I've never been so happy with my ex.

takechances
takechances Posts: 65
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Today, I finally sold my engagement ring he gave me and got a large sum of the money.

What would you do with the money if you were in my shoes? :)
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  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    An engagement ring has to be given back if the marriage never happens. He can actually sue you for it.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Give it back to him.
  • ktbug1186
    ktbug1186 Posts: 266
    Ya...i'm engaged and told my husband to be that if we ever got divorced, I would give him back the ring, because he paid for it. it represents almost a contract between you and that person and that was broken. I would give it back girl.
  • Calliesmom1
    Calliesmom1 Posts: 78
    haha DONT GIVE THAT BACK! PARTY!
  • LilGiselle21
    LilGiselle21 Posts: 110 Member
    Actually from what I know it depends on the satiate you live in if he can sue you or not. As far as what to do with it....I would save it if there isn't anything "important" use for it but I'm a mommy of 3 who worries to much about money.
  • pumalama
    pumalama Posts: 140 Member
    If you are the one who broke the engagement, in my view, the gracious thing would be to give the money back to him. Otherwise, put the money aside for college?
  • WickedBean
    WickedBean Posts: 244 Member
    It actually depends on who called off the engagement. If he did than he loses the ring, if she did the ring should go back to him.

    However; if it was a mutual break up than its up to the people involved in how they handle the situation of the rings.

    I have been here before, this is what I was told by a friend of mine who is a lawyer, I asked more out of curiosity than anything because I did not want the ring.
  • sisierra
    sisierra Posts: 659 Member
    well since you already sold it, I agree with the person above --PARTY!!! or go on a shopping spree, orrrrrr save it (no fun though)
  • mamagooskie
    mamagooskie Posts: 2,964 Member
    I gave my engagement ring back............that being said if you are going to spend it, I say go for a nice dinner and a movie, some shoes and tattoos would be awesome!!
  • ComicBookGeekGirl
    ComicBookGeekGirl Posts: 202
    An engagement ring has to be given back if the marriage never happens. He can actually sue you for it.
    It might depend on which state you live in? I wouldn't give it back if he cheated on you, but if you called off the wedding, or it was a breakup you both agreed to, than you should have given it back.
  • brandon0523
    brandon0523 Posts: 516
    yep give it back,, the problem with todays women is they all think about the money and that it is theirs when actually it is not.. it was a verbal agreement. once that agreement is over the ring goes back to the rightful owner. now if you were married that is one thing.. but not an engament ring.. but of course that will never happen most women take the money spend it on themselves and goon about their day..
  • luvmyleo
    luvmyleo Posts: 94 Member
    "I never hated a man enough to give him diamonds back."

    Zsa Zsa Gabor

    Go have some fun!
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    I paid for our wedding trio set and I'm not sure what I'm doing with the money yet. I haven't gotten to the point where I'm ready to sell them yet.
  • veganbaum
    veganbaum Posts: 1,865 Member
    An engagement ring has to be given back if the marriage never happens. He can actually sue you for it.

    I think the law might vary from state to state.
  • takechances
    takechances Posts: 65
    I sent it to him and he mailed it back.
    He says that I'm the devil and that he doesn't want it back. I'm a sunday school teacher and I leave in January to do missionary work, so I never really understood...

    He told me to sell it. So I did. :)
    No one should be dumped over text message. Especially by their fiancé.
    I don't feel bad.
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    high heeled shoes.
  • WickedBean
    WickedBean Posts: 244 Member
    I sent it to him and he mailed it back.
    He says that I'm the devil and that he doesn't want it back. I'm a sunday school teacher and I leave in January to do missionary work, so I never really understood...

    He told me to sell it. So I did. :)
    No one should be dumped over text message. Especially by their fiancé.
    I don't feel bad.

    Take the money, and put it aside, you are going to do missionary work - you never know when you might need the extra cash.
  • ComicBookGeekGirl
    ComicBookGeekGirl Posts: 202
    I sent it to him and he mailed it back.
    He says that I'm the devil and that he doesn't want it back. I'm a sunday school teacher and I leave in January to do missionary work, so I never really understood...

    He told me to sell it. So I did. :)
    No one should be dumped over text message. Especially by their fiancé.
    I don't feel bad.
    Well than, its fine!! How much did you get? Enough for a vacation somewhere nice? Go on a cruise girly!! Go have fun! :)
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,284 Member
    Congrats! When I sold MY engagement ring, I got $85 for it. Needless to say it didn't go very far.....even 12 years ago.

    I got $15 for his wedding band, too. ;D
  • kay4489
    kay4489 Posts: 36
    all of these "give it back" comments are kind of late because she already sold it, lol. also, we don't know the situation...OP could have broken off the engagement but it could've been because he was a cheater, in which case she damn sure was right to sell that ring.

    depending on how much u got for the ring, OP, i would put some away in savings and put the rest towards something u have always really wanted but didn't have the money for. if there's nothing, then go shopping!

    *after reading more comments, i know the situation now, haha. what a jerk for dumping u through text :noway:
  • Babymomakell
    Babymomakell Posts: 257 Member
    Coach bag, Shoes or a Vacation =)

    An engagement ring is a GIFT, it does not need to be given back!!!!!!!!!!!
  • KarmaxKitty
    KarmaxKitty Posts: 901 Member
    I sent it to him and he mailed it back.
    He says that I'm the devil and that he doesn't want it back. I'm a sunday school teacher and I leave in January to do missionary work, so I never really understood...

    He told me to sell it. So I did. :)
    No one should be dumped over text message. Especially by their fiancé.
    I don't feel bad.

    Take yourself to a spa. And get the works. I WISH I had enough to do that!
  • suzieqcookie
    suzieqcookie Posts: 314 Member
    An engagement ring has to be given back if the marriage never happens. He can actually sue you for it.

    depends on who canceled the wedding. if she did she is legally required to give it back since she broke the contract, if he cancelled the wedding, it's considered a gift.
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    An engagement ring has to be given back if the marriage never happens. He can actually sue you for it.

    Only if she ended the engagement, if he ended the engagement, she is allowed to keep it as it is considered a gift, if she broke off the engagement she should return it, and depending on the state can be sued as it's considered a promise to marry.
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    yep give it back,, the problem with todays women is they all think about the money and that it is theirs when actually it is not.. it was a verbal agreement. once that agreement is over the ring goes back to the rightful owner. now if you were married that is one thing.. but not an engament ring.. but of course that will never happen most women take the money spend it on themselves and goon about their day..

    Boy that is a cynical view of women.
  • takechances
    takechances Posts: 65
    I got $600. I wasn't going to accept less than $700, but I prayed about it and they seemed like such sweet people.
    Why should I keep a ring that will only make me sad if it can be a symbol of the beginning of another couple?
  • KCoolBeanz
    KCoolBeanz Posts: 813 Member
    I'm still trying to get rid of mine! How'd you do it? I've tried Kijiji and local ads but not eBay.
  • ktbug1186
    ktbug1186 Posts: 266
    I so take back what I said then...JERK!! so sorry that happened to you!!
  • amberleighM04
    amberleighM04 Posts: 108
    I would save it. If you're leaving to do missionary work, there isn't a point in buying anything, unless you need necessities. One day you'll really need the money and least you'll have something positive to take away from the relationship.
  • bcampbell54
    bcampbell54 Posts: 932 Member
    Windfall. Goes to savings.
    End of story.

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