WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2015

ydailey

I have a childhood friend who's interviewing for a teaching job in a town just up the road from ours, so this evening my sweetie and I met him for dinner. When I know I'm going to be eating out I try to plan ahead for a little splurge, so I was able to have a big chef salad for dinner AND a slice of chocolate toffee pie. I'm not willing to give up those little indulgences, and that's why MFP has been so useful for me - I don't have to deny myself but I can still be aware of my intake. It makes the connection between exercise and calories in very, very clear! Everybody's got their own motivations, and here is my confession: I don't exercise for health or stress relief or any of that stuff. I exercise so I can have a margarita now and then, or a beer, or a bowl of ice cream. Or a slice of chocolate toffee pie!

After dinner, sweetie and I picked up the dog and took her for an hour-long walk around the lake at the community park. ("No, don't chase the duck. No, not that duck either. Those ducks over there, uh uh. Leave it, leave it, leave it.." And so on.) We had a good time and the rain has really started to bring out the fireflies!

-Yvonne

lhannon062709

Thanks, Janet....Pig was not easy to write in a lot of ways... But had to be written. Until I killed the old man off, I couldn't move on. Enough said.

janetr7476

@Lisa, I can understand that. I am so glad you we able to and that you are now living your enchanted life and sharing it with us. Thank you.

janetr7476

ydailey wrote: »

I have a childhood friend who's interviewing for a teaching job in a town just up the road from ours, so this evening my sweetie and I met him for dinner. When I know I'm going to be eating out I try to plan ahead for a little splurge, so I was able to have a big chef salad for dinner AND a slice of chocolate toffee pie. I'm not willing to give up those little indulgences, and that's why MFP has been so useful for me - I don't have to deny myself but I can still be aware of my intake. It makes the connection between exercise and calories in very, very clear! Everybody's got their own motivations, and here is my confession: I don't exercise for health or stress relief or any of that stuff. I exercise so I can have a margarita now and then, or a beer, or a bowl of ice cream. Or a slice of chocolate toffee pie!

After dinner, sweetie and I picked up the dog and took her for an hour-long walk around the lake at the community park. ("No, don't chase the duck. No, not that duck either. Those ducks over there, uh uh. Leave it, leave it, leave it.." And so on.) We had a good time and the rain has really started to bring out the fireflies!

-Yvonne

I love you saying that. I always tell my daughters apparently I like eating more than I dislike exercising. Although my body and I have noticed and do appreciate the benefits of the exercise.

Janetr

Lilymay2

Dear Diary

I am glad I got in on the last posts.... silly comments eh! Made me chuckle, just what I needed after the super crappy day at work. Too much bull *kitten* bickering and sneaky stuff....

So... I am just going to start over tomorrow.... today I ate it seems a lot... came home - watered plants and moved sprinklers... maybe I wore off the calories I ate ..I don't know.

We sure could do with some rain. Temperatures hitting +30 and +33 Celsius on the weekend. We have an outdoor wedding to go to so I think I will make sure I have several umbrellas. My DIL is 8 months pregnant and she will just wilt.

I better go to bed and hopefully wake up with a refreshed attitude, DGS is coming over in the morning.

Lillian in West Central Saskatchewan

GodMomKim

Lets see if I can do any responding tonight… still tired but not as bad…
I am reading everything, just not typing a response…

Alison – take care!

Swimming stories: I love that many others are “retired” Life guards me too… I taught swimming, taught water skiing and coached water polo practice back in high school and college. I loved it! I learned to swim by the time I was 2 (really! my dad – a competitive water polo player taught me the crawl before mom got me to walk across the room) While I did teach kids, my favorite were the private adult lessons… I loved getting an adult to love the water. My favorite story from those times was a woman, pretty heavy set, with kids and she signed them up for lessons and was so afraid, so we got her in lessons too, it took once a week all summer she started too afraid to come into the pool area, but by fall she was comfortable enough to take water aerobics - She had been too afraid of the water to even take a bath…just showers… I am sure there was some serious trauma behind her fear, but as a teen I did not care, I was just going to get her into the water it was a long time but she was motivated, and did it.

