Serious Question for MILFS (pics)

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  • AnJulNZ
    AnJulNZ Posts: 186 Member
    Never. Children are little people, not dogs. In no situation at all do I find it acceptable to put a child on a leash. Ever.
  • Sorry for the confusion everybody. My name is Milfs and this question was for me.
  • Lochlyn_D
    Lochlyn_D Posts: 492 Member
    It is NEVER appropriate to leash your child. They are not dogs! Why don't you just throw them in a kennel and be done with it.
    You have no kids, right?

    No she doesn't, and according with her profile she is thankful of not having any because she "has not time for that money pit".

    In my book, and considering her way of thinking, she is not qualified to give her opinion in this matter, even a hideous one.

    I'm a human being and, if I'm not mistaken, so are children. That qualifies me to give an opinion. Human beings should not be leashed.
  • Lochlyn_D
    Lochlyn_D Posts: 492 Member
    When is it appropriate to harness your child and at what age(s)?
    When your child is a dog. I know kids who were never harnessed. Their parents kept a watchfull eye on them. And at a very young age you could notice the child was being careful too. Sure some parents who leash their kids are watchful, but it seems their kids aren't and don't 'harness' this concept until a much older age. I vote for avoiding them. I've also heard it looks ridiculous and smothering to some people.

    Exactly. If you can't control your children, you shouldn't have gotten knocked up in the first place. Hindsight is 20/20.
  • jcherold
    jcherold Posts: 6 Member
    Have two children and never used one. They knew to hold my hand and listened to me, so there was never a need even when they were little. So, I guess it is really up to you and your wife as to when and if they are necessary. Personally, I think they'd only be necessary if you had a runner that didn't listen to you and constantly takes off.
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    Why is this question only for the hot moms??

    Who said anything about hot moms?
  • Lochlyn_D
    Lochlyn_D Posts: 492 Member
    Putting a leash on a child because they run around too much is like putting duct tape on a persons mouth because they eat too much.
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    Nobody has yet answered my question as to how a woman who is pushing a very young baby in a pram is supposed to hold onto the pram and onto the hand of a toddler walking beside her yet........

    ..... then of course, what about when looking around the grocery store......

    S0me people obviously have more than one pair of hands, I salute you.
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    The whole 'dog' argument perhaps reminds me why I generally avoid discussing such things with 'parents'.

    My dog eats rice and eggs often; should kids also avoid that?

    He goes to bed when he's told. He comes back when I ask him to when we're in the park. He goes to play in the area of the park I tell him to. Should children not be taught all of these because "they're not dogs"?
    The answer is never, gives children no freedom.
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    And having their hand constantly held or being restrained in a chair gives them more freedom?
  • Lochlyn_D
    Lochlyn_D Posts: 492 Member
    The whole 'dog' argument perhaps reminds me why I generally avoid discussing such things with 'parents'.

    My dog eats rice and eggs often; should kids also avoid that?

    He goes to bed when he's told. He comes back when I ask him to when we're in the park. He goes to play in the area of the park I tell him to. Should children not be taught all of these because "they're not dogs"?
    The answer is never, gives children no freedom.
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    And having their hand constantly held or being restrained in a chair gives them more freedom?

    No but your dog shouldn't be eating rice or eggs either
  • Ely82010
    Ely82010 Posts: 1,998 Member
    Nobody has yet answered my question as to how a woman who is pushing a very young baby in a pram is supposed to hold onto the pram and onto the hand of a toddler walking beside her yet........

    ..... then of course, what about when looking around the grocery store......

    S0me people obviously have more than one pair of hands, I salute you.

    Hey If you can't manage them, maybe you should have thought of that before you got knocked up.
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    Lady you and all your answers are totally out of place and plain insulting. I think that you are hungry go and eat something.
  • Lochlyn_D
    Lochlyn_D Posts: 492 Member
    Nobody has yet answered my question as to how a woman who is pushing a very young baby in a pram is supposed to hold onto the pram and onto the hand of a toddler walking beside her yet........

    ..... then of course, what about when looking around the grocery store......

    S0me people obviously have more than one pair of hands, I salute you.

    Hey If you can't manage them, maybe you should have thought of that before you got knocked up.
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    Lady you and all your answers are totally out of place and plain insulting. I think that you are hungry go and eat something.

    I think you're trying to change the subject because you have run out of points to debate. You know it's true. If you want to have kids, take care of them and stop whining. Otherwise, wear a condom.
  • It is NEVER appropriate to leash your child. They are not dogs! Why don't you just throw them in a kennel and be done with it.
    You have no kids, right?

    No she doesn't, and according with her profile she is thankful of not having any because she "has not time for that money pit".

