doing & how you look then that's all that matters!

    Congratulations on your success so far & I wish you every success in your future!
  • 50anita
    50anita Posts: 7 Member
    Oops, missed that last about it being behind your back.
    Obviously motivated by jealousy.
    SAD. Just pity that person. She isn't worth your time.
    And brush up your resume! ;-)
  • yvonnej1
    yvonnej1 Posts: 904 Member
    I've been told a few times that I'm too thin/ can't afford to lose anymore weight etc. It's nearly always been from men. When I was first losing weight it bothered me a bit, but now I've been maintaining for ages I feel secure and confident enough to be able to reply that I am happy with myself the way I am which is all that matters.
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.
    If this is true... why, exactly, are you not suing that company out of existence??

    I don't have proof that she is saying anything, so nothing gets done about it...
    She's also called me "white trash" If I lost too much weight, I'd look stupid and too skinny... The list goes on.
    record her, if you have a cell phone you can use it or go to walmart and get a cheep *kitten* little pocket recorder
  • kiminor
    kiminor Posts: 38 Member
    I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

    Seriously? That is so unprofessional.
  • mclairch
    mclairch Posts: 4
    I don't think it's legal for you boss to comment on your body, and certainly not your boobs!!!!

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