Joyce – take care of you, and hub!

Yvonne – I like raw veggies better with dip, and have found bolthouse lite dressing, it is refrigerated – and is done with yogurt, so 40 ish calories for 2 Tablespoons and that helps me eat more raw veggies…

Love stories – So interesting to hear about how many met on line, I have no love story, just sob stories, I was engaged once but when his wife (yes his wife) told me she existed and in fact she was not dead (that was what he told me) and she thought all was fine, I gave her the engagement ring he had given me, which turned out to be her grandmothers and was being saved for their daughter…. What a liar. While I have considered online, I am always too scared of how much you have to share with a complete stranger… of course look at what I do here, and feel safe…hmmmm

Heather – great pic. I am so jealous of your “train fare” is that on the underground? We are not allowed to drink or eat on the local train transit… it is called Bart here (Bay Area Rapid transit) a glorified train…

Lisa, Pip and a few others! – thanks. Our defenders!

Carol – hope your shoulder feels better!




June goals:
Walk every day 180 miles for the month (in May I did 175… thought maybe a higher goal would be good)
NEW – 1 plank every day – and log them here – 18 – missed one just forgot!
Log everyday
Eat slower
do 2 fun things every week -
week 1 – no traditional fun – but working hard to get all embroidery jobs done, clean up clutter inside and out, so that my doggy sitter will not have that to deal with, and the house will look nice when I get home.
Week 2 – Seattle seeing my Godson graduate from college

Kim from N. California

yanniejannie

First..........suerontur.......don't leave mad, just leave........you rude comment was entirely uncalled for and I'm sure with your attitude you would not fit in here. Be gone.

Now on to my "diary" ......very full unexpected day. My friend, Goldy, managed to break her (R) foot and I spent most of the day driving her to clinic, xray, ortho with another ortho appt. tomorrow, at eight am. Not doing food, eating wasn't "bad" just off kilter. Unplanned lunch out at an unfamiliar place. Had to convince her to take some Advil. My exercise was at the dog park for an hour and a half with Gemma and her doggy friends.

Lisa......Hey, Princess, beautiful love story.

Cheri.......Wow, cactus and rose sure "spoke" to me.

Tere.....Loved your tree story; he sure knew a good thing when he saw it!

terri......Glad you are having fun. I've also "lost" a car after a concert and wandered a parking lot at midnight looking for it.

janetr........Cute, cute doggies!

Beth....... We met in Aug., married in Dec. Yay for getting the van, Boo for the modifications taking so long.

Katla.......I'm so happy the cream worked; still wish it had a nicer name.

Kate........My cousin married and moved to Canada also. Good luck.

Heather........I swear your DGC are the most picture perfect children, always adorable!!!!! I read an article about the top five bars and Quest Coconut Cashew was one of them so I just tried it, not bad. I had never eaten an energy bar before. 170 cals., 20gms protein, 1g. sugar

Carol.........((((((Hugs))))))) (gentle) to feel better.

Have read all, sorry can't comment more, off to bed.
Very tired,
yanniejannie
mid-Atlantic

JanetMMcC

Got in 10K steps today but went over 60 calories. Had I realized that 4 oz of seaweed salad has 245 cal and an ungodly amount of sodium, I'd've foregone it. <sigh>
(later) I checked elsewhere about wakame, and found that yes, it does have too much sodium, but not THAT much. So have too much sodium but not a terrifying amount, and am within budget on calories.
Today's news from Louisiana - at least, that part of it which I wrote.
A much older story that came up in the same search (mcconnaughey flood alligator)
4 pages, 5 photos, all by me. (except for "tiptoed," which was edited in for my "a-tiptoe." I might have written "on tiptoe," but that probably would have been less subject to change.)
Sometimes my job is so much fun I'm amazed that I get paid for it.


