The crazy things people say when you are losing weight...
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I have doubting friends since I have lost weight before. They are thinking don't get rid of your fat clothes. That is extreme motivation for me to keep this going. When I said my goal weight was 185-190 they said you had better stop at 220! Say what?? So I have a lot of doubters that will be very shocked.0
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So a couple of days ago I went out to lunch with a friend. He complimented me about how much weight I have lost and then he said. "Your not going to become cocky, are you?" I said that I hadn't planed on it, but why would you ask? He replied, well you know, when people loose a bunch of weight they think their better than everyone and become super cocky. That was really one of the first uncomfortable conversations I have had about my weight loss....and still don't know how to take it. He may have some jealousy issues.....0
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I completely agree! Went to applebees last night. Ordered the summer berry salad and tomato soup. (minus meat & cheese, i'm a vegan) and a girl at the table whom I was meeting for the first time says "OMG you're dieting and on and on about trying to be skinny." I really didn't say much because i'd be wasting my breath. didn't want to explain to her that I was a vegan and that i'm not trying to be "skinny" i'm trying to be healthy. mind you she orders dessert for dinner and buys little debbie snacks for the movie. prior to that i had to deal with the friend who invited her with how she couldn't be a vegan and how she's already skinny blah blah. THE IGNORANCE IS SO FRUSTRATING! not just on veganism; which im not offended by those who eat meat. so why are people offended that i've chose to be vegan? OUR EATING HABITS DON'T AFFECT THEM!!!! WHY DO THEY HAVE SO MUCH TO SAY?!0
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So a couple of days ago I went out to lunch with a friend. He complimented me about how much weight I have lost and then he said. "Your not going to become cocky, are you?" I said that I hadn't planed on it, but why would you ask? He replied, well you know, when people loose a bunch of weight they think their better than everyone and become super cocky. That was really one of the first uncomfortable conversations I have had about my weight loss....and still don't know how to take it. He may have some jealousy issues.....
THIS DEFINITELY SOUNDS LIKE JEALOUSY. you'd be surprised what you learn about you "friends" on your journey to success.0 -
I did plan to have surgery, and I'm on a pre-op diet that's going so well that I may not qualify by the time my surgery date rolls around. I'm usually a super open person who doesn't mind answering questions honestly, as long as the person asking doesn't make me feel like a freak show.
I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:
(Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.
"How much weight do you want to lose?" and when I tell them "oh...are you sure? That's going to be way too much. I think you should aim for (insert arbitrary number here)." Yeah, I don't remember your occupying a seat in the surgeon's office when we set my weight goals. Trust me, I've done my research. I know what a healthy weight is for me.
"Oh, that surgery will never work. My hamster's cousin's uncle's best friend's neighbor had that, and now she weighs 8 million pounds and needs a crane to use the bathroom. Have you tried (insert fad diet of the moment here)?" Why yes...yes I have. A few times. And guess what? It didn't work for me.
"Aren't you afraid you're going to die?" Well yes, as a matter of fact I am. That's why I'm doing something about my weight. I'd rather die knowing I made an attempt than die even more quickly from a preventable illness. P.S. We all die from SOMETHING...I just prefer that my weight not be that something.
And my favorite:
"Isn't it haaaaaaard (they always draw it out like that) switching your diet all up like that?" Yup, you bet it is. It's even harder lugging my extra-wide butt around, and watching my loved ones enjoy things I know I can't do. I promise you, I'm not likely to expire from the effort of eating better. Maybe you should try it, too.
Oh wait...one more...
"Don't you miss chocolate cake/ice cream/double cheeseburgers with extra lard and mayo?" Well, not until you said THAT! (except the double cheeseburger...I hate cheeseburgers and always have) But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!
You're post literally made my day! I love your come backs, wish I could think those up.
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I think one of the things I'm not prepared for is getting attention from people who would never have looked twice at my heavy self.
this. after a lifetime of being overweight, i'm almost halfway to where i want to be, and i've just now reached the point where strange men treat me as human when i'm out and about...you know, they look, they hold doors, they meet my eyes.
i find it a little creepy. but i guess it's normal? i hit this weight at the beginning of the year, before gaining a few pounds back, and at one point i told my boyfriend (now fiancé lol) that he had better put a ring on my finger or i was going to start wearing one so guys would stop hitting on me. (they weren't, a lot, but often enough that i was totally uncomfortable, because i've never had to deal with that.)
