Husband is skeptical
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Use his skepticism as motivation to PROVE HIM WRONG!
What she said. Believe in yourself.0 -
When I announced I was going to join Weight Watchers (again) 2 1/2 years ago, I got a similar reaction from my brother. He rolled his eyes and said something to the effect of "here we go again". I get it, I'd tried multiple times to lose weight with short term, if any, success but that reaction still stung! It ticked me off enough to keep a thought in the back of my head to prove him wrong.
Thankfully my hubby was and continues to be super supportive.
Honestly though, I don't like the idea of proving someone wrong being one's full motivation because what happens if they swich gears and start supporting you? Do you then give up because that lack of support is no longer motivation? Hopefully not but my point is, do it for yourself and for your health and forget about what everyone else thinks.0 -
I do this everyday for all those people who said I couldn't or that I would quit. My husband being one of them. Everytime I cross that finish line in a race I think to myself that is for all those people who said someone my size can't run or finish 3 miles. It's the best feeling in the world. People who do that have their own insecurities! They don't want you to change because they are worried or nervous or unhappy with themselves. Own it girl! Do what you have to do and prove them all wrong. Show them just how strong you are. Being healthy is sexy. Have enough faith in yourself that you can succeed. The only person stopping you is yourself! Good luck! If you would like another friend...anyone...feel free to add me!0
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Don't let him rain on your parade! A lot of personal trainers and health experts who've struggled with weight loss will tell you that they weren't successful the first time. Some even will tell you that it took more than a few times. Everyone gets burnt out so the most important thing for you to do is believe in yourself, ignore his negativity, pay attention to the "burn out" phase and push through it. You can do it! Just be faithful and keep your goal in sight!0
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You've got this, you just need to keep pushing and moving forward. Don't forget to celebrate your small triumphs (that's what I have to keep reminding myself to do)!0
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MY HUSBAND WAS THE SAME WAY FOR A LONG TIME, BUT WE NEED TO BE STRONG AND PROVE THEM WRONG.0
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Nevermind what he thinks, what do YOU think? No one else can make this journey for you, so no one else's opinion matters. If you want it badly enough then you'll go to it and make it happen.
When I get really tired on a run or bike ride there's a phrase I use to talk myself through it: The voice inside your head that says that you can't do this is a liar! It reminds me that I'm stronger than I think I am, and helps me get to the next level.
Go for it! You've got lots of support from people on here that have been where you are now and know it can be done. Prove yourself right!0 -
Prove him wrong and yourself right! When the pounds start to fall off don't say anything, just let him (and any other non believer) see the results and eat it!!!0
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who cares what he thinks? men suck.
you have everyone on mfp to encourage you. once you get all sexy you can dump his *kitten* for not believing in you =]0 -
you must not be Italian- we accomplish so many things on spite alone! All I need is for someone to tell me I can't do somthing!!!
You can do this- prove him wrong!
Or Irish. Spite too works best for me.0 -
Stick with it. This is the very best gift that you can give yourself. It won't be easy. Nothing truly worthwhile is. Hang in there and make effort every day. You CAN do this.
THIS!0 -
write really big on a piece of paper: CHALLENGE ACCEPTED! and stick it somewhere your husband will see it.... Then get it back and keep it, stick on your fridge or something
YOU CAN DO IT GIRL!!!0 -
My husband feels the same way....0
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Altho unspoken my wife thinks the same so far I have managed to stay on for a bit over a yearI need this site for motivation and support. My husband thinks I won't last long and will give up, but I can't do that! I have to change my lifestyle or I will have a heart attack before I reach 60!0
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My husband is the same way. He says he will support me if I actually do it this time. Then he will bring me junk food. So he is always trying to make sure I fail in every thing I do.. Men are such weird creatures..0
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Personally, I'd see it as a challenge now it lose the weight and then say. Ha, proved you wrong!!
We're all on here to lose weight and feel better, shared interest and a common goal- we'll support each other through the bad and good days!
and celebrate all the achievements along the way!
Keep going!
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you must not be Italian- we accomplish so many things on spite alone! All I need is for someone to tell me I can't do somthing!!!
You can do this- prove him wrong!
