Serious Question for MILFS (pics)

billsica

I went to take my two sons on a walk. My older (almost 3 years old) wanted to walk. I was holding his hand when my wife stopped me and slapped one of these on them. I also had the other one in a double stroller.



When is it appropriate to harness your child and at what age(s)?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

Cricket09

That's a tough question. Do you live in a busy city, walking on a busy street? Is your toddler a "runner," always trying to chase after things she sees while walking with you? I live in the suburbs and my son is 17 and was never harnassed and I never had any issues. My Aunt harnassed her toddler while we were on a ferry crossing over to Holland and it saved her life when she almost fell down some steep stairs. Do what's best for your family... only you know what that is. Hope that helps!

Daisy_Cutter_

Never. But that's just my opinion.

Maybe in extreme circumstances ...Disneyland. But even then I never did

__Di__

I went to take my two sons on a walk. My older (almost 3 years old) wanted to walk. I was holding his hand when my wife stopped me and slapped one of these on them. I also had the other one in a double stroller.



When is it appropriate to harness your child and at what age(s)?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

As soon as mine were walking with me when we went out (12 months), I had them on reins/harness. Their safety was paramount and it meant they couldn't suddenly run into the road etc.

billsica

my son is a runner and really fast. I don't live in a busy city. Its about as small as a city as you can get.

Iron_Lotus

I have 6 kids and have never nor will ever use one of these.

AllonsYtotheTardis

My son was a 'bolter' - I would be holding his hand, and he would suddenly jerk away so hard, I would lose my grip on him and he'd bolt. I used one to keep him safe. My daughter didn't need one.

DavPul

two kids, never used one. i somehow managed to make it thru childhood without one, so i'm going to assume my kids don't have any more suicidal tendencies than i did

DavPul

or leashes

__Di__

Never. They're kids, not dogs.

That is uncalled for. I used reins and it kept them safe.

I was walking along the road the other day and to my utter horror a woman coming towards me suddenly shot towards the busy main road, it was then I realized that her little boy had darted away from her. When she grabbed hold of him, he was on the give-way lines and just about to cross into the traffic.

This is exactly the point, they are kids and kids can run about and they may not be road traffic-wise.

Otterluv

Never. They're kids, not dogs.

Why do you put them on your dogs? Because you love them? Do you love your kids less?



I was against them until my son bolted from me and was 2 inches from getting killed by a car. The driver never even knew it happened. Kids that young aren't really visible to drivers when they bolt in front their cars, the babies are just too short. I used it from when he was 2 until he was about 3 or so, through his bolting stage. My younger son didn't really need one. You know your child.

skinnyinnotime

I've never used them on my own kids or any of the ones I look after, I think they are awful and usually unnecessary.

However, If I had a runner I would use them in this case but only if there was a reason I couldn't hold the childs hand, for example if I was pushing a buggy I would use one to ensure the childs safety.

I do not understand people that use them on kids that don't run away or only have 1 or 2 children.

EvgeniZyntx

Thread title disappoints.
Leashes and MILFS should be about something else.

SakuraRose13

When I went to take my oldest daughter who turn 3 in august to the zoo we used one since a stroller can be cumbersome at times, my youngest almost 15 months haven't had to yet,my oldest always wanders away and it makes is easier when I really need her to stay close but she is getting better, and with her being so petite I swear people don't always see her. I think they are okay its isn't hurting them and I m not going to yank them with it ,its just a way so they don't go as far away If need be I will use one for my youngest she started walking at 11 months so she is quite mobile these days .Its up to you as a parent do what you feel right .

GamerLady

I don't think it's anyone's business really. I never used one for my son, but he was not one to run off from me. People use them to keep their children safe, they're not doing it to be mean or demeaning.

Lrdoflamancha

Time and a place for everything. In the 50s and 60s when I grew up we did not have them, and I am sure we felt we did not need them. But then we did not have or need cell phones either. I wonder if the woman whose child fell in the dog cage at the zoo wished her child was leashed. If I was going go to a dangerous area then yes I would consider it. Just as I would consider taking my cell phone.

SakuraRose13

I've never used them on my own kids or any of the ones I look after, I think they are awful and usually unnecessary.

However, If I had a runner I would use them in this case but only if there was a reason I couldn't hold the childs hand, for example if I was pushing a buggy I would use one to ensure the childs safety.

I do not understand people that use them on kids that don't run away or only have 1 or 2 children.

