Significant other's thoughts on your weight loss

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  • loves03
    loves03 Posts: 73 Member
    My husband has been 100% supportive. He even cooks for me (lots of grilled chicken and shrimp :)).

    I'm the kind of person who can't tell I'm losing weight (unless I take before and after pictures) but he always lets me know when he notices a change. First it was my butt looks smaller, then my waist, just the other day he said my legs were skinner. I love when he compliments me, it makes me feel good and it lets me know he can see the difference. We both joined bootcamp and are losing a lot of inches. He still needs to work on his eating, but I noticed now that I'm eating healthier he is eating a lot more healthier too.

    I have been small, med, large, and Xlarge and he has always told me I'm beautiful.
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
    My bf is very supportive but also says i look good how i am am 5"4 and weigh 195 pound :L he does like us bigger girls with fat
    curvs :p but has also said he will like me at my healthy weight ;) and his happy cuz of ive always had junk in the trunk and big boobs even when i was 145 lb :)
  • NJD2885
    NJD2885 Posts: 216 Member
    My husband is so supportive. He married me at my heaviest and has always acted like I am the most beautiful person in the world, and he is always encouraging me and telling me how great i'm doing. he also watches the kids so i can workout. i've lost 18 altogether got another 63-68 lbs to go :)
  • beckyinma
    beckyinma Posts: 1,433 Member
    at first, when I first found MFP, he thought i was obsessing about logging every single bite. He came around. By the time I posted my one year blog with before and current pics, and he saw the change in the photos as a drastic change instead of seeing me every day, he is totally supportive now.
  • CherryOnionKiss
    CherryOnionKiss Posts: 376 Member
    In the 2 years I've been here, I only lost 1 pound...that i keep gaining back.
    So my boyfriend is always nagging that I need to work out. I gained some weight at the same time as I did while I was pregnant. So i thought he was overweight too. He got his measurement taken and he's totally in shape. :mad:

    And I am a class 1 obese.:sad:
  • sidewinder76
    sidewinder76 Posts: 287
    SO hates my weight loss, hates the gym, hates me running, and hates that I love it. I really don't care what she or anyone else thinks. Just trying to be healthier, happier, live longer....wonder why that bothers her...oh well :)
  • Jokenmit
    Jokenmit Posts: 80 Member
    mine likes big girls and always has. that's just who he is. and although he supports me its to a limit...he has asked that I stop before I lose all my "cuggles" lol ...for him I will. I never wanted to be skinny...just happy and healthy :)
  • Saucy_lil_Minx
    Saucy_lil_Minx Posts: 3,302 Member
    My husband is supportive when he wants to be, and not when he is moody. I learned last year I will do what I need to do for me, and my son's health. He now goes along with it mostly because our son is now directly affected by poor diet decisions (high cholesterol), and he really does not have a choice if he wants to eat... lol. He still has his moments, and I ignore the baby fits, and keep on truckin!
  • nahiluoh
    nahiluoh Posts: 41 Member
    My wife is pregnant so she hates it! lol She joked the other day that every pound I lose she gains.

    My wife is pregnant too and she is supportive. She insisted I keep going to my trainer twice a week despite the expense.

    The tough part was when we recently passed each other in weight -- me going down, her going up (obviously). That little moment was a bit of a bummer for her since we're eight inches apart in height.

    But I assure her all will get back to normal post-baby (it is our third so she knows what to do).
  • crisbabe81
    crisbabe81 Posts: 170
    My husband is very supportive of me losing weight. He has started to be healthier as well. 80% of the time he is at the gym with me! I'm happier and more confident and that makes him happy!! He doesn't like the fact that I hate leaving the house (fear of cheating). But we've compromised... been having friends over a lot more.
  • ElyseL1
    ElyseL1 Posts: 504 Member
    My hubby is completely supportive. He has also lost 60 lbs by just eating what I cook. Sometimes though he's just a little too into checking into seeing if i've toned anymore. IE sneaking up behind me while im doing the elliptical and grabbing my butt. He got yelled at very loudly for that one and the dog nosed him out of the room. :laugh:
  • mkmerrill
    mkmerrill Posts: 74 Member
    So glad someone is in my boat. My boyfriend is sooo naturally thin...so is his entire family. I do not feel comfortable talking with him about it. He eats whatever, whenever. I just barley told him I joined MFP. He is supportive but I do not want him to think I am insecure (which I am not...I am a little over confident) nor do I want to discuss it with him.
  • noemivillar
    noemivillar Posts: 3 Member
    He's very happy and supportive that I finally decided to do something. He's somehow active and used to go to the gym and I was super lazy. He's been telling me for years to join a gym or to exercise so when I told him last month that I was going to start working out, I don't think he believed me.

    He's seen that I've been constant for a month and that's more than I've ever done before. He can tell that I'm keeping track of what I eat and my exercises so he can see I'm taking it seriously.

