Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    abatonfan wrote: »
    I need a moment to vent. I haven't even started my first day of class, but I'm beyond annoyed at one of my nursing professors. She already assigned us something to complete for TOMORROW'S 9AM class, but she only told us about it a few minutes ago. It's giving me the impression that she wants me to drop everything immediately and tend to her class regardless of if I have other obligations.

    Gah. I want to curl into a corner and cry -her class seems super high demanding, and it's ticking me off to no end that I'm paying such high tuition for half of the classes to be online videos.

    The last-minute assignment is annoying enough, paying for online lectures would make me really mad. Makes me almost kinda glad that I'm old enough that my undergrad predated anything online, and grad school was such a small program that it was all face to face.
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    That came up fast! Have an AMAZING vacation!
  • girldownsouth
    girldownsouth Posts: 920 Member
    @kelly_c_77 I said 'I really L' not 'I'm really in L' so that's good clarification wise.
    My mommy and I were sharing the wine at 8 o'clock in the morning. Because we're cool like that. :sunglasses:

    I don't think she ever anticipated I would pick up my phone and text someone...let alone SSP.
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    @lilaclovebird If it were me I would not bring it up again. Just let it sit for now. It has been said and an explanation given. Give it time (a month or two or three or more) and see. If this is love and this is mutual love then there is no hurry and waiting *can* make it better if either side has any issues. When I realized I loved SO I almost said it so many times but I held myself back and really examined my motives. When I realized and was sure that I wanted to say it no matter what the response or result, well that was when I said it. I told SO that I have really enjoyed my time with him, how fun and warm and caring he is. I told him that I wanted him to know that I have realized for awhile that I love him and that I felt he should know it. I told him I was not saying it to hear it back, that I didn't need to hear it back. I also at the same time told him that if he realized at some point that he could "never" say it back that he needed to let me know so that I could move on because I deserve to have a man who loves me in my life. It was probably 6 weeks later that when I told him goodnight and I love you that he said, I love you too. I know others here have shared similar stories. For me personally in this relationship it was important to wait. For SO, too, he pondered and thought about it for a long time before he said it. He was thinking about it before I said anything.

    Hugs to you. Follow your heart. Take the advice that makes sense to you or take non at all. <3

    @nonoelmo I will be taking this advice. I'll probably bring it up again in several months after he's back from New York. He leaves in November and comes back December 10th.
    Now that I'm looking back, I realized there were times where I almost said it and held it back. I guess when I got the wine in me I couldn't hold it back.

    ETA: For now, things will stay playful and fun. I will continue to take it day by day and if he brings it up, I might talk about it. If not, then I wont stress or worry about it.

    There is an app that will lock out your phone from sending texts/making calls until you solve a math problem or something. I once considered getting it when I sent some gibberish texts whilst drinking over the course of a few weeks. But, I'm really good at math, so I figured I'd just have to figure something else out. LOL

    Me too, I think I'd figure them out. And my drunk texts are full of random thoughts that enter my head, really long and basically a stream of consciousness, but don't contain any more errors than when I normally text. People who know me can tell I'm drunk, but I don't think other people would.
  • KylerJaye
    KylerJaye Posts: 861 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    I think I posted this on my feed as well, but I think I'm more excited about not having to run stairs anymore than I am about travelling right now :lol: 2 more stair runs and 5 more sleeps until we go!!

    Our den has been my staging area for weeks already, where I've got all our gear and everything stored/laid out, and I'm starting to get it all organized and double-checked and into our bags now. I'm a fairly meticulous packer and organizer, so I've got each of our bags packed with extra-large Ziplocs storing everything (one for socks, one for cold-weather tops, one for rain gear, one for first aid, etc etc.) with spares for stuff that can be worn again and stuff that is dirty.

    Because of this, my husband doesn't have a clue what he's bringing (nor does he intend to find out until we're already travelling)...I'll wake him up on Saturday morning, hand him his duffle and his daypack, and tell him to make sure he has his wallet and his phone and charger. Then all the way to the airport he'll say "Do I have a water bottle? Do I have some Benadryl? Do I have my Swiss Army knife? Did you pack my flip-flops? What about Kleenex? Where did you put my iPad? Do I have a toque? How many pairs of socks did you bring me? What time do we get back again?" Invariably, because he's a creature of habit and I can pack him a bag in five minutes flat if necessary, he's got everything he needs...but there is a part of me that is shocked that he doesn't do it himself. I could NEVER let him pack for me, I can't even imagine what I would end up with. Yet he just blithely assumes everything is fine (ETA : until it's too late and we're already on the way.) It's exactly like when you have a four-year-old and you get everything ready and then tell them to pick out one toy to bring (except the one toy is his phone.)

