Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Confession: After much thought, I have decided I do in fact want kids. (Just one, actually). I've approached the topic with DH, and have let him know I want one. He said he still doesn't, and now we're "too old" to even try. (30&31?? Hardly too old!). I have baby fever bad now. It's the worst case I've ever had. I've had it for like a week or two at a time before, and usually am able to brush it off by thinking of things like having no room, no money, diaper blowouts, sleepless nights, etc.
This bout has lasted 3 freaking months. And still going strong. It doesn't help that I did have a pregnancy scare earlier this month, and it left me feeling more bummed then relieved that it was just a scare. Any pointers on converting DH over to team baby? LOL. I know I need to tell him exactly how I feel. (I have, more or less on several occasions). But I need to set him down, and REALLY tell him. Like now. Just not sure where to lead in to get the best listening ear, ya know? MIL has been suggesting for years that I just tell him I'm going off BC, and leave protection up to him...(How my DH came to be) I'm not sure that's the best course of action , but it is getting highly tempting.
Ugh. So anyways. Any cute puppy pics to lighten this mood? Oh wait, then I'll have PUPPY fever too.
Yeah I feel ya. I’ve come around to having kids. But I don’t know what to suggest with convincing Hubby because Danny is up for it. It’s a dilemma because you don’t want to badger him in case it makes him against it even more. I agree that leaving the protection up to him is a bit unfair, but then again, who said it was all up to you? 😉 have you got any friends with kids? Get them to keep saying how amazing it is.
Would reverse psychology work?0 -
I don’t have any puppy pictures I’m afraid.
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melissafeagins wrote: »I failed at eating today. I missed breakfast, I almost missed lunch because of work, but ended up getting a wrap and eating it at my desk, and I can’t be bothered to cook tonight, Danny ordered food and I didn’t fancy anything on offer so I ended up having 2 hotdog rolls with soft cheese in. I’m really hungry, but I don’t have the will power to do anything about it.
I didn’t have time to go food shopping this week, so silver lining is that we don’t have any chips or chocolate in the flat. But we don’t have bread or milk either.
(hence the leftover hotdog rolls)
Been there. Done that. Go shopping, Lois, but no chocolate or chips on the list. Buy dates and apples. You can sprinkle a little salt on the apple for that salty crunch craving.
I bought milk today on my lunch break. We’re working tonight so cooking isn’t an issue.2 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »melissafeagins wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »He looks a lot like my "oldest"!
I have two Lab/German Shepherd Mixes! A black one and a brown one.
The Baroness is a 7 year old lab/pointer mix. Very upset with me for not being able to take our daily walks right now. She's a hunter and I am not to supposed to lift over 15 pounds, much less try to control a 70 lb dog that sees a squirrel or deer in the woods.
I hear ya! I dont walk my dogs. They walk me! LOL. Especially if there is another dog, cat, rabbit, person.... Perhaps some back yard fetch is in order?
Hope you're recovering well though!
She has a 12 year old to walk her, I just take her further. She is only interested in fetch on her terms for about 5 minutes at a time. But she will swim for as long as I will let her. Weirdo...2 -
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I don’t have any puppy pictures I’m afraid.
You can share fish photos.
and live vicariously through our puppy pics. (which should bring @MoHousdon out of the wood work) 0 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Confession: After much thought, I have decided I do in fact want kids. (Just one, actually). I've approached the topic with DH, and have let him know I want one. He said he still doesn't, and now we're "too old" to even try. (30&31?? Hardly too old!). I have baby fever bad now. It's the worst case I've ever had. I've had it for like a week or two at a time before, and usually am able to brush it off by thinking of things like having no room, no money, diaper blowouts, sleepless nights, etc.
