What are you supposed to call...

Your poor children. They don't stand a chance.

*sigh*

I can't say I entirely understand OP's post, nor do I understand the comments thus far. Think i'll go back to lurking on this one.

She has another post on food rules for your child. That's where this is stemming from.

I can't say I entirely understand OP's post, nor do I understand the comments thus far. Think i'll go back to lurking on this one.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/705137-food-rules-for-your-kids

Call it by it's medical name: Adipose Tissue.

I have a glandular problem ok?

When kids began using it as a derogatory term to hurt other kids. There are NUMEROUS synonyms you could use that are less harmful....

Fluffy

silly.

fat is connective tissue composed of adipocytes.

to talk to a 3 year old about becoming fat is promoting an eating disorder.

to talk to your family and friends about living a healthy lifestyle that includes being active and eating a balanced diet is stability.

You don't teach a 3 year old about weight, and you don't call your kids fat, and you don't get your kids paranoid about becoming fat . . . unless you want them to end up here.

I will say this and this only. It is important to teach your children what a healthy relationship with food is. I was a fat kid, due to the diet my parents were providing, not getting enough exercise and medications to treat anxiety and depression that were started at a young age. If you read anything I say let it be this:

Your child is young now, chances are what you said will have no consequence. However My mom told me that I was fat a lot growing up. She told me that if I ate certain things I would get fat or fatter. She never meant to hurt me but it did. Making food the enemy is only going to cause trouble and low self esteem. how do i know this? I battled it for years. Until I reached adulthood that was all i could think about when I was eating is that what if it made me fatter. What if no one would love me as much if i got fatter?

My mum, who is a wonderful person just didn't know any better. Because of it i had a really negative relationship with food. What it boiled down to was my mom was very overweight for many years, and she had a really negative relationship with food. Maybe you need to check out for a second and think if you are putting your negative emotions towards food, and putting those on you daughter. Kids have enough pressure to be thin in this world, They need moms and dads to teach them that food isn't the enemy.

I gotta agree with some of the others. You should focus on her achieving a goal of being healthy, not avoiding a punishment of "being fat". While I understand you want your child to know the consequences, you're setting up a perfect stage for a child that views overweight people as "bad". How is she going to react later on when she has an overweight classmate? How is it going to sound to other parents/kids/teachers when your daughter goes up to the overweight child at lunch and tells them to stop eating because they're fat? Or that her mommy said it's bad to be fat? Did you actually say that? No. But you've got to remember that a child's mind can take what you say a little differently.

My parents told me all the time that me wanting to go with my friends or do this or that was selfish because there were chores to be done (I lived on a farm). Now I have a really hard time saying no to people or doing anything for myself (including things important to my well being) because thinking of myself and doing things for me is selfish and that's bad. Did they ever actually say that? No. But my young mind interpreted it that way and it stuck.

You might just want to admit defeat on this one.