Joyce, *tremendous* sympathy for your husband and you.
I read in Consumer Reports many years back that most of us don't need sports drinks, and a half-and-half mixture of apple juice and water will do the job.
Just out of curiosity, how tall are you? I got down to a size 16, at about 170 lbs, and was thinking 150 might get me to 14. I used to be 5-7.5, am now 5-5 or 5-6, the latter being what shows up in the dr's records, but i think the little numbers showed 5-5.
I haven't been a size 12 in lordknowshowlong. I could fit into 12s at about 125-140 lbs.

Allison - You're welcome.
I seem to recall there are 5 varieties of candy in those bags. IF they're evenly divided, pulling out the Twixes would reduce those 175 pieces by about 35, which would make it roughly 5 weeks worth of candy instead of 6.
And of course it may not be evenily divided. But if you bring them by the week, at least you'll know when they're running out before the last minute.
YAY on the mini!

Debbie Clark - keep at it. From your photo, I'd say you're within what - 20, 30, 40 pounds of goal? That alone means loss is slow.

Lenora - the spitting wasn't drool, just taking a mouthful of water and squirting it out onto someone.
Yeah, I loved night swimming with the lights on. I remember standing in front of the lights on cool fall or spring nights to savor the warmth.
Hope your eye feels better Real Soon.
Boiled egg calories depend on the size. I think larges run about 75.

Cheri - I envy your weather. It's 9pm and down to 79 in New Orleans.

Lisa - awwww, both the how-we-met and the photo.

Hey, Gin! 2 pounds a week for someone so small and so close to goal is a hard row to hoe. But keep logging what you eat and do, and weight *will* come off, even if not as fast as you want.

Jen - Good on you for finding out what the problem was and reaching a good settlement.

Yvonne - I generally have to work out veggies for myself, because Larry (who has done most of the cooking since he lost his last job a good few years ago) never thinks to make 'em. I buy lots of the frozen bagged veggies. They're more expensive, but I can tell Larry, "Just cook up a bag of something" and there are my three servings. I'll often have a bag at lunch at work, too.
I didn't pay enough attention to the nutrition labels and learned ex post facto that the garlic cauliflower, while reasonably low in calories, is unreasonably high in sodium.
A co-worker whose mother was a nurse in OB-GYN told me that a new mom on the unit told her mother that her baby's name was "Wy-vuh-nee." After a couple repetitions, she askedk the woman to spell it. It was spelled just like yours.
That'd be so cool if your friend gets a job nearby!

Tere - funny meeting story! So your guy hadn't asked what he'd be paid beforehand?

JanetR - doggie awe awwwwww

Larry and I didn't meet on the Internet, but I got onto the 'net because of him. When we started this-here circus, he was still living in the DC area and I was in New Orleans. We may have hastened the demise of the post office's guaranteed speedy delivery, because we used it reguarly and quite often got free deliveries because the previous one hadn't met the time limit.
Be that as it may, after a while Larry suggested email. As it happened, I got a a $2,000 windfall toward the end of 1983. That got me a Radio Shack Model 100 with the full 32K memroy, stedda the basic ... I think it was 24K - and a very slow printer. The computer came with an introductory free membership to CompuServe. Talk about addictive! I could have bought a used VW with the $6/hour payments over the next few years.

Renee - wow. Tough road back. Congrats on making it to the gym after such bad injuries!

Evangelia - great workouts!

Beth - sounds as if bwc must stand for Beth's Whirlwind Courtship. ;-D
What a terrifying story about the double dive.

Mia - yeah, the protein bars with chocolate do make a huge mess on a hot day. I tried putting them in an insulated bag on Monday, but that wasn't proof against a day in a hot car.
Sushi and SF - I knew there was a reason I liked you. ;-D

DJanet - the title of my first job with the AP was "news dictationist." It's a job that was obliterated by computers; I started in fall '74, a couple years before the AP bought its first computers. There were a bunch of us. Each sat at a typewriter and wore a headset. The typewriters had a font the size of primer type amd were set to triple space; we typed onto 5-carbon "books".
When a reporter or PR person called in, the next person up took it and wrote down the news story or news release verbaatim. So, yeah, typewriter attachment is, I think, accurate.

