Serious Question for MILFS (pics)

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  • onetoughmudder
    onetoughmudder Posts: 25
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    Apparently the ratio of 'judgmental folks' to MILFs is rather high up in this place.

    Because I didn't see *kitten* for MILFs in here, no offense. :tongue:
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
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    Apparently the ratio of 'judgmental folks' to MILFs is rather high up in this place.

    Because I didn't see *kitten* for MILFs in here, no offense. :tongue:

    Hey! :angry:

    I can't help it if I'm not a mother.
  • scottb81
    scottb81 Posts: 2,538 Member
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    When my daughter was small I put her on a tether at Disneyland. She was a roamer and it was much better that than loosing her in a crowd. Previous to that I had actually lost her in a crowd at the Circus Circus Casino in Las Vegas. Fortunately I found her that time.

    Much better to have a tether than the alternative. Much better for both your peace of mind and the peace of mind of your young child when they find themselves lost without parents in a crowd of strangers.
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
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    Apparently the ratio of 'judgmental folks' to MILFs is rather high up in this place.

    Because I didn't see *kitten* for MILFs in here, no offense. :tongue:

    maybe they are one and the same.....

    :tongue:
  • RunnerElizabeth
    RunnerElizabeth Posts: 1,091 Member
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    I have a 3 yearold runner. We live in Boston, not a subburb. Along with buses, cars, bikes, runners, walkers right out our door, we also have a train. Since we do take the subway for an hour every morning and every evening during rush hour my daughter is ina stroller for her own safety. However when we go around town doing our errands grocery shopping and whatnot, I like to let her walk. We have conversations before we leave about all the parking lots and driveways we walk by and the train tracks we may cross, but she gets so excited she will break free from me. I take off after her and yell in my scary voice, but she clearly does not understand the danger even though we talk about it about crossing the street alone. Last week she ran across the street at a green light. So now I'm left with a choice, either she has to ride in the stroller all the time, or we get a harness. With the stroller maybe I get less public shame (people are quick to give me their feelings on older children in strollers too, she is 3 but is tall enough to be mistaken for 4) but she gets far less excercise that way. If she's on a harness she's still able to run, but I can protect her in the face of danger, keep her from runninf out in front of a train or a bus, and she might even be able to ride standing up on the subway.

    I don't know why there is so much negativity around parents doing what we have to do to keep our kids safe and alive.
  • onetoughmudder
    onetoughmudder Posts: 25
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    Apparently the ratio of 'judgmental folks' to MILFs is rather high up in this place.

    Because I didn't see *kitten* for MILFs in here, no offense. :tongue:

    Hey! :angry:

    I can't help it if I'm not a mother.

    Maybe I can help? :flowerforyou:
  • john0804
    john0804 Posts: 31
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    I don't have kids but I work in busy shopping centres the amount of toddlers and young children I see running away from their parents is disturbing. I reckon at least twice a day a parent I'm dealing with will ask where has child a gone now, so from that perspective I agree with these.

    I'm a child of the 80s with one older and three younger siblings we were all put on reins when we were learning to walk.
  • mackemom
    mackemom Posts: 277 Member
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    I don't think one answer covers all situations and/or people involved. You know your child. You know your surroundings. Act accordingly. It all comes down to doing what you feel, as a parent, you should do for the safety of your child/children. When I raised my son, these didn't exist. That doesn't necessarily mean it could not have a proper place in some families. Just my two cents. We as parents all need to support each other on here, too.
  • mombieocalypse
    mombieocalypse Posts: 213
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    If I see my brothers or sister in law putting a leash on my nieces/nephews, I will take that leash off and start beating them with the same leash.

    And yes, totally judging people who put their kids on a leash.

    Yes, but let's not judge people who would resort to violence against parents raising their own kids. :tongue:
  • corsayre8
    corsayre8 Posts: 551 Member
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    Never. They're kids, not dogs.

    Why do you put them on your dogs? Because you love them? Do you love your kids less?

    I don't put them on my dogs. My dogs know to stay at my side when told to do so. Anyone with self control, authority and consistency should be able to achieve the same with animals or with children.
  • JazmineYoli
    JazmineYoli Posts: 547 Member
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    So people don't mind strapping their kids down and confining them to a stroller, but hey let a kid WALK around with a cute little harness, then it's an issue.

