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What's YOUR weakness when it comes to the opposite gender?

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  • r3d_butt3rfly_r3d_butt3rfly_ Posts: 408Member Member Posts: 408Member Member
    A man who can love hard. Also, his skills in the kitchen 😏
  • Vikka_VVikka_V Posts: 7,634Member Member Posts: 7,634Member Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    Gives backhanded compliments
    <3 <3

    Also known as negging. Some people are pros at it

    I had never heard of this before. Made me google.

    So weird to be mean to someone you like. I can’t imagine how it could work but if it does, it seems manipulative- which also isn’t nice to do to someone you like.

    Gosh, I feel like an overly sensitive dummy not fit for the modern world.

    It is supposed to be manipulative. Typically when you negg, someone with low self esteem will feel the need to get your approval.

    Lol, to me its flirtatious!
    To me its like a 'teasing'
    (him...'meh, you're ok'... (my interpretation "you're awesome, but I don't wan't to say it 'cause....(many blanks to possibly fill in, all good))"

    But I sometimes (or often) don't 'read' stuff quite right, it seems (compared to other people) and my self esteem is decent
    ...even when I hate myself.

    Wonder...Is that that good or not? That Im so self involved that only my opinion of self really matters to me?

    I don’t read things right either but the other direction. I just assume everyone hates me unless they tell me differently in very direct words. Even then I’m skeptical.

    Hugs lady❤️
    Similar topic...
    Posted my life changing "words of wisdom" somewhere else yesterday given to me by a 14 year old girl which changed my perspective on stuff like that, I used to be the same.
    She said "it's not all about you" when I was hurt one day by a person's reaction/comment to me...I've since stretched that to every comment and behaviour anyone ever makes twords me...like who knows what's going on in their life/mind?

    I'm confidant in my own good intentions, so I just go with that and when I have hurt feelings, I think of that.

    Oh and also, what do you think of this....had an ex tell me "I don't hurt your feelings, you do"...like it was my interpretation, not his intention...that *kitten* my brain over a bit
    ...so it's all my fault? If I get hurt?
    Is it?
  • Vikka_VVikka_V Posts: 7,634Member Member Posts: 7,634Member Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    Gives backhanded compliments
    <3 <3

    Also known as negging. Some people are pros at it

    I had never heard of this before. Made me google.

    So weird to be mean to someone you like. I can’t imagine how it could work but if it does, it seems manipulative- which also isn’t nice to do to someone you like.

    Gosh, I feel like an overly sensitive dummy not fit for the modern world.

    It is supposed to be manipulative. Typically when you negg, someone with low self esteem will feel the need to get your approval.

    Lol, to me its flirtatious!
    To me its like a 'teasing'
    (him...'meh, you're ok'... (my interpretation "you're awesome, but I don't wan't to say it 'cause....(many blanks to possibly fill in, all good))"

    But I sometimes (or often) don't 'read' stuff quite right, it seems (compared to other people) and my self esteem is decent
    ...even when I hate myself.

    Wonder...Is that that good or not? That Im so self involved that only my opinion of self really matters to me?

    I don’t read things right either but the other direction. I just assume everyone hates me unless they tell me differently in very direct words. Even then I’m skeptical.

    Sometimes I can get this way as well. I think it’s because I’ve been hurt too many times by people I truly trusted, that now I find it hard to fully trust anyone.
    Same, been ditched by all my friends once, and some family

    Backhanded comments are extremely sexy to me when done with the right intent behind the behaviour.
    Yessss! When you know the person and their humour!

  • Vikka_VVikka_V Posts: 7,634Member Member Posts: 7,634Member Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    Gives backhanded compliments
    <3 <3

    Also known as negging. Some people are pros at it

    I had never heard of this before. Made me google.

    So weird to be mean to someone you like. I can’t imagine how it could work but if it does, it seems manipulative- which also isn’t nice to do to someone you like.

    Gosh, I feel like an overly sensitive dummy not fit for the modern world.

    It is supposed to be manipulative. Typically when you negg, someone with low self esteem will feel the need to get your approval.

    You are BTG : better than google. 😁 Thanks.

    And wow that is *kitten* up.

    ETA: question: can it be done online? And what would that look like?

    100,000% (is that a thing?)!

    And if you have any grammar/spelling/literary or just common sense question you want to get a great opinion on, @DeadliftsAndSprinkles is an excellent resource!
    edited February 23
  • Vikka_VVikka_V Posts: 7,634Member Member Posts: 7,634Member Member
    I like words too. A lot. I love dictionaries. When I'm reading a book and don't know a word, I have to stop and look it up otherwise I obsess over it.

    When people talk to me I sometimes look the words up in the dictionary, to get all the possible meanings!

    I often like to take my "favorable" interpretation of the words, instead of persuing it sometimes...'cause I don't want to be hurt or dissapointeted
    eta..
    I don't ask questions I don't want the (possibly upsetting) answer to
    edited February 23
  • Vikka_VVikka_V Posts: 7,634Member Member Posts: 7,634Member Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I like words too. A lot. I love dictionaries. When I'm reading a book and don't know a word, I have to stop and look it up otherwise I obsess over it.

    When people talk to me I sometimes look the words up in the dictionary, to get all the possible meanings!