Heather - Funny, lovely pic of the kids looking at you and your husband looking at the book.

barbie from NW Wash - I often order from the menu, but almost as often get substitutions. Had a lovely salmon filet with double veg instead of veg and potatoes a few weeks back. And the veg was asparagus! Before I went to Baton Rouge on Monday, I looked for restaurants within walking distance, checked menus and called to see if they had wi-fi. I ate at one becuase it was a straight walk from the court, had wi-fi, offered a fish filet with 2 sides, and the choices included green beans and fresh fruit cup.

Carol in NC: <<sympathy>>

Sylvia - *great* about the quickly assembled walking group. Oh, owie. <<hugs>> to you as well as the grandbabe.

I figured out when I started here by going to the weight tracking page and seeing how far back the line went. Of course, I've no forgotten.

JKDooley - congrats on being halfway to goal!

peeps - you have a desk job, but you sure as shootin' ain't sedentary!

Kim - Very cool about learning to swim at 2, and getting the woman who was afraid to bathe to learn to swim.
And I'll note that by the time Larry came to visit for Mardi Gras, I was 30 and had decided, OK, I was going to be single for the rest of my life.
(And my father married a really sweet woman about a decade after my mother died.)
I have, thank Whatever, never been courted by a slimeball like that guy.

yanniejannie - what a good friend you are!


JanetM,inNO,Puttering along

RebelRenny

End of day post. Don't get used to this ladies. Once I am back to work, I know I won't be able to keep up and you'll be wondering where I've gone.

☼ I went to a catch-up yoga class this morning and rode my (new) bike there and back. So that was an hour of cycling, huffing and puffing (boy I am out of shape) and an hour of yoga (bliss). I learned a few more stretches at yoga, adding to my repertoire.

☼ DH made soup and salad for dinner, but I think I overdid it on the nuts today.

Tomorrow is another day and I will likely will spend it with DD and the kiddies.

Goodnight ladies!
♥Renny

exermom

Did about 42 minutes of Paul Katemi's ASAP Sculpt DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do Leslie Sansone's burn Body Fast DVD. While Amanda (jess's friend) is here, I'm trying to do DVD's that aren't as long.

Mary from MN - wonder how they remove some of the moisture from the sweet potatoes? If you were to remove enough, maybe you wouldn't have to deep fry them. My stomach just says "I don't think so..." whenever I have something deep fried.

Kim - great job getting rid of the cookies!

Yes, it's 2a.m. Jessica's friend just got here. I admit it, I did overeat, mainly because it's late and I just wanted something. To be honest, I'm not impressed at all with her exhubby. He didn't once say anything to us like "thank you for letting us stay with you". He does have medical issues. He has a portable dialysis machine and had insulin for his diabetes. She, on the other hand, said over and over "thank you for letting us stay with you". They plan to leave tomorrow to, I guess, drive around. she said they have an appointment at 3 but said they'll probably leave around 10. I'm thinking more to get a feel for the area. she said they want to look in the hickory area (!). I would have thought the Lenoir area since her friend is in Boone, but she said she purposely doesn't want to be too close to her friend since if she was, she'd always be at her friend's house. To me, Charlotte has quite a few jobs, but she said that in the Hickory area there are lots of jobs. Who knows? Maybe she stays in such close contact with her ex because she feels somewhat guilty because of his medical conditions. That and the fact that he's the father of her child.

katla - I do like the feature that all the posts are now on one thread, not that it gets locked after 500. Guess that's the change that I like the most. I do miss the "member since....."

Welcome everyone new

Joyce - when Tonia mentioned the karaoke app, I immediately thought of you. I met my husband while working at a fast food place. He worked the night shift and I worked during the day, but our boss was promoted to a manager and we went to a party for him. The thing was, I got so drunk that he came to work the next day and I didn't remember him! Actually, this is the anniversary of the day we met way back when. My heart breaks for Charlie

Alison - yea you got that iPad mini! So happy for you. Of course the first thing you would download would be MFP! Totally stands to reason

If Amanda's first appointment isn't until 3, I have a funny feeling that Aiden (the son) is going to want to go in the pool. Well, they will just have to be here. I thought for sure they'd have more than one appointment lined up.

