What nobody tells you about losing weight

liezziebeth

mustb60 wrote: »

abbynormalartist wrote: »

Hungry_Shopgirl wrote: »

Nobody told me that regardless of how much I lost, it would not be enough to please everybody.

I'm tall, western, and live in Asia. I also happen to speak the local language, which the lady behind me at the supermarket checkout obviously didn't imagine as she chatted up the checkout girl with phrases like: "Look at this fat foreigner. And she's buying so much chicken! No wonder she's huge".

So many things went through my head. The main one was: "Lady, you think I'm huge now, you should have seen me 50 lbs ago!" But the truth is I'm at a healthy BMI, I'm lighter, more toned, fitter than I've ever been in my entire life. And yet it was still not enough to make the random stranger not look down on me and my food choices.

I know it shouldn't bother me, but really, I felt gutted.

Oh Asia, it can be blunt sometimes. When my husband and I went to Singapore the first time, someone came up to me and said, "Ang mo! So fat!" There was no ill will in that at all but I was 130lbs and it really caught me off guard.

How rude behaviour! These days I am getting more judgemental to this kind of judgmental people. If you cannot say/notice positive things in others, please shut up! Don't spread negativity and misery, we have enough of it in the world.

Unfortunately what is considered rude in one culture is not always considered the same in another culture. Having lived in Asia myself, it is not always easy, I was told in a plus size store they did not carry any sizes that plus size (being my size). While it is upsetting, it is not considered rude in certain parts of the world, they are just stating a fact. They are not looking to spread negativity and misery, that is just an interpretation of the received I guess.

HDBKLM

True enough. I live in the Mediterranean, where except among the educated middle classes and 'elite' who've lived abroad, the old school interpretation is that if you don't mention someone has gained (or lost, for that matter) weight—this holds true for other changes you might notice—that THIS is actually rude because it's as if you don't care enough to pay attention. Similarly, back in the day when I used to work in non-profits in the US among impoverished populations, once one of my students mentioned I'd been getting bigger, and at when he noticed the offended look on my face, he quickly added, "No no, I mean you look like you've been eating good." That was among the top 10 most ashamed moments I've ever experienced ...

JillianRumrill

No one ever told me I'd look in the mirror and still see the same person, but when I go to try on my old "fat" clothes, I'd be SWIMMING in them. WHAT A MIND TRIP!! I'm often astonished at an old shirt that I couldn't even wear because it was too tight is now TOO BIG on me. Just. WHAT?!
♫♫"Is this the real life? Is this just fantasy?"♫♫

gymprincess1234

sssgilbe wrote: »

NAP150 wrote: »

The comments you will get from anyone:

I had a new one today, I had an older man about 80 ask me why I was losing weight as it is usually because a woman is looking for a new man. First I said I am with the man I want to be with and then he asked again if I had something going on. This man is not a close friend and is now going to be put on notice from me. First I am insulted to think that is how little he thinks of women and second I don't need any man to take care of me and sure as hell can take care of myself.

Proof that age intensifies a person's basic nature. A jerk at 40 is a bigger jerk at 60 and a crazy old jerk at 80. The exceptions are precious and rare.

Exactly. This one old man told me once 'Why don't you give some of your fat to your sister, she's so skinny!' as I was about to have my photo taken cause I felt pretty in a new dress at a family celebration. Needless to say my mood dropped and now every time I have that family member around, I am so alert not to have him nowhere near me for a conversation.

aeloine

I've had this weird thing happen:
My waist has gotten smaller faster than my hips, so when I lay on my side, I kind of collapse a little in the middle. The left side has been especially affected, so I now get muscle spasms/cramps if I lay on the opposite side for too long (scrunching the left side, if you can picture it). The other side is mostly fine *for now* but it's made the sleeping situation much more complicated.

jebr76

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LauraInTheWater

No one seems to share their “concerns” about your weight when you are heavy, but when you start losing weight THE HEALTHY WAY they are worried about you. For instance, I got dizzy the other day and my mother said it was because I wasn’t eating enough. Went to the doctor a couple of days later and he told me it was because I had a sinus infection. People just don’t understand that most Americans are overeating nowadays.

aeloine

That no matter how much you don't want it to, life gets in the way. I've been so frustrated with how slowly I've been losing weight but realized that I've maintained a slow but steady loss rate through Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and NYE. It isn't nearly as high as I want to it to be, but I weigh less than I did in October.

