Who is supported 100% or not at all, I am not :(

Let your haters be your motivaters Use the negativity to boost your confidence that you are going to make it through this You are on this site and your going to push through this and get it done!!! You need to do this for you and only you.....remember at the end of the day, its you that you need to answer to, not your husband or anyone else....

I feel extremely fortunate that I am surrounded by people who support a healthy lifestyle. A week after I joined MFP, my boyfriend joined. We shop for healthy food, discuss nutrition together, encourage each other to get on the treadmill and generally support each other. Now my daughter has joined and three other friends.

For those who don't have that support, look everywhere you can for people who are good for you. Avoid people who try to sabotage your goals.

I am 100% supported by my spouse, and if I was not, I might need to re-evaluate the marriage.
As for friends, forget it.
I severed connections with all my fat eating and drinking friends and made new connections.
Consider this.
Nature abhors a vacuum, so expect that other like-mined people will fill that void.
Like attracts like.
My fat friends all were threatened by my weight loss and new healthy lifestyle - very jealous! They seethed with envy.
And every chance they got to get me to stray, they did.
Think of this:
When a single crab is put into a lidless bucket, they surely can and will escape. However, when more than one share a bucket, none can get out. If one crab elevates herself above all, the others will grab this crab and drag'em back down to share the mutual fate of the rest of the group.

No more of that!
I have new friends on the same page with a common interest in health and fitness.

Life is GREAT fit - miserable fat, and I don't miss the old crowd one bit.

Sadly I have the opposite problem. My husband likes large women. So he tries to sabotage me a lot by buying ice cream, etc. It's a real pain. No matter how I try to explain it he still feels that it is just a personal choice with no real health effects. So he makes it incredibly hard to stay on track. I have to get very angry with him before he will stop.

I feel ya. My mom supports me but gets annoyed when I track all the time. Grandma is always trying to temp me with tasty treats and says, "oh one won't kill ya!" That mentality got me here in the first place. My boyfriend supports me but doesn't have the willpower to eat healthy all the time himself. I think it'll take me moving in with him to get him to eat better. I'll just have to show him how. :P

You've got support here!

You are not alone... I feel you. While my husband doesn't make fat jokes about me, he makes running jokes... I've lost a lot of weight and feel great but when I told him I was training for a half marathon he shook his head and clicked his tongue and told me it was a mistake. Then when I injured my knee he did the "I told you so." It's very frustrating to be trying to hard and only get the occasional nod or a compliment where you instigated it like me saying "I look good." and him saying "yeah."

But I've been at this now since mid-January. I'm totally doing it for me. My family has made fun of me all my life but in the end I want this for me. MFP has helped A LOT. You are not alone, we will support you.

Family members can be the WORST. I have read so many negative things about other peoples significant others, I'm actually glad I'm single while making all these changes and losing weight.

There's a girl I know who works with my friends boyfriend, and she is ridiculously good looking and has a body to die for. She's a fitness trainer and aerobics instructor and one of the nicest girls I've ever met. While talking to her one day, I mentioned I had lost 25 pounds and she was THRILLED for me, and complimented me on my hardwork and incredibly encouraging. I barely know her and yet she gave me more support in one conversation than some of my family members have.

My family was super hard on me growing up it lead to some serious problems and now they have backed off but my father still rips me down a little. They're more concerned than supportive ... It's weird... But really this is your life and your lifestyle change, support or none you're doing it for you. The only person you can rely on is YOU. My husband is great but he's a couch potato and he has gotten better, I basically told him this is important to me and I need your support so now he is a little more involved actually comes to my hula performances and my races, it's nice but guys kind of need to be sat down and told how you're feeling, they're not mind readers, they think they're being funny or helpful.

I think my dad finally realized how much his words hurt me and he has become a lot more supportive instead of critical. I'm glad your husband is being supportive! Guys can be such dolts

My family thinks I'm crazy. I get a lot of my support from my amazing MFPeeps and myself.

my hubby doesn't care either way. He just always says, whatever makes your happy babe... it's kind of frustrating!! I'm hypothyroid and just got on medication and started getting under control, it took me 3 months to lose 3 lbs (and I gained 1 back). Today, I found out I lost 3 in 2 weeks!! I was pumped. So now I'm at a total of -5. So I told him, and I get a nonchalant "that's awesome" and changes the subject. My mom high fived me though, she's really happy for me. It'd be nice to have support of my HUSBAND though. Ughhh

My dad's idea of giving me support is pinching the fat somewhere on my arms or back and saying, "Wibble wibble wibble!" if he sees me trying to eat something that has more than one calorie. Mom buys me tons of clothes that are many sizes too small as "inspiration clothes!"