I know exactly what you mean. I kind of miss the anonymous days of being fat, except the whole being fat part, lol. And, FYI, the ring on the finger doesn't stop them
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Bump.
Only just started, so it's not noticeable enough for any comments yet. But I think I need to bookmark this page so I remember all the comebacks when the comments do start coming. ^-^0 -
Wow, I've heard almost all of these comments and more! I think the weight loss comments are better than the ones I used to get when I was heavier.
When I was 20 lbs heavier, I was out running when a couple guys drove by in a truck and yelled out to me "Run fatty, run!" That made me want to cry.
After I lost the 20, I ran into an old college mate of mine (who was always a ***** to me for no reason) and I just politely said "hi!" The first words out of her mouth? "Oh my god...you lost SO MUCH weight!" I hate it when that's the first thing people say to me. No "hi" or anything, just straight to the weight.
I do get the occasional "you look great! but are you losing the weight the healthy way?" because I fluctuate often (5 lbs loss/gain looks almost drastic on me.)
To all of these? I just say "Thank you! I've been working hard and it's paying off-I'm feeling great!" with a big smile and walk away.
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I play poker at a local bar on Thursday nights and it is well known by all that I changed by my lifestyle by quitting smoking, eating healty, and exercising.
So last week I am eating my usual grilled chicken sandwich with onion and lettuce (no cheese, no mayo, no butter) and the 350 obnoxious slob says to me after letting out a belly shaking belch and looking at my dinner "you only live once, may as well enjoy it". I said "I know, I plan to enjoy it for another 30 or 40 years". He shut up after that because I think he realized that despite being 15 years younger than me I will probably outlive him.0 -
I feel for you. When I was pregnant with both of my children my doctor put me on strict diets, I am sooooo happy he did that and that I choose to listen to him. It is ok and healthy to gain weight when you are pregnant but not 50 lbs of weight. I lost almost all of my weight 3 weeks afterd giving birth and could wear my normal clothes when I went back to work. Just smile politely when people make comments to you. As long as you are gaining what you need to nourish the baby it is none of their business. Congratulations on your precious baby and enjoy it, this is a special time for you. *** sorry this was a response to the lady that is pregnant, new here and not sure how to do this yet :blushing:0
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I love it when it takes 40 lbs before people notice, which I am not there yet, someone will finally say. Have you lost weight? YUEAUHH!!! I've been losing and working my butt off for months!!!!!! funny0
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Tell people that you will forgive them for asking, if they'll forgive you for not answering. Use that when people ask rude questions, and then walk away.0
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I have been having the opposite experince! My step dad is an older man, and is overweight so therefore suffers from diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure etc. etc. and no matter how many times the doctor has insisted that he needs to lose weight, he just doesn't seem to care about himself and eats whatever etc. So, I thought, I do NOT want to end up like him. So I decided to do something about it. I've only been using Myfitnesspal for a week and a half but it makes me realise! So, my step dad says things to me about my weight and that but they're always insults never compliments (probably just because he's jealous!) His recent comment was, 'can't you just accept the fact your going to be a horse all your life'. It's really horrible what he says and it really upsets me, but at the same time, it also gives me the motivation to prove him wrong and to one day say, remember that time I was overweight.... Look at me now! Cannot wait for this day! He's an A**hole 0
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My personal favorite was when I was sitting with friends and having lunch. Literally, as I was bringing a fork with delicious food to my mouth, I was accused of being anorexic.0
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wow lady!!! youve heard it all... just hold your head high and only answer what you want to answer.. like "a lot" or say.. oh about a 3rd grader or so" and kinda laugh and walk away (if u dont wanna give ur #'s out.. ya know) my friend lost 59#'s and i told her 'wow your doing awesome.. lost a 3rd grader.. back pack and all"!! (she was glowing.. and laughing).. good stuff...