Sorry but I have to say something my daughters are almost 15 months and turning 3 in aug ,believe me they move I only have two, perhaps the children you have seen don't wander away all the time, lucky you, two is enough ...take my word for it .

yep one runner and one trying to :)lol

chineyLuv

I'm SO NOT a fan of these, and I really dislike them!

Well, the way I look at it, trying to lose weight and your child being a 'runner' goes hand in hand. RUN after them, avoid the harness....you might thank them later lol.

Edit - And yes, I'm a mother of 2 boys

Cheers! :drinker:

Rosplosion

No to leashes on humans....unless it's some type of bondage.

Oishii

I prefer holding hands. My parents wanted me to get one (for them to use. They're considerably taller than dh and i and found it hard to hold hands) but I managed to delay buying one until it was no longer necessary.

CarolinaGirlinVA

Never needed them for my boys, when they were small we used strollers for outings. Yesterday we went to a local festival and I actually missed our stroller days, not for the kids, but for all the goodies we bought and had to carry!

ldrosophila

Thread title disappoints.
Leashes and MILFS should be about something else.

LOL thats what I was thinking totally inappropriate for the topic. OP do you know what MILF means?

spidey11186

Why is this question only for the hot moms??

vivian1616

I was also against them until I had a runner. (I have 4 kids, my runner was my second). I thought they were inhumane and vowed I would never use one...ever. Then we went to the beach and my son took off for the water. I caught him, before he got in over his knees, but I also had a very active first child to look after, and I knew that if I turned my attention away from my younger son for even a moment, he could be gone again. I bought a harness and never regretted it. I used it until he was probably about 4 or so (and by then I had a third son, so it was really necessary at that point). I stopped using it when he was old enough to understand that running away from me in a busy place could be dangerous and I could trust him not to take off. I kept it through my third and fourth kids, but I don't remember ever needing to use it for them.

You said you were also pushing a double stroller, so I don't think a harness is inappropriate in that situation. You need both hands for the stroller, so it's difficult to hold a hand if you want one child to walk and not be in the stroller. If people judge you but you have your child's safety at heart, then ignore them. Imagine how you would feel if you didn't use it and something unthinkable happened to your little one.

nicola1141

Bought one for DD, but found I didin't need one. She was always very good about "following rules" and never bolted. DD2 is not walking yet, but I have a feeling we might need one for her. She has the potential to be a runner!

carliekitty

I don't usually comment on to many threads but felt really disgusted by the dog comment. If you were to see how many small children run or wonder off and are never to be found again then i think you would realize that this is a good thing. A childs safety should be the top priority. I love my dogs and keep them on leashes for their safety, and if i had a small child knowing the things i know now i would want them to be safe as well.

tanashai

My son didn't need one HOWEVER, I have no problem with them. If the kiddie is a bolter, none too street savvy or a day dreamer, (or you have a few kids to keep track of) then this seems like a pretty good way to go! Trust me; holding on to a child's hands isn't always foolproof; the little bugs can be sneaky about escaping! Personally, I'd rather use something like this with an unruly kiddo than putting them in a stroller until they completely outgrow it, lol.

But then, I live in a city with what could be some of the world's worst drivers, so I'm more careful than I would be if we lived in the farmlands or in a quiet little town. Circumstances are everything!

gadenni34

I had twins. I used these types of restraints on them occasionally. If you feel you need one then use it, you know your children best. Screw what others think. The *don't leash your children* people are also going to be first to line up and criticize you should something happen to your child if you are *only* holding their hand. ugh...just let people parent their own children on their own. why people have to be critical of someone they don't even know is beyond me.

as for the age...I probably stopped using them completely around 4 or so. cannot completely remember but again...you and your wife know your children best.

Otterluv

or leashes

I'm calling bull on this argument. Not everyone did make it. There were lots of deaths due to accidents. Just look up the statistics. It's one of the reasons we now have carseats, seatbelts, and helmets. My mom remembers them being told to put babies underneath the front dash, where the passengers feet would go. Can you imagine doing that now? And what would happen?

I have a cousin still dealing with a traumatic brain injury that happened when he was 10, my father had a cousin accidentally shoot another cousin when they were 7, my father in law lost a sister when they were 7 to drowning. These things happen, just nobody ever talks about it. We were lucky, Dave.

Flab2fitfi

I do have one for my daughter as she is a runner. We don't always use it but sometimes she likes to put it on anyway. She has a giraffe one and likes her older siblings to hold it for her.

I would rather hold her hand but she has sensory issues and she hates having her hands held. I'd rather put her in one then for her to run into the middle of the road.

trud72

It's better than losing them is it not? :noway: