How does your SO support you or not support you?
vallemic
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I have been reflecting alot today on my journey and it's still hard to believe at times that I have stuck with it for 10 months! Then it occured to me that my SO was a big help! We often here people say their SO is sooo supportive or not supportive and I'm just realizing how your spouse really can contibute to your success! Just curious what he/she does/say that really helps or doesn't help at all?
My SO is supportive because:
-He eats ANYTHING I make and always says it's delicious! This is nice because I don't have to make two different meals for the family.
-Once I started to lose weight, he also jumped on the weight loss band-wagon!
-Gives me compliments on the way I look! At the beginning, he would say "Wow, I can really see a difference in your tummy, thighs, etc." Now he says "Your butt looks HOT in those pants"!
-He doesn't bring any crap food in the house!
-He doesn't try to convince me to eat out at restaurants! If we have to (like on vacation), he always tells me to pick the spot!
My SO is supportive because:
-He eats ANYTHING I make and always says it's delicious! This is nice because I don't have to make two different meals for the family.
-Once I started to lose weight, he also jumped on the weight loss band-wagon!
-Gives me compliments on the way I look! At the beginning, he would say "Wow, I can really see a difference in your tummy, thighs, etc." Now he says "Your butt looks HOT in those pants"!
-He doesn't bring any crap food in the house!
-He doesn't try to convince me to eat out at restaurants! If we have to (like on vacation), he always tells me to pick the spot!
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My SO is supportive because:
Even though he is not trying to loose weight he'll come for a walk with my to "keep me company" and is happy to try and keep up with me without complaining
He is learning how to cook and everything he tries is healthy so that i can eat with him.
He constantly encourages me and tells me i should be very proud of myself
He reminds me of the changes i promised myself I would make even on a bad day when i just want cake, in a totally un-judgemental and non-condescending way.0 -
He listens to me drone about nutrition and excecises.
He eats anything I want to make.
Most important, he told me I was beautiful and sexy every day before I started, and still does. I don't need him to be my cheerleader or follow the ame plan, but him thinking I am attractive as I am makes sooooo much difference!0 -
We're going together! He is even supportive of me cutting out meat, which shocked me.0
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My boyfriend is really into fitness and weightlifting. He also loves food, but is also conscious of what he is eating (especially the amount of protein and calories). Sometimes we are bad influences on each other, because one of us will get a craving, but if I'm trying to eat healthy and I tell him that he'll remind me when I start to stray. Neither of us are perfect but we are definitely more health conscious than other people our age that we know!0
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- He will go on my walks/runs with me if my mom can't come
- During the running portion of said walk/run, he will encourage me to go further than I have previously
- He tells me he is proud of me for sticking to the calorie counting and exercising and not giving up
- He eats the healthy, low cal foods I make even though he needs to GAIN weight
- He listens to me go on and on about every time I run further, every time I drop even the smallest amount of weight, and every other little detail.
Plus more I'm sure that I'm forgetting. He really helps a lot and makes me feel good about what I'm doing =]0 -
My SO ISN'T supportive:
He asks me to buy him chocolate when shopping
He won't drink diet or calorie free drinks
Orders pizza and asks if I want one knowing full well I've just eaten
Never asks how I'm doing or if I've lost anything
When I say I've lost pounds or inches, he just looks up and says ok
Refuses to lose weight himself despite being over 240lbs and diabetic...
There are other areas he is unsupportive relating to my health and disabilities, but that's for therapy lol!
This is awful to say, but please don't let me be the only one who's SO doesn't care!0 -
My SO is supportive:
He tells me I'm beautiful.
He joined MFP, but because he wants to gain. And also so I can post sweet things on his profile
The problem we run into though is that we eat out A LOT. Great for him... not so great for me :indifferent:0 -
my husband is supportive, he doesn't complain when I buy new workout gear (from new Nikes to a new spin bike) he eats any recipe I come up with and never complains, he always tells me I"m beautiful. Always. He never grumbles about the kitchen counter being taken up with a food scale, blender, HRM, etc.
