To all the MFP MEANIES and know it alls, this is for you

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  • MamaBirdBoss
    MamaBirdBoss Posts: 1,516 Member
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    missyjg99 wrote: »
    A couple of weeks ago I posted on this board about my struggles losing weight and asked for insight on why I wasn't losing weight. Well I eagerly waited responses and was floored when I read what was being written in response. I felt I was being ganged up on, people getting a laugh at my expense! I ended up deleting my post, cried and ate an entire sleeve of Oreos. I was literally at rock bottom, looking for help and all I got was responses from mean girls wannabe' s. I wasn't going to write a response to how y'all made me feel. But after two weeks of going over that post in my mind, I just wanna say one thing:
    THANK YOU!!! In all sincerity, thank you. I realized something from that post. I was looking for validation and coddling for my bad choices and that wasn't going to do me any good. The only one who didn't realize that was me. So I'm coming back to tell everyone thank you. Thank you for your honesty, thank you for your time, thank you for your suggestions and mostly thank you for responding. I didn't accept your suggestions as anything but mean bc lets face it, what I was doing wasn't working and how could I be wrong!!
    So I apologize for being such a jerk to some of you. And I thank you all for kicking my butt into the right direction.... errrrr right road to reaching my goals.
    Oh and if this post shows up twice it's because I typed it out and it seemed to disappear. So I'm typing it again.

    Oh, you ate 1000x welcome! I was in for a nasty shock when I joined MFP. I was in disbelief not at now much I was eating but how LITTLE I was burning. It took me a couple of days to wrap my brain around it.
  • missyjg99
    missyjg99 Posts: 246 Member
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    Still here
  • missyjg99
    missyjg99 Posts: 246 Member
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    missyjg99 wrote: »
    Still here
    WinoGelato wrote: »
    I'm glad this post got bumped as I remember when it first got posted and how refreshing it was... I hope the OP is still having success and would love if she would comment again!

    Still here fighting the fight. Y'all continue to help me. So many personal struggles going on but doesn't matter. Still going.
  • 68myra
    68myra Posts: 975 Member
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    wow, good for you. i never saw your original post, but you turning this around to benefit yourself is inspiring!
  • jesusarolon
    jesusarolon Posts: 208 Member
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    jennifershoo wrote: »
    It's not everyday we get to see a post like yours! That's great! Not everyone is a meanie. Some are very blunt in their answers, but they do want to help. Keep the good work missy!

    Exactly!
  • WinoGelato
    WinoGelato Posts: 13,454 Member
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    missyjg99 wrote: »
    missyjg99 wrote: »
    Still here
    WinoGelato wrote: »
    I'm glad this post got bumped as I remember when it first got posted and how refreshing it was... I hope the OP is still having success and would love if she would comment again!

    Still here fighting the fight. Y'all continue to help me. So many personal struggles going on but doesn't matter. Still going.

    So glad to hear it. Good for you! Keeping going is half the battle.
  • getitamb
    getitamb Posts: 2,019 Member
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    When I give advice and people don't listen I go into Hodgetwin mode. I'm like 'that's what I do and that's what works for me but you can do whatever the f*** you wanna do!'

    Anyways congrats on you revelation. You'll do great. Always be open to advice.
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
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    Outstanding - love these posts!

    Tough love - it's all about the love.
  • emmagrace0818
    emmagrace0818 Posts: 211 Member
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    This makes me so upset, I cannot stand mean people! You stick w it and stay positive, no one's opinions other than YOUR OWN matter.. You're beautiful inside and out, don't ever forget that.. Add me if you want and I will help motivate you positively
  • momoharuno
    momoharuno Posts: 141 Member
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    UltimateRBF wrote: »
    emmagrace0818 wrote: »
    This makes me so upset, I cannot stand mean people! You stick w it and stay positive, no one's opinions other than YOUR OWN matter.. You're beautiful inside and out, don't ever forget that.. Add me if you want and I will help motivate you positively

    You didn't actually read the OP, or any of this discussion did you?

    Was that mean?