    This happens every time we travel, lol.

    He also has no idea what I've booked or even what cities we'll be in, I'm pretty sure, although I keep telling him and have sent him copies of all my bookings. I'm kind of terrified security is going to ask him questions and he's going to be like "Uhhhhhh...hiking....somewhere....?" and they're going to think he's hiding something because he hasn't got a clue what he's doing in Peru. We went to see his mom over the weekend and she was asking us questions about what we've got planned and he kept just looking at me helplessly.

    The man is a ton of fun and a good travel buddy and all and he's obviously very go-with-the-flow and trusts me and all (and I was a travel agent so I guess he assumes I always just know what I'm doing) but sometimes I just have to laugh at him a bit.

    how exciting!!!

    totally get the never in a million years could you turn the tables. my ex was the same way. i'd be terrified i'd get to peru and wouldn't have any pants to wear :D
  • ShibaEars
    ShibaEars Posts: 3,928 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    That came up fast! Have an AMAZING vacation!

    I was thinking the same thing! Have an amazing time @peleroja
  • kecmw25
    kecmw25 Posts: 2,743 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    I think I posted this on my feed as well, but I think I'm more excited about not having to run stairs anymore than I am about travelling right now :lol: 2 more stair runs and 5 more sleeps until we go!!

    Our den has been my staging area for weeks already, where I've got all our gear and everything stored/laid out, and I'm starting to get it all organized and double-checked and into our bags now. I'm a fairly meticulous packer and organizer, so I've got each of our bags packed with extra-large Ziplocs storing everything (one for socks, one for cold-weather tops, one for rain gear, one for first aid, etc etc.) with spares for stuff that can be worn again and stuff that is dirty.

    Because of this, my husband doesn't have a clue what he's bringing (nor does he intend to find out until we're already travelling)...I'll wake him up on Saturday morning, hand him his duffle and his daypack, and tell him to make sure he has his wallet and his phone and charger. Then all the way to the airport he'll say "Do I have a water bottle? Do I have some Benadryl? Do I have my Swiss Army knife? Did you pack my flip-flops? What about Kleenex? Where did you put my iPad? Do I have a toque? How many pairs of socks did you bring me? What time do we get back again?" Invariably, because he's a creature of habit and I can pack him a bag in five minutes flat if necessary, he's got everything he needs...but there is a part of me that is shocked that he doesn't do it himself. I could NEVER let him pack for me, I can't even imagine what I would end up with. Yet he just blithely assumes everything is fine (ETA : until it's too late and we're already on the way.) It's exactly like when you have a four-year-old and you get everything ready and then tell them to pick out one toy to bring (except the one toy is his phone.)

    This happens every time we travel, lol.

    He also has no idea what I've booked or even what cities we'll be in, I'm pretty sure, although I keep telling him and have sent him copies of all my bookings. I'm kind of terrified security is going to ask him questions and he's going to be like "Uhhhhhh...hiking....somewhere....?" and they're going to think he's hiding something because he hasn't got a clue what he's doing in Peru. We went to see his mom over the weekend and she was asking us questions about what we've got planned and he kept just looking at me helplessly.

    The man is a ton of fun and a good travel buddy and all and he's obviously very go-with-the-flow and trusts me and all (and I was a travel agent so I guess he assumes I always just know what I'm doing) but sometimes I just have to laugh at him a bit.

    Hope you have a great trip!!!

    One time, we were going on a canoeing trip with my husband's friends. I didn't really want to go so I told him it was his thing and he could do all the packing, planning etc. Never again.

    I am jealous of your organizational skills :)
  • peleroja
    peleroja Posts: 3,979 Member
    MissKalhan wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    I think I posted this on my feed as well, but I think I'm more excited about not having to run stairs anymore than I am about travelling right now :lol: 2 more stair runs and 5 more sleeps until we go!!