One way he isn't supportive: He can never tell me no. If I say I'm craving donuts or am tired and want him to grab cheeseburgers on the way home, he does it. I know he just wants to make me happy, but he knows that I"m unlikely to go out of my way to get McDonald's, so if he just drives past it on his way home, I'd have to cook. I guess that's not really un supportive so much as not keeping me accountable. Either way, he smells good and is gorgeous so it's fine.0 -
My SO wants to go on walks with me but that is my alone time..lol..me and God and my music...but i have always made 2 meald from the start with us..we eat different alot of the times..but when the alarm goes off he is like ok get up,he says things also like i can see the difference in your face and in your thighs,and i see your confindence is through the roof,and i am so proud of you no matter what size you are..and that i love you..he is so super sweet
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My hubby tells me when he can see a difference somewhere... tells me I look good.
When I tell him I've lost wait, he gets excited for me
He picks up the kids when he gets out of work... to give me time to get home and work out... That's been a HUGE one!!0 -
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You're not alone. In fact, when I was reading these other girl's comments I was thinking, "Oh ****. My fiance doesn't do any of those things." If I lost weight, my fiance wouldn't notice or care.(which may be a good thing, but it isn't when you're trying to lose weight and be healthy) It is so much easier to lose weight when the person you're with at least encourages you.(or keeps junk food away)I've tried to find support by working out with my friend, but she's so busy, she never has time. I've tried to come here for support, but that didn't work out either. So anyways, bottom line, you're not alone.
that was in response to the woman who doesnt have a supportive husband(or whatever SO means)0 -
My husband inspires me every single day! After I had my daughter 3 years ago, I did weight watchers to lose my baby weight -- I only needed to get rid of 10ish pounds (I was a sick lady) to get back to my pregnancy weight (where I am now), but he joined LiveStrong and transformed his eating habits to help me. He dropped 30 pounds and now we do MFP together. He'll even do Jillian DVDs with me if I ask. We're both happy with our weights at this point, but we help keep each other accountable. He's never suggested I shouldn't eat something or NEEDED to work out, but he talks to me about my feelings when I feel EATING EVERYTHING or when I am unmotivated.
Can you tell I really love him? Ha.0 -
My SO, which happens to be my husband, supports me in so many ways. He:
never complains about what I fix for dinner and when the kids complain, he informs them that everyone will eat what I eat or wait til the next meal.
exercises with me when he can. Since he works 12-hour shifts 5 nights a week, that can be tough.
compliments me all the time and tells me how beautiful I am.
encourages me when I feel that I've failed.
gave up soft drinks because he knows they are a weakness for me. We no longer have them in the house.
has lost over 60 pounds himself.
helps keep the junk food out of the house much to the dismay of our children.
never complains about not getting to eat out. We eat 95% of our meals at home.
set up his own MFP account and logs his food too.
weighs himself once a week just like I do to hold himself accountable.
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My SO ISN'T supportive:
He asks me to buy him chocolate when shopping
He won't drink diet or calorie free drinks
Orders pizza and asks if I want one knowing full well I've just eaten
Never asks how I'm doing or if I've lost anything
When I say I've lost pounds or inches, he just looks up and says ok
Refuses to lose weight himself despite being over 240lbs and diabetic...
There are other areas he is unsupportive relating to my health and disabilities, but that's for therapy lol!
This is awful to say, but please don't let me be the only one who's SO doesn't care!
I'm soooo sorry!0 -
My SO ISN'T supportive:
He asks me to buy him chocolate when shopping
He won't drink diet or calorie free drinks
Orders pizza and asks if I want one knowing full well I've just eaten
Never asks how I'm doing or if I've lost anything
When I say I've lost pounds or inches, he just looks up and says ok
Refuses to lose weight himself despite being over 240lbs and diabetic...
There are other areas he is unsupportive relating to my health and disabilities, but that's for therapy lol!
