Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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kellienw335 wrote: »@orangesmartie - I was afraid that it was something like that. You are super great and deserve the best! I'm sorry you are going through all of this. Hugs to you!
I second this! Any chance that the various negative things that you realized are due to him not being treated, and if he starts working on that again you'll be able to better work on your relationships?0 -
That is awesome! Woohoo!Wow, everyone has been busy!
I don't have time now to comment on all the posts I would like to, but I'm feeling pretty happy and wanted you to know that today I'm NORMAL! My weight hit 149.6, which puts my BMI at 24.9 = normal range.
Also, I read about the guy who just won the hot dog eating contest. How bad do you think the water weight would be after eating 17,600 calories and 48,360mg of sodium? (Eating contests are revolting, in my opinion.)
http://www.si.com/more-sports/2015/07/04/nathans-hot-dog-eating-contest-matt-stonie-chestnut
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riderfangal wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »I think my first-world-vacation-problems have just gotten even more first world, as I realize we can now use our extra vacation time for a week of hiking next month but I can't decide where. Last year we did a week in Jasper (northern Alberta Rockies) but now I'm torn between the southern stuff (Banff, Yoho, Waterton, Icefields, that kind of thing) or maybe doing interior British Columbia.
Not gonna lie though, this is exactly why we're not having kids for a long while yet, so we can take three vacations a year and change our plans on a whim...
Enjoy it while you can! My daughter is in daycare and son is in afterschool care. During the school year it is $840 per month and during the summer it is $1040 per month. Craziness!
Day care is crazy. I just hate paying that bill every month
My mother runs a dayhome so I definitely know how expensive it is...we actually decided a while ago that we wouldn't have kids at all unless we can afford for me to stay home with them because of that. The deal is that he has to be making as much as the two of us combined currently make before I'll go for it. It's one reason of many we're pretty ambivalent about having kids but it's certainly a factor.0 -
I am so jealous of all the vacation talk. I haven't had a real vacation since I stopped teaching 4 years ago. I am in the process of buying a new car, which means I won't be taking any real vacations anytime soon either. (I am a contractor, so I don't get any paid time off.)
Hi back!
I'm so sorry that you don't get paid time off. I was a contractor for about 6 years before I got my current job and didn't get any paid time off either (sick or vacation). It was horrible. I never took time off at my old job. I definitely feel bad for you! Hopefully you at least get paid well...
Not well enough.
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Wow, everyone has been busy!
I don't have time now to comment on all the posts I would like to, but I'm feeling pretty happy and wanted you to know that today I'm NORMAL! My weight hit 149.6, which puts my BMI at 24.9 = normal range.
Also, I read about the guy who just won the hot dog eating contest. How bad do you think the water weight would be after eating 17,600 calories and 48,360mg of sodium? (Eating contests are revolting, in my opinion.)
http://www.si.com/more-sports/2015/07/04/nathans-hot-dog-eating-contest-matt-stonie-chestnut
That is huge. Very happy for you!!!0 -
MissKalhan wrote: »I have two hours of work left, my head is pounding and I don't wana be here anymoreeee. *pouts*
Confession: I am a like a 4 year old when I don't feel well. Whiny and everything.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »I have been relocated to my second location of the day! Which is to say that I'm now stuck on the couch instead of in my bed, but hey, I've got my laptop now!
Here's a blurryish picture of the sample sport wheelchair that I might be getting:
...I love that shade of blue.
So glad you love the wheelchair and you are feeling a bit better (or at least have a laptop)!0 -
WestCoastJo82 wrote: »WestCoastJo82 wrote: »That sewing machine! I want!
Mine is just a basic little Brother but it is pale pink - I can't claim responsibility for that though as it was my mother's before she decided she needed a fancier one.
I'm glad you all understand my feelings about frying food in the house. Soooo stinky. We don't have an exhaust fan over our stove either (or anywhere in the kitchen), so everything I cook lingers unless I open the windows. Not too practical in our minus 40 degree winters either as it's a recipe for a burst water pipe.
The smell of Saturday morning bacon haunts me all weekend, too, it's terrible.
So this doesn't help in the winter, but fry outside! I used to have a fry daddy that I could plug in, so I would plug it into the outdoor outlet and fry away. I'm debating setting up my camping stove outside the next time I do fried chicken to keep the fry smell outside, and I feel like that should work as well.
