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  • rompers16
    rompers16 Posts: 5,404 Member
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    Looking at my daughters and realizing I was harming them by allowing all the empty calories...we are doing this together.
  • Serenstar75
    Serenstar75 Posts: 258 Member
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    i was 35, just moved to a new state and two months later my then husband told me he wanted a divorce and didn't feel like being married anymore (to me...he's married to his girlfriend he had though now. :P) I was like...35, fat (230lbs) and suddenly single? I had also just fallen that same month and tore my ACL. The weight was killing my knee as I was trying to recover. I couldn't fit into any of the leg braces the doctor had because I was too fat. I felt like crying just from that, so embarrassed. My new doctor in my new town also looked at me and said, "You don't look obese, however you're over 230lbs. Have you ever thought about the lapband?" I told her, "How about the natural way of diet and exercise??"

    So I worked on losing the weight. Lost down to 175, got in a new relationship, and we had social eating. I was not eating much when I'd lost the weight. Now I was eating normal amounts AND some junk food. I gained up to 208. I'm to 195 now. I realized I was hitting back over 200 and said this ride needed to STOP. I have cute clothes waiting on me.

    I've only lost back 11 lbs (makes 35lbs total from my top weight) but I've lost 3 inches in my waist and an inch to two inches everywhere else. I workout with cardio and weights and do calisthenics regularly. I also have fibromyalgia and find that it tremendously helps the pain to be active and it's better the more weight I lose. My body needs the break and I want to see if I can get down to smaller than I was in highschool. I'm 37 now, and I refuse to be a fat old woman.
  • memmers
    memmers Posts: 112
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    Ive always been unhappy since i was 14. I attempted to do something about it a few times but quit. It took me a while to realize that even though its gonna be hard it is well worth it and i got a gym membership and that was the extra push i needed!
  • alex88carolina
    alex88carolina Posts: 108
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    Mine is a crazy story, I had been big since I was 8 it started around the time my parents got divorced. It started in the first of April. In a matter of 10 days. I had moved 300 miles from home and family with my job to take a promotion (first time on my own ever), car broke down first day here, Fiance left me 2 days later, next day got hurt at work and had to get stitches, all while the stress of the job. I had always been an emotional eater my whole life, life got hard food got pounded. I got so stressed with that and the new job I actually quit eating, that was a first! I went right at 11 days not really eating at all. Finally my boss told me to start eating. When I tried to I could not eat as much since my stomach had shrunk massively. And the weight started falling off like crazy. I joined this site after 50lb lost. And plan on keeping the weight loss going.
  • shinisize
    shinisize Posts: 105 Member
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    It started with where I went wrong. I was in a relationship with someone who was a feeder. He would practically force me to eat so that I would be fatter because he didn't want other men to find me attractive. After several years together and a very brief and unpleasant stunt being married (that's when the real agenda came out of the closet) I was getting pretty damn sick of being chubby! Thanks to genetics and the fact that I was aware of the weight gain I only put on 25lbs. When the relationship ended I lost the weight. Then I had a life turn that lead me to be a lot less active just as I got into another relationship. Somewhat out of habit and mostly out of not moving I put on almost 20lbs over the next year. I finally said enough, I want to be happy with myself again! I had a taste of being happy in a swimsuit and feeling GOOD about me again last summer for the first time in years, and I wasn't going to just live with my suddenly reemerged saddlebags (I'm very pear shaped in my weight gain, it all goes to my *kitten* and thighs exclusively). Thankfully my boyfriend was very supportive--and has continued to offer to get me whatever I need to make my goals a reality. He doesn't care what a gym membership costs, or how often I wear my shoes out, or if none of my jeans fit right anymore because I need a smaller size. He cares about me losing weight in a healthy way and being happy with myself. As he says, it's not my weight that makes me beautiful in his eyes, but my confidence. Since I'm not confident when I feel chubby, he'll give me whatever I need to get that sexy back! It's so refreshing to have someone who supports me and helps me make healthy choices!
  • jhner
    jhner Posts: 66
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    2 things: My ten year high school reunion, and my 5 year old telling me I was round. I lost 20 pounds and then they cancelled my reunion- ugh! But I'm working to keep it off/possibly lose about 5 more. Feeling better than ever.
  • Serenstar75
    Serenstar75 Posts: 258 Member
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    It started with where I went wrong. I was in a relationship with someone who was a feeder. He would practically force me to eat so that I would be fatter because he didn't want other men to find me attractive.

    I'm not the only one who has been with that guy?? What is with their need to control? My ex insisted on submissiveness, would make my plates for me and insist it all needed to be eaten and most of it was Italian foods and pasta. I still to this day hate that kind of food. That was my second instance of that. My first husband got upset when I started to lose weight and said I was losing it to find another man.
  • laurajethan
    laurajethan Posts: 50 Member
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    Having PCOS and trying to concieve a baby while over weight doesnt work. All my doctors/specialists told me to loose weight and we should concieve easily but after trying for 13 months and not getting anywhere started to get me down. After I got really sick and lost a bit of weight thats when I said I wasnt going to put it back on once I was better. So now 11kg and 3 months on and no baby yet starting to think IVF is our only option. I forgot to mention that my partner has Arthritis and has had to be off all his medication for 16 months now so its putting extra pressure on the sooner rather than later. Plus getting married next year and I would love to be the weight I was when we first met only 5kgs to go to that goal
  • tatiannahayako
    tatiannahayako Posts: 3
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    my first year of college.... most freshmen gain 15 pounds, but i lost 15 pounds and i realized that i no longer have an excuse for my obesity. i want to be that girl that goes to the pool with confidence and even walking out the front door in a tanktop and not worry about my arms..