...Thanks, Dad. Thanks Mom, that's just what I wanted you to buy me for my birthday--judgement!

It took my little sister giving BOTH my parents a dressing-down after I left in tears one Christmas to get them to back off. Luckily, after years and years of me struggling with the weight (about 20 total, in fact) they've finally just given up even asking about my weight unless I volunteer some information.

They're all effortlessly slim beanpoles. I say effortlessly, but they all work out every day and eat well. They never stress ate, binge ate, or had more than 10 lbs to lose in their entire lives. And when they did, they got the weight off in like three weeks. My mom walks with weights in her hands and gets cut biceps. It's absurd.

Anyhow. At least my fiancee is supportive! He knows how to gently suggest to me that I'm making bad choices, how to kick me out of the house to exercise when I don't wanna, and he knows how to hug me and encourage me when my losses are...well, not happening. (I do the 1 lb a month thing.)

I think we need a picture of the tight roundy butt in order to make a real observation on this dilemma Lol. :P

My wife thinks it is silly that I put so much effort into being more fit. She is 5'1 and 111 pounds soaking wet with rocks in her shoes. She isn't negative about my workouts, but treats me with a kind of mild neglect that I have come to recognize as her just not being interested in what I am doing. (She has the same attitude about some of my dorkier pursuits)

I do think that she felt no competition or threat from me near 400 pounds. Don't get me wrong I was a heart breaker hefty and always will be no matter my weight. She seems a lot more uncomfortable as people take notice of me now and compliment me on weight loss or looking good. I do turn heads more these days. I wonder a lot of times if me at my goal weight might make her feel insecure or like it would be more likely another woman would want to take me from her.

Not that any of that is a real issue mind you. I think the sun rises and sets with her. Maybe I over think it and her disinterest is just disinterest. I just know that all my compliments (including the wildly inappropriate observation that my butt is all tight and round now) comes from friends and coworkers.

I try not to, but damn I eat that stuff up.

There are good days and bad days on this end. I have a boyfriend of 7ish years. We have lived together for almost 6 of them or so. Some days he is supportive and thinks of my 'dietary needs' if we go out to dinner or he cooks. THEN some days....my more than demanding fitness schedule is a burden, inconvenient or a hassel.

Since I know this is a life change for me somedays I think about if he will just get used to it or if he will never fully get it.

You are not alone with this!

My husband is not 100% supportive either, he is by no means mean or intentional hurtful but he doesn't understand the concept of tracking calories. Sometimes I think guys internally over-react when woman are making such a bold statement about improving our appearance. I think they begin to worry that if we are "cleaning house" they may eventually be next. I have been with my man for 16 yrs and see this same pattern time and time again when i make drastic life changes. I don't think it is a reflect on us but on them. Give your hubby some extra TLC and let him know he is still your #1.

My wife thinks it is silly that I put so much effort into being more fit. She is 5'1 and 111 pounds soaking wet with rocks in her shoes. She isn't negative about my workouts, but treats me with a kind of mild neglect that I have come to recognize as her just not being interested in what I am doing. (She has the same attitude about some of my dorkier pursuits)

I do think that she felt no competition or threat from me near 400 pounds. Don't get me wrong I was a heart breaker hefty and always will be no matter my weight. She seems a lot more uncomfortable as people take notice of me now and compliment me on weight loss or looking good. I do turn heads more these days. I wonder a lot of times if me at my goal weight might make her feel insecure or like it would be more likely another woman would want to take me from her.

Not that any of that is a real issue mind you. I think the sun rises and sets with her. Maybe I over think it and her disinterest is just disinterest. I just know that all my compliments (including the wildly inappropriate observation that my butt is all tight and round now) comes from friends and coworkers.

I try not to, but damn I eat that stuff up.

I am 5'1" and am hoping to go back to 111 pounds! But gaining some weight did give me compassion.