My Husband!.... NOT ATTRACTED TO ME!

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  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    Fat2Fit145 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    eleven pages and still going strong...LOL

    People love drama. Is that not why we love TV shows and movies.

    like I said on page five, this is like an episode of Maury Povich ...except this episode never ends....

    What i find funny is the longer post.

    Yet you two stillll keep coming back to this post.... hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!! SMH

    I can't help it..it is like a slow motion train wreck ….

  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    Fat2Fit145 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    eleven pages and still going strong...LOL

    People love drama. Is that not why we love TV shows and movies.

    like I said on page five, this is like an episode of Maury Povich ...except this episode never ends....

    What i find funny is the longer post.

    Yet you two stillll keep coming back to this post.... hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!! SMH

    I can't help it..it is like a slow motion train wreck ….
    Well it helps to laugh and pass the time at work. Like I said people love drama and ever better when it does not involve them.
  • QueenMictlan
    QueenMictlan Posts: 1 Member
    Well first off him talking to other women or if he is cheating has nothing to do with you. It has to do with him and his dysfunction. Cheating is a dysfunction that lies with the person that is cheating. There is nothing wrong with you. Many people get so hurt by the spouse cheating that they think it is something wrong with themselves. And if after 5 months he is cheating, then he was cheating long before he married you. Some men just aren't meant to be married. So if there is no children involved then get out of the marriage and empower your beautiful self and move on with life, he is not worth your time and love. I speak from experience, I had my ex cheat on me and I am sure he is cheating on the women he is with now too. It is a dysfunctional pattern.
  • Wholelottaass
    Wholelottaass Posts: 15 Member
    enterdanger wrote: »
    um, I agree with the people who say weight isn't the issue. Not sure how open your marriage is, but if my husband ever discussed our sex life with another woman and then told that woman he was attracted to her I would throat punch him. Then I'd get a divorce lawyer.

    I'm not saying this is what you should do, just what I would do. Then I would get counseling for myself because I would be totally distraught.

    Step 1: Throat punch. (Or 2)
    Step 2: Discuss cause of step 1.
  • Kasey_Ford
    Kasey_Ford Posts: 38 Member
    It stinks that you are having to go through this when he is obviously the problem. He "bought the cow" so to speak, and is not mature enough to continue to uphold his end of the deal. You are beautiful. 10lbs, more to love. If he is saying things to another woman about being attracted to you, it his way of trying to make her pity him and his made-up situation. I'm guessing he has wandering eye, and probably has for a while. If you guys are not very physical, chances are; he's trying to get physical. I never recommend just dropping a marriage. 5 months? 1st year is usually the hardest. Instead of blaming yourself, start dressing like you feel sexy. Show him what he will be missing if he slips in between the sheets with someone else. Square your shoulders, hold your head up, fix your hair and face, and make that man see the desirable captivating vixen you are. If he still strays, then reach inside yourself and grab hold of that strength all women were given, and kick his stupid-two-timing-butt to the curb :) Hope that helps, beautiful. You are amazing. You are beautiful, and you got this.
  • MargaretYakoda
    MargaretYakoda Posts: 2,994 Member
    Fat2Fit145 wrote: »
    Wonder who's still on this thread!...... 6years later, NOTHING CHANGED!.... Came back to get my facts straight as i file for divorce. I wish i had listened to those who said LEAVE ! Anywhoo... toodles!. #roadtohealing

    Good for you, and best of luck with the divorce.
  • Carlos_421
    Carlos_421 Posts: 5,132 Member
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  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,741 Member
    Fat2Fit145 wrote: »
    Wonder who's still on this thread!...... 6years later, NOTHING CHANGED!.... Came back to get my facts straight as i file for divorce. I wish i had listened to those who said LEAVE ! Anywhoo... toodles!. #roadtohealing

    OMG, I was skimming through the thread having thoughts about the situation (that other people already gave good advice about) but actually just wanted to show support for telling randos on the internet so I'm glad you're the one who bumped it!

    But 6 years??? Why so long with that jerk???
  • ahoy_m8
    ahoy_m8 Posts: 3,053 Member
    I didn't see the thread back in 2015, but my heart breaks for you. It hurts. No lie. And divorce, even when it is the least bad option, is still a really rough patch of road. Sending energy for strength and hopefulness your way.

    Attraction based on bedrock inner qualities is attraction that lasts. Appearance changes over time, so attraction based ONLY on that may not withstand shifting sands. Attraction that ends after 5 months of marriage -- what's going on with that? Six years is a long time to sort it out, and I'm hoping you can leave a painful past in the past and look to your future with optimism. :flowerforyou:
  • babysaffy
    babysaffy Posts: 232 Member
    Fat2Fit145 wrote: »
    Wonder who's still on this thread!...... 6years later, NOTHING CHANGED!.... Came back to get my facts straight as i file for divorce. I wish i had listened to those who said LEAVE ! Anywhoo... toodles!. #roadtohealing

    Wow sorry you went through all this for so long.. you clearly loved him a lot and tried your best. <3

    Did you end up having any kids?

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