This bout has lasted 3 freaking months. And still going strong. It doesn't help that I did have a pregnancy scare earlier this month, and it left me feeling more bummed then relieved that it was just a scare. Any pointers on converting DH over to team baby? LOL. I know I need to tell him exactly how I feel. (I have, more or less on several occasions). But I need to set him down, and REALLY tell him. Like now. Just not sure where to lead in to get the best listening ear, ya know? MIL has been suggesting for years that I just tell him I'm going off BC, and leave protection up to him...(How my DH came to be) I'm not sure that's the best course of action , but it is getting highly tempting.
Ugh. So anyways. Any cute puppy pics to lighten this mood? Oh wait, then I'll have PUPPY fever too.
Yeah I feel ya. I’ve come around to having kids. But I don’t know what to suggest with convincing Hubby because Danny is up for it. It’s a dilemma because you don’t want to badger him in case it makes him against it even more. I agree that leaving the protection up to him is a bit unfair, but then again, who said it was all up to you? 😉 have you got any friends with kids? Get them to keep saying how amazing it is.
Would reverse psychology work?
Our kids with friends dont help much, lol. My closest friend seems to have lost all her previous identity after becoming a mom (including thier uh, couples time). Apparently, the most "fun" they've had in 3 years since thier 1st was born is while trying to baby # 2 (on the way), and now fun time is back on the back burner again. We've seen this happen with so many couples. One of his big objections(fears) is I'll lose myself and just become this mom-bot, completly letting myself go, and never being intimate again. I've tried to reassure him that that's not me, I dont think he's convinced.
Our newer set of friends have 2 girls that are just darling, so maybe I can point out all thier little cute moments when they're around. (already started actually).
Reverse phycology would not work with him. As soon as I would say the words "nope don't want em" He'd table that conversation and we would be on along with our childless life forever, lol. Thing is, I want to get one on the ground fairly soonish. Like in the next 1-2 years. Mostly because I don't want to be 60 when they move out, and also the older I get the higher risk of complications. Just not sure how to approach that conversation. Without blurting out " Oh hey, BTW I wanna quit my BC in a few months, Whadya think?" in the middle of dinner.0 -
melissafeagins wrote: »I don’t have any puppy pictures I’m afraid.
You can share fish photos. and live vicariously through our puppy pics. (which should bring @MoHousdon out of the wood work)
I like fishies! Bring on the cute fish pictures!!
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Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Confession: After much thought, I have decided I do in fact want kids. (Just one, actually). I've approached the topic with DH, and have let him know I want one. He said he still doesn't, and now we're "too old" to even try. (30&31?? Hardly too old!). I have baby fever bad now. It's the worst case I've ever had. I've had it for like a week or two at a time before, and usually am able to brush it off by thinking of things like having no room, no money, diaper blowouts, sleepless nights, etc.
This bout has lasted 3 freaking months. And still going strong. It doesn't help that I did have a pregnancy scare earlier this month, and it left me feeling more bummed then relieved that it was just a scare. Any pointers on converting DH over to team baby? LOL. I know I need to tell him exactly how I feel. (I have, more or less on several occasions). But I need to set him down, and REALLY tell him. Like now. Just not sure where to lead in to get the best listening ear, ya know? MIL has been suggesting for years that I just tell him I'm going off BC, and leave protection up to him...(How my DH came to be) I'm not sure that's the best course of action , but it is getting highly tempting.
Ugh. So anyways. Any cute puppy pics to lighten this mood? Oh wait, then I'll have PUPPY fever too.
Yeah I feel ya. I’ve come around to having kids. But I don’t know what to suggest with convincing Hubby because Danny is up for it. It’s a dilemma because you don’t want to badger him in case it makes him against it even more. I agree that leaving the protection up to him is a bit unfair, but then again, who said it was all up to you? 😉 have you got any friends with kids? Get them to keep saying how amazing it is.
Would reverse psychology work?
Our kids with friends dont help much, lol. My closest friend seems to have lost all her previous identity after becoming a mom (including thier uh, couples time). Apparently, the most "fun" they've had in 3 years since thier 1st was born is while trying to baby # 2 (on the way), and now fun time is back on the back burner again. We've seen this happen with so many couples. One of his big objections(fears) is I'll lose myself and just become this mom-bot, completly letting myself go, and never being intimate again. I've tried to reassure him that that's not me, I dont think he's convinced.
