Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
You don't have to defend yourself. I chose not to do one this time because I have a lot of kids ( and I kept a lot of stuff) plus I'm pretty old so all my friends have stopped having kids and gave me all their old baby stuff. But if your friends offered and you want to do it then just ignore people with ridiculous opinions. I hope you had fun!
It's not an opinion, it is a basic social rule in the United States. Showers are meant to welcome a woman to motherhood, not to be an infinite gift-grab for someone who doesn't want to fund their own baby supplies. For subsequent babies, people will give gifts if they want to, but trying to create a social obligation for that to happen is very tacky.
Look it up in any etiquette book.0 -
+1 I'm curious to what this is!
Star Wars: The Force Awakens Official Teaser #2
I have to admit I will never understand the Star Wars craze.
What is this craze you speak of? I don't think you're using the right word. Culture. Star Wars Culture is what you mean.0 -
slimzandra wrote: »Speaking of showers. Every time my BF stays over he uses my shampoo, soap, deodorant and my toothpaste. Frankly, I don't like it for a number of reasons. We've talked about it, but he thinks I'm petty. Yesterday, I asked him where his stuff was, he said in his gym bag at work. Today, I hid the deodorant, when he asked where it was, I said, "It's gone".
Oh, I'm judging this! Men should NOT wear women's deodorant.
Reminds me of the commercial where he's washing up with her feminine wash. LOL Then he does all this manly stuff later after she told him it's feminine wash.0 -
I have a (please don't judge me) question about hard boiled eggs.
Do you use a 'hard boiled egg' (say usda or whatever entry) for your hard boiled egg (weighing it of course) or do you just use a raw entry for the eggs you buy? I buy large eggs that say 70 calories per egg, but with the hard boiled listing it's now 78 calories.
So water adds 8 calories?! That seems unfair and faintly reminds me of another thread on this site.
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Speaking of super slow jogging pace... I confess that a few days ago, when I was "running", I was passed by someone who was walking. I made a comment to her about being slow, and she excused it by saying that she just has long legs. Ok, they were long, but still... she was walking. And I was "running". Ugh.
I'm a speed walker and pass joggers on the track. Everyone has their own pace and their own gait. Nothing wrong with it! Just keep doing what you're doing.
I got over this pretty quick. I work on a college campus, in the athletics department...I had long distance runners passing me at least 3 times for every lap I did. I'm up to a 9:15 min/mile and I still feel slow next to them.0 -
spacequiztime wrote: »
What is stopping either one of you? Have a party - throw it yourselves, wear whatever dress you want and have a fantastic cake! All these rules and traditions sometimes need to be disregarded. A celebration is a celebration, no matter what it is called.0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
You don't have to defend yourself. I chose not to do one this time because I have a lot of kids ( and I kept a lot of stuff) plus I'm pretty old so all my friends have stopped having kids and gave me all their old baby stuff. But if your friends offered and you want to do it then just ignore people with ridiculous opinions. I hope you had fun!
It's not an opinion, it is a basic social rule in the United States. Showers are meant to welcome a woman to motherhood, not to be an infinite gift-grab for someone who doesn't want to fund their own baby supplies. For subsequent babies, people will give gifts if they want to, but trying to create a social obligation for that to happen is very tacky.
Look it up in any etiquette book.
I think if anyone needs an etiquette book, it's you. And it is an opinion.-1 -
I have a (please don't judge me) question about hard boiled eggs.
Do you use a 'hard boiled egg' (say usda or whatever entry) for your hard boiled egg (weighing it of course) or do you just use a raw entry for the eggs you buy? I buy large eggs that say 70 calories per egg, but with the hard boiled listing it's now 78 calories.
So water adds 8 calories?! That seems unfair and faintly reminds me of another thread on this site.
I really didn't know which one to use! I figured too that cooking it didn't actually add calories but there were hard boiled egg listings so I was like well ...
What's the other thread, worth reading?0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
In terms of etiquette, the only thing worse than having a shower for a second baby is throwing your own shower or having a relative throw one for you.
Major faux pas.
I agree that people shouldn't be planning their own showers.
But why can't relatives? And if someone is throwing a person a second shower, are they just supposed to say "no"?
ETA: I'm not asking to be snarky or rude, I'm genuinely curious as to how it is bad etiquette to have family throw a shower.0 -
I feel like a loser because I don't ever really have any GOOD confessions for this oh, so worthy thread, but here goes.
