"I'm pretty into myself"
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I think the only difference in my specific scenario is that I wasn't TELLING anyone that I'm awesome, or that I'm pretty, or that I'm a good person, or even that anyone should like me lol I said I'M pretty into MYSELF...Because at the moment, I was! lol And I wasn't ashamed of sharing that feeling with the rest of my FL.
There are a lot of different approaches to social media. I would say "sharing" and "telling" lack distinction as broadcast events.0 -
Despite the jokes and sexually-related comments posted in response to this, I initially read that differently. Not entirely true - I laughed at first. I wondered if the comment was meant only in jest, or if it was truly good advice worded well.I try not to love myself in public.
I think proclaiming one's love for anything is simply that: proclaiming one's love. Posting "I'm pretty into myself" is fine, but I don't think it's necessarily an indicator of self-love, or self-respect, or self-esteem. It just means you're proclaiming you are into yourself. It may not even be true.
The "must be low self esteem" argument is old and tired. My mom uses that all the time, and her VCR still blinks 12:00. It's as bad (maybe worse) than the "they're just jealous" response. But I think people want to have a reason why people do things, and they generally want a reason they can a) relate to OR b) feel better about themselves about.
In my experience, if you are awesome, the awesomeness generally shows itself within a few interactions (even online). You don't need to proclaim it. Saying it doesn't make you NOT awesome. But it might make your awesomeness shine a little less bright.0 -
I think you are awesome.
I think I am awesome.
This is why we are friends.
We are totally ok as a society with women saying 'im too fat for that'. 'my boobs aren't big enough'. blah blah blah.
Sure there are things about me that I would love to fix and work on but Im pretty. Im smart. Im fit(ter). Im funny and Im nice to puppies and babies alike.
Im pretty into me and I think others should be as well. :smokin:0 -
Actually kind of an interesting question. Is it a cultural taboo to be extremely vain, or is it universal throughout all cultures? Don't know. Congrats on your awesomeness.
well, this is the thing... I don't think it is vanity to love oneself or to value ones self or to think ones self awesome. Vanity implies to me something more- like valuing ones self as more important than others.
I think loving yourself is awesome sauce. I do it on the daily. I have been called conceited (only on MFP) but people who know me know that I love and value myself, but not at the expense of others. And sometimes I do have low self esteem--- but it's on a different level. It's kinda weird...hard to explain.0 -
In my experience, if you are awesome, the awesomeness generally shows itself within a few interactions (even online). You don't need to proclaim it. Saying it doesn't make you NOT awesome. But it might make your awesomeness shine a little less bright.
He said it better than I did.0 -
I guess in my mind if you are comfortable with yourself and you love yourself you don't need to verbalize it because it shows without words. Verbalizing it to someone else is pointless and give the opposite impression to people, I guess my question is if you feel you are awesome why feel the need to tell someone else about it unless you want them to agree with you which can definitely come across as needing validation.0
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Hey, nothing wrong with liking yourself and taking pride in yourself. I wish I had that high of a self- esteem and I certainly don't begrudge others for having it. Besides, I think it's refreshing to hear people praise themselves instead of putting themselves down.0
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Agreed.
you just come into the forums and post random stuff so I see your profile pic and wish you would let me friend you, Don't you????
DAMN YOU TO HELL!
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There is a fine line between cocky and confident. Full of yourself and proud of yourself. I can't stand cocky people but I gravitate towards confidence. It is all in the way you present yourself to people. I am the type of person that will wear a sexy outfit because I am confident knowing that I look great but when I receive a compliment I simply say "thank you" not "OMG I know right?!?" Lol. But pretty much I think I am pretty awesome.0
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I think you are awesome.
I think I am awesome.
This is why we are friends.
We are totally ok as a society with women saying 'im too fat for that'. 'my boobs aren't big enough'. blah blah blah.
Sure there are things about me that I would love to fix and work on but Im pretty. Im smart. Im fit(ter). Im funny and Im nice to puppies and babies alike.
