Reasons to get fit... Girlfriend someday
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Seconded. I've been overweight or obese most of my life--and I'm not saying girlfriends fall from trees, but I've certainly had my share. It's probably something else. Self-assuredness?Blunt...but if I'm being honest I was thinking the same thing. Being fit won't magically bring Ms. Right your way. If you've been single all this time, unless by choice, there may be other reasons. Get fit for you. Work on yourself, your confidence, and that will help you attract the right kind of person.
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Agreed. People need snuggles and *snuggles*gertudejekyl wrote: »
ridiculousFatFreeFrolicking wrote: »You're only 23. Why do you even want a girlfriend? Focus on you.
. Girls can be fun!
ETA: OP, you probably don't need to work out stupid amounts to get a girlfriend. Esp. if you look like your profile pic. Just go talk to them. Join a sports club or hobby group or something to meet people you have something in common with. And go out with the lads and get drunk in bars with slutty girls, just in case you can do the one-night-stand-to-girlfriend conversion. But use protection. Don't get STDs.0 -
lgquinnross wrote: »I'm 23 years old and never had a girlfriend, but does this really matter. Yeah missing out on all the experiences everyone else has been through but that's alright for now. I'm working out to make change for myself, to better who I am. I'll find girl of dreams after I am big and have a few other goals taken care of as well.
OP what are your fitness goals/ideal physique and what are your stats now?
Ignore the posters above saying physique and aesthetics don't matter, that's delusional.0 -
gertudejekyl wrote: »
ridiculousFatFreeFrolicking wrote: »You're only 23. Why do you even want a girlfriend? Focus on you.
@gertudejekyl Ridiculous how?
God forbid people learn to love themselves and how to be alone.
That's what's wrong with society. People think they NEED someone in order to be happy. It's disgusting.
Based on the OP's posts, he doesn't love himself and seems to be lacking self-confidence. Perhaps that is the reason why I told him to "focus on you." Because IMO, anyone who is getting fit for a woman or man, rather then themselves, isn't ready for a commitment in the first place.
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sweetdixie92 wrote: »FatFreeFrolicking wrote: »You're only 23. Why do you even want a girlfriend? Focus on you.
Why not? I know people who were married by then.
And you don't have to get fit to get a girl. Sure, you'll attract more girls in general, but there's no reason you can't right now either. I see super skinny, and super chunky, guys (and girls) who have a SO all the time.
I want to get fit for myself, mainly. At the same time, I want to have a boyfriend who wants to be active and fit as well, so I do understand where you're coming from.
Feel free to read my post to @gertudejekyl.
Personally, I don't know why anyone would want to be married at 23. Every single person I know who was married in their early 20s is either 1) terribly unhappy, 2) divorced, or 3) cheating on their SO. Most 20-23 year olds are in college and having flings with multiple people. Marriage is the last thing on their mind.
In my opinion and from what I have seen, men who get married in their early 20s are more likely to cheat because they begin to realize what a mistake it was to commit to one woman at such a young age. They begin to feel as though their SO took away their "freedom" years. I would never ever want to be the woman a man regrets because he feels as though I held him back from experiencing life and new people.
I believe a persons 20s are their 'selfish' years. It is a time to learn about yourself, travel, meet new people, experience new things, etc.
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alaskanbliss wrote: »
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@FatFreeFrolicking My parents got married at 23 and they're actually happy but as a almost 21yo I agree with you cause I wouldn't want to get married in two years!!!
@OP are you talking to girls? I have some friends who are guys who complain about not having a girlfriend but then they never talk to girls outside of their friend group and they never ask anyone out! Take risks and ask girls for their number if you want to
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Dude if it makes you feel any better I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. I'm putting myself out there now but it's intimidating as hell.0
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I dont to discourage anyone here but i really don't think girls care if a guys swole or not, i'm pretty sure it's the last thing they care about, plus if a girl wants to jump on you because you're jacked.... she's probably the kind you want to avoid anyway haha.0
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I dont to discourage anyone here but i really don't think girls care if a guys swole or not, i'm pretty sure it's the last thing they care about, plus if a girl wants to jump on you because you're jacked.... she's probably the kind you want to avoid anyway haha.
Very much agree with this! I'm by no means "swole" or even thin but I have had a boyfriend for a while now. He's seen me at my fattest and didn't even care (minus his concerns for my health). If somebody really loves you they won't care whether or not you're swole, they'll care that you are doing what you want to do and that you're happy.
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alaskanbliss wrote: »You know, I initially started losing weight and getting fit b/c I was sick of being the funny fat friend with a "pretty face". To some degree, I think I partly wanted to attract more male attention. Funny thing is...once you start losing and getting fit you realize that you are awesome...male/female attention or not. I seriously catch certain views of myself now and I'm like "daaaammmmnnnn self!".
