Once a Cheater …Always a Cheater…is BS

I think you cant judge anybody too, because you never know why they did it. You dont know what really goes on in someones house and relationship, only they do. sometimes things look really peachy and happy, and they are far from it. we all make mistakes and as far as I know, nobodys perfect. I do think there are people who cheat just for the newness and rush of it all, but not everybody does. Sometimes you dont make the best decision, but if it's a mistake, learn form it and better yourself.

There are reasons to cheat?? If you're unhappy, LEAVE... simple as that.

No, I didnt say that. I said, EVERYBODY makes mistakes and those without fault, PLEASEEEE hold your hand up!!! Id personally like to see one of those people as ive NEVER had the pleasure of seeing one, just as the rest of the world hasnt. Cheating is horrible and it destroyes families and breaks hearts. Sometimes there are things called children, and other reasons and you cant just LEAVE simple as that.

Totally agree. I think that the fear of incurring the brutality of everyone's judgment usually precludes an honest discussion about the topic. People who were cheated on are sometimes the victims, but sometime they are selfish, horrible people, who use this as an excuse to wear the "victim" mantle. People point at the cheater and say, "What a miserable human being." Rarely, if ever, do they look at both sides of the issue. I also think this is an area where people feel vulnerable, so it is easier to address it in generalities without truly thinking about it.

Exactly. Its always easy to point the finger at someone and stitch that scarlet letter on thier chests, but remember that everyone is a person and sometimes, we make mistakes. Nobody gets thru life without lying, hurting someone, and so forth. Some people have the courage to just leave and some dont. I think you never know what you will do untill you are in that position.

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I see plenty of topics under this category (Chit-cat, fun, and games) that aren't related to weight loss nor fitness. Not sure why people are posting replies as if they're confused as to why the poster created this topic.

At any rate, I imagine if a person who has cheated feels genuine remorse, he or she won't keep cheating. In my opinion most of the time though, the cheater does NOT feel remorse, so they carry right on cheating.

Totally agree. I think that the fear of incurring the brutality of everyone's judgment usually precludes an honest discussion about the topic. People who were cheated on are sometimes the victims, but sometime they are selfish, horrible people, who use this as an excuse to wear the "victim" mantle. People point at the cheater and say, "What a miserable human being." Rarely, if ever, do they look at both sides of the issue. I also think this is an area where people feel vulnerable, so it is easier to address it in generalities without truly thinking about it.

good point here. you can be an awful person to your spouse every day for a year, they can make one mistake (not to diminish it since it is a big one yes but in the case of a one night stand it is just that, a one night stand) and they are the evil person branded for life while the person on the other side of the equation is now now forever the victim. in most situations, there are two sides. sometimes someone is just a cheater, they like the thrill and they are immature and selfish but that is definitely not always the case.

cheaters can learn from their mistakes and that mistake may be how they picked their mate. maturing past the inherent selfishness of youth goes a long way and being more self aware of your wants and needs can help you as well as you try to build a better relationship the next time.

many people (as you can see from this thread) like to make generalizations and there is rarely any talking them out of it. life is a lot simpler and easier if you can see things in black and white and pretend that the grey doesnt exist so it is understandable that so many people live their lives that way. it is depressing and if you ask me, it is one of the biggest things that drags down humanity from the heights we could otherwise reach

I have never known someone who just cheated once. Most of the cheaters I know are habitual cheaters.
I agree with Dextress. cheating is not ok. If your unhappy in a relationship or if you aren't getting what you need from your partner, get out of the relationship.

This. Cheating just screws up everyone's lives.

One time when playing monopoly I stole money from the bank.

I generally don't hold the actions of anyone under the age of 24 against them. I certainly did some things I regret when I was younger that I would never repeat now.

and if certain things are just part of your dna then what else falls in that category?

is a criminal always a criminal? i stole some beer once in college, am i due to restart my life of crime any day now?

what about an over eater?

racist?

workaholic?

smoker?

close talker?

bad cook?

for those that say a cheater is always a cheater then what else have you written people off for after they did it once?