What nobody tells you about losing weight

AlexandraFindsHerself1971

springlering62 wrote: »

My little nephew climbed up in my lap, and asked me why I had sparkles on my arm. I looked and told him I didn’t see any. He was very insistent about my sparkles.

Finally realized he meant wrinkles.

Those darn weight loss wrinkles. I prefer to think of them as sparkles now.

I just sparkle alllllll over.

The silver in my dark hair looks like strands of tinsel. It's kinda cool. Rock on with your sparkles!

thebiblewithtina

What nobody tells you about losing weight? That you'd stop snoring, lol. Seriously.

nitalieben

springlering62 wrote: »

My little nephew climbed up in my lap, and asked me why I had sparkles on my arm. I looked and told him I didn’t see any. He was very insistent about my sparkles.

Finally realized he meant wrinkles.

Those darn weight loss wrinkles. I prefer to think of them as sparkles now.

I just sparkle alllllll over.

This just made my day. I have a belly full of sparkles!

charmmeth

thebiblewithtina wrote: »

What nobody tells you about losing weight? That you'd stop snoring, lol. Seriously.

If only! Sadly it has not had that effect for me. Lucky you! (And lucky your partner.)

nitalieben

charmmeth wrote: »

thebiblewithtina wrote: »

What nobody tells you about losing weight? That you'd stop snoring, lol. Seriously.

If only! Sadly it has not had that effect for me. Lucky you! (And lucky your partner.)

Same. I also still drool like nobody's business.

StarvingDiva

That people are still going to be critical. When you are fat they are critical, when you lose weight they are critical. To not allow other peoples comments to sideline you.

eromligyppah

Clothes are even harder to find. I can't really try anything on a the store still but by how my clothes fit that I have now I need a 28 to 30 ish X 34 and I can't find any to try... Can't taller guys be lean?

solieco1

That the dream weight I wanted so long would just be a stepping stone along the way. And that I'd have the confidence to keep going

solieco1

robynmac5819 wrote: »

CJJONES10 wrote: »

When I haven't quite hit MY goal weight and some (slightly overweight) friends say..........."Don't you think you've lost enough weight now, you looked fine as you were"............

I’ve had relatives do this to me recently, not all of them are over weight tho. I am a little bit less than 10 pounds to my goal and my goal is not even the smallest in my healthy weight range. My mother in law said several things to me, first starting out saying I look as small as I was on my wedding day(I’m not even close). Then went on to say I shouldn’t get any smaller. It comes across pretty damn insulting like I would hurt/starve myself. ...and I really don’t care to hear her comments or what she thinks of my weight/my body. None of it came across supportive, just really rude. My mom just goes on about how skinny I’ve gotten. I certainly have gotten thinner, lost 62 pounds of a 5’2.5” inch body and it’s gonna look pretty drastic. But I am NOT toothpick thin. And it just makes me uncomfortable with on the comments sometimes. Again they have more of a negative inflection.

Really what it comes down to is I AM happy. I feel great. I’m working on the vanity pounds now and starting my strength routine to start toning up, get more flexible,& feel STRONG. I’m gonna keep doing what I’m doing and ignore all the negative people who don’t have a say about my body and health.......unless they are my doctor.

I would respond with, "Thanks. I so appreciate the support. I feel great and I'm so much healthier to live a long happy life." Then, "How's your health? Anything you are working on?" People LOVE to talk about themselves and just answering as if they are acting in a supportive way will confuse and deflect YOU are in control of the narrative.

solieco1

eromligyppah wrote: »

Clothes are even harder to find. I can't really try anything on a the store still but by how my clothes fit that I have now I need a 28 to 30 ish X 34 and I can't find any to try... Can't taller guys be lean?

Hi I have twins who are 6'5 and lean. Online is the answer, some brands carry lengths in good slim cuts online that they do not in store. Banana Republic, GAP, Old Navy, Kohls and Levi's all do for pants. Eddie Bauer has Tall shirts and outerwear in good cuts.

eromligyppah

solieco1 wrote: »

eromligyppah wrote: »

Clothes are even harder to find. I can't really try anything on a the store still but by how my clothes fit that I have now I need a 28 to 30 ish X 34 and I can't find any to try... Can't taller guys be lean?