    In my book, and considering her way of thinking, she is not qualified to give her opinion in this matter, even a hideous one.

    I'm a human being and, if I'm not mistaken, so are children. That qualifies me to give an opinion. Human beings should not be leashed.

    Well some of us like being leashed on a frisky Friday night, lol.
  • Lochlyn_D
    Lochlyn_D Posts: 492 Member
    Nobody has yet answered my question as to how a woman who is pushing a very young baby in a pram is supposed to hold onto the pram and onto the hand of a toddler walking beside her yet........

    ..... then of course, what about when looking around the grocery store......

    S0me people obviously have more than one pair of hands, I salute you.

    Hey If you can't manage them, maybe you should have thought of that before you got knocked up.

    Good grief it must so suck to be you. You have never had kids and do not know what the hell you are on about, please give it a rest and let somebody with some sense answer, instead of having to listen to your constant, incessant drivel, which is as hopeless a piece of "advice" as I have ever seen.

    Tell me, do you ever give advice that somebody could follow, or are you always so spiteful?

    FYI my two daughters are now 26 and nearly 24.

    Now then can somebody sensible please answer my post, instead of somebody who is not qualified to comment, mainly because her opinion is of no interest to me to be honest. Spiteful, judgmental comments immediately make me disregard them.

    If you were really disregarding them, you wouldn't spend the time to rebut me. Your defensiveness only tells me that, deep down, you agree with what I say. But you can't admit it to yourself. Pretty sad. Oh well. Have a nice life with your uncontrollable brats. See ya.
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    No but your dog shouldn't be eating rice or eggs either
    Do explain why.
  • Lochlyn_D
    Lochlyn_D Posts: 492 Member
    No but your dog shouldn't be eating rice or eggs either
    Do explain why.

    Eggs have been known to case pancreatitis in dogs. Rice is of no nutritional value to them, it only fattens them up.
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    Nobody has yet answered my question as to how a woman who is pushing a very young baby in a pram is supposed to hold onto the pram and onto the hand of a toddler walking beside her yet........

    ..... then of course, what about when looking around the grocery store......

    S0me people obviously have more than one pair of hands, I salute you.

    Hey If you can't manage them, maybe you should have thought of that before you got knocked up.

    Good grief it must so suck to be you. You have never had kids and do not know what the hell you are on about, please give it a rest and let somebody with some sense answer, instead of having to listen to your constant, incessant drivel, which is as hopeless a piece of "advice" as I have ever seen.

    Tell me, do you ever give advice that somebody could follow, or are you always so spiteful?

    FYI my two daughters are now 26 and nearly 24.

    Now then can somebody sensible please answer my post, instead of somebody who is not qualified to comment, mainly because her opinion is of no interest to me to be honest. Spiteful, judgmental comments immediately make me disregard them.

    If you were really disregarding them, you wouldn't spend the time to rebut me. Your defensiveness only tells me that, deep down, you agree with what I say. But you can't admit it to yourself. Pretty sad. Oh well. Have a nice life with your uncontrollable brats. See ya.

    They are not brats they are 26 and 24.

    Are you okay there? Are you always so spiteful or does it take serious effort.

    and for your info, I disagree with you because I used reins. I think I have hit a nerve with you, no matter.
  • amandafranks32
    amandafranks32 Posts: 36 Member
    I used one for my second son, he would just run where ever he got an urge to go regardless of the surroundings or any dangers. My other two children never needed one.
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    My dog is overly skinny unless I feed him a good bit to 'fatten him up' (and even then, still looks a muscular trim.)

    As for the eggs, yes if your dog is susceptible to/has pancreatitis then lots of egg yolks are bad thanks to the fat.

    However, eggs white are recommended for dogs with this and often a yolk or two, but not lots, of course.