Debbieclark - you can try varying the type of exercise you do (even tho you are very active, is it very active always doing the same thing?), the amount of time you spend doing it, also the intensity (are you always doing the exercise at the same intensity, try sprinting for a few seconds, then recovering for a few seconds)

GRITS - dropping the Baby Ruth in the pool reminded me of that movie -- what was it? where they put a baby ruth (or maybe it was a tootsie roll) in the pool. Hilarious. What are you doing? taking lessons from Poop on eyes? We can't have either of you not seeing. Many times I just have a hard boiled egg white in my salad. There's just something about the texture of the eggyolk when it's hard boiled, I don't care for it. But the white...now that's a different story.

mia - the hosp had a place in the mall where they used to demo healthy cooking. I went quite a few times. There were lots of people who would come and have their lunch there. they gave the calorie counts and sometimes they didn't. I many times suggested to them that they get the program MasterCook which would give all the values, it wasn't real expensive (I think something like $9) but for some reason they never did.

DJ - not a problem. Someone (and I don't remember who) had a bad itch. I was saying that we read on the internet that one thing to do for itch was to put a hairdryer on the itch (like a mosquioto bite) as hot as you can possibly stand it. That will TEMPORARILY relieve the itch. The reason behind it is that the heat breaks up the histamines. When we were cutting the weeds by the power lines, we got these nasty bug bites. We tried everything, and I do mean everything, to relieve the itch. Then we decided "why not try it, what's the worst that can happen, it probably won't help but why not try?". Well, it really did work!!!!! I do use the weights at the Y, I just don't use them at home. I seem to work more on my legs. A friend of mine who I play mahjongg with is selling her house. She used to live in GA and when she did she had a pool. She wants to give me her float, says it's very expensive, but I want to pay her something for it. I have no idea how expensive it was or what. But I wouldn't feel right just taking it from her.

Today is NOT going to be a good day. I can tell, and I don't really know why, but I'm stressed. Maybe it's because Jessica told us that she doesn't really trust Andy (Amanda's ex) and I know Vince is on edge about that. Maybe that's part of it.

Cheri - Vince has said that the next time we move is when the kids put us in the home....lol

Mia - thanks for the tofu ideas. At least now I know that it's really more of a side than something that goes into a salad.

Amanda, Aiden and Andy have left. They are going to be looking at places in Claremont and I think looking at the area. They were talking about going in the pool later tonight. I will probably go in now to sun myself and then do my exercises. I don't know why having them here is stressing me out so much, I'm normally not like this with company.

Beth - so glad to hear those boys are OK

I'm SURE the stress is related to Amanda, Andy and Aiden being here. I think it has more to do with Andy than anything else. Yes, I'm still indulging, but at least now it's on better-for-you things like cherries and cheese rather than cookies. Update: the came back, did find a place (a trailer), 3bdrms, 2 bath in Claremont. Hope for them that the application goes thru. Well, afterwards, they wanted to go in the pool, no problem, only we hadn't had dinner yet and I was STARVING, and I do mean starving. We went to Subway. It was interesting, I can understand about wanting to save as much money as you can. but I in a way thought they'd say something like "let us buy you dinner for letting us stay at your house", but they didn't. Not that it was anything big. Yet, for Amanda's 6" sub, Andy's 6" sub and Aiden's kids meal it was more expensive than Vince's 12" sub and my 6" sub. I bet a lot of that was because I had water to drink. Well, it's not like we're going to starve to death

Poop - what nails!

katekyi - do you microwave your beets?

Lisa and MNMargaret - WTG!!!! Well said. sue - what do you think the "rules" should be? I may not like something someone says or I may not agree with it, but I've never been offended.