Confession 1: I packed an awesome lunch today and wanted to devour it before 11 this morning. I don't take lunch until 1. I managed to make it until noon, but now I'm sad because my food is over. I often get sad when my food is over.
Confession 2: I totally had Dr. Pepper last night with my Auntie Anne's pretzel bites and didn't log it. Oops.
My youngest (8) has a bad habit of taking bites out of her lunch why she packs it. The school policy is no junk food (crisps/chips, chocolate, cookies/biscuits) so it's not like it's something sweet. Came down stairs yesterday and she had half her sandwich gone. This was after her breakfast.
Errrrr, what?! How is that even enforced and why? I'm all for encouraging healthy habits, but this seems a bit extreme.0 -
I can eat an entire Box of cereal so I can't have cereal in the house! Not proud of that at all, self control where are u?
@hschnirel I can relate! I can't and usually don't keep the sugary yummy cereals in the house. The most risque one I have now is Honey Nut Cheerios AND that I could put a world of hurtin' on... lol
Marshmallow Fruit Loops. I can eat a box of those in a day.... Mmmmmmm0 -
shannonbun wrote: »I hope I'm not the only one who deals with this, but I've gotten more uncomfortable with my body since losing weight. I'm losing from my boobs the most, so my shape has changed and I'm disproportionate and it feels so weird. Like, I'm losing weight, isn't that meant to boost my self-image? It's tiring, to say the least.
You're def not the only one. My thighs are getting smaller, but my stomach is still blech, and it makes me feel like I look even fatter.0 -
I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Lol!
I never had a baby shower. I guess to be fair, we adopted our twins, and we had no match or anything and pretty much got a call saying 'congratulations, you have twins'. So my husband's coworkers gave us $100 and my brother in law gave us a couple clothes. I had no friends to throw a shower anyway, but still, I did feel a bit cheated from the experience (don't get me wrong, I actually don't really like the idea of baby showers and the silly games but it's the principle of the thing).
And while we were waiting for a match and I was starting to buy things when I found a good deal, the only comment we got was 'are you not getting ahead of yourselves?'. I mean yeah, we waited 2 years, but it was nice to have the stuff ready (even though it turned out it would have been easier to wait as I had a useless single stroller and had to buy another crib anyway). But the whole 'welcoming the baby' thing was pretty much robbed from us.
Cliff notes - I might be jealous of women who get a baby shower.
This is how I feel about not having had a wedding. I didn't have a beautiful wedding dress, no flower girl, ring bearer, bridesmaids, no groom in a tux, and saddest of all...NO CAKE!!! My husband was going to try and put together a renewal ceremony for our 15th (June 30th of this year) but I just don't think there's going to time. And now that we're going to be grandparents, I can't really justify spending that money on those things.
Edited to add: I just really want to eat cake and wear a pretty dress.
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I apparently missed out on the rule book for baby showers...
My two siblings and I put together my sisters baby shower. Granted I actually organized the entire thing and they just helped pay for it, but it was pretty awesome. I made practical gift baskets -- makeup, candy, at home spa supplies, cozy socks, etc. and the girls were actually fighting to win the games so they could win a basket.
I also helped organize her second baby shower after she lost her first child. And she was ecstatic that her friends would come together and share in her joy of the second child. I was happy I could give her another party worth remembering that wasn't followed up by heartache. So screw your rule book.
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I feel like a loser because I don't ever really have any GOOD confessions for this oh, so worthy thread, but here goes.
Confession 1: I packed an awesome lunch today and wanted to devour it before 11 this morning. I don't take lunch until 1. I managed to make it until noon, but now I'm sad because my food is over. I often get sad when my food is over.
Confession 2: I totally had Dr. Pepper last night with my Auntie Anne's pretzel bites and didn't log it. Oops.
My youngest (8) has a bad habit of taking bites out of her lunch why she packs it. The school policy is no junk food (crisps/chips, chocolate, cookies/biscuits) so it's not like it's something sweet. Came down stairs yesterday and she had half her sandwich gone. This was after her breakfast.
Errrrr, what?! How is that even enforced and why? I'm all for encouraging healthy habits, but this seems a bit extreme.
I don't have kids but it bothers me that schools try to dictate what parents can and can't feed their children. I get the "peanut free" for allergies, but if someone wants to include a few chips in their child's lunch, they should be able to do that.0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
In terms of etiquette, the only thing worse than having a shower for a second baby is throwing your own shower or having a relative throw one for you.