Hi I have twins who are 6'5 and lean. Online is the answer, some brands carry lengths in good slim cuts online that they do not in store. Banana Republic, GAP, Old Navy, Kohls and Levi's all do for pants. Eddie Bauer has Tall shirts and outerwear in good cuts.

I've tired some but had to return them all. I'm 6'1", but I don't fit in slim fit pants, I have to get relaxed or lose fit to pull over my legs. ( I don't do the skin tight pants). I usually go to Khols but no fitting rooms open and I'm tired of buying and returning stuff, it just gets old. I also attempt to try on all pants since I've bought 2 of the same brand cut and size and they don't fit the same. If only I could wear sweats everyday lol.

nitalieben

eromligyppah wrote: »

solieco1 wrote: »

eromligyppah wrote: »

Clothes are even harder to find. I can't really try anything on a the store still but by how my clothes fit that I have now I need a 28 to 30 ish X 34 and I can't find any to try... Can't taller guys be lean?

Hi I have twins who are 6'5 and lean. Online is the answer, some brands carry lengths in good slim cuts online that they do not in store. Banana Republic, GAP, Old Navy, Kohls and Levi's all do for pants. Eddie Bauer has Tall shirts and outerwear in good cuts.

I've tired some but had to return them all. I'm 6'1", but I don't fit in slim fit pants, I have to get relaxed or lose fit to pull over my legs. ( I don't do the skin tight pants). I usually go to Khols but no fitting rooms open and I'm tired of buying and returning stuff, it just gets old. I also attempt to try on all pants since I've bought 2 of the same brand cut and size and they don't fit the same. If only I could wear sweats everyday lol.

Ugh, I get you! How much tolerance do they allow :laugh: I've had this happen too, same brand, same item, you can even see about 0.5cm difference when you lay them one over the other.

Only I'm not really tall and lean XD

solieco1

eromligyppah wrote: »

solieco1 wrote: »

eromligyppah wrote: »

Clothes are even harder to find. I can't really try anything on a the store still but by how my clothes fit that I have now I need a 28 to 30 ish X 34 and I can't find any to try... Can't taller guys be lean?

Hi I have twins who are 6'5 and lean. Online is the answer, some brands carry lengths in good slim cuts online that they do not in store. Banana Republic, GAP, Old Navy, Kohls and Levi's all do for pants. Eddie Bauer has Tall shirts and outerwear in good cuts.

I've tired some but had to return them all. I'm 6'1", but I don't fit in slim fit pants, I have to get relaxed or lose fit to pull over my legs. ( I don't do the skin tight pants). I usually go to Khols but no fitting rooms open and I'm tired of buying and returning stuff, it just gets old. I also attempt to try on all pants since I've bought 2 of the same brand cut and size and they don't fit the same. If only I could wear sweats everyday lol.

Gap has a new fabric called FLEX fit, my kid with bigger legs fits these well.

WannaBeAnon

lemonsurprise wrote: »

- Sitting (particularly in baths) and laying (particularly in beds) will become ever increasingly uncomfortable.

This is so true, especially if like me, you have a slightly malformed tailbone which was padded by fat, but now isn't anymore. I am actually considering having surgery to fix the malformation, because it has become almost unbearable to sit on anything firmer than a gymnastics-ball or very fluffy pillow.

theflyingerrow

I know its been said before, but weight loss in not linear! While I don't have access to a scale at the moment, in the last week my jeans have gone from fitting to being far too big!

AlexandraFindsHerself1971

I don't know why I'm surprised, but it's no longer comfortable to wear my usual style of underwear. I'm going to have to change. Not that I can't wear thongs for a bit for fun, but I think I'm going to have to go to bikinis or briefs for everyday wear. The shape of my behind has changed, and they don't fit the way they used to. I didn't expect that at all.

StephanieLWS

On the pants fitting post - also try out LLBean and Land's End. I have a son that wears 28-29 x 34. Good quality, free returns, quick service.

boommike503

Less amounts of pain, little things you happily notice aren't bothering you as much anymore, such as acid reflux, or joint pain like in your knees, less hard breathing climbing stairs or moving faster in general. It's the little things.