Our newer set of friends have 2 girls that are just darling, so maybe I can point out all thier little cute moments when they're around. (already started actually).
Reverse phycology would not work with him. As soon as I would say the words "nope don't want em" He'd table that conversation and we would be on along with our childless life forever, lol. Thing is, I want to get one on the ground fairly soonish. Like in the next 1-2 years. Mostly because I don't want to be 60 when they move out, and also the older I get the higher risk of complications. Just not sure how to approach that conversation. Without blurting out " Oh hey, BTW I wanna quit my BC in a few months, Whadya think?" in the middle of dinner.
This is a tricky one. If you both agreed on no children before you got married, this might end up being a deal breaker. If you did not, I would point that out actually.
A lot of couples do end up just becoming parents and not lovers during the child's youngest years. Depending on your circumstances and lifestyle. The trick is to keep it alive enough to resume after. There were many years that I was in that situation, but came out strong on the other side. However, a close girlfriend of mine confessed recently that her and her hubby have not even slept in the same bed since their child was born. He is nine years old now.....0 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »melissafeagins wrote: »I don’t have any puppy pictures I’m afraid.
You can share fish photos. and live vicariously through our puppy pics. (which should bring @MoHousdon out of the wood work)
I like fishies! Bring on the cute fish pictures!!
No, no no no. There is nothing 'cute' about fish.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »melissafeagins wrote: »Saw the surgeon this afternoon. Pre-op tomorrow after work and surgery to take out my gallbladder and its 2.1 cm stone in Thursday morning. Yikes!!
Dr. Jackson does not want it to rupture so we're doing it at the first available slot. Thursday is usually her day off.
Good luck Mel, I hope this alleviates your problem quickly.
I am slightly curious that you know the surgeon in advance. Unless it's something super specific and specialist, you get whoever you get on the day on the NHS. Doesn't bother me as they're all of a certain standard, but I could certainly tell which one of my csection surgeons was better at pretty sewing!
So when you need surgery you meet the surgeon on the day of? I actually just found out I need a procedure today where I won't know who is doing it until the day of and am freaking out because I hate that idea. And its not even full 'surgery' pre se.
Yep. I met my planned csection surgeon about half an hour before it happened. I don't really mind, how can I judge who is as better surgeon without knowing the medical background and complexities of every case? If the NHS is employing them, they're of an acceptable standard.0 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Confession: After much thought, I have decided I do in fact want kids. (Just one, actually). I've approached the topic with DH, and have let him know I want one. He said he still doesn't, and now we're "too old" to even try. (30&31?? Hardly too old!). I have baby fever bad now. It's the worst case I've ever had. I've had it for like a week or two at a time before, and usually am able to brush it off by thinking of things like having no room, no money, diaper blowouts, sleepless nights, etc.
This bout has lasted 3 freaking months. And still going strong. It doesn't help that I did have a pregnancy scare earlier this month, and it left me feeling more bummed then relieved that it was just a scare. Any pointers on converting DH over to team baby? LOL. I know I need to tell him exactly how I feel. (I have, more or less on several occasions). But I need to set him down, and REALLY tell him. Like now. Just not sure where to lead in to get the best listening ear, ya know? MIL has been suggesting for years that I just tell him I'm going off BC, and leave protection up to him...(How my DH came to be) I'm not sure that's the best course of action , but it is getting highly tempting.
Ugh. So anyways. Any cute puppy pics to lighten this mood? Oh wait, then I'll have PUPPY fever too.
Yeah I feel ya. I’ve come around to having kids. But I don’t know what to suggest with convincing Hubby because Danny is up for it. It’s a dilemma because you don’t want to badger him in case it makes him against it even more. I agree that leaving the protection up to him is a bit unfair, but then again, who said it was all up to you? 😉 have you got any friends with kids? Get them to keep saying how amazing it is.