Major faux pas.
I agree that people shouldn't be planning their own showers.
But why can't relatives? And if someone is throwing a person a second shower, are they just supposed to say "no"?
Because showers are gift grabs. Having close relatives ask for gifts on your behalf is crass.0 -
spacequiztime wrote: »
What is stopping either one of you? Have a party - throw it yourselves, wear whatever dress you want and have a fantastic cake! All these rules and traditions sometimes need to be disregarded. A celebration is a celebration, no matter what it is called.
Money, mostly.0 -
fitfatty88 wrote: »I apparently missed out on the rule book for baby showers...
My two siblings and I put together my sisters baby shower. Granted I actually organized the entire thing and they just helped pay for it, but it was pretty awesome. I made practical gift baskets -- makeup, candy, at home spa supplies, cozy socks, etc. and the girls were actually fighting to win the games so they could win a basket.
I also helped organize her second baby shower after she lost her first child. And she was ecstatic that her friends would come together and share in her joy of the second child. I was happy I could give her another party worth remembering that wasn't followed up by heartache. So screw your rule book.
That's really lovely. I'm sorry for her loss, I can't imagine.0 -
Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
You don't have to defend yourself. I chose not to do one this time because I have a lot of kids ( and I kept a lot of stuff) plus I'm pretty old so all my friends have stopped having kids and gave me all their old baby stuff. But if your friends offered and you want to do it then just ignore people with ridiculous opinions. I hope you had fun!
It's not an opinion, it is a basic social rule in the United States. Showers are meant to welcome a woman to motherhood, not to be an infinite gift-grab for someone who doesn't want to fund their own baby supplies. For subsequent babies, people will give gifts if they want to, but trying to create a social obligation for that to happen is very tacky.
Look it up in any etiquette book.
I think if anyone needs an etiquette book, it's you. And it is an opinion.
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fitfatty88 wrote: »I apparently missed out on the rule book for baby showers...
My two siblings and I put together my sisters baby shower. Granted I actually organized the entire thing and they just helped pay for it, but it was pretty awesome. I made practical gift baskets -- makeup, candy, at home spa supplies, cozy socks, etc. and the girls were actually fighting to win the games so they could win a basket.
I also helped organize her second baby shower after she lost her first child. And she was ecstatic that her friends would come together and share in her joy of the second child. I was happy I could give her another party worth remembering that wasn't followed up by heartache. So screw your rule book.
That's really lovely.
Thank you. But now she's due with another kid in about a month and I told her she's on her own . Although I did buy stuff for him already...maybe that other poster had a point about who was the best Aunt. 0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
In terms of etiquette, the only thing worse than having a shower for a second baby is throwing your own shower or having a relative throw one for you.
Major faux pas.
I agree that people shouldn't be planning their own showers.
But why can't relatives? And if someone is throwing a person a second shower, are they just supposed to say "no"?
Because showers are gift grabs. Having close relatives ask for gifts on your behalf is crass.
Okay, I don't like to argue, but let's just stop. There's no reason to insult people just because you don't approve of their actions.0 -
Gender reveal parties are also awkward for me. I went to one for cousin and his wife last year and I was so bored because a lot of their friends were there and I didn't know anyone. lol Plus, I'm 24 and they're in their 30s with kids and careers, so we had basically nothing in common.
I was so mad when my aunt posted a picture to Facebook of my cousin revealing the pink cupcake for a girl with me in the background at the party looking pissed off. It's like, "You couldn't have cropped me out??" lol I hate that picture so much.0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
In terms of etiquette, the only thing worse than having a shower for a second baby is throwing your own shower or having a relative throw one for you.
Major faux pas.
I agree that people shouldn't be planning their own showers.
But why can't relatives? And if someone is throwing a person a second shower, are they just supposed to say "no"?
Because showers are gift grabs. Having close relatives ask for gifts on your behalf is crass.
Hmm, okay well I have to disagree on the family thing. I guess I don't see it as any different than a close friend asking for gifts on your behalf.
Just my opinion though
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The only way I could get my first dog to take pills was to break them into smaller pieces and mix them in crunchy peanut butter. She LOVED peanut butter and couldn't separate the peanut chunks from the pill so it all went down
Peanut butter is my solution for the dog as well! Once you get it onto his tongue he can't spit it back out even if he wants too. I recently had to give our cat pills for a couple of days because he had a gnarly ear infection - our vet suggested covering them in cream cheese, and the cat LOVED it. Now he begs for cream cheese whenever the refrigerator is open.