Im pretty into me and I think others should be as well. :smokin:
hahaha This is EXACTLY why we are friends! :drinker:0 -
Maybe that person is trying to put their feelings on you.
I didn't like myself. I do now. I like to look at myself, I like to look at my arms (muscles are forming, YAY!), I wish I could brag more about my progress but I've found that outside of MFP, people get sick of hearing it :grumble:
If you are changing your entire life, your entire existence, then damn right you deserve to love and brag about yourself. As long as it isn't hurtful ("I look better than you") kind of way, then love it up girl!!
(now that I think of it, those with the low self esteem may be thinking that by praising yourself, you are putting them down. Side effect that I don't think will ever go away, unless that person learns to love who they are!)
Well said.
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Being in love with yourself is vain.
Vain is defined as "Having or showing an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth."
Is this really how you would define "love"???0 -
It's good to genuinely love yourself.
But, it is problematic if it is narcissism. And sometimes people that have narcissism are that way because of deep feelings of inadequacy. Although, I also think it would be odd to just go around diagnosing people with this without enough real info or experience with that person. And it's also easy for someone's own issues and stuff to influence how they perceive what another person is saying.
Also, mfp is unique in a sense. For example, I will talk about my body at times because we are talking about fitness knowledge and results and stuff like that. In real life, I would never go around talking about my body like that (and not on other places on the internet either).0 -
<--- apparently I am too! AND I tell everyone with my screen name :laugh:
In all honesty, it isn't about me being 'better' than anyone else... it's about how for the first time in my life I FEEL AWESOME. and I DO love myself. There is nothing wrong with that. Rock on girl! :drinker:0 -
I think it's great to love yourself. Ultimately that's where confidence springs from. But that doesn't mean you have to throw it in people's faces. Being hot and knowing it is great, but being hot AND humble is downright sexy.
this! yep yep!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Agreed.
you just come into the forums and post random stuff so I see your profile pic and wish you would let me friend you, Don't you????
DAMN YOU TO HELL!
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Indeed; you seem to have unravelled my master plan but it has already been set in motion...0 -
I am pretty, and into myself.0
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I find that most days, especially if I'm working out and losing, I feel pretty confident and I am not afraid to post something about it. My Mom has always told me that those who tend to "hate" on you are the ones that "hate" themselves. AKA your Sister just says/acts nasty to you because she is jealous. lol.
Yeah, they get mad at what they don't have themselves and you make them recognize it. Don't worry, move to Tampa!
http://health.heraldtribune.com/2012/06/22/mens-health-rates-tampa-as-the-vainest-city-in-america/
Kansas City is number 96 as being the "LEAST VAIN"! LMAO!! Well, we do have the best "people at walmart".0 -
Actually kind of an interesting question. Is it a cultural taboo to be extremely vain, or is it universal throughout all cultures? Don't know. Congrats on your awesomeness.
well, this is the thing... I don't think it is vanity to love oneself or to value ones self or to think ones self awesome. Vanity implies to me something more- like valuing ones self as more important than others.
I think loving yourself is awesome sauce. I do it on the daily. I have been called conceited (only on MFP) but people who know me know that I love and value myself, but not at the expense of others. And sometimes I do have low self esteem--- but it's on a different level. It's kinda weird...hard to explain.
I agree with you, which is why the majority of these people thinking I'm a huge narcissist is okay with me. The people on my FL that interact with me daily know me and know that I would never do or say anything at the expense of others.0 -
But you know what, though, who cares if she verbalized it to feel better about herself or whatever other reason. How is it any different than the other things we do to feel better about ourselves, like working out, putting on make-up, or taking cell phone pics in the bathroom mirror?
If that works for her, why should anyone else care?
