Adult movies vs Adult novels.
calvert6183
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Ok question, my buddy and his woman are fighting over this so now im curious. I hear alot of women talk about how bad adult movies are and they wont date guys who like them, personally for me, I dont watch it but here is the thing im wondering, whats the difference in watching adult movies than reading dirty novels? Its the same thing. I know alot of you read them cause they are among the best sellers. They both create adult fantasies in your mind and can cause problems in relationships due to them being addictive and other things. Keep it clean, this is just a common question.
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I have no idea why women are against their S.O. watching porn.
I really don't care as long as I don't get REPLACED with porn0 -
To me there is no difference. I too do not get why women are so against porn either. Shoot I will even watch it with my man. As stated, as long as I do not get replaced by it then I am cool.
If I am reading a dirty novel - shoot let him reap the benefits from it! Works both ways!0 -
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Pulls up chair, grabs popcorn, and glass of water with a twist of lemon and begins to watch this thread unfold. Great question!!0 -
For me actually watching it was just gross. I can't get into watching others have sex. It was not a pretty picture to me. Eww. Was always to critical of our own.
As for the books, I dunno. I can get into them!! I actually JUST finished reading a REALLY good one yesterday! "Broken" by Megan Hart. I didn't find it dirty at all (even though the content was very much so), exciting actually.
I feel like actually watching it and just picturing it in your head are two different things.0 -
I have no idea why women are against their S.O. watching porn.
I really don't care as long as I don't get REPLACED with porn
What about being PLACED in a porn? lol0 -
I'm good for either. I've watched them and I don't mind my other half watching adult movies either, he's a bloke. I have read 1 adult book and to be honest I was more interested in the story than the sex. I guess a book prolongs to process whereas a movie gets the job done quickly???!!! :blushing:0
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women who don't allow their men to watch porn are insecure. I think it is silly to allow that to come in between you and your other half...
I see no problem with it, and hell, we do it together.
reading it leaves more up to the imagination which is sometimes more exciting... watching it definately gets the job done quicker.0 -
I think they are essentially that same thing but in a different format.
I personally would rather watch it then read about it. lol0 -
All couples should watch porn together0
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My deal is that if he watches porn it makes me feel like he will be comparing me to the girls in the videos. it makes me feel like him looking at me isnt enough for him, which makes me feel like *kitten*.
Reading racy novels are different because you're not looking at anyone. you conjure images in your head, and for me it usually just provides scenarios for characters that strongly resemble my fiance and I to participate in inside my head. It's two completely separate things.0 -
Both can be an inhancement to a relationship in my opinion. As said if it doesn't replace the intimacy in the relationship its fine. Personally I like the written type as I can imagine my husband as the hero lol, but he prefares watching. Whatever floats your boat :blushing:0
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If someone is replacing you with anything (books, movies, alt activities), then you are with the wrong person.0
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My deal is that if he watches porn it makes me feel like he will be comparing me to the girls in the videos. it makes me feel like him looking at me isnt enough for him, which makes me feel like *kitten*.
Reading racy novels are different because you're not looking at anyone. you conjure images in your head, and for me it usually just provides scenarios for characters that strongly resemble my fiance and I to participate in inside my head. It's two completely separate things.
If he watches porn and has his fun, when your in the next room, then yes, I understand. If he does it when your not there, I don't see a problem?0 -
It's the same. I personally find it hypocritical to say one is okay and one is not. I don't see a problem with either one. For me, I don't really care where my man gets his appetite so long as he's coming home for dinner...and the same for me!0
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As long as the person is living a productive life, and I don't start being neglected in my needs - I don't care. Watch away.
I love adult novels, and I love pictures, and GIFS. I'm not into the videos so much, but there are some that catch my attention.
AND, as long as my partner doesn't LIE ABOUT IT. If it starts being secretive then I have an issue.0 -
I don't mind my fiance watching porn. I am sure he does.
And if he wanted to read porn I wouldn't mind that either.
For me, as long as I am not getting less attention than I need I don't care.
As far as the difference between novels and movies... personally I find novels sexier because I can imagine more. Usually the people I imagine from the books don't have bleach blonde hair, foot longs and matching back tattoos.0 -
adult movies all day!!!!!!!!! lol0
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I have no idea why women are against their S.O. watching porn.
I really don't care as long as I don't get REPLACED with porn
^^This. Personally I prefer the novels because my imagination is waaaay better than any porn I've watched. haha0 -
adult movies all day!!!!!!!!! lol
LOL you GO girl!!0 -
Its the same. Manipulative women will tell you theres a reason that is valid only in their mind.
Its the same as those "feminists" claiming that men should pay for a date... hypocracy doesn't need a valid reason
Note: Men are manipulative too, so don't try to twist my words around0 -
*shrugs* I have no idea why a woman would see adult movies as a bad thing. I guess it's jealousy, she's probably worried that he thinks the actress looks better than she does? In comparison, with a book you are using more of your mind to "see" what the person looks like. For all the girlfriend knows, he could be imagining a woman that looks the spitting image of her!
For me, as long as he's not "replacing" me with the porn, go ahead, watch it! Whatever turns you on. I sure as hell wouldn't want to stop reading adult literature just because my partner is insecure!0 -
My partner and I watch "medium-core" porn together maybe once a month, we both enjoy it. We have even made a few home movies too (much more fun)0
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There is nothing wrong with watching porn and I do watch porn sometimes, but there are times where Erotic SHORT stories ( no patience for novels) totally do it for me.0
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In the words of Sarah Jessica Parker "I don't judge others. I say if you feel good with what you're doing, let your freak flag fly"
I personally love erotic novels and have watched porn.0 -
This comes up all the time.
Your preference to voyeurism is not related to your gender or sexuality.
Sexual expression is different for everyone.
I think boils down to personal tastes and also insecurity.
In answer to the question. The books and videos are one and the same. an expression of your own sexual preference or desire that does not require or revolve around your partner.0 -
Also some of the porn that is out there is very Made for Men. Even the lesbian porns are like " Gay for Pay." I can see why some people dont want their partners watching the bleach blonde "2 legged horses" movies.0
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Also some of the porn that is out there is very Made for Men. Even the lesbian porns are like " Gay for Pay." I can see why some people dont want their partners watching the bleach blonde "2 legged horses" movies.
While I agree that most porn is made for men, same goes for dirty novels which are mostly made for females. I mean... if a women feels less about herself after watching porn, a man feels the same after reading one of those novels. Most men instantly think that whats turning you on about that story line is the success of the man or how romantic he is and everything thats non-practical. Same can be argued about porn movies too0 -
It's insecurity. I think there is a belief that men who watch porn are secretly wishing their SO was like a porn star or something, which I don't believe is true. I'm sure there are some guys who try and get their partners to try stuff they saw in porn, and I can understand why people would have a problem with that aspect of it, but I feel most guys don't watch it for that reason and only want something visually stimulating to help them along.
As for women, well, I see lots of women talking about how they wish their husbands were more like the main character from that 50 shades of *kitten* book then I see men talking about how they wish their wives were more like porn stars.0 -
Its the same. Manipulative women will tell you theres a reason that is valid only in their mind.
Its the same as those "feminists" claiming that men should pay for a date... hypocracy doesn't need a valid reason
Note: Men are manipulative too, so don't try to twist my words around
Soooooooooo agree0 -
Thats ridiculous. Same thing.0
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