Would reverse psychology work?
Our kids with friends dont help much, lol. My closest friend seems to have lost all her previous identity after becoming a mom (including thier uh, couples time). Apparently, the most "fun" they've had in 3 years since thier 1st was born is while trying to baby # 2 (on the way), and now fun time is back on the back burner again. We've seen this happen with so many couples. One of his big objections(fears) is I'll lose myself and just become this mom-bot, completly letting myself go, and never being intimate again. I've tried to reassure him that that's not me, I dont think he's convinced.
Our newer set of friends have 2 girls that are just darling, so maybe I can point out all thier little cute moments when they're around. (already started actually).
Reverse phycology would not work with him. As soon as I would say the words "nope don't want em" He'd table that conversation and we would be on along with our childless life forever, lol. Thing is, I want to get one on the ground fairly soonish. Like in the next 1-2 years. Mostly because I don't want to be 60 when they move out, and also the older I get the higher risk of complications. Just not sure how to approach that conversation. Without blurting out " Oh hey, BTW I wanna quit my BC in a few months, Whadya think?" in the middle of dinner.
If he's worried you'll lose yourself, the simple solution is him stepping up. Much easier for mum to feel up for it when she's had a little time for herself!
As for BC, I think you've got to be blatant as being subtle is too close to being sly for such an important thing. Why is it such a shocker that the one who wants to avoid pregnancy should be the one to take responsibility for BC? But really, you want everyone to be happy. Have you told him just how important this is? It would be an utter deal breaker for me - and I told my husband as much!2 -
I've been awol for a while. Just general life getting on top of me. Although we've had TWO nights in a row without breastfeeding Ellie. Record breaking stuff! I hope it continues as I'm now totally ready to stop, but not holding my breath.3
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I've been awol for a while. Just general life getting on top of me. Although we've had TWO nights in a row without breastfeeding Ellie. Record breaking stuff! I hope it continues as I'm now totally ready to stop, but not holding my breath.
So did she sleep through? Because I know you've been missing sleep.
As I recall it didn't matter what I was feeding them at 2am. I am not a nice person when I don't sleep enough. You seem to be nicer than I was, for the record.0 -
Confession: I still haven't had a 6000 step day since my surgery and I am getting impatient. I can only do what my body will let me, but I am annoyed by it.
Patience, especially with myself, is not my default position.4 -
melissafeagins wrote: »I've been awol for a while. Just general life getting on top of me. Although we've had TWO nights in a row without breastfeeding Ellie. Record breaking stuff! I hope it continues as I'm now totally ready to stop, but not holding my breath.
So did she sleep through? Because I know you've been missing sleep.
As I recall it didn't matter what I was feeding them at 2am. I am not a nice person when I don't sleep enough. You seem to be nicer than I was, for the record.
She slept from about midnight to 6.30am both nights, which is a win for us! We're coming off the back of some atrocious sleep (everyone was ill) so I really don't know how this will go. I hope she just magically self weans, because she's never taken anything at night except boob, and forcing more change on her would be a proper battle. She's 16.5 months, so doesn't need milk in the night, but try explaining that to a one year old at 3am!
I am not the nicest person on bad sleep either, but after a good 18 months of it, I think I've either gotten used to it, or perhaps everyone else has gotten used to me!!1 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »melissafeagins wrote: »Saw the surgeon this afternoon. Pre-op tomorrow after work and surgery to take out my gallbladder and its 2.1 cm stone in Thursday morning. Yikes!!
Dr. Jackson does not want it to rupture so we're doing it at the first available slot. Thursday is usually her day off.
Good luck Mel, I hope this alleviates your problem quickly.
I am slightly curious that you know the surgeon in advance. Unless it's something super specific and specialist, you get whoever you get on the day on the NHS. Doesn't bother me as they're all of a certain standard, but I could certainly tell which one of my csection surgeons was better at pretty sewing!