Maxbert_SA

I'm at that age (over 50) where people you haven't seen in a while ask cautiously when you've lost weight "you're not, umm, you know, umm, sick, are you?". Nah mate, just getting fit and healthy again.

willboywonder

An important thing people don’t often tell you is, the steps you take to lose the weight and become fit are what you need to do to keep off the weight and remain fit. You can’t go back to our old habits or you may quickly lose all the progress you made. Once you reach your goal, don't think it's okay to go back to the unhealthy eating and snacking. You have to plan all the food you eat and stick with your program even after you achieve your goal weight.

EileenL2015

When I stick to tracking ALL food and cut out the goodies, I lost weight and WOW felt much better. Now trying to stick to the exercise and tracking all is a bigger challenge with COVID 19 and being home more.....I can do it and am working hard for success and anxious to get to goal and maintain......Determination and FOCUS on healthier habits is a must.

ceiswyn

How angry I would become about large portions of my past life.

I grew up and lived most of my adult life in a world where everything was an immense effort; people were basically unfriendly and unhelpful, and getting decent healthcare required me to do a lot of research and advocacy.

Now things just fall into my lap. People can't do enough to be helpful. And I'm suddenly furiously aware of quite how much of what I suffered through and missed out on was due to prejudice.

nitalieben

ceiswyn wrote: »

How angry I would become about large portions of my past life.

I grew up and lived most of my adult life in a world where everything was an immense effort; people were basically unfriendly and unhelpful, and getting decent healthcare required me to do a lot of research and advocacy.

Now things just fall into my lap. People can't do enough to be helpful. And I'm suddenly furiously aware of quite how much of what I suffered through and missed out on was due to prejudice.

Indeed!

B_Plus_Effort

when in shape I'm no God's gift to women but they sure check out what I got in my shopping cart at the grocery store, ha ha

AlexandraFindsHerself1971

That you make healthy meals for yourself and your partners, and when you tell your partner what you made, the person she's talking to on Discord calls her names for eating something delicious in front of them. (Sweet and Sour Pork and rice and vegetables, 400 calories, homemade. Sauce is sugarfree.)

freda666

It might be my imagination but now I am in the 12 stones, so still over-weight but nothing like my 20 stone plus start, people I do not know are more friendly towards me.

Cars wait for me to cross the road, the guy that came to service my gas boiler was very chatty where as last year he hardly said two words, and people give me a friendly smile when I catch their eye rather than look away.

I know people in general do not think well of the obese but the change I am sure is not a subtle one.

Just reading back through this thread before I hit "post" and I see a few other people saying something similar.

I always knew at work I was looked down on for being so fat, missing out on opportunities that just based on ability should have come my way, but I never realised how.... hostile? is that too strong a word? some people are towards the very large.

DomienS

I lost about 40 kg while working in a large hospital. I had a logistics job so i would work everywhere in the hospital, kinda everyone knew me there.
The amount of people who straight up asked me if I had bariatric surgery where baffling. Why did people have to asume i needed surgery.

Kaitie9399

ceiswyn wrote: »

And I'm suddenly furiously aware of quite how much of what I suffered through and missed out on was due to prejudice.

Yes. I’ve experienced this too. I can count on one hand the number of times a man would hold the door open for me and let me go through first when I was fat. Now that I’m skinny, doors are opening left and right and men take second glances.

Part of that is because I’m exuding more confidence in my appearance and I’m dressing that way as well. But mostly, I think people just looked past me as the fat girl.

gracegettingittogether

It’s weird, but I was uniformly ignored and looked past in public when I was young and thin, but now that I’m older and fatter, people are so very much nicer. In particular young men who before never gave me the time of day, are so respectful and smile sweetly at me! I’m consistently shocked! The same is true for my sister. We were hypothesizing that maybe it’s because we look very much like mothers and dress a little old fashionedly since we have strange shapes and that’s all that fits.
In any case, it’s very heartwarming. I’m not used to so much respect. That’s the upside to not being pretty. Since there’s no beauty to lose, I don’t fear aging, and even people has gotten nicer!

Marcus_Eating_Donuts

My face is showing lines that had previously been smoothed out on my chubby face.