Michele in NC

CrazybeeRX

Just getting started again. Right now I am just working on getting in exercise (walking several times a week). I am diabetic and need to walk to help get blood sugar down. I will work towards adding my food in and really working on the weight soon. I just need more motivation, in hate tracking things. Takes too much thinking. I am a 56 yr old woman starting adoption proceedings on one of my 3 yr old grandsons while living with 2 other grandkids and my son and his wife. Between work and my grandkids I am pretty busy and right now having a hard time even taking my medication for my diabetes or fibromyalgia. So logging food seems very stressful to me. I figure I can start by logging excercise. I just need friends and people to talk to my life has been crazy for 2 yrs and just starting to get back to normal with the adoption in sight. It should be final by September and I might feel normal again and able to work on logging food and being serious about losing weight.

jmkmomm

Yo, phat chat ladies! Is that more hip for you guys???

Allison, so glad your iPad mini came in. You will have to access the community forums from your Safari browser that should be pre-installed.

Sylvia, was wondering myself what was with the antelope! My girls would have had a time with that if my spell check had done that when I text them. They swear they are going to publish what I text them.

DebbieClark, what I found most helpful was just to log in all the food I was eating so that I could see exactly what I was eating. I could see the cold hard facts of calories, carbohydrates, fat, and sodium. That is knowledge to see what I am actually putting into my body and i can see where I need to improve. So the first week or two can be interesting fact finding.

Lisa, what a beautiful love story and grand baby.

Gin, all I can say is that you are so beautiful, you can make this work.

janetr, love the best buds. Your living room reminds me of what our living room looked llike when our girls were little, toys all about.

Lenora, when my daughter was pregnant with her first baby, she asked me what I wanted to be called. I told her I preferred Grandma but would gladly accept whatever my grand child said. So Christina always referred to us as Grandma and Grandpa. Some how Trinity got Mamaw and Babaw. She eventually called us Grandma and Grandpa. But my Mom and my MIL was still living so they were Grandma Pete and Grandma Vi. Her husbands Mom wanted Grannie. I was brought up that Grannie was a term of disrespect.

Mia, WOW, some one tried it!!!!! Thanks for being the guinea pig. The theory is that since Preparation H shrinks hemorhoids, it will shrink eye bags. I have no idea how long it takes. We'll let you keep up the experiment and keep us informed.

Becca, so far I think your love story is the sweetest.

Beth, the other night we were at Walmart and there was a big puddle. I told my husband that if I was a little girl I would be splashing in that. He just rolled his eyes and shook his head. He said you never know if there is a break in the pavement and you could turn your ankle. Spontaneity! Live for the day!!!

Heather, your husband looks so happy reading to the grand kids. Glad you had a good day

Suerontur3, I like to describe our group here as a bunch of women having coffee together just talking. Because we invest in these friends emotionally it helps us know them and them know us. And then we can know better how to help them. This isn't a very strict do this and that to do well on your diet. Our lives, emotional, physical and physiological all affect how we lose weight. It's not a simple equation. This may or may not be the right forum for you. If it is, chose how much you want to read and write about yourself. But we are a great group or caring women. If you let us help and know you, we are here for you.

Kim, how sad. I doubt hour ex had a very good day when his wife confronted him with the ring. Wouldn't you like to be a fly on a wall sometimes????

JanetM, I am 5'5''. I am amazed at the size of clothes I wear. I don't know how or why they fit. Maybe they are stretched out. I have had them for a year now. When I was in high school I was a size 12 and weighed 118 pounds.