    Our den has been my staging area for weeks already, where I've got all our gear and everything stored/laid out, and I'm starting to get it all organized and double-checked and into our bags now. I'm a fairly meticulous packer and organizer, so I've got each of our bags packed with extra-large Ziplocs storing everything (one for socks, one for cold-weather tops, one for rain gear, one for first aid, etc etc.) with spares for stuff that can be worn again and stuff that is dirty.

    Because of this, my husband doesn't have a clue what he's bringing (nor does he intend to find out until we're already travelling)...I'll wake him up on Saturday morning, hand him his duffle and his daypack, and tell him to make sure he has his wallet and his phone and charger. Then all the way to the airport he'll say "Do I have a water bottle? Do I have some Benadryl? Do I have my Swiss Army knife? Did you pack my flip-flops? What about Kleenex? Where did you put my iPad? Do I have a toque? How many pairs of socks did you bring me? What time do we get back again?" Invariably, because he's a creature of habit and I can pack him a bag in five minutes flat if necessary, he's got everything he needs...but there is a part of me that is shocked that he doesn't do it himself. I could NEVER let him pack for me, I can't even imagine what I would end up with. Yet he just blithely assumes everything is fine. It's exactly like when you have a four-year-old and you get everything ready and then tell them to pick out one toy to bring (except the one toy is his phone.)

    This happens every time we travel, lol.

    He also has no idea what I've booked or even what cities we'll be in, I'm pretty sure, although I keep telling him and have sent him copies of all my bookings. I'm kind of terrified security is going to ask him questions and he's going to be like "Uhhhhhh...hiking....somewhere....?" and they're going to think he's hiding something because he hasn't got a clue what he's doing in Peru. We went to see his mom over the weekend and she was asking us questions about what we've got planned and he kept just looking at me helplessly.

    The man is a ton of fun and a good travel buddy and all and he's obviously very go-with-the-flow and trusts me and all (and I was a travel agent so I guess he assumes I always just know what I'm doing) but sometimes I just have to laugh at him a bit.

    You SO and I would get along great! I am a super go with the flow kinda person even when it comes to travelling and well pretty much life, whereas mancreature is uber must be super organized. This past camping trip he realized I can't be "trusted" and will inevitably realize I forgot something, case and point the poles to our tent.... I was totally okay with it, him not so much.

    I am super super super excited for you guys and cannot wait to see all the pictures! I may try to convince the mancreature we should do this for our next trip :smiley:

    If I let him travel without me, he wouldn't make it to the traveling part because he'd procrastinate until it was too late to book, and then if he did manage to get that far he wouldn't pack until the morning he needed to leave and then sleep through his alarm and miss his flight anyway.

    He's never travelled alone, which is the problem, I think, because he's never had to actually be responsible for himself. He's always has his parents or his best friend or me to make sure he's booked, packed, and in the right place at the right time.

    I love the man and I like planning and organizing so it doesn't upset me or anything, but it's just such a foreign attitude...I would be PANICKING right now if we were leaving on Saturday and I knew nothing and had packed nothing.

    I'm okay being spontaneous once we're there and I don't necessarily plan everything down to the minute, and I'm happy to cancel our plans if we find something else to do, but I always like to have something in place at least for the big stuff (flights/ground transportation/accommodation.) Then if we change our minds, that's fine, but I prefer to always have a backup plan. I hate wasting time on vacations trying to sort stuff out, so I make sure I'm never stuck spending hours waiting for a train because I didn't make a reservation or taking a scary unlicensed cab because I didn't look into airport transfers or eating terrible meals because I can only find awful chain restaurants and didn't find some quality options or staying in a hotel in a bad neighbourhood or missing out on cool things to see because I didn't read ahead of time to know it was there.

    Reading this makes me sound like a nightmare but I promise I keep this stuff to myself. I just quietly plan everything to run super smoothly and then act all surprised when the whole vacation is flawless :wink: Hahaha.
  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    I spent the morning making calls to set up an appointment general physician for some routine blood work, and I encountered some really rude receptionists, lol.

    One receptionist I called told me the doctor I had called for would not be able to schedule an appointment with me until the end of September, but that another doctor would be able to see me and rudely asked if I would like to schedule an appointment with him. I had tried to ask for the doctor's full name to look at online reviews and to make sure the doctor was in network with my insurance company. She raised her voice over the phone and told me, "He will be here on Thursday and Friday; would you like to schedule an appointment or not?"

    I just said I called the wrong number and hung up. An earlier appointment would not be worth the trouble of dealing with her.