Re gross girls: I was an odd combination of total tomboy that loved to get dirty and rough house, but I would do it while wearing the most frilly dresses possible. My face and hair was always a super-mess though.
My daughters hair!.... I brush it constantly. Knotted up. I keep pushing her to be more SELF AWARE and start doing things for herself and without prompts. The struggle is real.
I will say I am quite proficient at simple braids though. I need to learn to french braid.
Yeah, I'm sure my hair embarrassed my parents. I would brush it sometimes, but it just would get crazy tangled anyway.
Mastering the braid will do wonders for you - I'm 33 and until I chopped all my hair off (pixie cut for the win!), my hair lived in a messy bun. I never really figured the hair thing out.
BTW - awesome on the amusement park NSV! I LOVE roller coasters.
Thanks! Worst times are after swimming or after waking up. I've made it a habit to braid her hair after her shower or before bedtime and that helps a LOT the next day.
I love coasters, too! The BEST part is Kings Dominion is a mere <15 minutes from home. We get season passes every year and we burn em up! It also has a water park inside so we often go swim then dry off by riding coasters before we leave. We also have a Busch Gardens-Water Country less than an hour away as well. Blessed!0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »I think my first-world-vacation-problems have just gotten even more first world, as I realize we can now use our extra vacation time for a week of hiking next month but I can't decide where. Last year we did a week in Jasper (northern Alberta Rockies) but now I'm torn between the southern stuff (Banff, Yoho, Waterton, Icefields, that kind of thing) or maybe doing interior British Columbia.
Not gonna lie though, this is exactly why we're not having kids for a long while yet, so we can take three vacations a year and change our plans on a whim...
Enjoy it while you can! My daughter is in daycare and son is in afterschool care. During the school year it is $840 per month and during the summer it is $1040 per month. Craziness!
Downright insane! Almost makes working not worth working! lol0 -
Forgot to add earlier- I love roller coasters! I haven't ridden one since I lost all the weight because there isn't a good amusement park near me. (Branson is about 2 hours away, but I'm not real impressed with the coasters at Silver Dollar City.)0
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kelly_c_77 wrote: »So, we didn't get to go for our morning walk this morning because I blew out the tire on the jogging stroller again (I've worn through 7 tires in the last 1.5 years!) during yesterday's afternoon walk. We went to the bike shop and bought our new tire this morning with plans to go this afternoon but it's hot and super humid today and I don't want to go! I'm going to make myself suck it up and go once my son gets up from nap. I know I'll be melting by the time we get home but I'll be mad if we skip both walks today.
7 tires in 1.5 years that's crazy. As I have said before you really inspire me to get moving when I look at your step count!!0 -
Wow, everyone has been busy!
I don't have time now to comment on all the posts I would like to, but I'm feeling pretty happy and wanted you to know that today I'm NORMAL! My weight hit 149.6, which puts my BMI at 24.9 = normal range.
Also, I read about the guy who just won the hot dog eating contest. How bad do you think the water weight would be after eating 17,600 calories and 48,360mg of sodium? (Eating contests are revolting, in my opinion.)
http://www.si.com/more-sports/2015/07/04/nathans-hot-dog-eating-contest-matt-stonie-chestnut
Just the thought of all that is almost enough to make me wanna hurl!!! Congrats on the BMI and weigh in!!!0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »Confession for the day. Every night my son and I go for a walk (well he drives his battery operated tractor and I try to keep up). Our route takes us by a convenience store and if he has been pretty good up until this point in the day we usually stop in and he gets some little treat. We now own like 15 mini yo-yos because that seems to be his pick. Last night he talked me into buying him a bag of hickory sticks, which I happen to love but haven't eaten for a very long time. So I open them for him and of course grab a handful. Yum crunchy salty goodness . We get home and he still has like half a bag left but doesn't want them. Dilemma right, cause I know I will eat them so.... I put them under his bed while he is in the bath because I know if I left them in the cupboard I would eat them after he was asleep. This way I know there is no possibility I will go into the bedroom after he is asleep to retrieve them and chance waking him up
I have thought about doing this very thing!!! I haven't actually gone through with it...but it is definitely a smart place to hide something because I won't go in there if he's sleeping. It wouldn't matter how much I wanted it, nope.
