"I'm pretty into myself"

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  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    It's all about context.

    I love my kids, but I don't feel the need to tell them or anyone else how much I love them constantly. The same could be applicable to myself. There's a fine line between being comfortable with yourself and confident about yourself and just being obnoxious.
  • angelams1019
    angelams1019 Posts: 1,102 Member
    This is the most thought provoking thread I have seen on MFP all year. I appreciate you starting the dialogue. Your self-declaration of awesome frees others to do the same. One poet (Marianne Williamson) said it this way.

    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

    :heart:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?

    That door opens as soon as the OP broadcasts.

    Fair enough, but my point was that some people should find better things to do than worry about what others think of themselves. If you can stop and point out another's flaws just because you spotted them, then you aren't spending nearly enough time working on your own.
  • highmaintnance
    highmaintnance Posts: 215 Member
    Because Im not awesome and you aren't either!
    Peanut butter,chocolate banana sandwiches on the other hand.....


    Drool. I want one!
  • bearkisses
    bearkisses Posts: 1,252 Member
    What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?

    That door opens as soon as the OP broadcasts.

    Fair enough, but my point was that some people should find better things to do than worry about what others think of themselves. If you can stop and point out another's flaws just because you spotted them, then you aren't spending nearly enough time working on your own.

    this! high five or walk-on. There is always such a need to put others down.
  • crystalflame
    crystalflame Posts: 1,049 Member
    Rambling thought: some cultural taboos take a long time to change because they're not something society realizes should change. Not bragging about oneself brings to mind days where manners were emphasized to the point of excess. (Manners are great. Being polite is great. Following a bunch of trivial rules about holding teacups or setting tables because that's the only way to be a proper lady or gentleman and show to society that you're worth its acceptance annoys me.) While it's a lot more acceptable to talk about yourself proudly now than it was in the Victorian era, certain attitudes and mindsets still linger from our ancestors because we've never noticed how significant their impact is.

    Personal note: I agree with the person who said context is important. I don't like myself most days. On the days I do, I tell my best friend, and he's always happy and supportive and right there with me because he knows how hard I find it to love and accept myself. I don't think I'd ever feel comfortable posting it to the general masses because my fear of lack of appreciation/negative comments would be too great.
  • angelams1019
    angelams1019 Posts: 1,102 Member
    What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?

    That door opens as soon as the OP broadcasts.

    You're exactly right. When I posted the status I subjected myself to other people's opinions. I'm glad I did because I think regardless of your stance, its an interesting topic. Some of us will agree and some of us wont. Thats life! :smile:
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  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    I like myself a lot. I am pretty awesome and I don't care who knows that I know it. That's why my friends are all amazing people: they have to love themselves to not feel intimidated by my self-appreciation.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    Agreed.

    you just come into the forums and post random stuff so I see your profile pic and wish you would let me friend you, Don't you????

    DAMN YOU TO HELL!

    :laugh:


    Indeed; you seem to have unravelled my master plan but it has already been set in motion...

    I have tried like twenty times to get a response out of you and this is the first time!

    I'm so excited I can't think of anything clever to say!!

    Your abs are hot!

    that's either the right thing.....or the soooo very wrong thing to say....

    good luck :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

    -watchin from the sidelines

    Is this better:


    DIODELCIBO!!!! Abbi pietà di me!

    :love:
  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
    Fair enough, but my point was that some people should find better things to do than worry about what others think of themselves. If you can stop and point out another's flaws just because you spotted them, then you aren't spending nearly enough time working on your own.

    The internet is a fun place. You can get people randomly telling everyone how great they are, and people randomly telling people how great they aren't. And random uninformed psychoanalysis between all actors in this drama.
  • EmilyJackCO
    EmilyJackCO Posts: 621 Member
    I think you *have* to be pretty into yourself to be willing to work this hard!! I know somewhere in here, I am really worth it, and that's what's getting me through this tough time. You have to care about yourself enough to WANT to take care of yourself, to sacrifice, to bust your butt in the gym instead of lolling about on the couch. I am suffering a depression relapse, and I have to tell myself all this EVERY day right now. I'll believe it again. Soon, I hope. Because even though the self-hatred has returned, I know better, and I know that giving up all I've fought so hard for throwing into that is the WORST thing I could do. :)
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    I like myself a lot. I am pretty awesome and I don't care who knows that I know it. That's why my friends are all amazing people: they have to love themselves to not feel intimidated by my self-appreciation.

    The pressure to live up to you is overwhelming sometimes.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I don't think that it's not acceptable to love yourself. The question doesn't come into play simply because you love yourself, the question come with the way you express it, the words you choose, and your compulsion to let everyone know instead of be self assured enough to know this within yourself. If someone asked me I would tell that that yes, I do infact love myself and am proud of the woman I've become . . . but I think that if you were to ask people close to me they'd would tell you this too . . . they don't know it because I've told them, they know it because of how I respect myself and the love and respect I show for others.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Fair enough, but my point was that some people should find better things to do than worry about what others think of themselves. If you can stop and point out another's flaws just because you spotted them, then you aren't spending nearly enough time working on your own.