    Also, people at Krogers really missed Blue Bell! One woman in the ice cream isle was saying she bought a new ice cream scoop on Saturday and had it waiting for today. I just picked up B & Js. The really good thing about the Blue Bell recall and MFP is that I'm a lot more open to different and better brands.
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    MissKalhan wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    I think I posted this on my feed as well, but I think I'm more excited about not having to run stairs anymore than I am about travelling right now :lol: 2 more stair runs and 5 more sleeps until we go!!

    Our den has been my staging area for weeks already, where I've got all our gear and everything stored/laid out, and I'm starting to get it all organized and double-checked and into our bags now. I'm a fairly meticulous packer and organizer, so I've got each of our bags packed with extra-large Ziplocs storing everything (one for socks, one for cold-weather tops, one for rain gear, one for first aid, etc etc.) with spares for stuff that can be worn again and stuff that is dirty.

    Because of this, my husband doesn't have a clue what he's bringing (nor does he intend to find out until we're already travelling)...I'll wake him up on Saturday morning, hand him his duffle and his daypack, and tell him to make sure he has his wallet and his phone and charger. Then all the way to the airport he'll say "Do I have a water bottle? Do I have some Benadryl? Do I have my Swiss Army knife? Did you pack my flip-flops? What about Kleenex? Where did you put my iPad? Do I have a toque? How many pairs of socks did you bring me? What time do we get back again?" Invariably, because he's a creature of habit and I can pack him a bag in five minutes flat if necessary, he's got everything he needs...but there is a part of me that is shocked that he doesn't do it himself. I could NEVER let him pack for me, I can't even imagine what I would end up with. Yet he just blithely assumes everything is fine. It's exactly like when you have a four-year-old and you get everything ready and then tell them to pick out one toy to bring (except the one toy is his phone.)

    This happens every time we travel, lol.

    He also has no idea what I've booked or even what cities we'll be in, I'm pretty sure, although I keep telling him and have sent him copies of all my bookings. I'm kind of terrified security is going to ask him questions and he's going to be like "Uhhhhhh...hiking....somewhere....?" and they're going to think he's hiding something because he hasn't got a clue what he's doing in Peru. We went to see his mom over the weekend and she was asking us questions about what we've got planned and he kept just looking at me helplessly.

    The man is a ton of fun and a good travel buddy and all and he's obviously very go-with-the-flow and trusts me and all (and I was a travel agent so I guess he assumes I always just know what I'm doing) but sometimes I just have to laugh at him a bit.

    You SO and I would get along great! I am a super go with the flow kinda person even when it comes to travelling and well pretty much life, whereas mancreature is uber must be super organized. This past camping trip he realized I can't be "trusted" and will inevitably realize I forgot something, case and point the poles to our tent.... I was totally okay with it, him not so much.

    I am super super super excited for you guys and cannot wait to see all the pictures! I may try to convince the mancreature we should do this for our next trip :smiley:

    If I let him travel without me, he wouldn't make it to the traveling part because he'd procrastinate until it was too late to book, and then if he did manage to get that far he wouldn't pack until the morning he needed to leave and then sleep through his alarm and miss his flight anyway.

    He's never travelled alone, which is the problem, I think, because he's never had to actually be responsible for himself. He's always has his parents or his best friend or me to make sure he's booked, packed, and in the right place at the right time.

    I love the man and I like planning and organizing so it doesn't upset me or anything, but it's just such a foreign attitude...I would be PANICKING right now if we were leaving on Saturday and I knew nothing and had packed nothing.

    I'm okay being spontaneous once we're there and I don't necessarily plan everything down to the minute, and I'm happy to cancel our plans if we find something else to do, but I always like to have something in place at least for the big stuff (flights/ground transportation/accommodation.) Then if we change our minds, that's fine, but I prefer to always have a backup plan. I hate wasting time on vacations trying to sort stuff out, so I make sure I'm never stuck spending hours waiting for a train because I didn't make a reservation or taking a scary unlicensed cab because I didn't look into airport transfers or eating terrible meals because I can only find awful chain restaurants and didn't find some quality options or staying in a hotel in a bad neighbourhood or missing out on cool things to see because I didn't read ahead of time to know it was there.

    Reading this makes me sound like a nightmare but I promise I keep this stuff to myself. I just quietly plan everything to run super smoothly and then act all surprised when the whole vacation is flawless :wink: Hahaha.