This is awful to say, but please don't let me be the only one who's SO doesn't care!
Sounds ALOT like my husband. To add to it: he is a picky eater and will eat separate meals (I eat a ceaser salad, he brings home taco bell), I tell him about my progress and he tried to one up me by bragging about how much he has to do in the army, he CONSTANTLY snacks on candy in front of me, always buys soda, he eats so unhealthy but will comment on my poor choices such as "you know sour cream is adding way more calories right?". It's just annoying. I've never had a problem with him UNTIL I've gained weight and have been trying to lose it; now he's like the meal time douche bag0 -
My husband is supportive about 95% of the time. He eats whatever I cook without complaint, compliments my body like crazy, tells me how proud he is of my determination, and comes to all my races and takes tons of pictures of me crossing the finish line.
However...he can also be a really bad influence! He is very persuasive and has been known to talk me into a few late night fast food and ice cream runs when I'm having a weak moment, LOL.0 -
You're not alone. In fact, when I was reading these other girl's comments I was thinking, "Oh ****. My fiance doesn't do any of those things." If I lost weight, my fiance wouldn't notice or care.(which may be a good thing, but it isn't when you're trying to lose weight and be healthy) It is so much easier to lose weight when the person you're with at least encourages you.(or keeps junk food away)I've tried to find support by working out with my friend, but she's so busy, she never has time. I've tried to come here for support, but that didn't work out either. So anyways, bottom line, you're not alone.
that was in response to the woman who doesnt have a supportive husband(or whatever SO means)
SO means significant other (I presume).
Thank you for replying to me there, it's hard when you read, as you say, all the amazing things other SO's do...but I am only doing this for me, so as long as I'm happy with myself, and am proud of what I am doing, then that is all that matters.
Why did coming here for support not work? Please add me, and we can forget our husband/fiancé and help each other instead) 0 -
My SO is super supportive:
He joined MFP 8 days after I did.
I researches nutrition and passes on useful information, like the fooducate app!
He goes to the store and reads food labels with me even though he hates being in the store.
He cooks chicken breasts on his grill and packs them up for me to bring home to eat during the week. (He's a much better griller)
He notices every positive change in my appearance, even though he never said anything negative before.
We have nightly conversations about our calories and workouts and food ideas and even though that's not romantic, that's love.0 -
My SO ISN'T supportive:
He asks me to buy him chocolate when shopping
He won't drink diet or calorie free drinks
Orders pizza and asks if I want one knowing full well I've just eaten
Never asks how I'm doing or if I've lost anything
When I say I've lost pounds or inches, he just looks up and says ok
Refuses to lose weight himself despite being over 240lbs and diabetic...
There are other areas he is unsupportive relating to my health and disabilities, but that's for therapy lol!
This is awful to say, but please don't let me be the only one who's SO doesn't care!
Sounds ALOT like my husband. To add to it: he is a picky eater and will eat separate meals (I eat a ceaser salad, he brings home taco bell), I tell him about my progress and he tried to one up me by bragging about how much he has to do in the army, he CONSTANTLY snacks on candy in front of me, always buys soda, he eats so unhealthy but will comment on my poor choices such as "you know sour cream is adding way more calories right?". It's just annoying. I've never had a problem with him UNTIL I've gained weight and have been trying to lose it; now he's like the meal time douche bag
We sure know how to pick 'em lol! Add me if you like, as I said to another, we can support each other instead) 0 -
My hubby is fantastic, always tells me I look good and can notice my weight loss.
He does the cooking, and is happy to cook something different for me. If we do have take away, he is happy to get me chicken and salad or subway while he has maccas.
He also puts the kids to bed a couple nights a week while I go to the gym.
I dont know if i could have stuck to this for so long without his support.0 -
My SO is and isn't supportive...
He's supportive when he buys me the stuff I need for exercising (exercise mat, weights, scale, etc)
He's supportive when he says that I can work out in front of him and he won't care (although I prefer not to)
He ISN'T supportive because..