    He even takes our toddler out for walks so I can exercise at home during the day instead of having to wait until late at night when she goes to sleep.
  • kate1103
    kate1103 Posts: 23 Member
    Me and my hubby always say we eat right/work out for better sex. It's (sortof!:) ) a joke, but it keeps it lighthearted. Sometimes I'm trying to lose weight, and sometimes he is. It doesn't matter to either of us what the other one currently weighs, but we do support each other. The hard part for me is staying in my calorie limit no matter what he's doing.
  • larodriguez02
    larodriguez02 Posts: 106 Member
    My husband doesn't really say much, he's overweight too, Hoping to get him on board and lose with me. He accepts me as I am so that's what I love about him.
  • SteelySunshine
    SteelySunshine Posts: 1,092 Member
    Mine doesn't believe I have lost as much as I have. That's the problem when you are morbidly obese. You can lose 50 pounds and it will look like 20, 10 or none. But, I could tell right away, not from the way I look. I think I look the same except in the face. I could tell because it is easier to move around and I don't have to wake up to turn over in bed anymore.
  • lady6starlight
    lady6starlight Posts: 127 Member
    My boyfriend started out being really supportive but now he's complaining that I don't want to eat junky snacks anymore and he keeps buying me Arizona iced teas. He says I'm not the same person anymore. I'm the same person, I just would rather buy a water than sugary tea. I'm really bothered by this.
  • Renee428
    Renee428 Posts: 29 Member
    My bf isn't completely supportive but will tell me I'm doing good if he hears that I hit a goal. His main reasoning is he thinks I'm going to start looking for someone new when I get a higher self esteem. Crazy boys...


    Mine is the same. He is trying to lose weight too but struggling with the eating.
  • highervibes
    highervibes Posts: 2,219 Member
    My husband is very supportive of my efforts to get healthy and he helps me make time to get my workouts in. He's been wonderful and one of my biggest supporters.
  • aloranger7708
    aloranger7708 Posts: 422 Member
    My boyfriend is sort of in the middle of what most people are describing. I told him I lost 20 pounds today, and he was really happy for me. But then he always asks me to eat at Taco Bell or McDonald's, and he brings extremely tempting foods into the house when he knows I'm trying to avoid sugar and lose.
  • teradriscol
    teradriscol Posts: 6 Member
    My husband is super happy about my weight loss, but he's rather not hear about it. Maybe, I just talk about fitness too much.
  • dangerousdumpling
    dangerousdumpling Posts: 1,109 Member
    My husband is very supportive and compliments me on how my body is changing. Just last night he told me it's like I have a new body and that he thinks I'm doing great. He doesn't complain that I don't cook like I used to. I still cook but not the same things that were making us fat and unhealthy. He's definitely not one of those partners that wants to keep me fat. He wants me to look great and be healthy and he's willing to deal with the necessary changes. :smooched:
  • RaggedyPond
    RaggedyPond Posts: 1,487 Member
    Mine is in the military and big on fitness. He says I am doing great but keeps trying to get me to go lifting with the other gorillas at the gym.
  • JuliesZenpuppy7400
    JuliesZenpuppy7400 Posts: 127 Member
    I'm incredibly blessed with a wonderfully supportive boyfriend!!!! When we met 12 years ago I was 380 pounds and even saw me at my heaviest at 420 pounds. When we got together 2 1/2 years ago I was down to around 300 pounds. NOW, I'm down to 210 and though he says he loves me no matter what weight I am and just wants me to be healthy, he now often looks at me like he has won the lottery with his tall, blond, thin girlfriend!!!! :blushing:
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,276 Member
    My b/f started out with funny comments about my weighing the food and such. He has seen me lose and gain it all back so he figured it wasn't going to last. But THIS time is different. I never stuck with any weight loss for this long a period of time and he is very supportive now. He tells everyone how beautiful I am. I am loving it!
  • highervibes
    highervibes Posts: 2,219 Member
    Mine is in the military and big on fitness. He says I am doing great but keeps trying to get me to go lifting with the other gorillas at the gym.

    you have a smart husband :)
  • 00sarah
    00sarah Posts: 621 Member
    My hubs loves it. I'm in better shape than I was when we got married. Plus, he started working out with me & now he's a badazz
  • jenslife82
    jenslife82 Posts: 229
    I'm lucky to have a super supportive husband. He loved me younger & smaller, pregnant, at my heaviest, and now still loving me throughout my weight loss. He just loves me smiling. :happy:


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    Mine too. Love him :)
  • 00sarah
    00sarah Posts: 621 Member
    Mine is in the military and big on fitness. He says I am doing great but keeps trying to get me to go lifting with the other gorillas at the gym.

    you have a smart husband :)

    Agreed!
  • Catie8192
    Catie8192 Posts: 47 Member
    My fiance is very supportive. He says I don't need to lose anything and he loves me the way I am now. :) He'll help motivate me on days that I don't feel like working out.