    I am a bit like you when I am traveling on my own. When I go with my best friend, I let her plan everything...its just easier. I am pretty laid back about traveling with other people, as I find its easier to avoid arguments (this is a general statement not necessarily about my friend). But I am pretty active when I get there. I want to get up and get going (after checking work email!) and do things! If there is something specific I want to do, I am clear about it. :)
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    I really really don't want to work today. Can you tell?
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    That came up fast! Have an AMAZING vacation!

    I was thinking the same thing! Have an amazing time @peleroja

    Ditto!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    @kelly_c_77 I said 'I really L' not 'I'm really in L' so that's good clarification wise.
    My mommy and I were sharing the wine at 8 o'clock in the morning. Because we're cool like that. :sunglasses:

    I don't think she ever anticipated I would pick up my phone and text someone...let alone SSP.
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    @lilaclovebird If it were me I would not bring it up again. Just let it sit for now. It has been said and an explanation given. Give it time (a month or two or three or more) and see. If this is love and this is mutual love then there is no hurry and waiting *can* make it better if either side has any issues. When I realized I loved SO I almost said it so many times but I held myself back and really examined my motives. When I realized and was sure that I wanted to say it no matter what the response or result, well that was when I said it. I told SO that I have really enjoyed my time with him, how fun and warm and caring he is. I told him that I wanted him to know that I have realized for awhile that I love him and that I felt he should know it. I told him I was not saying it to hear it back, that I didn't need to hear it back. I also at the same time told him that if he realized at some point that he could "never" say it back that he needed to let me know so that I could move on because I deserve to have a man who loves me in my life. It was probably 6 weeks later that when I told him goodnight and I love you that he said, I love you too. I know others here have shared similar stories. For me personally in this relationship it was important to wait. For SO, too, he pondered and thought about it for a long time before he said it. He was thinking about it before I said anything.

    Hugs to you. Follow your heart. Take the advice that makes sense to you or take non at all. <3

    @nonoelmo I will be taking this advice. I'll probably bring it up again in several months after he's back from New York. He leaves in November and comes back December 10th.
    Now that I'm looking back, I realized there were times where I almost said it and held it back. I guess when I got the wine in me I couldn't hold it back.

    ETA: For now, things will stay playful and fun. I will continue to take it day by day and if he brings it up, I might talk about it. If not, then I wont stress or worry about it.

    There is an app that will lock out your phone from sending texts/making calls until you solve a math problem or something. I once considered getting it when I sent some gibberish texts whilst drinking over the course of a few weeks. But, I'm really good at math, so I figured I'd just have to figure something else out. LOL

    Haha, that's awesome!

    Congrats on no ice cream, Laura!!

    Oh Patriciaaaaa, guess what I'm making for dinner toniiiight???? SPAGHETTI SQUASH! Muahahahhaa!!!!!

    Gross.
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.

    I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.

    Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!

    They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.

    Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?

    Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.

    Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!

    Will do!

    (Who's jealous?!)


    Me!!!

    I have 4 work days left before I go on holiday, including a day in meetings in central London, or I'd so be scheduling a meet with @girldownsouth

    I'm going to start getting some running practice in ready for once you're back!

    Hint... I sent Nicci a 1/2 marathon training plan. :wink:
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Friends in the UK are you off today? My calendar says its a Summer Bank holiday?

    Yes, day off today!

    Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).

    Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.

    I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.

    Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!

    They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.

    Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?

    Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.

    Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!

    Will do!

    (Who's jealous?!)

    Excellent. When its gets closer let me know and I'll send you my cell number. :)
  • orangesmartie
    orangesmartie Posts: 1,870 Member
    edited August 2015
    pofoster21 wrote: »

    Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).

    Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?

    Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much
  • TigerNY128
    TigerNY128 Posts: 763 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    I really really don't want to work today. Can you tell?

    Ugh. Me either. Mondays are the worst!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »

    Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).

    Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?

    Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much

    Wow THREE weeks! Post pics! (if you have to wait til you come back okay...but we will miss you! I will miss saying Good Morning when I wake up super early! I laugh at myself every time I do that!)
  • girldownsouth
    girldownsouth Posts: 920 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.

    I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.

    Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!

    They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.

    Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?

    Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.

    Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!

    Will do!

    (Who's jealous?!)


    Me!!!