I've been grouching to my weight loss buddy about this DAILY since November but perspective changes everything.

c123c

You have no idea what bloating is until you lose weight and look 6 months pregnant!!

Poisonedpawn78

aeloine wrote: »

That no matter how much you don't want it to, life gets in the way. I've been so frustrated with how slowly I've been losing weight but realized that I've maintained a slow but steady loss rate through Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and NYE. It isn't nearly as high as I want to it to be, but I weigh less than I did in October.

I've been grouching to my weight loss buddy about this DAILY since November but perspective changes everything.

Past @Aeloine would have given up in that time period. Current @Aeloine has pushed through it and come out the other side of food heaven ready to kick more butts and keep the progress going!

We believe in you

Poisonedpawn78

At some point you will notice that you stop that pulling at your shirt or pants because you are uncomfortable with how it clings to you. You stop because your clothes are not only comfortable again, but you also aren't self consciously worried about how they look on you.

tess5036

Swimming is different when you loose a lot of fat!

birgitkwood

tess5036 wrote: »

Swimming is different when you loose a lot of fat!

You're right! I've found it harder cuz I don't float as easily.

whosshe

Poisonedpawn78 wrote: »

At some point you will notice that you stop that pulling at your shirt or pants because you are uncomfortable with how it clings to you. You stop because your clothes are not only comfortable again, but you also aren't self consciously worried about how they look on you.

Yes this is my absolute favourite thing!

whosshe

LauraInTheWater wrote: »

No one seems to share their “concerns” about your weight when you are heavy, but when you start losing weight THE HEALTHY WAY they are worried about you. For instance, I got dizzy the other day and my mother said it was because I wasn’t eating enough. Went to the doctor a couple of days later and he told me it was because I had a sinus infection. People just don’t understand that most Americans are overeating nowadays.

I hear ya.

CeciliaBobilia

That you'll get so many more FB friend requests from old acquaintances.

I've received 3 requests since I updated my profile 3 weeks ago. For the past few years, I may have received that many all year.
Don't worry, I left them all in Limbo.

c123c

It is VERY cold out there!!

beerfoamy

whosshe wrote: »

Poisonedpawn78 wrote: »

At some point you will notice that you stop that pulling at your shirt or pants because you are uncomfortable with how it clings to you. You stop because your clothes are not only comfortable again, but you also aren't self consciously worried about how they look on you.

Yes this is my absolute favourite thing!

Me too! noticed this morning that I wasn't stretching my freshly washed tshirt to make it 'comfy' over my belly. I can wear clothes straight out of the wash and they feel comfy!! love it!

Vicham76

I did not realize how much money i would save with the smaller portions and without eating out. All that wasted money...

elisa123gal

hmmm me thinks walking around judging people who are overweight as you once were is judgmental. And to add.. most every single overweight person is painfully aware of that fact.

gamerbabe14 wrote: »

elisa123gal wrote: »

To you and all the others who now feel annoyed by fat excuses. It is because you are new to a success, and a bit of false arrogance comes in to play. It is like a highly degreed person thinking ...'you're a dumb..ss...or a rich person looking at a working joe at starbucks thinking... 'no wonder you're broke.' Embrace your success with grace and gratitude, and wish others well.

emcclure013 wrote: »

gamerbabe14 wrote: »

That you want to reply to your friends FB posts about their diets for the New Year but you choose not to. I want to help but I know I can't convey to them via FB that keto isn't a magical diet that'll cure their ailments.

I've been seeing this a lot too. One of my FB friends is doing no meat, no carbs, no sugar, no fun. She just started Monday and already she's complaining about issues with it. I've talked to her about MFP before, but no luck.

Nobody told me that it would be so hard to sit on the sidelines and watch others be how I used to be. I would never say a thing, but it drives me up the wall hearing all the excuses people have for why they can't lose weight. I know many people have said this on the thread before, but I would have never guessed it would happen to me!

The purpose of this thread is to discuss things that we weren't expecting to come with weight loss. Please let us express this without judgement.