Just been told I am too thin

Hi people are just haters, I have been working out all of my life, I swim workout at the gym at least 2 hrs every day it just it that people have nothing nice to say. Keep doing what you are doing and dont pay people like that any mind.

I don't want to go down the whole body size debate but why would someone say that? :frown:

Because they're a d!ck?

People say what people say, and whatever.
There is only one vote that counts: YOURS! :drinker:

True to a point but I know so many people who go too far and become ill with their weight, the obsess over every oz of food they have, and maybe the person saying it has genuine concerns? We dont know the OP< maybe he sat through the meeting telling everyone how he is going to have water and a wafer for dinner and then do a 5 mile run because he ate a grape for breakfast?

In instances like that I wouldnt trust the person who is dieting to know what is healthy.

I am not saying that any of this applies to you OP but you have to ask yourself, are they saying it to be *****y and they a jealous of you, which is just as likely to be fair. Or are they your friend and they are worried you might be overdoing it and on the verge of having an illness?

Like I said I don't presume to know you and I mean no offense.

And maybe a cow will jump over the moon...
We don't deal in maybe.
The OP knows his situation.
Again, your health and fitness program is not up for vote. Let people say whatever.
And then just keep doing the next right thing; just KEEP PUNCHING!

I'm willing to bet they're just saying that because they're jealous of their fat stomachs. You should feel awesome for doing something they wish they could do.

People only ever insult other people to boost their own self esteem.

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BINGO!
You hit the nail on the head.

I would be sooo happy if someone said that to me. I'd proudly reply, "Yup, ain't it great?!"

I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

Unless you're an exotic dancer or something similar, this sounds extremely inappropriate.

I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

Unless you're an exotic dancer or something similar, this sounds extremely inappropriate.

Yeah, you may wanna go to HR about that.

Sometimes if you weighed a lot before, you can look very thin to people even if you aren't because they're used to seeing you bigger.

I get that "You look too skinny" at family holiday events. And the people saying watch me like a hawk on what I eat at the event. A couple years ago I started just telling them my body fat%.

"Hey, I'm 24% body fat and 20-25 is average. So I'm perfectly fine, and actually on the high end of average."

That shuts them up right quick. Starting to look good is often threatening to other people, you're changing and they aren't and no one wants to be left in the dust. Heh, my family/extended family know not to talk to me like that now. Some actually start real conversations about health with me, because obviously I'm doing something right.

But its tougher in a work situation. Being snarky isn't probably the best tactic. Perhaps say something about you are working with your doctor or a personal trainer, "Thank you for your concern, but I am working with sports professionals on my health goals."

If they're going to be rude and nonconstructive in their criticism instead of approaching with a genuine conversation then its completely justified to be firm with your response. No one I've said that response to has like hearing it, but that's because if they are bigger than me and I'm at the high end of average then what does that make them? Its like a slap in the face. And personally I think they need the social communication slap for their approach the first place.

Side note:
If the person is concerned you have an eating disorder then there is different way to go about broaching the subject. Saying someone looks too skinny to someone who has an ED is likely to motivate the ED'er to try harder to hide it.

I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

This is considered harrassment regardless of your bosses gender and totally innappropriate. I would file a complaint immediately

I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

What an ahole thing to say!

About 10 years ago I lost 70lbs. I became obsessed with exercising and worried about every bite of food that went into my mouth. I was determined to get down into the 120s. I'm 5'8". That is not a healthy weight to be at FOR ME. But I didn't see that. At first people kept telling me I looked great. They admired me. I loved it.

Then things changed. People started telling me I was too thin. They would pull my husband aside and ask if I was sick.

I, of course, didn't see any of this because when I looked in the mirror I saw the FAT me.

After awhile I couldn't keep up with the extreme exercise. I started back to work, the kids got busy with school and sports and the pounds started creeping back. Not all of them but enough.

Looking back at pictures, I see people were right. I WAS too thin but I couldn't see that then.

I'm not saying this is you at all. I don't know you, haven't seen pictures of you. What I'm saying is that those people were right and I couldn't see it because I was too obsessed with an unrealistic goal.

So not all people say that because they're jealous. Some people really are concerned.

Just say and your too fat so it looks like we both have a problem then.

I have lost just over 20 lbs, and now my boss nit picks everything about my body. Most recent, I don't have any boobs... Way to ruin my ego.

If this is true... why, exactly, are you not suing that company out of existence??

I don't have proof that she is saying anything, so nothing gets done about it...
She's also called me "white trash" If I lost too much weight, I'd look stupid and too skinny... The list goes on.

Depending on where you live, it might be legal to tape record your conversation. Be prepared for a long drawn out legal battle and to lose your job in the meantime, of course.