    I have 4 work days left before I go on holiday, including a day in meetings in central London, or I'd so be scheduling a meet with @girldownsouth

    I'm going to start getting some running practice in ready for once you're back!

    Hint... I sent Nicci a 1/2 marathon training plan. :wink:

    I have tons of training plans! I basically collect them, lol. I have so many books on getting started in running. I think tomorrow I will go out and i'm not going to do run/walk this time, just going to go and run as slowly as I need to for as long as I can, even if I only get to 10 mins, I'll get more next time!
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »

    Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).

    Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?

    Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much

    More awesome vacation plans... have a blast! And you'll be missed!
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »

    Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).

    Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?

    Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much

    Wow THREE weeks! Post pics! (if you have to wait til you come back okay...but we will miss you! I will miss saying Good Morning when I wake up super early! I laugh at myself every time I do that!)

    *ahem* Aren't you supposed to be working?
  • bkhamill
    bkhamill Posts: 1,289 Member
    Guys, I appreciate extra marital affairs are a hot button issue, but can we tone down the judging please? We have a lot of people on the thread and we don't know their circumstances. We can't judge until we've walked a mile in their shoes. Then we're a mile away, with new shoes ;)

    FWIW, I've been both the other woman and been cheated on (different men, both before I was age 20). Believe me when I say I know karma kicked my butt for choices I made. I could put it down to immaturity. Sometimes, despite having a moral compass, emotions can lead to terrible decisions. I don't excuse what I did in the past, but look at it as an experience that brings me here today.

    And now, I practice ethical non monogamy, everything is open, there is no need to lie or go behind anyone's back. That said the smarties and I are closed, which means none if us want or are looking for any other partner or playmate, but if anyone did, it would be openly discussed.

    But given social norms and pressure to conform, most people will do the underhand thing and hope they don't get caught, because the idea that you can be with, or love more than one person at a time is not yet acceptable. No one person should be under pressure to meet all the need, wants and desires of another person.

    Agree with all of this, and it was getting a bit judgy in here.
  • CountessKitteh
    CountessKitteh Posts: 1,505 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »

    Nice! We (US) get next Monday off. Can't wait. I need a 3 day weekend (although there are lots of rumors the union is going to walk this week as talks with the MA region broke down so I may be working all weekend!).

    Your vacation is next week? Is that Crete (or Cypress or whatever hot place you booked...my memory is terrible)?

    Yes off to Cyprus on Saturday for 3 weeks, so won't be around in threads as much

    Wow THREE weeks! Post pics! (if you have to wait til you come back okay...but we will miss you! I will miss saying Good Morning when I wake up super early! I laugh at myself every time I do that!)

    *ahem* Aren't you supposed to be working?

    I'm supposed to be slacking off work by doing homework, and I've gone so far as slacking off homework to browse the ridiculous other threads on the boards. So far, underwhelming.
  • FroggyBug
    FroggyBug Posts: 4,883 Member
    Hi everyone! I missed you guys.

    I just got caught up and wanted to write a quick note before I get back to work.

    I had a blast on my vacation. Camping from Mon-Weds. Weather was amazing and we saw a bunch of deer and moose. My sister and her husband were with us the first night and then they had to leave. My boyfriend and I had time to talk and bond while hiking, sitting by the fire etc (no cell service yay). We talked a lot about things and I think he finally is realizing how bad things were and we are both working on improving ourselves and the relationship. There were only about 3 other sites taken at the campgrounds so we had the whole section we were at to ourselves. It was so quiet (I purposely tried to find something after kids returned to school but before labor day weekend so it would be quiet). I'm so sad to be back. We also went to see his mom and we went to the zoo on Friday too. I had 25,000 steps Monday and Tuesday and about 15,000 Weds so I walked a lot which was good. I think I still gained a lot of weight back though (too much yummy food). :-P I'll try to post pictures later today in the cave. The week was amazing and relaxing.

    As for candy corn-I love it and I think it smells so good! I'm also in the, 'nothing is too sweet' for me group. Sweets are definitely my downfall.

    @ShibaEars -I hope that the bat didn't have rabies (poor bat) and that your dog is cleared. I love the new avatar picture. Such a great picture.

    @rungirl1973 -I like your new picture as well.

    @Italian_buju -I laughed at your cat food story. I do the same thing too. I like stocking up on food so I don't have to go as often and they always ask me how many cats I have. I have one...