Well ladies, have not had a good day at all. Last night when I was getting ready for bed, I stood up to go potty one last time and strained that darned muscle in my back. I took my Advil and went to bed. Then this morning some guy called and said he was from Microsoft and that my Windows certificate had expired and they had record of a lot of errors showing up on my computer overnight. I was very hesitant about it but the guy had me turn on my computer and gave me a command to type in and it gave me the owner number of the certificate. He read it to me and it was correct. I did not read it to him and then he say it was correct. And it did show a huge amount of errors, over 37,000. I was getting a little more trustful of him, he was very patient with me. So in order to correct those errors he needed me to let him have access to my computer. Hesitantly I said yes and let him do it. I saw all the things he was doing, of course there may have been some one else doing something else I couldn't see. Then he said in order to finally clean up all those errors and have a 5 year extension of my Windows certificate, I would have to pay such and such amount of money. This is when I said I needed to check the validity of what he was saying. So he gave me his name, employee ID and phone number to call back. So I called the Windows support that I found on the internet which was a different number than what he gave me. She said it was a scam and immediately assisted me in doing a system restore. So she sent a thing to my email for me to fill out so be sent to their legal team to deal with it. It was similar to other reports. I feel terrible for letting it happen. I should have known, I felt uneasy several times but he was so convincing in what he was telling me. But when he stopped answering my questions and hurrying me through anything was when I got suspicious and stopped it from going any further.

Then tonight we were going out to one of my favorite places to go, Texas Roadhouse, I love their grilled chicken salad. I leave off the croutons, bacon and cheese and it's basically a grilled chicken breast, purple onion, and chopped real egg on a nice bed of greens. Well 3 times in a 7 day period my husband has walked out of a restaurant because it was to cold, not noticed and served quick enough or other reasons. The hostess has already seated us and we had the menus and then we just leave. I do my whole days menu in the morning and I know what I am going to have for supper. Many times I put in my supper and bedtime snack and then see what is left to determine what to have for lunch, which is what I did today. So he asks while we are in the car 'where do you want to go? HMMM, maybe to court???? So we went across the street to Steak and Shake where one of my weaknesses is the Chili Mac Supreme. So first I am emotional which kicks in that eating bad thing and now we are in Steak and Shake and he is looking at his watch and about ready to leave again. Lady comes over and we order. I do order my weakness but I only eat half of it. But I am still eating the white spaghetti. I have no idea how the subject comes up but we talk about me contradicting him. I ask him if he realizes that if I contradict him, that also makes him contradicting me. He says it doesn't because if I have a different philosophy than his then I am an idiot and am stupid so that means my opinion doesn't count. Then to add insult to injury he says that sometimes he wishes that we did have 'sharia' (spelling?) law here so that women could be considered 4th class citizens. Now i realize that he probably isn't mad at me, He has had so many changes in his life since he retired and all of his dreams were smashed that he is just unhappy right now. But it sure changed me for the rest of the day. After he went to Karaoke, I went to Walmart and bought a pint of Ben and Jerrys ice cream and ate it all. I had all sorts of plans on how to act when he came home but I couldn't make myself act that awful to him. I have never used the bigger salary thing on him. When we were working and of course with our social security checks, mine is twice the size of his. He couldn't have bought all the nice cars we have had, gone on the vacations, have the nice retirement egg we have if it weren't for my paycheck. When we were working, we were equals in our decisions financially. I never even thought of having a separate checking account. We were a team.

OK, that's my day ladies!!! Tomorrow is his appointment with the neurologist. I doubt he will be able to help with any of Charlies present problems, just validate that his Parkinson's is getting worse, which Charlie doesn't want to see.

Oh forgot to add a quote I found yesterday. Don't downgrade your dreams to fit your reality. Upgrade your convictions to match your destiny.

Love you guys! Joyce, Indiana

Katla49

Tere: Your love story makes me feel happy inside and out. I’m smiling, and that proves it.

Pip: Iove the fancy fingernails! :bigsmile:

Heather: Lovely photo of DH and the kids. Your description of the home being remodeled all around them & a certain level of chaos reminds me of DD’s & DSIL’s house. :flowerforyou:

Yanniejannie: The cream, whose name shall not be repeated, :devil: is very helpful. Then again, someone else may need Baby Anti Monkey Butt Diaper Rash Cream. :bigsmile: It will take a bit of time for everything to heal, and in the meantime I am dramatically more comfortable. My thanks go to you and your DD. :flowerforyou:



DH and I are staying in DSIL’s RV while we’re visiting this time. It was generous of her to give us this opportunity, and also took some effort to get it cleaned up and set up. I even have internet access out here.

