Married and heavy flirting good or bad

i'm not married and not planning on getting married but my personal definition of cheating is if you do something and you know you'd be hurt by your s/o doing the same thing to you...so...definite no for me. don't be with someone if you can't keep it in your pants and only give them that kind of attention.

Flirting is in our nature, we pretty much flirt up to a certain point daily. But when you're married you can not take it further than that. Basically just being nice and smiling. But once anything sexual comes into word play, that's a no-go. It's disrespectful. So heavy flirting when married or in a committed relationship, NO

I'm married and the attitude I take is, don't do anything or say anything to someone that you wouldn't say to them in front of your wife/husband.

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I don't say anything to others in private that I wouldn't say with my husband standing right next to me. Then again, I'm a little bit of a brazen hussy, so sometimes the things I'm willing to say in front of my husband surprise some people.

If you wouldn't do it with your SO watching, don't do it at all.

I have flirted with mine around. Usually when we go out, sometimes a little giggle or some cleavage gets you some free stuff or discounts, i dunno. I know when we used to go through the drive thru at dunkins in the morning, one of us would get a free coffee due to his flirting with the dumb chicks who worked there. Maybe we're just awful people, but we know we love each other and trust each other, so there's no issue for us.

haha, not that ^^^ is fine fine with me. My hubby always tells me if i go somewhere with my girls and a guy offers to buy a round, why not let the idiot buy it. i go home with my husband :-)

negative ghost rider :noway:

I don't think anyone needs to answer this for him. It appears the OP deactivated his account.

Appears the line has been drawn in a similar place by most responders. Hope that helps a question you really didn't need to ask to know what the response would be.

So I'm going to restrict my answer to the question you posed about Heavy Flirting in a committed relationship.

Flirting is about 3 people initially - you, your significant other, and the person you flirt with.

Some would say that as long as there is no "EMOTIONAL" component attached to the flirting of either person doing it...it's technically "Okay" and doesn't cross the line of infidelity.

Every couple is probably different and the rules of this type of engagement probably should be stated in advance between husband and wife. Some might be okay with it, some not. The important thing is where the line is drawn. I had a woman come into my office just the other day and tell me "I told my husband that "yada yada" was okay, but that if he ever did "zada" not to come home.

Flirting is generally done to draw attention to one's self. Many of us on MFP are guilty of this. Hey, we have a new body and if no one notices it's like the tree fell in the forrest and no one heard it. The emotional component attached to it is how we feel about ourselves....not the other person.

Heavy Flirting (What ever that means) suggests there is more than flirting / attention as the intent. It suggests that you seek some sort of relationship because of sexual attraction or equivalent. Heavy flirting to me suggests the intent to take it a step further. "I wonder what your kiss tastes like?"

To me, this crosses the line of fidelity emotionally. Argue with me as you might. I can't defend the position other than to say that's the way I feel. Personally, I think flirting once you are in a committed relationship is dangerous and begins to border on breaking tthe trust you told someone you'd provide. So you need to examine why you feel the need to flirt heavily. What needs are not being met.

Bottom Line: Heavy Flirting Might Get You into Heavy Trouble....and maybe that's what you want...I just think their is a better way and a more responsible way for an Adult to act. Just sayin.

What is considered "heavy flirting"?

No penetration, except digital.

Beastie...u dont post that often but when you do KAPOW....its good.

Wait is that flirting? Oh sorry....that post was SO disrepsectful

I know, right? Ha, ha. It's cool, bro. Wanna do it?

heh heh Beavis...she said "do it"

OK your are cracking me up HAHAHAHA

1st you cheat with your mind then you will ......
It's a dangerous game to play with to stroke your ego.
This is how the affair begin-Flirting-

How YOU doin? (Joey Tribianni voice)

sorry that was me flirting with every female on this thread.

Cant take any more!!!!! STOP!! I am rolling laughing!!