    @jthurman3 -I'm sorry your vacation wasn't as good as you were hoping. I hope the smoke clears out soon. It makes me so sad that the fires are bad there this year (my favorite part of the country :( ). We've had smoke from your fires in our state too so I can't imagine how bad it is where you are. Hope you had an awesome birthday though.

    Ok, time to go to work for a while. :) Hope everyone else is doing well.
  • MelissaPhippsFeagins
    MelissaPhippsFeagins Posts: 8,063 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    *post date update*

    first date #14

    interacting online and via text, things were pretty cool.
    good, fun interactions, actual conversations that moved past the "hi, how's your day going?" type thing.
    but despite fun convo, dude kinda seemed like he was never going to actually ask me out, so on friday, i was like hey, if you wanna hang out let me know! so then we ended up going to a local place that evening.

    in person, it was....awkward?
    he was really quiet and withdrawn. which, i get the whole nervous first date type thing, but usually after a few hours, that lightens up a little. only it didn't. he just didn't seem very interested, and that's totally fine. but it still feels weird. so after a few hours, a few beverages, my filter ceases to exist, and upon saying good night (no attempt at a kiss or even a hug), the phrase "you poor boy" slipped out. eep.

    que the ensuing text argument wherein any chance of a second date was destroyed. so despite what appeared to be a total lack of all interest, dude says he had a good time. but of course at this point, i'm all angsty and annoyed and say as much in regards to his stand-offishness, to which he does the fine, it's all me whatever, thing.

    done and done.




    i miss mr.jerkface more than i care to admit :(

    Stupid frogs. I wish I could just conjure up Mr. Right-for-you and send him your way! <3

    hehehehe, i wish you could too!

    i just want to come home from work one day and have a cute dude sitting on my front porch, he knows all my weird quirks, likes to clean, can make me laugh, and wants to love me forevers.
    is that too much to ask for?

    Yes, because I don't believe anyone actually likes to clean. We just all know we need to get it done anyway. (see my previous post wantIng Rosie the Robot).
  • raelynnsmama52512
    raelynnsmama52512 Posts: 1,184 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Confession: I'm SEETHING at my employer right now.

    I'm already scheduled to be at a different lab location (Teterboro, NJ) for two seperate weeks this fall (one in September, one in October) and NOW they also want to send me to Baltimore for a two day "new leadership training" in early November.

    Exactly when am I supposed to do my actual job? I feel like I can't even schedule time off around any of those events, since I'll already be behind!

    They don't even remotely pay me enough for this kind of travel schedule.

    Teterboro isn't that far from my office. 35 - 45 minutes depending on traffic. Are you staying at a hotel or commuting given its relatively close to Philly?

    Staying both times, since it's Monday-Thursday for training sessions. September 21-24 and October 26-29. Not that they'd have bothered giving us the hotel information yet, of course, because that would be helpful.

    Well let me know, maybe we can go for a walk/run/dinner/drink to meet!

    Will do!

    (Who's jealous?!)


    Me!!!

    I have 4 work days left before I go on holiday, including a day in meetings in central London, or I'd so be scheduling a meet with @girldownsouth

    I'm going to start getting some running practice in ready for once you're back!

    Hint... I sent Nicci a 1/2 marathon training plan. :wink:

    Mind throwing one of those my way? You know, in case I do decide to try lol? :wink:
  • bkhamill
    bkhamill Posts: 1,289 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    Friday night ball game was great!! Son's team won!! We hope to get to the state finals again this year. They are off to a good start so far. Thanks for all the well wishes on my fall. Hate to be so absorbed in what I am doing that I can't see things, but this thing really wasn't very visible. My hand looks better, but I don't think I will be able to do squats until next week. My knee is a bit twingy when I bend it, so I am taking it easy on that. I can walk pretty well, so my fitbit people, I am after you this week!!

    You are on! I have to check if we are in the same group, I just accepted. I'll go look!

