Engagement rings and men

In my experience engagements don't turn into marriages for two main reasons 1) the man chickens out and ends the relationship somehow, 2) the engagement drags on...and on...and on and the woman gets fed up and leave (an engagement is a commitment to marry - not a holding station to keep a woman interested when you have no intention to actually DO THE DEED).

In both cases I would lay blame entirely at the chap's door. :-P

You know what my husband got as his gift? Me.

I think men get the short end of the stick.

Once I get engaged, my plan is to buy him a ring or something of equal value.

My fiancé gave me an heirloom ring in return for the one I bought, so we both have one. Mine's Mom's wedding ring, and I'm more than happy to wear it and tell people it's my engagement ring.

My husband proposed with his grandmother's ring, if something had happened I would have given it back. I got my husband a nice set of cuff links for his wedding day present though.

He didn't ask my fathers' permission (one dad one step-dad...which would he of picked? :laugh: ) but that's because I didn't belong to them. I never understood the asking dad's permission part, not like my dad is marrying the guy :bigsmile: I love my dad (and my step-dad) but I imagine if they had been asked they would have said "uh you're asking the wrong person...).

I'm actually going to buy my fiance an engagement ring as well. He proposed a few months ago and I felt a bit bad that he didn't get anything.

Apparently it's becoming more popular for both partners to get a ring these days, especially if it's likely to be a long engagement. When we get married he can either wear it on the other hand or just have it as a keepsake. Of course...he picked the more expensive version of the one I was looking at for him.... :laugh:

He's picked a two tone band with some small diamonds set in it.

I think if the girl backs out, then the ring should be given back.

If the guy backs out she should keep the ring.

However if the ring is a family heirloom then no matter why the engagement broke up the ring should be given back.

Just my thought.

i bought my Fiancé a ring too but he doesnt wear it on his ring finger as he plays guitar and it gets in the way the only time we would do that is with his wedding ring when we get married, i bought it more as a commitment ring before he proposed to me as he doesnt like necklaces or bracelets

this is my engagment ring

I agree that men should get engagement gifts, too. My fiance wears a ring, too, though. We'll probably get a different one for the wedding. Or maybe not. I don't know.

I wouldn't give my engagement ring back if we broke up but that's because he used my grandma's diamond and had it reset. It's going into it's 3rd or 4th generation. But if he had bought a new diamond, I'd probably attempt to give it back.

We chose an engagement ring together and my other half had final say since he bought it. We got engaged in September, as a surprise for christmas I bought im a ring.
Its very simple and plain as he wear no jewellery. Its a plain titanium band with a small diamond.
He's going to swap it to the other hand when we replace it with a wedding ring in September.

Actually, the girl is suppose to give the ring back, unless the man did something to break the promise, like cheat. If she doesn't you can take her to court and win.

Some things are better left old fashioned. Pancakes, apple turnovers, biscuits and engagements. I asked my wife's dad for permission to court AND get engaged. I earned his respect and my wife was all about dady being the only female child her parents had. If, God forbid, I ever have a daughter, I would expect the same thing. Regardless of what generation we live in. I have to know someone will honor as I honored my wife. Oh, my wife designed and bought my wedding ring. She gave me a Nintendo Gamecube as an engagement ring.


EDIT: when I proposed to her, I had a rose in hand. I gave her the ring after she said yes.

o do i love the way you think!!!!

I think the overwhelming answers from where here are that An Engagement Ring is a gift. That is great and all, But realize this is an out dated thing. Men used to bring home the bacon. And while men still have higher salary caps then women do (DONT KILL ME I BELIEVE IT SHOULD BE EQUAL, JUST STATING FACT) you are just as successful if not more then men are now adays!

So when you sit there after 4 years wondering why the heck we havent proposed, Perhaps its cause we cant live up to the 3 month salary for a ring "GIFT" that you expect.

So when you are sitting there after 4 years thinking when is he going to propose, and we dont, maybe its time for you to present us with an engagement "GIFT" and ask us to marry you.

I mean its an equal opprotunity world now adays.

When me and my Fiance got engaged I actually bought him an engagement ring, too (you can get them for men, also)

This thread makes me so sad! haha. If you're thinking about what will happen when "if" it's over, or what type of an investment it is, or if you want to broadcast you're taken or not or what you'll get back for your ring...maybe you should think about waiting to agree to marry the other person. I mean, let's talk about what a good marriage should be: committed, loving, sharing, unconditional. Are you really *that* committed if you're planning your exit strategy, or wanting to hold off on broadcasting you're off the market? What happened to giving something to someone for the thought of it? Yes, I understand they're expensive, but if it's 'too' expensive, maybe just think about getting a more affordable one. After all if she really is committed to being with YOU she should understand the circumstances. Not to mention, if you're getting married that's money that would have been 'shared' anyway. That being said when I get engaged I most likely will get him a gift...a watch, cuff links, or something appropriate...and I wouldn't want to keep the ring if we split....unless it has sentimental value, why remind yourself of someone that's your past, not your future?