People that try to deter you
hollyrayburn
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we have them all around. "Have a piece of my birthday cake. Birthday calories don't count!" "You'll hurt my feelings if you don't have some of my going away cookie!" "If you only knew how hard I worked to make this!" "It's only a few calories, it wont kill you!" "Did you seriously just weigh those berries. You've become obsessive. Live a little!"
If you say I'm gonna hurt your feelings, I tell you to be sad. If you say you slaved in the kitchen, I remind you I didn't ask you to. Oh, and those birthday calories that "don't count?" Im saving them for a GOOD homemade cake, not some nasty frozen cake from Kroger.
How do YOU respond to these comments from people that seem to try to get you to fall off the wagon , or don't have respect for the healthier changes you've made in life?
If you say I'm gonna hurt your feelings, I tell you to be sad. If you say you slaved in the kitchen, I remind you I didn't ask you to. Oh, and those birthday calories that "don't count?" Im saving them for a GOOD homemade cake, not some nasty frozen cake from Kroger.
How do YOU respond to these comments from people that seem to try to get you to fall off the wagon , or don't have respect for the healthier changes you've made in life?
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I have no troubles like that. Maybe it is you throwing your diet in their faces.0
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We all live with noise and it just depends on how you let it effect your life. Personally, I don't have a problem supporting my own decisions, after all it's me that is responsible for my actions.0
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No. I don't do that. When I am offered something I cannot fit into my day, I say "No" or "I can't have it today, sorry!"
And for the record, I'm not on a diet.
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neanderthin wrote: »We all live with noise and it just depends on how you let it effect your life. Personally, I don't have a problem supporting my own decisions, after all it's me that is responsible for my actions.
Oh, I have no problem supporting my own decisions. Was just wondering if any of you wanna scream "shut the [bleep] up!" at some people sometimes. Haha!
It can get rather annoying explaining to a coworker that while you KNOW going a few hundred over isn't gonna kill you, you prefer not to0 -
I just say "no thank you." Unless, of course, it some fantastic, homemade, gonna hurt someone's feelings food, then I would have some. Then tomorrow I would eat a little less or add little more exercise just to even it out for the week. This is your new lifestyle, you can't say no for the rest of your life.0
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I've never actually used it, because no one who I've wanted to absolutely crush has ever said anything like that to me, but you could always go for the throat and say "if I wanted to look like you, I'd eat like you." *blows smoking barrel*0
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I would never say that out loud but I need to work on thinking it in my head. I work with people who eat donuts cake and pizza all the time and bring it in for everyone in the room... It's a nightmare there it is right in front of me all day! It's bad news but if I think what you said in my head I am sure I can start being firmer...it's SO NOT WORTH IT!AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »I've never actually used it, because no one who I've wanted to absolutely crush has ever said anything like that to me, but you could always go for the throat and say "if I wanted to look like you, I'd eat like you." *blows smoking barrel*
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This is one of the reasons I use the 7 day average for calories and not daily. Even monthly if there are more than I'd like of events or special days. I try to be +/- 500 calories for the week.0
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queenliz99 wrote: »I just say "no thank you." Unless, of course, it some fantastic, homemade, gonna hurt someone's feelings food, then I would have some. Then tomorrow I would eat a little less or add little more exercise just to even it out for the week. This is your new lifestyle, you can't say no for the rest of your life.
Well, I do have what I want, when I want, providing it's in the range of my calorie goals.
When a coworker comes in with chicken and dumplings for the department unannounced, it's not my responsibility to appease them.
Another example would be someone who is very active and healthy telling an overweight diabetic that it "makes them sad" to see that person eating a huge slice of cake that they shouldn't have.
I do have a great support system in my life. My boyfriend, close friends, and family are proud of the progress I've made. But there is always someone in EVERYONES life that will be the Negative Nancy.
Honestly, I'm tired of being judged for not putting in on the random pizza lunch I don't intend to eat, ya know?
If I made a coworker a salad, and said it would make me sad if s/he didn't eat it, would it be any different?0 -
prattiger65 wrote: »This is one of the reasons I use the 7 day average for calories and not daily. Even monthly if there are more than I'd like of events or special days. I try to be +/- 500 calories for the week.
I look more on the week in general too. Example, I'll go over this weekend; I have a super sappy sweet weekend planned for the beau for Valentine's Day, and of course it'll involve food, lol. That's a special occasion. A special occasion isn't dominoes at the office in a Tuesday.AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »I work with people who eat donuts cake and pizza all the time and bring it in for everyone in the room... It's a nightmare there it is right in front of me all day! It's bad news but if I think what you said in my head I am sure I can start being firmer...it's SO NOT WORTH IT!
It isn't worth it to me, either. (Unless it's a maple donut from this awesome local hole in the wall bakery. Then I'm done! LolAllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »I've never actually used it, because no one who I've wanted to absolutely crush has ever said anything like that to me, but you could always go for the throat and say "if I wanted to look like you, I'd eat like you." *blows smoking barrel*
I think we've all thought it. Haha.0 -
We have a co-worker that won't stfu about organic this and grain fed that, and always going on about the hfcs in everything and her work outs at the gym. I want to punch her in the teeth, tbh. We purposely eat pizza and bring in cupcakes to annoy her 0
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We have a co-worker that won't stfu about organic this and grain fed that, and always going on about the hfcs in everything and her work outs at the gym. I want to punch her in the teeth, tbh. We purposely eat pizza and bring in cupcakes to annoy her
Haha the hubster has a pseudo-vegan workmate who goes on and on and on about how vegan is the way, but has a sweet tooth that overrides her ethics. I always get a smug sense of satisfaction when I send in something yummy and full of butter, cream and eggs, and she caves and eats some.0 -
We have a co-worker that won't stfu about organic this and grain fed that, and always going on about the hfcs in everything and her work outs at the gym. I want to punch her in the teeth, tbh. We purposely eat pizza and bring in cupcakes to annoy her
Lol! Too funny. I don't think it's right to imply to anyone that their lifestyle choices aren't right. Me, personally, I believe a gluten free diet is pointless unless you have celiac allergies. And I don't buy organic crap, as 75 cents for a bell pepper makes me happier than 3 bucks for one.