    I don't have one, but I'm buying one for our trip to Disney.
  • Mpol2
    Mpol2 Posts: 442 Member
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    Quote[/quote]
    Anyone with self control, authority and consistency should be able to achieve the same with animals or with children.
    [/quote. Unquote

    Not in the least true when it comes to little kids.

    Ed to clarify I was quoting
  • pittbullgirl
    pittbullgirl Posts: 341 Member
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    Thread title disappoints.
    Leashes and MILFS should be about something else.

    LOL!!:laugh:

    BTW, I wouldnt use one ever. I had one bought for me and its still collecting dust someplace (my son is 6yrs old now)
  • mombieocalypse
    mombieocalypse Posts: 213
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    Yup, I have used a leash on son #2. Before kids I thought they were horrible. After kids, I could care less what anyone thinks of the way I parent. My hubby and I are the only ones that have opinions that count in how we raise our boys. That includes circumcision or not, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, cloth diapering, feeding solids, gating stairs or leashing. To the OP, do what is best for your family.

    For everyone who says the parent is lazy, oh well. I will share one story about son #2. D was a runner. And a climber and a hider. By 18 months he could scale a 4ft chain link fence. I knew I could never take my eyes off that boy. I had my 2 boys at the store and D was strapped in the shopping cart. Son #1,J, had sensory issues and something triggered him to have one of his shut downs (blank stares, no emotion, body slumped to the floor). I leaned over to pick him up and D unstrapped himself and bolted. I picked up a limp J and threw him in the cart and bolted after D screaming for him. They were just about to lock down the store when someone found him crawling from out under a clothing rack.

    I guess I could have left J laying on the floor and bolted after D and hoped J would be OK. Instead I took the lazy parent method and bought a leash.
  • ladyark
    ladyark Posts: 1,101 Member
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    Thread title disappoints.
    Leashes and MILFS should be about something else.

    totally misleading lol
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
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    It's a personal choice. When I was pregnant, my mom pointed out that I didn't have one on my registry but not to worry b/c she would buy two - one for us, and one for her place. I flipped out. I wasn't even a parent yet and I totally judged anyone who used a harness/leash for their kids. I was of the opinion that leashes are for dogs, not people, and no one was going to change my mind.

    But then my daughter was born and a couple years later, we took her to the zoo and it was packed. She's not a runner but she did want to walk and she didn't want to hold hands. We're the parents and she does what she's told, so she held hands or had to ride in stroller...but I think a leash would have made the trip more enjoyable for all of us. She would have been able to feel independant and stay safe, and we wouldn't have had to repeatedly stop for conversations about how to behave. We talked about buying one in the gift shop but agreed that we'd rather use the opportunity to teach her how to behave. In that instance, we felt like we would have been "giving in" to her behavior.

    Anyway, she's 3 now and she knows that when we say she has to hold hands, end of story, so we haven't needed one. But my opinion has totally changed...no more judging people who use them. If she were a runner, or if we had more than one kid, we'd definitely have a harness for things like trips to the zoo. But we'd really try to avoid using it unless it was really necessary for safety, rather than a replacement for teaching appropriate behavior. I don't care where other parents use them. Not my business, and you do what you have to do to raise your kids and keep your sanity.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
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    Are hot moms the ONLY people who should be answering in this forum?!? So confused...

    Sorry I just got back to this topic. So many great answers, thank you all.

    And yes, it was only for the hot moms to answer. I haven't seen one not-hot mom in here though. So were all good.
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
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    When my son was a toddler her was a runner, you could not just tell him to stay with mummy. Hand holding is hard when you have your hands full & he was very fast. HE has ADHD & so the rules dont apply there..... I had him in one up till about the age of about 5. It was needed & saved him many times. I'd been abused for doing it by strangers who knew nothing of the situation at all. I loved that I had the 'leash' because it meant my son was SAFE. I guess those who hate on parents who do use them don't really give a crap about that.
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
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    Are hot moms the ONLY people who should be answering in this forum?!? So confused...

    Sorry I just got back to this topic. So many great answers, thank you all.

    And yes, it was only for the hot moms to answer. I haven't seen one not-hot mom in here though. So were all good.

    :flowerforyou:
  • AmazonRDH
    AmazonRDH Posts: 203 Member
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    I'm also a worrier and although I've never harnassed either of my sons, if I felt like I needed to, I would. To keep them safe or if a place is busy, to keep them from being abducted (shiver).

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