and you know what.. so what if you have/had a lot to loose... your LOOSING IT... and the healthy way.. not drugs wt loss surgery...
one word of advice someone told me and i stuck with it to is "dont ever let somebody make you feel the way YOU dont want to feel"... :drinker:0 -
Diabetes runs in my family also. It's a major motivation for me to become healthy. Luckily, I don't have insults coming from parents, but I just got back from visiting them and trying to make smart eating decisions is difficult when I'm there.0
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MIne too has been people asking me what pill I was on. For some reason they had a hard time accepting that I dropped 90 pounds by simple diet and exercise. I try to tell them all the time that I didn't start a diet I changed my life, but they still want to know what the magic pill was. Now I say water, veggies and lots of sunshine
The cutest for me was my grandma when she saw me last year she was impressed with my weight loss and then expressed concern over how skinny I looked. She gently tapped my leg and said Honey you look too thin, come with me I'm gonna make you a sandwich. LOL I laugh because I know that she is just being who she is and she is grandma and tends to worry a lot. So even though I would have declined that from someone else I allowed that to be my cheat for the week and let her 'tend' to her granddaughter LOL
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your grandma!!! 0 -
I'm ditto on here with those who referred to people who excitedly ask " how did you lose so much?". They are expecting some "light bulb" moment/answer I guess...it was eat fewer calories and increase exercise...you can see the "light" go off and the disappointed look when I say that! I've even had people roll their eyes when I say that! There is no magic but from within...I've lost 137 lbs now with only 5 more to go and I'm 65 yrs. old, you are never to old to get healthy (or in my case healthy again). 0
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I did plan to have surgery, and I'm on a pre-op diet that's going so well that I may not qualify by the time my surgery date rolls around. I'm usually a super open person who doesn't mind answering questions honestly, as long as the person asking doesn't make me feel like a freak show.
I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:
(Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.
"How much weight do you want to lose?" and when I tell them "oh...are you sure? That's going to be way too much. I think you should aim for (insert arbitrary number here)." Yeah, I don't remember your occupying a seat in the surgeon's office when we set my weight goals. Trust me, I've done my research. I know what a healthy weight is for me.
"Oh, that surgery will never work. My hamster's cousin's uncle's best friend's neighbor had that, and now she weighs 8 million pounds and needs a crane to use the bathroom. Have you tried (insert fad diet of the moment here)?" Why yes...yes I have. A few times. And guess what? It didn't work for me.
"Aren't you afraid you're going to die?" Well yes, as a matter of fact I am. That's why I'm doing something about my weight. I'd rather die knowing I made an attempt than die even more quickly from a preventable illness. P.S. We all die from SOMETHING...I just prefer that my weight not be that something.
And my favorite:
"Isn't it haaaaaaard (they always draw it out like that) switching your diet all up like that?" Yup, you bet it is. It's even harder lugging my extra-wide butt around, and watching my loved ones enjoy things I know I can't do. I promise you, I'm not likely to expire from the effort of eating better. Maybe you should try it, too.
Oh wait...one more...
"Don't you miss chocolate cake/ice cream/double cheeseburgers with extra lard and mayo?" Well, not until you said THAT! (except the double cheeseburger...I hate cheeseburgers and always have) But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!