    The internet is a fun place. You can get people randomly telling everyone how great they are, and people randomly telling people how great they aren't. And random uninformed psychoanalysis between all actors in this drama.

    Still doesn't change the fact that this person revealed their own character flaws by pointing out another's.

    Hate to get cliche here, but I'm pretty sure we all know what happens when we point fingers.
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  • tedrickp
    tedrickp Posts: 1,229 Member
    But you know what, though, who cares if she verbalized it to feel better about herself or whatever other reason. How is it any different than the other things we do to feel better about ourselves, like working out, putting on make-up, or taking cell phone pics in the bathroom mirror?

    If that works for her, why should anyone else care?

    The person's comment seem to be made in an effort to change her mentality. Her mentality was that she felt good about herself. Who was the commenter to change her mentality about that? What right did he or she have to concern him or herself with how the OP thought or felt?

    100x This.

    Self confidence is a huge issue for some people. If you read anything about building self confidence, one of the most basic steps is to start acting confident. I can't even imagine someone construing her original message as cockiness or arrogance. If someone on my friend list posted that - I would be quick to drop a message in agreement.
  • BeLikeBarbi
    BeLikeBarbi Posts: 57
    I really thought I liked myself, but I suppose it does make sense that I maybe just have low self esteem. Now I'm just confused. How do you know if you really love yourself or if it's your low self esteem in disguise? :(
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  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I really thought I liked myself, but I suppose it does make sense that I maybe just have low self esteem. Now I'm just confused. How do you know if you really love yourself or if it's your low self esteem in disguise? :(

    Honestly, the person with the low self-esteem was the one that found it necessary to tell someone else that they have low self-esteem.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    this is still dumb
    i cant believe I wasted 2 mins of my life on this post
    I want a refund please

    KTHXBAI!
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    I think there is a big difference between "loving thyself" and "worshipping thyself"

    "Loving thyself" is healthy, and a necessary thing to do if you want to have healthy relationships.

    "Worshiping thyself" is when you take your love of yourself beyond where it is healthy, to the point of alienating others, and making yourself the focus of all relationships.



    Thinking you are amazing, is healthy (and that sounds like where you are)


    Thinking you are so amazing that no one else could possibly compare to you... that you are the best there is, the best there was, and the best that there ever will be... that's plain nasty.
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  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    In my experience, if you are awesome, the awesomeness generally shows itself within a few interactions (even online). You don't need to proclaim it. Saying it doesn't make you NOT awesome. But it might make your awesomeness shine a little less bright.
    This.

    If you think it/feel it, all of the people who need to believe it (read: just you) already know it. I don't understand the need to say it/type it. But, if you were on my FL I wouldn't assume you have poor self-esteem because you said it. I'd probably pat you on the bottom and say "yay!"
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    this is still dumb
    i cant believe I wasted 2 mins of my life on this post
    I want a refund please

    KTHXBAI!

    I dont know what KTHXBA means

    Kay....thanks....bye.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member


    Is this better:


    DIODELCIBO!!!! Abbi pietà di me!

    :love:

    damn :ohwell:

    guess he doesn't speak Italian after all :tongue:
  • angelams1019
    angelams1019 Posts: 1,102 Member
    In my experience, if you are awesome, the awesomeness generally shows itself within a few interactions (even online). You don't need to proclaim it. Saying it doesn't make you NOT awesome. But it might make your awesomeness shine a little less bright.
    This.

    If you think it/feel it, all of the people who need to believe it (read: just you) already know it. I don't understand the need to say it/type it. But, if you were on my FL I wouldn't assume you have poor self-esteem because you said it. I'd probably pat you on the bottom and say "yay!"
    hahahah Pats on the bottom are always appreciated! :drinker:
  • lina1131
    lina1131 Posts: 2,246 Member
    this is still dumb
    i cant believe I wasted 2 mins of my life on this post
    I want a refund please

    KTHXBAI!

    I dont know what KTHXBA means

    Okay Thanks Bye.

    AKA - If you don't like the thread, leave?
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    this is a dumb topic
    who cares how awesome you think you are?

    I hope every cares how awesome Diodelcibo's abs are.

    Just sayin'. There's a silver lining on everything.
  • angelams1019
    angelams1019 Posts: 1,102 Member
    this is still dumb
    i cant believe I wasted 2 mins of my life on this post
    I want a refund please

    KTHXBAI!

    I dont know what KTHXBA means

    Kay....thanks....bye.

    hahahaha This! Sorry we are boring you. But I think you missed the point.

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