Weight Loss opposite sex attention?
EskimoMark
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Hey guys, I'm going to keep this short and sweet. Why is it that girls tend to only recognize skinny people or athletic people as dating material? I honestly believe that once I lose weight I Will have trust issues. I have a friend named Gunnar, he went from 370 to 205 pounds in about a year, and suddenly girls who originally rejected him now are begging to go back to him.
How the hell do I deal with that? I don't think I can date a girl once I'm skinny because I know she likes me for my apperance. If she liked my personality, she could've went for me when I was fat.
How the hell do I deal with that? I don't think I can date a girl once I'm skinny because I know she likes me for my apperance. If she liked my personality, she could've went for me when I was fat.
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Yeah, attention sucks so you better get fat, again. Got any money?-2
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Yeah I could get a gold digger, but I want to actually feel a connection. But I don't understand why the *kitten* can't a girl realize that just because a dude is big or something doesn't mean he's a bad person.0
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become gay, guys only go after people for their personality.-1
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Shame I'm not attracted to males.0
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I never really liked men who were too chunky. Some lumber jack types can pull it off. Just personal preference. What's so wrong with girls liking you once you're thin? It shows you take care of yourself. And anyway, if you're meeting new women, how can you be sure someone new wouldn't have loved you at your higher weight?0
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There's no point in dating someone if you're not physically attracted to them. Personality matters A LOT, but there has to be attraction too. You can't help who you're attracted to, so don't get all butthurt at girls.0
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cakebatter07 wrote: »There's no point in dating someone if you're not physically attracted to them. Personality matters A LOT, but there has to be attraction too. You can't help who you're attracted to, so don't get all butthurt at girls.
butthurt. Never heard of that. Love it.0 -
arditarose wrote: »cakebatter07 wrote: »There's no point in dating someone if you're not physically attracted to them. Personality matters A LOT, but there has to be attraction too. You can't help who you're attracted to, so don't get all butthurt at girls.
butthurt. Never heard of that. Love it.
Lol! Love your profile pic! Those curves girl!
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arditarose wrote: »I never really liked men who were too chunky. Some lumber jack types can pull it off. Just personal preference. What's so wrong with girls liking you once you're thin? It shows you take care of yourself. And anyway, if you're meeting new women, how can you be sure someone new wouldn't have loved you at your higher weight?
I know so, because It happened to me in the past. Long story short, I dropped to 220 from 300, girls noticed me. I became depressed realizing I'm only being noticed or praised because of the drop. Then some emotional abuse from people around me, and well, I'm back up here again.0 -
cakebatter07 wrote: »There's no point in dating someone if you're not physically attracted to them. Personality matters A LOT, but there has to be attraction too. You can't help who you're attracted to, so don't get all butthurt at girls.
While I agree here, males are more willing to lower standards to date someone. Women want a Brad Pitt or some supermodel and do not settle for less.0 -
I think men are just as guilty (if not worse) of this as women. In my 20's and 30's I had NO problem getting dates when I was thin, but if I had extra weight on no dates. My husband is overweight and bald, just like when I met him and I am more in love with him today than when I met him 15 years ago! Just sayin'0
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I think men are just as guilty (if not worse) of this as women. In my 20's and 30's I had NO problem getting dates when I was thin, but if I had extra weight on no dates. My husband is overweight and bald, just like when I met him and I am more in love with him today than when I met him 15 years ago! Just sayin'
Not true. Men are more likely to date heavier set females in comparison to vise versa.
If you lowered your standards I feel you would have no issues prior meeting your husband.
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EskimoMark wrote: »arditarose wrote: »I never really liked men who were too chunky. Some lumber jack types can pull it off. Just personal preference. What's so wrong with girls liking you once you're thin? It shows you take care of yourself. And anyway, if you're meeting new women, how can you be sure someone new wouldn't have loved you at your higher weight?
I know so, because It happened to me in the past. Long story short, I dropped to 220 from 300, girls noticed me. I became depressed realizing I'm only being noticed or praised because of the drop. Then some emotional abuse from people around me, and well, I'm back up here again.
Yeah? If I weighed 220-300 I wouldn't be getting as many stares either, even though I'd be the same person on the inside and would feel just as deserving of love. Life.0 -
EskimoMark wrote: »cakebatter07 wrote: »There's no point in dating someone if you're not physically attracted to them. Personality matters A LOT, but there has to be attraction too. You can't help who you're attracted to, so don't get all butthurt at girls.
While I agree here, males are more willing to lower standards to date someone. Women want a Brad Pitt or some supermodel and do not settle for less.
That's BS and you know it. Stop complaining and work towards a healthier and better you.
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Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.0
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lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
Right, and spot on about being negative from the start. We don't like that.0 -
lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
To be fair, I'm not negative at all. I'm just curious as to why all my potential interests end up in the same spot. In person, you would probably say I'm incredibly optimistic ( Least in public ). I haven't found a female yet that isn't superficial. Then why won't women give me a benefit of the doubt? It's one sided then.
I can blame a women for that. Because work ethic, a 3.72 GPA, outgoing in terms of the job fields. I could argue losing weight is for myself, but to be honest, I don't mind losing weight FOR a girl, but I mind losing weight to GET a girl.0 -
arditarose wrote: »lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
Right, and spot on about being negative from the start. We don't like that.
It wouldn't make a difference if I approached you with an optimistic or pessimistic attitude because in the end you most likely will ignore me anyway.