    So I'll keep giving my dog a midday snack of eggy-rice, ta.
  • I am almost afraid to answer this. I have a four year old and a one year old. I have used the leash on both of them. Only in certain circumstances. Typically when we are in an area with a lot of people. We typically use a stroller. But sometimes they don't want to sit in there for an extended period of time. I don't care how much control you have over your kids. If a one or two year old sees a shiny object. They may decide to bolt off before you can stop them. The leash doesn't allow for them to get that far. If people don't agree with that, it is fine. Everybody has there own parenting style. Ours is just a little safer to us.
  • Rawr1978
    Rawr1978 Posts: 245 Member
    "Children are not dogs!" Yet some are saying that parents should be able to control them...shall we sign them up for obedience classes, or take them to the yard and teach them how to obey commands or they don't earn a treat?
    3 boys, first wasnt very active, and the ex *****ed about having a harness. He also wasnt the one chasing him.
    2nd had a thing for cars. He wasn't disobedient or 'ill trained", he was a normal child with a like for cars. Harness was used.
    My hubs was very against a harness for our 18 month old...right till the little angel started leading us where he wanted to go, and he saw the potential for danger.
    Id say the only opinion you should consider is the one of your wife. She wants it on your child. I REALLY wouldn't buck that.
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    Don't have a kid, but will never ever ever put a leash on one. Unless it's a training tether while teaching him to ski.
  • MsEmmy
    MsEmmy Posts: 254 Member
    The only thing people seem to have against them is that they look like dog leads. So it's all about appearances. I just think that is pretty shallow and people should get over that and stop sneering at those of us who decided to use what in the end are a simple safety tool, not some form of torture. No-one is making you use one, just asking you to stop judging people who do. I just find the 'dehumanising' argument completely incomprehensible and over the top given that little that we do in modern childrearing is naturally human eg putting babies to bed in a different room from the parents/ travelling in cars/ putting kids in strollers etc

    Has any person really looked back on childhood pics and said to their parents 'I felt really dehumanised when you made me wear that harness'?

    Why can't you hold your childs hand? Or watch where they are going? Tell them off if they run off? Why use a rein?
    You will not get very far in life or haven't if you can't handle other opinions on things. It's no different to breast feeding vs formula, dummy vs no dummy, co sleeping, controlled crying, walkers, feeding before 6 months ect. You need to stop taking things to heart and stop being so convinced you've got it right.
    You wouldn't be so touchy on this subject if you felt you was doing the right thing. You'd just state your opinion and move along like everybody else.

    Edited to delete because I can't be arsed :smokin:
  • C12254
    C12254 Posts: 198
    Id never put my kid on a leash...but thats just me.
  • sugaree1202
    sugaree1202 Posts: 184 Member
    My 2 kids are 20 months apart. My son was incredibly active as as a toddler and would take off if something caught his eye so if we went out to a crowded place - carnival, amusement park, etc. so he didnt get separated from me - or walking on a sidewalk he wore a similar monkey back pack. Sometimes it was impossible to hold his hand every second, carry an infant and/or push a stoller at the same time and knowing he couldn't take off the second I let go of his hand was a lifesaver. I put the loop around my wrist and held his hand at the same time and eventually just wearing the pack which had a pocket for small toys, was enough to keep him from running off and the rein was unneccesary - around age 3. My daughter preferred to be carried when she was a toddler so she never wore it with the rein attached but would have if she was a runner like her big brother.
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    or take them to the yard and teach them how to obey commands or they don't earn a treat?
    Pretty common for kids to get rewarded with a food-treat if they behave as asked, I thought.

    Certainly when I was a kid I'd be expected to behave if I wanted the ice cream or whatever when out.
  • C12254
    C12254 Posts: 198
    Id never put my kid on a leash...but thats just me.
    That being said i baby wear my infant and my 3yo and 6 yo hold my hands. i also give them freedom to roam & be kids. (but of course we hold hands and are careful if theres traffic, a big crowd, etc).
  • sugaree1202
    sugaree1202 Posts: 184 Member
    Don't have a kid, but will never ever ever put a leash on one. Unless it's a training tether while teaching him to ski.

    I was a children's ski instructor - ski tethers can be very dangerous,. Even if you use it properly, other skiiers don't always pay attention to their surroundings and can injure a child using a tether. Also, they make the learning process take longer. If you want your kid to ski, get them on the mountain at age 3 or 4, sign them up for a lesson or tell them to put their hands on their knees, skis in a pizza slice and follow you while making big slow turns down the bunny slope. Their center of gravity is so low at that age, that kids can learn the basics in a few hours and ski from the top in 2-5 lessons.
  • crista_b
    crista_b Posts: 1,192 Member
    They are not brats they are 26 and 24.
    I don't know your children so I'm not saying this is or isn't true for them, but age doesn't necessarily mean someone isn't a brat. My boyfriend is a huge brat most of the time, and he's almost 26. Giving someone's age isn't a reasoning for why they are not a brat.
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    They are not brats they are 26 and 24.
    I don't know your children so I'm not saying this is or isn't true for them, but age doesn't necessarily mean someone isn't a brat. My boyfriend is a huge brat most of the time, and he's almost 26. Giving someone's age isn't a reasoning for why they are not a brat.

    I know what you are getting at, but they are seriously not brats, they are adults living with their boyfriends, both have responsible jobs and are unselfish and hardworking.

    Regarding keeping them in control when little, at 12 months old, they did not touch either my ornaments or anybody else's when I went to visit people. They were both potty trained by 14 months and were as good as gold.

    No, my daughters are not brats. This thread really is now getting ridiculous.