Italian women never let anyone tell us we can't do something.0 -
Sad that he can't be more supportive but I know how you feel. I'm ADD also and I sometimes feel like my husband is subconsciously trying to sabotage my efforts to improve myself. But that's no reason we can't be successful. When I found out I was pregnant with my last baby I had successfully lost 30 pounds because of the support of this site. I know that I can do it again and so can you. *hugs*0
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My husband saw how easy I lost the weight so now he is doing it lol so be a good example for him0
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who cares what he thinks? men suck.
you have everyone on mfp to encourage you. once you get all sexy you can dump his *kitten* for not believing in you =]
Hey not all of us do! That's why you come to MFP to find lots of support...whether male/female. 0 -
Isn't it great? We wait until we marry you to show what supportive cads we can be.
Anyway, if this was a diet you would not stick to it because they don't work. This you'll stick with because it's a lifestyle change; it'll just take time.
Diets don't work but this sort of thing does.
I love this! I was going to say that I'm brutal about removing all negative vipers from my life. There are just too many positive, supportive people out there to waist time on the bad apples.
Then I saw this...:huh: Bad, bad boys. Unfortunately, that is all too often how it happens. It's much harder to eliminate someone you're married to.
Anyway, I totally agree with the second part, as well. The key to success is to avoid dieting in the first place. Those never work. Making changes you can do for ever DOES. It's rough when someone is cheering you on to failure. You'll need people who'll raise you up again when he's finished dragging you down. MFP can be great for that!0 -
I get these same remarks from love ones they dont get that we need to change are whole way of eating to lose and be healthier. I just keep going,
I have been doing what I need for me, and feel that my honey will see I am serious if I continue and the changes are noticeable. I still cook for him (he can eat anything) but dont let his remarks stop me, its my fule to keep going! use it as your fule, I try to plan ahead what is on the table, but when we are so busy and no time to cook I make wraps, with chicken or turkey... honey If he wants to run thr Mc D's ....not me, I get my quick meal at home. You can do this, we can do this! larabell0 -
You can do this! Just one day at a time. Pretty soon, you start thinking different, eating different, working out different (or even just working out for the first time regularly). You CAN do this!
I just love it when someone challenges me, I hate to be wrong!0 -
Get a divorce and find someone that supports you... Acepting ridiculous behavior like that is why so many women have self-esteen issues, and low self-esteem=Eating disorders (most of the time)
You are not and should not be doing this for anyone else but yourself. All of this "Prove Him Wrong" stuff is asinine; even if he 100% thinks you will fail, those words should never come out of the mouth of a man that loves, respects and adores his wife. Shame on him.
How much weight-loss will it take to earn his respect and admiration...the answer should be 0 lbs, he should love and admire you as the woman he wants to be with, and you should want to do this to be your best you!0 -
I need this site for motivation and support. My husband thinks I won't last long and will give up, but I can't do that! I have to change my lifestyle or I will have a heart attack before I reach 60!
What a horrible thing for your husband to think! Of course you won't make it with kind of support! SMH!!
Take it as a challenge and PROVE HIM WRONG!! Get lots of supportive MFP friends (I'll send you a friend request), and ask questions if you need help. There are also several MFP groups that you can join. I am in one that you are welcome to join. It's "Lose a Stone a Month". I don't know where you are from, but "Stone" is a British term equal to 14 lbs. We don't always reach it, but we still support each other!! That's what were are all here for!! Best of luck to you in reaching your goals!! :flowerforyou:0 -
I was having problems losing weight etc my Trainer said I was either sneaking food in or just plain up cheating. I got so damn pissed off at her I went to the doctor found out what was "wrong" Ive lost 34 pounds without exercise and changed my diet completly! I cant wait to tell that Trainer she dont know wtf she was talking about
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u can do this0
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Nothing motivates me more than someone telling me i can't .... Anyone can do Anything... Watch Amazing Life Transformations on ABC. That show motivates me and shows me all the time anyone can do anything they really want to You can change your lifestyle 0
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you must not be Italian- we accomplish so many things on spite alone! All I need is for someone to tell me I can't do somthing!!!
You can do this- prove him wrong!
Or Irish. Spite too works best for me.
I am part Irish. I am very strong-willed. (Some have called it stubborn, but I like "strong-willed")0 -
write really big on a piece of paper: CHALLENGE ACCEPTED! and stick it somewhere your husband will see it.... Then get it back and keep it, stick on your fridge or something
YOU CAN DO IT GIRL!!!
Good one!0
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