I mainly have one coworker that is bad about telling me to live it up, or to stop being methodical in my logging. I might just mention how many calories she consumes when she sits there and eats that 5th oatmeal cream pie. (I'm kidding, I really won't. As I said earlier, that's their life choice!)0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »We have a co-worker that won't stfu about organic this and grain fed that, and always going on about the hfcs in everything and her work outs at the gym. I want to punch her in the teeth, tbh. We purposely eat pizza and bring in cupcakes to annoy her
Haha the hubster has a pseudo-vegan workmate who goes on and on and on about how vegan is the way, but has a sweet tooth that overrides her ethics. I always get a smug sense of satisfaction when I send in something yummy and full of butter, cream and eggs, and she caves and eats some.
Haha I think I love you!!
And all you animal rights vegetarians: you eat all the animals food. How CRUEL!!
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Easy. "sorry, I'm diabetic. doctor's orders."0
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Alatariel75 wrote: »We have a co-worker that won't stfu about organic this and grain fed that, and always going on about the hfcs in everything and her work outs at the gym. I want to punch her in the teeth, tbh. We purposely eat pizza and bring in cupcakes to annoy her
Haha the hubster has a pseudo-vegan workmate who goes on and on and on about how vegan is the way, but has a sweet tooth that overrides her ethics. I always get a smug sense of satisfaction when I send in something yummy and full of butter, cream and eggs, and she caves and eats some.
Serves her right. Lol.0 -
All I can say is just don't let anyone mess you up.0
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Grumpy Cat! 0 -
AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »I've never actually used it, because no one who I've wanted to absolutely crush has ever said anything like that to me, but you could always go for the throat and say "if I wanted to look like you, I'd eat like you." *blows smoking barrel*
Wow, hardcore. I like it.
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We have a co-worker that won't stfu about organic this and grain fed that, and always going on about the hfcs in everything and her work outs at the gym. I want to punch her in the teeth, tbh. We purposely eat pizza and bring in cupcakes to annoy her
Okay, you made me laugh. I know a couple of people who do the same thing and it gets old very quickly.
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The only person who does this to me is my Mother-in-law, yet she is the first person to gossip about overweight people.
This is how I handled her the last time she INSISTED that I'd be rude if I didn't have a piece of her cake. So I said, "okay I'll have a piece" and she placed a huge piece of cake on my plate, whereupon I promptly smashed and stirred it until it was disgusting and unrecognisable.
She was was livid and let me know that I had just wasted a perfectly good piece of cake - until I reminded her that SHE wasted the cake since I'd told her three times I didn't want it.
Now she never insists that I take any food AND every time she starts describing people as "FAT" I get up and leave the room.
When she asked my husband why I always did that, he told her I was sick of her "FAT" comments about people... she hasn't called anyone fat within earshot of me since then either.
BTW - she is no skinny-mini so has no room to talk about anyone's weight.0 -
I've only had 2 that fall into that category.
Christmas of 2013, someone who knew I was starting to try to lose weight gave me a case (I think it's 36 bars?) of Twix. I think I may have had 12 of them by now? Have to go count. If I want one, I have one, but I rarely want one. They just sit there. Maybe next Halloween I'll turn on my porch light & give them away.
He's now my sometime exercise partner, and comments on how much more weight I've lost than him. At which point I remind him that I'm eating less than he does and exercising more (I also started out much heavier, though we're almost exactly the same height).
Sometime in January I went with a friend to pick up his new car. The dealership provided fresh-baked
and I had a couple. The salesman tried to force another on me, even put it in the hood of my coat! 
After I threw it in the trash, in front of him, I explained that I'd lost 75 lb in the last year, had already had a couple cookies, and was NOT going to have any more. 0 -
To some extent it depends on the person. It's really hard to say no to Mom, so when I'm there visiting I try to eat the best I can, exercise every morning (she gets up later than I do), and before I go I remind her that I don't eat much any more. But mostly I go along with whatever she wants/offers.hollyrayburn wrote:How do YOU respond to these comments from people that seem to try to get you to fall off the wagon , or don't have respect for the healthier changes you've made in life?
Most other people I can say "no, thank you" to until the cows come home. If they get really annoying, I might switch to "which part of NO did you not understand?". And if they ask why I might explain how much weight I've lost, and that what they're offering doesn't fit into my calorie goal for the day.0 -
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Yes most of the time we faced these type of issues, many are saying that please take a one piece of cake or sweet, I think it will better to make some excuses while facing these deter from people and take something else to eat before they give anything sweet.0
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I work with a semi-professional cyclist, an ironman, three triathletes, an ultra-marathon runner, and a large number of fitness freaks. In a society where something like 50% of adults are overweight, I could count us fatties on one hand....out of a staff of 80.
They are so supportive of me, offering advice and help, sharing recipes, even bringing in fresh produce etc it's actually quite touching. 0 -
I constantly get the "Live a little" comment. Irretates the crap out of me.0
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I usually take it. And say I'll eat it a bit later when everyone can be jealous of me.....and then when they look away...it goes into the garbage bin.
Evil I know.0
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