I have def hidden food from myself or even better, when my mom comes over (with all of her delicious, fattening glory of treats that I specifically asked her not to bring) I MAKE her hide them, so I can't find them, so she can have and give treats to my daughter on occasion.0 -
girldownsouth wrote: »girldownsouth wrote: »WestCoastJo82 wrote: »That sewing machine! I want!
Mine is just a basic little Brother but it is pale pink - I can't claim responsibility for that though as it was my mother's before she decided she needed a fancier one.
I'm glad you all understand my feelings about frying food in the house. Soooo stinky. We don't have an exhaust fan over our stove either (or anywhere in the kitchen), so everything I cook lingers unless I open the windows. Not too practical in our minus 40 degree winters either as it's a recipe for a burst water pipe.
The smell of Saturday morning bacon haunts me all weekend, too, it's terrible.
So this doesn't help in the winter, but fry outside! I used to have a fry daddy that I could plug in, so I would plug it into the outdoor outlet and fry away. I'm debating setting up my camping stove outside the next time I do fried chicken to keep the fry smell outside, and I feel like that should work as well.
Re gross girls: I was an odd combination of total tomboy that loved to get dirty and rough house, but I would do it while wearing the most frilly dresses possible. My face and hair was always a super-mess though.
My daughters hair!.... I brush it constantly. Knotted up. I keep pushing her to be more SELF AWARE and start doing things for herself and without prompts. The struggle is real.
I will say I am quite proficient at simple braids though. I need to learn to french braid.
I have long hair, down to nearly the bottom of my back. Sometimes I discover massive knots that seem to take up residence in my ponytail. I am 32 and need to be more self aware too!!
loooove me some long hair. Brings out the *RAWR* in me. 
And then you could practice your french braids (plaits where I live) on it!
LOL please, go on...
Funny thing is I see some women with this long, beautiful, silky smooth, flowing hair that looks like it's never once tangled, well my daughters hair is the exact opposite. Even with gobs of great conditioner, after a day of playing her hair becomes a full on gridlock. Thank God for the 'wet brush'. Such a lifesaver.
Is her hair pin straight? If not she might do better with a big toothed comb. Also, another vote for braids. They're way easier to deal with then letting it go free and trying to get rid of tangles later if you're doing something strenuous.
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Wow, everyone has been busy!
I don't have time now to comment on all the posts I would like to, but I'm feeling pretty happy and wanted you to know that today I'm NORMAL! My weight hit 149.6, which puts my BMI at 24.9 = normal range.
Also, I read about the guy who just won the hot dog eating contest. How bad do you think the water weight would be after eating 17,600 calories and 48,360mg of sodium? (Eating contests are revolting, in my opinion.)
http://www.si.com/more-sports/2015/07/04/nathans-hot-dog-eating-contest-matt-stonie-chestnut
WHoooo Hooooo Hoooo WHooo happy dance. Good job.0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »Thinking of foregoing my planned meals to eat Ramen noodles and Pop Tarts at work today.
People were talking about Ramen noodles the other day and now I'm craving them. I haven't eaten them since I was pregnant with my son 8 years ago. And no, I'm not pregnant! The factory is closed!
Okay, the ramen noodle talk reminds me of when my husband and I were engaged. We used to have disagreements that we would poll our friends and family about. One of these disagreements was about ramen noodles. I said no one actually likes ramen noodles and they are only eaten by poor college students. I was so confident about this that I agreed that if he won the poll, we could serve ramen noodles at our rehearsal dinner. He won...pretty much by a landslide.
Also, I read a story once about a women who ate nothing but ramen noodles, she was in her 20s but had the health of an 80 year old because of the lack of nutrients and sodium and all. Having said that...I think that ramen noodles are a perfectly fine choice as long as it's not the only thing you'll eat.
Hahahahahah - oh man I love this.
I am a ramen noodle lover - which I totally get teased for by my SO. I'm sorta food snobby but I have a weakness for ramen, Cheetos (original crunchy - no poofs), and Coco Puffs. He is not sure how my love of those foods mesh with my general approach to food.
Also, all pickles are good in my book. Related: what's the difference between banana peppers and pepperoncinis (sp?)? I thought those were two words for the same thing...0 -
WestCoastJo82 wrote: »girldownsouth wrote: »
Develop your passive aggressive detection radar. (Speaking from experience)kellienw335 wrote: »
ETA: I "learned" to date in my 40's. I never "dated" like that before, I didn't know how to do it. It was so fun and cool (and scary) to discover so much about myself. I was always 100% myself and clear that I was looking for a good relationship. I did work hard on keeping good boundaries and only dating men who didn't raise red flags.