He never asks me how I'm doing with it
He won't exercise with me even when I ask him to.. He claims that he can't start working out until he quits smoking, which is BS because I smoke too and I still manage to do 45 minutes of cardio and 30 minutes of strength training 4 - 5 days a week.
When I tell him about how I exercised or that I was good with my calories or that I lost some weight, he says "cool" and changes the subject.
He really shows no interest whatsoever..0 -
I'm wagering some of the unsupportive SO's are really jealous of our motivation and desire to be fit and healthy.0
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My wife is rather supportive. When she is the one cooking she makes sure to let me know what she's cooking with and even save the wrappers so I can scan bar codes. She makes a point to use reasonable (for me) amounts of oil when cooking and when we are shopping and planning meals she is happy that we do it together so we are both on the same page.
That being said, she looks forward to my "long run" days as she can make something more calorie dense and comfort food like because I need to consume the extra calories (we still eat healthy, well mostly healthy, food, just more of it or have something that normally would push me over my calorie goals).
She hasn't begrudged me my gym time but was very happy when I've moved it to after she and our 10 month old daughter have gone to bed. She encourages me, but I have some older, very brightly colored tank-tops and shorts I'm about to fit into again and she is making fun of the fact that they cross the line from metrosexual to FAAABOLOUS!!!0 -
My husband supports me in many ways. He is the biggest pusher of raw fruits and veggies Thats the ONLY way hell eat them (well for the most part , like unless it is in a prepared dish). He also always tells me im beautiful. Don't get me wrong I love him calling me beautiful, but at the same time- I want to be called "sexy" or "gorgeous" too.
Then sometimes I feel he isnt all the supportive. If I grab a healthy snack like fruit or veggie.... he will grab chips. If I grab a small sqaure of drk chocolate, he will grab fruit or veg. It gets annoying. He doesnt do it on purpose , I know that. But in the same context it NEVER fails. We just crave different things at different times.
He always points out my greatest strengths too, and takes notice of change. He looked at my arms the other night and said without me prompting or hinting , " Wow! Look at that. You have little triceps going!" I felt amazing after that. There are still times I feel insecure, and helpless. He does his best to keep me in check and support me, but then I know he gets annoyed when I am always tracking my food, or my weight, or even my workouts.0 -
Mine bullies me into going for walks with him.
When I was doing Weight Watchers, even though he said I didn't need to lose weight, he was supportive of it and always asked 'can you have this?' if he wanted a particular meal.
He does insist on having junk in the house, though. Chocolate, scotch eggs, crisps... He's able to lose and then maintain his weight whilst eating those, whereas I'm just not.
But he does try to get me to be more active within the limits my health puts on me. We used to go to the gym together, but now it's outdoor walks because it's a lot cheaper!0 -
Mine is awesome! He:
- makes whatever foods I ask him to...and has actually admitted that some of my things (i.e. plain greek yogurt, turkey sausage, etc) actually taste good.
- Never hesitates to watch/entertain the kids when I want to work out
- Is giving up a golf and drinking outing with his coworkers this saturday to watch me run my first 5K.
Couldn't ask for anyone better!!0 -
My boyfriend is supportive of me in that he lets me do what I need to do. He thinks I look ok with a little extra weight on me, but doesn't sabotage my efforts to feel better about myself. He lets me pick out the restaurants we go to and what we order if we are splitting a meal. He loves my girls ;-) even though they've gotten bigger with my weight gain. He doesn't judge me. i feel very fortunate.0
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mmmm I think he tries some days to be supportive ...walking with me etc but then other days its like lets get pizza or go to mcdonalds or a shake at DQ ....its like man you are not helping me out here at all....but he always says he doesnt really want me losing weight I am looking fine now blah blah but I dont feel fine ..I feel like a unsexy blob and am always tired....kids me that he is afraid once I lose weight I will lose him in the dust...as if lol what a boob lol0
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