The crazy things people say when you are losing weight...

I always get, "what's your secret" too! There is no secret people. We eat healthy AND exercise daily. It is pretty simple.
What is disturbing is that I have an obese co-worker who tries to avoid me now. She will barely talk to me, and hides from me. We used to get along just fine. I'm not sure why I have to make an effort to be nice to her, to say hello, etc. She just won't say anything to me anymore unless I initiate. I haven't said one word to her about my weight loss, and she mentioned it only once. She asked me what my secret was, and I told her exercise and diet. She said "see I want to eat brownies." I laughed and said, "well, an occasional brownie is fine." She said, "I can't give up cheese." I said "I know. It's not easy, but I have gotten used to it." After that, she hasn't mentioned anything and won't talk to me unless I pin her down. It's weird.
I did this for my health because I had metabolic syndrome, and not to make others feel bad!!

Maybe she is ashamed for not being as strong as you, or maybe she thinks you are one of them (the skinny people) and doesn't feel confident that you would like her company.

Mine was my boyfriends mum saying to my bf, "you better watch it now she's lost all this weight she'll be leaving you. "

I just smiled but thought WTF are you talking about woman.

My mom said something similar, "You lose all this weight and you'll be too sexy for your boyfriend." Um...I'll still love him regardless of what I look like. Silly goose. :laugh:

This bothers me too, when I think that many people would treat me in a better way when I weigh less. Like the comments (I am happily single) you're getting ready to get back "out there". As though I am not good enough now, and it's not okay to be single and happy.. Least it quickly lets people reveal how they truly think.

I have people at my work thinking that this is a diet I'm on! The thing about it is, this app has helped me get my mojo back! Some people don't have to monitor and keep track of what they eat to stay honest to themselves! I need to see in black and white what I have each day. People don't understand that change in ones life is necessary and I for one feel fantastic and only starting week 3 on Monday! Some people just don't want to see you better yourself for their own personal agenda! I for one am strong willed, and could care less about what one thinks of my weight loss! This app is getting my son, my dog and I out for walks everyday. All I think about is walking or jogging after work!! I went from wondering "what wine to drink tonight" to wondering "which trail will I try today"!! :happy:

Someone said "you look like you've lost a lot of weight..........have you been sick?" wth? No but thanks for noticing I guess

I too can relate to pretty much everything mentioned thus far.
I'm carrying a debilitating back injury, so can no longer train and work out intensively like I used to. I get that people are trying to help me in my journey with their 'suggestions' but people, I'm the only one who knows my body's limits.
Three and a half years ago, when I lost around 15kg and was still medically overweight (I'm 156cm or 5'1"), I got told if I lost any more I'd fade away.

At uni the other day, I was offered chocolate. I politely declined, and declared that I had lost 6kg since April through dedication and moderation. I was asked if I had tried to to this. Um, yes, I did try, and it's worked. I don't not have treats but I try not to have them too often.

Yesterday I was told I would never be a size 8 or a size 10. I was mortified by this comment. It was made by someone who had lap band surgery. I corrected them and told them that it was not impossible, that I was always big as a child, and then I was a size 10 (because I worked damned hard) just before my 16th birthday.
I know it's not going to happen overnight, but it will happen. I am determined.

That's great You can achieve all of that if you are persistent and determined to Not even doctors can tell you what dress size you'll be when you're at a healthy weight, so don't listen to this person.

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most annoying comments:

"you seem so stressed, it must be that diet you are on." .....errr no, I'm "so stressed" because I have PTSD and the exercise is actually helping and I'm also concerned about the effect all the stress hormones in my system is having on my body, so I'm trying to counteract that with healthy eating and exercise..... (I didn't actually say that though, because I don't see why I should have to explain my psychiatric history in order to justify myself to people who don't know anything about either nutrition or psychology)

"it's okay to break your diet once in a while" - yes that's true except a) it's not a diet it's a lifestyle change and b) if I broke my "diet" every time someone offered me junk food it'd become a lifestyle change in the wrong direction...!!

Then you get people who act like I'm some kind of crazy diet extremist health fanatic because I say "no thank you" to donuts and other deep fried stuff rather than eating them.

The funniest one was someone who I'd never met before, who saw me eating an apple and asked me if I was on a diet. Just because I was eating an apple. Apparently people who are not on diets don't eat apples....???