The person's comment seem to be made in an effort to change her mentality. Her mentality was that she felt good about herself. Who was the commenter to change her mentality about that? What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?0 -
I find that most days, especially if I'm working out and losing, I feel pretty confident and I am not afraid to post something about it. My Mom has always told me that those who tend to "hate" on you are the ones that "hate" themselves. AKA your Sister just says/acts nasty to you because she is jealous. lol.
Yeah, they get mad at what they don't have themselves and you make them recognize it. Don't worry, move to Tampa!
http://health.heraldtribune.com/2012/06/22/mens-health-rates-tampa-as-the-vainest-city-in-america/
Kansas City is number 96 as being the "LEAST VAIN"! LMAO!! Well, we do have the best "people at walmart".
Ew, TAMPA!? lol0 -
Agreed.
you just come into the forums and post random stuff so I see your profile pic and wish you would let me friend you, Don't you????
DAMN YOU TO HELL!
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Indeed; you seem to have unravelled my master plan but it has already been set in motion...
I have tried like twenty times to get a response out of you and this is the first time!
I'm so excited I can't think of anything clever to say!!
Your abs are hot!
ETA:
DIODELCIBO--> abbi pietà di me!!!!!0 -
What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?
That door opens as soon as the OP broadcasts.0 -
I think it is totally okay to love yourself, and be into yourself, we don't high five ourselves enough. I have facilitated a self-esteem group for youth, and many of them said they don't have good self-esteem because they think that others will think they are conceded. Two totally different things! Having positive healthy self-esteem is okay. You can be into yourself and have flaws. I am into my fiance and he has flaws...sometimes!0
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This is the most thought provoking thread I have seen on MFP all year. I appreciate you starting the dialogue. Your self-declaration of awesome frees others to do the same. One poet (Marianne Williamson) said it this way.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”0 -
But you know what, though, who cares if she verbalized it to feel better about herself or whatever other reason. How is it any different than the other things we do to feel better about ourselves, like working out, putting on make-up, or taking cell phone pics in the bathroom mirror?
If that works for her, why should anyone else care?
The person's comment seem to be made in an effort to change her mentality. Her mentality was that she felt good about herself. Who was the commenter to change her mentality about that? What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?
Lovely reply. 0 -
But you know what, though, who cares if she verbalized it to feel better about herself or whatever other reason. How is it any different than the other things we do to feel better about ourselves, like working out, putting on make-up, or taking cell phone pics in the bathroom mirror?
If that works for her, why should anyone else care?
The person's comment seem to be made in an effort to change her mentality. Her mentality was that she felt good about herself. Who was the commenter to change her mentality about that? What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?
Excellent post.
You can think it but heaven forbid that you verbalise it....That simply will not do.0 -
It's good to genuinely love yourself.
But, it is problematic if it is narcissism. And sometimes people that have narcissism are that way because of deep feelings of inadequacy. Although, I also think it would be odd to just go around diagnosing people with this without enough real info or experience with that person. And it's also easy for someone's own issues and stuff to influence how they perceive what another person is saying.
Also, mfp is unique in a sense. For example, I will talk about my body at times because we are talking about fitness knowledge and results and stuff like that. In real life, I would never go around talking about my body like that (and not on other places on the internet either).
hahahaha Yes!! I wouldn't go around introducing myself as "Hi, I'm pretty into myself. Nice to meet you" lmao I wouldn't even post that status on FB...But with MFP, we're all here to work on improvement...Most of it is physical, but a lot of it is mental as well. For the first time in my life, I can actually say I'm pretty into myself and MEAN IT. So yeah...Sorry I'm not sorry!
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Agreed.
you just come into the forums and post random stuff so I see your profile pic and wish you would let me friend you, Don't you????
DAMN YOU TO HELL!
:laugh:
Indeed; you seem to have unravelled my master plan but it has already been set in motion...
I have tried like twenty times to get a response out of you and this is the first time!
I'm so excited I can't think of anything clever to say!!
Your abs are hot!
that's either the right thing.....or the soooo very wrong thing to say....
good luck :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
-watchin from the sidelines0
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