Just do you. Work on you. Be happy. You may or not meet someone...but really...your life is about sooo much more than finding a girlfriend. Take up hobbies, figure out what you like and work to be happy independent of another person. It's totally worth it.
I promise!
Good luck!
What she said!0 -
I dont to discourage anyone here but i really don't think girls care if a guys swole or not, i'm pretty sure it's the last thing they care about, plus if a girl wants to jump on you because you're jacked.... she's probably the kind you want to avoid anyway haha.
I agree aswell. You need to find someone who loves all your perfections and imperfections... Thats all that matters and you both support eachothers goals.
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I agree with the swole not swole thing, but I think you have a better chance to get noticed if you aren't overweight, that's one of the reasons I wanted to get in shape..0
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I dont to discourage anyone here but i really don't think girls care if a guys swole or not, i'm pretty sure it's the last thing they care about, plus if a girl wants to jump on you because you're jacked.... she's probably the kind you want to avoid anyway haha.I agree with the swole not swole thing, but I think you have a better chance to get noticed if you aren't overweight, that's one of the reasons I wanted to get in shape..
Agreed with both of these!0 -
I dont to discourage anyone here but i really don't think girls care if a guys swole or not, i'm pretty sure it's the last thing they care about, plus if a girl wants to jump on you because you're jacked.... she's probably the kind you want to avoid anyway haha.
Disagree somewhat.
@Tomm88 you have 10/10 facial aesthetics. Something you have no control over. I'm positive girls want to jump you because of your handsome face, how is that any different from girls throwing themselves at jacked bros?
If your face (as a guy) isn't a 7/10 or better, being jacked help makes up for it.
At the OP, you don't have to be jacked at all to get a girl, but being jacked expands your opportunities by 100x0 -
I dont to discourage anyone here but i really don't think girls care if a guys swole or not, i'm pretty sure it's the last thing they care about, plus if a girl wants to jump on you because you're jacked.... she's probably the kind you want to avoid anyway haha.
Disagree somewhat.
@Tomm88 you have 10/10 facial aesthetics. Something you have no control over. I'm positive girls want to jump you because of your handsome face, how is that any different from girls throwing themselves at jacked bros?
If your face (as a guy) isn't a 7/10 or better, being jacked help makes up for it.
At the OP, you don't have to be jacked at all to get a girl, but being jacked expands your opportunities by 100x
Smart man!0 -
I work out to look good naked...and eat more ice cream.0
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to inspire and set a good example for others!0
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I dont to discourage anyone here but i really don't think girls care if a guys swole or not, i'm pretty sure it's the last thing they care about, plus if a girl wants to jump on you because you're jacked.... she's probably the kind you want to avoid anyway haha.
Disagree somewhat.
@Tomm88 you have 10/10 facial aesthetics. Something you have no control over. I'm positive girls want to jump you because of your handsome face, how is that any different from girls throwing themselves at jacked bros?
If your face (as a guy) isn't a 7/10 or better, being jacked help makes up for it.
At the OP, you don't have to be jacked at all to get a girl, but being jacked expands your opportunities by 100x
i disagree... a lot of women go deeper than just looks and physical , certain features in someones personality is more attractive to a woman.. men are more like monkey see and like then monkey do her.
Double disagree. Women have preferences as much as men (probably more)
You don't walk into a room and immediately say that guy has a great personality. He is sincere and true
You walk in and judge on aesthetics.
If face is good >then personality matters
if face is not good >then body matters >then personality0 -
I have dated a variety of men both skinny and bodybuilders. I can honestly say that I find them all attractive on different levels. As far as the type of attraction, it varies greatly...... Sure I was always very physically attracted to the muscular bodybuilder types, but it never seemed to go deeper than that. The skinnier men that I dated I may not have had that initial physical attraction to, however seeing how sweet, funny and caring they can be made them attractive on a totally different level. Bottom line is, it all depends on the individual personalities. I am now fortunate enough to have the best of both worlds, my hubby is not only sweet and handsome but I think he has a bangin' body too.
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@jelie3110 you just ruined everyone's hopes by mentioning that you're married haha
In all seriousness though, get fit for you and no one else...if it makes you happy, it will make others happy both directly and indirectly0 -
@jelie3110 you just ruined everyone's hopes by mentioning that you're married haha
In all seriousness though, get fit for you and no one else...if it makes you happy, it will make others happy both directly and indirectly
Aww, that's sweet:) what you said is right on!0 -
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@moijo705 i have no idea what body parts are being shown in your picture...0
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This requires much closer inspectionCapt_Apollo wrote: »@moijo705 i have no idea what body parts are being shown in your picture...
my arm!0 -
If I started working out to get a boyfriend, I would have given up years ago. Love is not a victory march - Leonard Cohen0
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