    i want a better well being in my life and live to be 100+ years old and with diet and excersie it can be accomplished.
  • talrcat
    talrcat Posts: 97 Member
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    I was miserable, but could not do this for myself. It took being accountable to SOMEONE ELSE to really set me on this journey. "They" say you have to lose the weight for yourself, and they are right, but sometimes what you need to start the journey is to "do it" for someone else.
    I have learned a lot about myself and am now able to be accountable to myself.
  • Sassy9411
    Sassy9411 Posts: 67 Member
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    Well my friend always says she can't wait for us to share clothes when we live together, and I look at me then her, and I realize that'll never happen if i don't lose weight! So, I mean she really did it for me! :)
    I did it for myself too, I've always wanted to lose weight, but that was a big push for me! I just wanna look and feel good and not have to worry about what people are saying and thinking about me.
  • nikkishai
    nikkishai Posts: 407 Member
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    In all honesty... I just wanted to wear pants again.
  • funsiiz
    funsiiz Posts: 246 Member
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    Sick of my belly jiggling over my pants...yuk
  • sisa1965
    sisa1965 Posts: 52 Member
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    I had not weighed in years, and had to go to a health assessment at work and when I weighed I was shocked, then when the results came in and a trip to the doctor I was diagnosed pre-diabetic and I am determined to beat it not let it beat me,, and I have a great nephew that I adore and I want to be a positive in his life for a long time to come
  • cindyhoney2
    cindyhoney2 Posts: 603 Member
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    I had ballooned up to 265 lbs, biggest I have ever been. My sister-in-law started the Atkins diet and lost about 20 lbs really quickly so I gave it a try. I lost about 65 lbs on it but missed my fruit and veggies. I still don't eat potatoes, pasta, rice or bread but I eat all the fruits and veggies I want. It was about a lifestyle change for me. I can't even eat pizza anymore, lol, don't even desire to eat it. I have cheat days so I don't binge but it's the lifestyle change that has helped me (it's been 16 mos)
  • vbmama2012
    vbmama2012 Posts: 60 Member
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    I got sick with a UTI back in September 2011. When I gave them my urine sample (sorry if it's TMI), the UTI became secondary to the 300+ level of sugar in my urine.
    I went to my doctor, and he ran the blood work. You guessed it...205 lbs and A1C of 10, uncontrolled Type 2 Diabetic. That was the deal-breaker. I cleaned out the pantry that night, hit the grocery, restocked with good foods, no carbs, and started walking.
    Today, I'm 52 lbs lighter and my A1C has dropped to a fantastic 5.7 (below the pre-diabetic stage)!!
  • apriltrainer
    apriltrainer Posts: 732 Member
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    I was the girl picked last in high school gym class( as well as the pariah noone wanted to sit next to during lunch but that's for another thread!) . I sucked at volleyball and basketball and baseball....etc.

    I figured I must just not be athletic.

    I was teased in gym, had the ball thrown at me. Told to my face I sucked and I was awful. I remember trying, I was never one of those kids who made an excuse not to participate but my classmates let me know everyday that I was a loser. What happened in the gym followed me throughout highschool.

    Well I joined the army. Found out I was good at running (I was always first or 2nd girl in when my platoon ran) and i never even attempted to join track back in highschool because of my miserable experiences in gym class. Maybe if I had, I would have found what I was good at sooner!

    Also found out I was very good at lifting heavy things..lol. I did the most pushups out of all the girls in my platoon. I was one of three girls who could do pullups. So I found out I was actually strong.

    What that taught me is EVERYONE is athletic. You just have to find the right sport! Team sports are obviously not my forte. But individual athletic endeavors I can succeed at.

    Had I not been picked on in gym...I probably would have been content to pack on the pounds like the majority of my classmates have done through the years. My 20 yr reunion is two years away and I am determined to be HOTNESS at that time.

    Yeah, high school may have been years ago but all that hurt never really leaves you.
  • lisap20045
    lisap20045 Posts: 2
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    I was on a trip with friends. We were in New Orleans and two of my friends (who are each a friend of mine but not really friends with each other) got into a fight. I tried to smooth things over and one of my best friends turned to me and called me a fat pig. Needless to say she is no longer my friend. I would never say anything like that to my worst enemy (her, LOL). It is something that one can never take back after it has been said. I want to show her that I can and will lose this weight. I would love to be so much smaller when I see her again. Now that I have said that I will probably run into her tomorrow. That is fine too. That would give her a before and after weight loss image. I also have many medical problems due to my weight. It is time to get out of this fat suit!!!
  • teacheatsleep
    teacheatsleep Posts: 22 Member
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    My wake up call was when I saw my new Driver's license photo. My face was so round. I was embarrassed how far I had let myself go.
  • slimy72
    slimy72 Posts: 12
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    I had been looking at pictures from vacation and noticed how big I looked. I'd been avoiding the camera for years. I half heartedly started eating healthier. I lost a bit but I really wasn't trying hard. Then on Jan. 3 my dad had a massive heart attack. Less than a week before my birthday. He was diagnosed with diabetes 6 months earlier. But having to sit here, 1200 miles away from him and feeling totally helpless while I didn't know if he was going to live or die made me realize I don't want to do this to my kids when I'm in my 50s. My dad isn't that old, I'm not that old, but I never want my son to have to go through that because I don't take care of myself. It also didn't help that my son kept commenting on my Jello belly. I've almost quit many times. Through all of this I've been trying to get pregnant. It finally hit me that my dr had told me all along that he believed part of my trouble in conceiving and carrying pregnancies is my weight (not the only issue just contributing). So now any time I feel like quitting I just remind myself I'm doing this for my children - current and future.

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