    I did not get any invite this week : (
  • KylerJaye
    KylerJaye Posts: 861 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    *post date update*

    first date #14

    interacting online and via text, things were pretty cool.
    good, fun interactions, actual conversations that moved past the "hi, how's your day going?" type thing.
    but despite fun convo, dude kinda seemed like he was never going to actually ask me out, so on friday, i was like hey, if you wanna hang out let me know! so then we ended up going to a local place that evening.

    in person, it was....awkward?
    he was really quiet and withdrawn. which, i get the whole nervous first date type thing, but usually after a few hours, that lightens up a little. only it didn't. he just didn't seem very interested, and that's totally fine. but it still feels weird. so after a few hours, a few beverages, my filter ceases to exist, and upon saying good night (no attempt at a kiss or even a hug), the phrase "you poor boy" slipped out. eep.

    que the ensuing text argument wherein any chance of a second date was destroyed. so despite what appeared to be a total lack of all interest, dude says he had a good time. but of course at this point, i'm all angsty and annoyed and say as much in regards to his stand-offishness, to which he does the fine, it's all me whatever, thing.

    done and done.




    i miss mr.jerkface more than i care to admit :(


    ETA: i fully realize now that the poor dude is just introverted and my lame butt should be a bit more understanding. i couldn't relate the very fluid texting interactions with the in person differences. i really should try a bit harder....

    I keep hoping that Mr. Jerkface realizes his big whopping mistake and shows up suitably grovelling and begging.

    My father (76) is much more witty and amusing via text than in person, he's the stereotypical socially awkward scientist guy. I get along much better with him after buying him a cell and teaching him how to text. :p


    i think that might be part of my problem....i'm really hoping he does too. :(
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    We leave for Peru on Saturday!

    I think I posted this on my feed as well, but I think I'm more excited about not having to run stairs anymore than I am about travelling right now :lol: 2 more stair runs and 5 more sleeps until we go!!

    Our den has been my staging area for weeks already, where I've got all our gear and everything stored/laid out, and I'm starting to get it all organized and double-checked and into our bags now. I'm a fairly meticulous packer and organizer, so I've got each of our bags packed with extra-large Ziplocs storing everything (one for socks, one for cold-weather tops, one for rain gear, one for first aid, etc etc.) with spares for stuff that can be worn again and stuff that is dirty.

    Because of this, my husband doesn't have a clue what he's bringing (nor does he intend to find out until we're already travelling)...I'll wake him up on Saturday morning, hand him his duffle and his daypack, and tell him to make sure he has his wallet and his phone and charger. Then all the way to the airport he'll say "Do I have a water bottle? Do I have some Benadryl? Do I have my Swiss Army knife? Did you pack my flip-flops? What about Kleenex? Where did you put my iPad? Do I have a toque? How many pairs of socks did you bring me? What time do we get back again?" Invariably, because he's a creature of habit and I can pack him a bag in five minutes flat if necessary, he's got everything he needs...but there is a part of me that is shocked that he doesn't do it himself. I could NEVER let him pack for me, I can't even imagine what I would end up with. Yet he just blithely assumes everything is fine (ETA : until it's too late and we're already on the way.) It's exactly like when you have a four-year-old and you get everything ready and then tell them to pick out one toy to bring (except the one toy is his phone.)

    This happens every time we travel, lol.

    He also has no idea what I've booked or even what cities we'll be in, I'm pretty sure, although I keep telling him and have sent him copies of all my bookings. I'm kind of terrified security is going to ask him questions and he's going to be like "Uhhhhhh...hiking....somewhere....?" and they're going to think he's hiding something because he hasn't got a clue what he's doing in Peru. We went to see his mom over the weekend and she was asking us questions about what we've got planned and he kept just looking at me helplessly.

    The man is a ton of fun and a good travel buddy and all and he's obviously very go-with-the-flow and trusts me and all (and I was a travel agent so I guess he assumes I always just know what I'm doing) but sometimes I just have to laugh at him a bit.

    Fun!!!! I hope it is a great trip.
  • ShibaEars
    ShibaEars Posts: 3,928 Member
    bkhamill wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    Friday night ball game was great!! Son's team won!! We hope to get to the state finals again this year. They are off to a good start so far. Thanks for all the well wishes on my fall. Hate to be so absorbed in what I am doing that I can't see things, but this thing really wasn't very visible. My hand looks better, but I don't think I will be able to do squats until next week. My knee is a bit twingy when I bend it, so I am taking it easy on that. I can walk pretty well, so my fitbit people, I am after you this week!!

    You are on! I have to check if we are in the same group, I just accepted. I'll go look!

    I did not get any invite this week : (

    I didn't either. I figured people got busy :smile:
  • ShibaEars
    ShibaEars Posts: 3,928 Member
    Welcome back @FroggyBug ! Glad you had a great time and are still making progress with your boyfriend.