I laughed so much at this....HILARIOUS!!! But I feel your pain though...when I had lost weight about 6 years ago one person said to me when she saw me coming with a diet soda "oh gosh...don't lose anymore weight...people will start saying you have the "thing" (HIV/AIDS is what was implied)" :grumble: ....I also got "you and this disappearing act you're doing" :frown: . Unfortunately I let all those comments get into my psyche and allow me to become very complacent and abandon my healthy lifestyle even though I wasn't even yet at a healthy BMI...so I'm back here now...and already making up my mind that I won't stop until I get to my goal!!!0 -
The one that I like is 'whoah, you look wayyyy better'. I know people mean well but yah.0
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Yeah, when I have lost weight in the past, people have told me, "It is great that you are finally losing weight because you had really let yourself go!" WTF? Go where? My fat was just taking me along for the ride?0
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In Mexico they say if you lose a lot of weight its because you're in love/ have a lot of love:blushing: So when I went home for the first time after losing weight (which happened to also be the first time I took my boyfriend to Mexico to meet my family) all of my uncles were like "You are so skinny! The loving must be good!" It was sooo embarrassing! Im so glad my boyfriend doesn't speak Spanish!0
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When I decided to finally stick to it and started dropping a lot of weight, my aunt who is also overweight would constantly ask me what kind of drugs I was taking to help me lose weight (and still asks me til this day). I can see her disbelief though up until 2 years ago I threw up at the thought of eating veggies (hated the taste and texture of almost all veggies), and fattening food was my life. After I dropped my first 30 - 40 lbs I woke up one day with a sudden craving for veggies and began eating all veggies in sight lol
That's really cool. I hated vegetables when I was younger & then just started eating them one day. I really like them now, and thank god, because we need them to be healthy.0 -
I haven't had any really bizarre comments, but I hate how everyone wants to give me their weight loss advice, yet they don't do it themselves.0
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In Mexico they say if you lose a lot of weight its because you're in love/ have a lot of love:blushing: So when I went home for the first time after losing weight (which happened to also be the first time I took my boyfriend to Mexico to meet my family) all of my uncles were like "You are so skinny! The loving must be good!" It was sooo embarrassing! Im so glad my boyfriend doesn't speak Spanish!
That's funny. I always get fat when I'm in love, cause all we do is go out to eat.0 -
The disbelief at lifestyle changes reminds me of a great quote:
"People will do anything to lose weight, except exercise and eat right."0 -
"You need to go eat a burrito..No, go eat TWO burritos." Seriously? How about you STOP eating burritos? :grumble:
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@freaja... Grandmas are awesome! I miss mine soooooo much! The craziest thing said to me was by my not so tactful grandfather before I started MFP. I had not seen him in a while and instead of saying hi how are you doing or nice to see you, he popped off with .... MY WERE GETTING FAT! I am curious what he will have to say the next time he sees me after this program. I am sure it will be along the lines of ARE YOU SICK. you look anorexic! We will see. UGH0
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I did plan to have surgery, and I'm on a pre-op diet that's going so well that I may not qualify by the time my surgery date rolls around. I'm usually a super open person who doesn't mind answering questions honestly, as long as the person asking doesn't make me feel like a freak show.
I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:
(Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.
"How much weight do you want to lose?" and when I tell them "oh...are you sure? That's going to be way too much. I think you should aim for (insert arbitrary number here)." Yeah, I don't remember your occupying a seat in the surgeon's office when we set my weight goals. Trust me, I've done my research. I know what a healthy weight is for me.
"Oh, that surgery will never work. My hamster's cousin's uncle's best friend's neighbor had that, and now she weighs 8 million pounds and needs a crane to use the bathroom. Have you tried (insert fad diet of the moment here)?" Why yes...yes I have. A few times. And guess what? It didn't work for me.
"Aren't you afraid you're going to die?" Well yes, as a matter of fact I am. That's why I'm doing something about my weight. I'd rather die knowing I made an attempt than die even more quickly from a preventable illness. P.S. We all die from SOMETHING...I just prefer that my weight not be that something.
And my favorite:
"Isn't it haaaaaaard (they always draw it out like that) switching your diet all up like that?" Yup, you bet it is. It's even harder lugging my extra-wide butt around, and watching my loved ones enjoy things I know I can't do. I promise you, I'm not likely to expire from the effort of eating better. Maybe you should try it, too.
Oh wait...one more...
"Don't you miss chocolate cake/ice cream/double cheeseburgers with extra lard and mayo?" Well, not until you said THAT! (except the double cheeseburger...I hate cheeseburgers and always have) But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!
You have a great, entertaining style of writing! Thanks for the giggle!!0 -
I lost close to 60 lbs in a very short time. The funniest thing said was: Can I see your stretch marks and sagging skin? My response: I don't have sagging skin...and if you show me your stretch marks....I will show you mine! The most annoying: You are so skinny! Compared to how I use to be...yes...but I am not skinny...I am healthy!0
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