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"I don't mind losing weight FOR a girl, but I mind losing weight to GET a girl. "
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EskimoMark wrote: »lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
To be fair, I'm not negative at all. I'm just curious as to why all my potential interests end up in the same spot. In person, you would probably say I'm incredibly optimistic ( Least in public ). I haven't found a female yet that isn't superficial. Then why won't women give me a benefit of the doubt? It's one sided then.
I can blame a women for that. Because work ethic, a 3.72 GPA, outgoing in terms of the job fields. I could argue losing weight is for myself, but to be honest, I don't mind losing weight FOR a girl, but I mind losing weight to GET a girl.
Dude, now this is going to take me a minute to process.
I also can't believe you said you haven't met a woman who isn't superficial. That is asinine.
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what's the difference?
Example. If I met the perfect girl, we connected in terms of personality, life goals etc. We are dating lets say, and one day she asks me to lose weight. At that point I don't mind because she is dating me, for me. If I have to lose weight for her to notice I exist, then no thanks.
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arditarose wrote: »EskimoMark wrote: »lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
To be fair, I'm not negative at all. I'm just curious as to why all my potential interests end up in the same spot. In person, you would probably say I'm incredibly optimistic ( Least in public ). I haven't found a female yet that isn't superficial. Then why won't women give me a benefit of the doubt? It's one sided then.
I can blame a women for that. Because work ethic, a 3.72 GPA, outgoing in terms of the job fields. I could argue losing weight is for myself, but to be honest, I don't mind losing weight FOR a girl, but I mind losing weight to GET a girl.
Dude, now this is going to take me a minute to process.
I also can't believe you said you haven't met a woman who isn't superficial. That is asinine.
I don't blame you, but I haven't met anyone like that. It sounds rather harsh or doubtful, but I can assure you. It's yet to happen.
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EskimoMark wrote: »arditarose wrote: »lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
Right, and spot on about being negative from the start. We don't like that.
It wouldn't make a difference if I approached you with an optimistic or pessimistic attitude because in the end you most likely will ignore me anyway.
Not necessarily. If you're overweight but handsome, play guitar, sing well, can cook, like old-timey music, have a silly sense of humor, a beard, a good taste in beer and whisky, and will take me to the opera...I'd give you a chance. Maybe you need to find the right women.0 -
arditarose wrote: »
Not necessarily. If you're overweight but handsome, play guitar, sing well, can cook, like old-timey music, have a silly sense of humor, a beard, a good taste in beer and whisky, and will take me to the opera...I'd give you a chance. Maybe you need to find the right women.
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arditarose wrote: »EskimoMark wrote: »arditarose wrote: »lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
Right, and spot on about being negative from the start. We don't like that.
It wouldn't make a difference if I approached you with an optimistic or pessimistic attitude because in the end you most likely will ignore me anyway.
Not necessarily. If you're overweight but handsome, play guitar, sing well, can cook, like old-timey music, have a silly sense of humor, a beard, a good taste in beer and whisky, and will take me to the opera...I'd give you a chance. Maybe you need to find the right women.
Handsome and overweight don't go together. That is incredibly picky. Am I allowed to be that picky? Oh wait, all I ask is that she is going to complete college. That's pretty low.0 -
So, would you date a 300lb woman?0
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BusyRaeNOTBusty wrote: »So, would you date a 300lb woman?
Probably would, but even they are picky. They want some Brad Pitt looking guy.
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Ha, of course you can be that picky. Those are things I like. What do you like? Also, handsome and overweight can definitely go together. I have had big crushes on some overweight men. Big, burly, bad *kitten*, confident man...sure.EskimoMark wrote: »arditarose wrote: »EskimoMark wrote: »arditarose wrote: »lookin4gains wrote: »Your attitude is already negative from the start. Not all women are the same. Lose the weight and date. If you notice they are superficial, then move on. Ex to the next until you find what you want. But give women the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate when you start dating them. You can't blame a woman for being attracted to you and giving you attention when you're thin. If you are overweight, a lot of women relate that to a poor work ethic and laziness. It's brutal, but it's the truth. It's how society is these days. And that kind of impression may affect their thought on how a relationship will be with you. Also, losing weight should be for you, no one else.
Right, and spot on about being negative from the start. We don't like that.
It wouldn't make a difference if I approached you with an optimistic or pessimistic attitude because in the end you most likely will ignore me anyway.
Not necessarily. If you're overweight but handsome, play guitar, sing well, can cook, like old-timey music, have a silly sense of humor, a beard, a good taste in beer and whisky, and will take me to the opera...I'd give you a chance. Maybe you need to find the right women.
Handsome and overweight don't go together. That is incredibly picky. Am I allowed to be that picky? Oh wait, all I ask is that she is going to complete college. That's pretty low.0 -
BusyRaeNOTBusty wrote: »So, would you date a 300lb woman?
as long as she completed college.. because he obviously is prejudice against uneducated people.-1 -
EskimoMark wrote: »BusyRaeNOTBusty wrote: »So, would you date a 300lb woman?
Probably would, but even they are picky. They want some Brad Pitt looking guy.
Oh my word. Your attitude is the problem my friend. I've known people like you. It's hard, I know. And whatever is causing you to think so negatively is not easy to fix. But you should lose the weight for yourself, love yourself, and the women will flock. As long as you're not a butt head or very boring.0
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