    I often like to take my "favorable" interpretation of the words, instead of persuing it sometimes...'cause I don't want to be hurt or dissapointeted
    eta..
    I don't ask questions I don't want the (possibly upsetting) answer to

    Funny, I tell people not to ask questions of me unless they want the answer

    Haha!
    I'm known to be blunt, and literal too!
    And I cannot lie (makes me feel bad, so I don't)
    Words, right!

    Probably why I don't push others for clarification, I'm sensitive and don't want to be hurt, so I just interpret words to best suit me (is that denial?, lol, now that I type it out!)
  • Vikka_VVikka_V Posts: 7,634Member Member Posts: 7,634Member Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    Gives backhanded compliments
    <3 <3

    Also known as negging. Some people are pros at it

    I had never heard of this before. Made me google.

    So weird to be mean to someone you like. I can’t imagine how it could work but if it does, it seems manipulative- which also isn’t nice to do to someone you like.

    Gosh, I feel like an overly sensitive dummy not fit for the modern world.

    It is supposed to be manipulative. Typically when you negg, someone with low self esteem will feel the need to get your approval.

    Lol, to me its flirtatious!
    To me its like a 'teasing'
    (him...'meh, you're ok'... (my interpretation "you're awesome, but I don't wan't to say it 'cause....(many blanks to possibly fill in, all good))"

    But I sometimes (or often) don't 'read' stuff quite right, it seems (compared to other people) and my self esteem is decent
    ...even when I hate myself.

    Wonder...Is that that good or not? That Im so self involved that only my opinion of self really matters to me?

    I don’t read things right either but the other direction. I just assume everyone hates me unless they tell me differently in very direct words. Even then I’m skeptical.

    Hugs lady❤️
    Similar topic...
    Posted my life changing "words of wisdom" somewhere else yesterday given to me by a 14 year old girl which changed my perspective on stuff like that, I used to be the same.
    She said "it's not all about you" when I was hurt one day by a person's reaction/comment to me...I've since stretched that to every comment and behaviour anyone ever makes twords me...like who knows what's going on in their life/mind?

    I'm confidant in my own good intentions, so I just go with that and when I have hurt feelings, I think of that.

    Oh and also, what do you think of this....had an ex tell me "I don't hurt your feelings, you do"...like it was my interpretation, not his intention...that *kitten* my brain over a bit
    ...so it's all my fault? If I get hurt?
    Is it?

    I like the way you think.

    there’s something to this but i think I’d go more neutral. I have no idea if ambiguous words are meant kindly or cruelly so there’s no point in assigning any emotion to them at all.

    Except

    I like words. I REALLY like words. I love words. Playing with them, reading them, listening to them. They have the power to affect me deeply. And they do have meaning even if I don’t always get it. There are so many shades of meaning and I know I don’t get them all. And when I learn that people sometimes intentionally obscure their meanings... messes with my head a little

    Before someone makes the mistake of telling me I need to be different: I like being sensitive. I wouldn’t want to thicken my skin or harden my heart. I don’t see why I should be the one to change. But I do wish for greater understanding on my part and greater clarity from some others
    .
    I love this statement, opinion...I should post it in the quotes thread, as one I love and want to remember!
    <3:heart::heart:
    edited February 23
  • Vikka_VVikka_V Posts: 7,634Member Member Posts: 7,634Member Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    Gives backhanded compliments
    <3 <3

    Also known as negging. Some people are pros at it

    I had never heard of this before. Made me google.

    So weird to be mean to someone you like. I can’t imagine how it could work but if it does, it seems manipulative- which also isn’t nice to do to someone you like.

    Gosh, I feel like an overly sensitive dummy not fit for the modern world.

    It is supposed to be manipulative. Typically when you negg, someone with low self esteem will feel the need to get your approval.

    Lol, to me its flirtatious!
    To me its like a 'teasing'
    (him...'meh, you're ok'... (my interpretation "you're awesome, but I don't wan't to say it 'cause....(many blanks to possibly fill in, all good))"

    But I sometimes (or often) don't 'read' stuff quite right, it seems (compared to other people) and my self esteem is decent
    ...even when I hate myself.

    Wonder...Is that that good or not? That Im so self involved that only my opinion of self really matters to me?

    I don’t read things right either but the other direction. I just assume everyone hates me unless they tell me differently in very direct words. Even then I’m skeptical.

    I don't hate you.

    I’m skeptical.

    I guess I'm gonna have to start hugging your posts too

    If you dont start hugging my posts, I'm gonna start 'insightful'-ing yours!
  • sbbeachbumsbbeachbum Posts: 8Member Member Posts: 8Member Member
    sbbeachbum wrote: »
    Condescending sarcasm

    🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 dead.

    What do you think you're laughing at? 😏

    BAhahahahaaaaa!!! I can't
  • Den_of_IniquityDen_of_Iniquity Posts: 424Member Member Posts: 424Member Member
    Purple dresses with high heels
  • Den_of_IniquityDen_of_Iniquity Posts: 424Member Member Posts: 424Member Member
    Purple dresses with high heels

    You too?

    Just dont ask me to wear them again.
  • JustSomeJDJustSomeJD Posts: 328Member Member Posts: 328Member Member
    Don't pretend you didn't enjoy it the last time.
  • Reckoner67Reckoner67 Posts: 3,176Member Member Posts: 3,176Member Member
    Cages that fill with water from the bottom and hornets from the top
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