So when you need surgery you meet the surgeon on the day of? I actually just found out I need a procedure today where I won't know who is doing it until the day of and am freaking out because I hate that idea. And its not even full 'surgery' pre se.
Yep. I met my planned csection surgeon about half an hour before it happened. I don't really mind, how can I judge who is as better surgeon without knowing the medical background and complexities of every case? If the NHS is employing them, they're of an acceptable standard.
I find talking to a doctor for a while can usually tell you if you are comfortable with them or not. That is hard to gauge on a moment.0 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Confession: After much thought, I have decided I do in fact want kids. (Just one, actually). I've approached the topic with DH, and have let him know I want one. He said he still doesn't, and now we're "too old" to even try. (30&31?? Hardly too old!). I have baby fever bad now. It's the worst case I've ever had. I've had it for like a week or two at a time before, and usually am able to brush it off by thinking of things like having no room, no money, diaper blowouts, sleepless nights, etc.
This bout has lasted 3 freaking months. And still going strong. It doesn't help that I did have a pregnancy scare earlier this month, and it left me feeling more bummed then relieved that it was just a scare. Any pointers on converting DH over to team baby? LOL. I know I need to tell him exactly how I feel. (I have, more or less on several occasions). But I need to set him down, and REALLY tell him. Like now. Just not sure where to lead in to get the best listening ear, ya know? MIL has been suggesting for years that I just tell him I'm going off BC, and leave protection up to him...(How my DH came to be) I'm not sure that's the best course of action , but it is getting highly tempting.
Ugh. So anyways. Any cute puppy pics to lighten this mood? Oh wait, then I'll have PUPPY fever too.
Yeah I feel ya. I’ve come around to having kids. But I don’t know what to suggest with convincing Hubby because Danny is up for it. It’s a dilemma because you don’t want to badger him in case it makes him against it even more. I agree that leaving the protection up to him is a bit unfair, but then again, who said it was all up to you? 😉 have you got any friends with kids? Get them to keep saying how amazing it is.
Would reverse psychology work?
Our kids with friends dont help much, lol. My closest friend seems to have lost all her previous identity after becoming a mom (including thier uh, couples time). Apparently, the most "fun" they've had in 3 years since thier 1st was born is while trying to baby # 2 (on the way), and now fun time is back on the back burner again. We've seen this happen with so many couples. One of his big objections(fears) is I'll lose myself and just become this mom-bot, completly letting myself go, and never being intimate again. I've tried to reassure him that that's not me, I dont think he's convinced.
Our newer set of friends have 2 girls that are just darling, so maybe I can point out all thier little cute moments when they're around. (already started actually).
Reverse phycology would not work with him. As soon as I would say the words "nope don't want em" He'd table that conversation and we would be on along with our childless life forever, lol. Thing is, I want to get one on the ground fairly soonish. Like in the next 1-2 years. Mostly because I don't want to be 60 when they move out, and also the older I get the higher risk of complications. Just not sure how to approach that conversation. Without blurting out " Oh hey, BTW I wanna quit my BC in a few months, Whadya think?" in the middle of dinner.
If he's worried you'll lose yourself, the simple solution is him stepping up. Much easier for mum to feel up for it when she's had a little time for herself!
As for BC, I think you've got to be blatant as being subtle is too close to being sly for such an important thing. Why is it such a shocker that the one who wants to avoid pregnancy should be the one to take responsibility for BC? But really, you want everyone to be happy. Have you told him just how important this is? It would be an utter deal breaker for me - and I told my husband as much!
Well if I do decide to go off the bc, I would most certainly make a clear announcement as such. We decided kids some day when we got married. But we wanted to wait. He eventually morphed into kids never. Talked to too many *kitten* dads telling him what little life ruiners they are, I think.
I've told him up front children were very important to me. But since I'm dealing with a mid marriage mind change with someone who is perfect in all other areas... makes things a bit more complicated... I just hope I can gently nudge him my way without pushing him into something he doesn't want, and resenting me for it. Blegh.2
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