    Not mean at all, this is one of those "if it was a snake it would've bit you" situations, it's actually pretty hilarious to see the ones on this thread commenting on 'haters' because it's so obvious they didn't read the whole post or any comments. Oh where have you gone reading comprehension? We miss you so much <3
  • pootle1972
    pootle1972 Posts: 579 Member
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    missyjg99 wrote: »
    aurora15 wrote: »
    Some people can be malicious or trolls. And some will step down on others to feel better or superior themselves. I had to delete a thread too because I asked for advice to remedy an immediate problem and simply got very negative responses and told basically "you are an Idiot for doing that" I understand perfectly what you went through, and I find peace in knowing that they, just like me, are on our journey and I wish them well on karmic wellness and wholeness;)

    Yep I agree, but my point is, is that's NOT what I experienced here at this post. I guess the best way to explain it is using an analogy. You have an infected wound. What you are doing isn't helping the wound but making it worse. You know that cleaning and stitching the wound will really hurt and be a long process so you naturally avoid that even though that's the cure. It's a long and painful process. You go to numerous doctors and specialists waiting for one to tell you there's a magic pill to fix your wound, but it's never the response you get. Treatment is generally always the same. You then begin getting angry at the doctors accusing them of not listening or being ignorant, so you leave that practice and go to another doctor. You try wholistic medicine and herbs, bc it worked for your friend, but the wound gets worse. You try a vitamin regiment bc it worked for a cousins friend, but although the wound improved it quickly returned to its infected state and became worse. So you go back to the original doctor bc you are now suffering the symptoms and pain of infection. This doctor says the same thing and you leave in a huff wondering WHY these doctors won't listen to you and are being judgemental and rude!! You go home and really dig deep and step back and accept the fact your behavior and your interpretation/perception may not be what is being said, simply you're scared shITless and you have to now accept this. So after a few weeks you go back to the doctors, more humble, with more courage, willing to accept help and understanding you have a lot to learn in the process. You get through the treatment and despite the pain, it's not as bad as the pain you were currently experiencing when your wound was festering. Over time you start feeling better and better and wonder how you could consider those doctors rude and judgemental to begin with. They were there to help, you just didn't like the answers they gave so your brain twisted their words and you remembered it differently then what was actually stated.
    Now I love the meanies on here (forever your knickname) but in the above analogy they are the "doctors and specialists", and if you really stop and look at what they are replying it's NOT mean, just true. The wound is your weight or health struggles, and I quickly realized what works for a few won't work for most. There is no magic pill. If you accept that you have to face this head on, that you're a "newbie" despite being on this site for 6 years, that bluntness is not equivalent to meanness and that temper tantrums will produce pics and gifs of rainbow farting unicorns; you'll quickly see what you need to do to succeed. At least that was my perception and I take full ownership and responsibility for that!!
    Best of luck.


    I love you....
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,139 Member
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    emmagrace0818 wrote: »
    This makes me so upset, I cannot stand mean people! You stick w it and stay positive, no one's opinions other than YOUR OWN matter.. You're beautiful inside and out, don't ever forget that.. Add me if you want and I will help motivate you positively

    i can't stand people that don't read the entire thread...
  • OsricTheKnight
    OsricTheKnight Posts: 340 Member
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    For all us meanies, I recommend

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0la5DBtOVNI

    For the OP - good luck in your fresh start!

    Osric
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,089 Member
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    missyjg99 wrote: »
    missyjg99 wrote: »
    Still here
    WinoGelato wrote: »
    I'm glad this post got bumped as I remember when it first got posted and how refreshing it was... I hope the OP is still having success and would love if she would comment again!

    Still here fighting the fight. Y'all continue to help me. So many personal struggles going on but doesn't matter. Still going.

    Glad your still around op !! :)
  • flickarsg
    flickarsg Posts: 8 Member
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    Good luck and glad you are back at it!
  • trina1049
    trina1049 Posts: 593 Member
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    Yeah, in for the bump -- all the new people should read this.
  • mamabearcushing
    mamabearcushing Posts: 30 Member
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    That's the right attitude!
  • robertw486
    robertw486 Posts: 2,388 Member
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    Great attitude change OP. Sometimes the truth hurts, and that accountability is a huge step.


  • heart3313
    heart3313 Posts: 87 Member
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    I have a friend that says would you rather have a ton of friends that praise you and say good job when you obviously ate junk food...or would you rather have friends that give you constructive criticism? I don't like mean friends...I'll delete them real quick...but I enjoy the ones that keep me accountable....after all that is why I am here! Sometimes we need moments like what you describe to wake us up...I sure did! I had a guy once tell me on Facebook that people would take my opinion more seriously if I projected a healthier image. He was a jerk too...and could have passed on that comment, but it did push me to make some changes in my life! Good luck and keep on going!!!

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