What are some red flags for people?
The one's I really looked for:
Very angry/resentful toward someone (i.e., ex, mother, sibling, etc.) even if deserved it should not come out in date #1 or #2.
Pushing for "cuddles" or anything else very quickly.
Not understanding what an appropriate level of activity for a first or second date would be (i.e. writing a song for me after one email exchange, planning a weekend away in another state for a second date.)
Not having an appropriate job for his age (i.e. I am in the middle age dating pool, I want to date someone not support him financially.)
What other red flags come to mind?
Not letting me do things for myself e.g. insisting on ordering something for me instead of letting me order what I want and other weird signs of dominance.
Talking about their ex repeatedly in anyway. Glowing terms can be just as bad as negative ones. My ex girlfriend was so good to me she'd drop everything to make me my favorite dinner and then she'd clean up the entire kitchen.
Treating staff where ever you go badly. I think you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat people who're waiting on them.
Calling too much (I had one guy literally calling me over 30 times in one day) or too little (if you haven't heard from them in a month they're not really interested).
I agree with these and the others listed earlier. Good stuff
I would also add
If you are a mom the guy wanting to be insta-dad. I vaguely mentioned my kids in my profile and more than one man in the first email offered to help raise them. No thank you.
The player who is almost seems like relationship material but fails. He comes so close and is charming and good looking and rich. And them you realize he's flakey as heck. And his almost commitments are insincere and then he tells you he's been divorced twice not just once and was with wife #2 while still with wife #1. And then you let him know no more. You will not be going out with him again.
No projects. He is not there to fix or improve you. You are not there to fix or improve him.
You have to like each other as people and be interested in who that person is. That means no projecting. One man kept trying to put words into my mouth about what I liked and what I did for fun.
Where was this advice when I was dating? You should teach a class! All the single ladies, looking for someone, in this thread should start taking notes!!
I really agree with how does he treat people who are in the service industry. Kindness and human decency are priorities to me.
How does he treat animals?
BIG red flag - is he always the victim and life is not fair and it is always someone else's fault. RUN!!!
I probably shouldn't say this, but this is one of my biggest struggles with my bf, maybe not to that extent, but there's always someone to blame (often me) and things never just happen and are unfortunate, which tends to be more my outlook. I always say as an example, if I left something out and he tripped, would be my fault for leaving it there. Vice versa would be my fault for not looking where I was going.
Edited because I didn't think it was clear.
Obviously you know if the whole package is a good thing, but this bit makes me nervous with my dirty lenses. This was the case with my ex and things just got worse and worse over time, and eventually really eroded my self-esteem. Good thing I was never isolated, so I had outside checks on my capabilities and strengths and realized that I was not worthless and divorced him.
Ditto Ditto Ditto.
It got really bad. It got to the point I was wondering if my ex was trying purposefully to mess with my head. I could not raise my children thinking that was any kind of normal.
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I think my first-world-vacation-problems have just gotten even more first world, as I realize we can now use our extra vacation time for a week of hiking next month but I can't decide where. Last year we did a week in Jasper (northern Alberta Rockies) but now I'm torn between the southern stuff (Banff, Yoho, Waterton, Icefields, that kind of thing) or maybe doing interior British Columbia.
Not gonna lie though, this is exactly why we're not having kids for a long while yet, so we can take three vacations a year and change our plans on a whim...
Ooh - enjoy! All of those places sound awesome.0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »I think my first-world-vacation-problems have just gotten even more first world, as I realize we can now use our extra vacation time for a week of hiking next month but I can't decide where. Last year we did a week in Jasper (northern Alberta Rockies) but now I'm torn between the southern stuff (Banff, Yoho, Waterton, Icefields, that kind of thing) or maybe doing interior British Columbia.
Not gonna lie though, this is exactly why we're not having kids for a long while yet, so we can take three vacations a year and change our plans on a whim...
Enjoy it while you can! My daughter is in daycare and son is in afterschool care. During the school year it is $840 per month and during the summer it is $1040 per month. Craziness!
Downright insane! Almost makes working not worth working! lol
$1500 a month (that was midrange price in Portland in 2003-5) for a place I trusted to leave my kids. OUCH. That is what my student loans paid for, my education was paid for by scholarships.
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