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Gender reveal parties are also awkward for me. I went to one for cousin and his wife last year and I was so bored because a lot of their friends were there and I didn't know anyone. lol Plus, I'm 24 and they're in their 30s with kids and careers, so we had basically nothing in common.
I was so mad when my aunt posted a picture to Facebook of my cousin revealing the pink cupcake for a girl with me in the background at the party looking pissed off. It's like, "You couldn't have cropped me out??" lol I hate that picture so much.
This thread introduced me to the gender reveal party. I had never heard of that before.
When I had my kids, I wanted to be surprised.0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
No you don't. Emily Post approves of showers for every baby, it's only a recent thing for people to take issue with them. It makes more sense to have them, anyway. These days, it's not safe to recycle things like car seats and strollers, and the only way you can reuse the baby clothes is if you have the same gender born in the same 1-2 month timeframe as the first one, or you'll be stuck trying to dress a girl in long sleeved sweaters covered in dump trucks in August.0 -
This would make an awesome siggy.kellienw335 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I also dislike baby showers. Where you all sit there and ohh and ahh over clothes that will just be puked on anyhow.
ps I have no kids, shocker right?
Next time try paying more attention to the politics behind it, you'll have more fun. The baby shower isn't about the baby, so much as it's a competition between grandmothers to see who can outdo the other. Bonus if you have a competitive aunt-to-be or two in the mix. Who spent the most, who got the best reaction to their gift, who didn't show/left early/got there late. If the grandma's don't like each other, or one or both doesn't like the other one's kid, you can play passive-aggressive comment bingo. If there are step-grandma's involved, it may be even more entertaining, especially if the step-grandma is the more responsible or involved than the bio grandma.
Oh, yes, you are so right! I AM the step-grandma and I'm by choice the LEAST involved. The other 2 grandmas are in constant competition. I find it highly amusing. At my step-daugther's baby shower for her 2nd baby I gave her three free professional house-cleaning sessions. Needless to say, I WON that shower! I got the best reaction from that gift and I took a smug satisfaction in it. (big confession there because I'm not normally like that; lots of issues and family dynamics involved)
Baby showers for second babies are a huge pet peeve of mine
I have several friends that have had one, I have never attended a single one
Feel like I have to defend myself here, and I don't even know why. I had a shower for my second, my kids are almost six years apart first one is a boy and the second is a girl. I had given most of our baby stuff away to friends, and I needed supplies. My friends offered and I wasn't going to say no.
No you don't. Emily Post approves of showers for every baby, it's only a recent thing for people to take issue with them. It makes more sense to have them, anyway. These days, it's not safe to recycle things like car seats and strollers, and the only way you can reuse the baby clothes is if you have the same gender born in the same 1-2 month timeframe as the first one, or you'll be stuck trying to dress a girl in long sleeved sweaters covered in dump trucks in August.
^ Then again only a few of us on this thread would know what the heck it meant.0 -
Gender reveal parties are also awkward for me. I went to one for cousin and his wife last year and I was so bored because a lot of their friends were there and I didn't know anyone. lol Plus, I'm 24 and they're in their 30s with kids and careers, so we had basically nothing in common.
I was so mad when my aunt posted a picture to Facebook of my cousin revealing the pink cupcake for a girl with me in the background at the party looking pissed off. It's like, "You couldn't have cropped me out??" lol I hate that picture so much.
Sorry for both reasons: that they have you in the picture and that you had to attend one of those things! Hate those parties, too.0 -
Gender reveal parties are also awkward for me. I went to one for cousin and his wife last year and I was so bored because a lot of their friends were there and I didn't know anyone. lol Plus, I'm 24 and they're in their 30s with kids and careers, so we had basically nothing in common.
I was so mad when my aunt posted a picture to Facebook of my cousin revealing the pink cupcake for a girl with me in the background at the party looking pissed off. It's like, "You couldn't have cropped me out??" lol I hate that picture so much.
Sorry for both reasons: that they have you in the picture and that you had to attend one of those things! Hate those parties, too.
I've never been to one. Ideally, I'll keep it that way.0 -
I don't understand having a baby shower before you've given birth...0
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