And there's people who seem to think you're only saying no out of some kind of obligation and that you really want the food, and keep insisting.... except I actually don't want it. I've taken to telling people that I have a policy whereby I only eat unhealthy food if I'm really going to enjoy it, and I'm not in the mood for it right now, so no. That generally works

" dont you think your skinny enough yet", i think its ironic coming from someone who claims to be losing weight but hadnt lost a pound- continuing to stuff thier face- and said that to me with a scolding angry attitude.....im sorry whos got the problem here? not me...anymore:laugh:

Coworker, "Don't lose weight your weight suits you."

LOTS of people, "How much are you going to lose?" Me, "About 100 pounds give or take." Them, O.O "OMG that's too much!" Me, "No, it's really really not. I weighed 240 when I started."

*****y ex-manager, "HOW are you doing it?" Me, "I watch what I eat, exercise when I can. Use MFP to track my food, exercise, weight etc." Her "Oh I'm MUCH too busy for all that," with the tone implication that I'm some spoiled Stepford Wife. *****, I got two jobs (60 hours a week), two kids one two and one 12 months (she also has special needs). I don't HAVE time I MAKE time.

And this is not so much weightloss but still just made me go WUT. Date, (on my getting a breast reduction after my weight loss... informed him about my back problems too), "Oh let's wait for that! Might enjoy those a bit too much." That was my first and last date with him. Way to go for being classy.. oh, and concerned about the HEALTH of your potential mate. Good job dude.

One thing that has been weird for me, and particularly there is one individual that does it, is someone who is bigger than I am making such a fuss about how "skinny" I am and "just look at you, you're so skinny now" and "how much more your you going to lose cause you're so skinny, you are going to fly away". I'm not skinny, medically speaking I'm still overwieght, so I don't know what to say and it makes me uncomfortable when I know it comes from someone who is "trying" to lose weight but has all sorts of excuses why it isn't working or they can't. I just try to find a way to politely say thanks and get away as fast as I can.

Yeah this. All the time.

The "dont get too skinny" comments used to happen to me when I was alot thinner and worried about gaining.
( usually between 130-140 pounds)
Because people who are WAY bigger than that, think that's thin.
Now I am 155 and WISH I were 130-140.
But I also know what it's like to be near 200.

Its all relative.

Bottom line is, you have to lose weight for YOURSELF andf no one else.

NO ONE can control your body but you!!!


BEST WISHES TO ALL..

Whether it's maintainence, Weight loss BIG or small.

"I liked you better when you were fatter than me." -very good friend

Um... Thanks? If our friendship hinges on that, I think we should see other people.

Wow...frienemy....

The craziest comment I've gotten is "Oh you're losing weight? I didn't notice...."
:huh: what?
You meant to tell me out of the 20lbs I've lost...you can't see any difference?
:grumble: hater.

I am in the middle of losing a lot of weight that I have carried all my life. It's noticeable. Most people say something along the lines of, "Wow, you look great!" which is a wonderful boost for me. Plus it has the added benefit of allowing me to either say "thank you" and move on, or to open up a discussion about it if I so choose.

It's amazing to me what some people have said to me though! Many people will come up to me in the hall at work, and instead of saying "hi" will say, "So how much weight have you lost?" I am not comfortable giving my number out to everyone, because I still have a long way to go, and frankly, it's still embarrassing to me that I had so much to lose in the first place. I had one person who could not let it go (and this was someone I can NOT stand under the best of circumstances!). When he asked how much I had lost, I just replied "a lot." He kept on asking "so how much is a lot?" Seriously! Why does it matter!?

When I first started losing weight, people would ask me if I was losing weight. I learned to answer, "Yes, I am certainly trying to!" because if I just said "yes" it was following with something like "have you been sick?"

Many people want to know what I am doing. I have started making stuff up, because no one believes that I could just change my eating habits and exercise routine and have any success. I told someone once that I had been hypnotized. Haha!

My favorite is the woman who said "I didn't know you had weight loss surgery!" Yeah...I didn't. How uncomfortable.

What is the craziest thing that someone has said to you while you were losing weight?

I am a goofball so I use humor.

How much did you lose? "One MILLION pounds" :laugh: with my pinky by my mouth like in Austin Powers.

I have come to the conclusion, people do not think before they speak. Fortunately, I realize I do the same thing so let it slide:happy:

Whats your secret? Agree - No secret clubs!

I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:

(Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.

My family and husband use this one.. It just makes me so mad. I know I am fat and I am acknowledging it so why do they feel the need to lie about it to our faces? So irritating!!