Our incredibly rude poster :grumble: reminded me just how much I appreciate each of you.

Katla, currently in Beautiful Eastern Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

June Goals:
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.

KateKyi

@jmkmomm The PC team are horrendous. I keep getting phone calls from them. I have adopted the I dont have a PC as soon as they start telling me why they are phoning. They hang up. If I need to get my PC checked out I decide when I need it and when Im going to let a reputable company look at it. I do not need anyone else telling me to do it.

italy10548

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peachstategal

Kind of a NSV ~ My DH has gotten on board MFP and has decided it is time to lose some of the weight he has gained since stopping smoking. I think it will be motivating to me and hope he doesn't fizzle out.

Will go back and read the two or three pages I have missed since yesterday.

Carol - Peach

janetr7476

@Joyce, Indiana. - Love the quote. So sorry for your rough day. Certainly hope today is better.

Yes, the fur babies leave their toys all over the floor, except for the ones Charro is hiding from her brother.

Janetr

lhannon062709

Ah... I do love all you guys...I've been here 60 days now, and again I do want to extend my apologies for snapping back at the person who didn't like the posts. Not to the person in question, but to the rest of you. I know better than to start a flamewar... I was involved in some of the original ones back in the day. Not pleasant for anyone, and not my intent.

Joyce in Indiana and anyone else who gets calls about anything: I did a lot of research on scams for a couple articles I was writing. No reputable business anywhere will call YOU and ask you for any information anymore over the phone or over e-mail. Period. No matter what information they give you (and they can have a shocking amount of information on you) if they are asking you for anything, if you have not made the call yourself, do not ever give out information on the phone. I won't even give out my name anymore. Or even answer the question "Is this the lady of the house?" Standard answer--"I don't give out any information on the phone of any kind." If I'm in a snarky mood, the first thing out of my mouth is "What are you selling?" Irritates the living snot out of them, and they often just give up and go away at that point. And Joyce, once you realized it was a scam, you did really REALLY well to get straight through to Microsoft and get assistance. You could not have done anything better... So well done to you dear.

And other people than I will give you better advice regarding your interaction with your husband. My personal response would have been that the vast majority of women who live under sharia law do not work outside the home nor make the money that has allowed him to be sitting at Steak and Shake. But I am not necessarily a nice person, and you obviously are.

That said, Joyce, tools for coping with stress without turning to food are really important - whether it's talking to us (Journaling is what the stress counselors call it, but "dear diary" works, too... ) or exercise or deep breathing or other relaxation techniques. Ben & Jerry are nice guys, but they won't hug you and tell you it will be OK... they just go straight to your hips and stay there! Step away from the fridge and write it out here FIRST. Then, if you still want some, eat a small amount.

Thanks all for the comments on my "Corey Love Story," which may well have led to the "diary" crack! What I may have mentioned or not in the past is that I couldn't have kids of my own--I had the final surgery to try to correct the endometriosis at 25, and my tubes scarred back over immediately. Then a full hysterectomy at 40, after yet another 60-day period sent me into anemia, even though I weighed 300 pounds, sealed the deal. No babies for me. But then came Corey... and my kids, who are mine, believe me.

Their "other mother," as they call her is/was a drug addict and bipolar, and they desperately needed someone who just loved them and didn't steal their piggy bank money to fund her addiction. Long story, will probably use it in my next book!

Last, but not least, a lift for your day--the grandchildren I never thought I'd have (and Heather in the UK, yours are precious, LOVED that picture... ). If a smiling baby won't make you smile, there is something wrong with you. Just saying.

Lilymay2

Good morning lovely ladies. (Sorry I don't really care for phat chat)

Up at 5 a.m. to put sprinkler in the garden. And now having coffee and checking in with all of you. My little grandson will be here shortly, his regular sitter is sick. Should be fun.

So off to tidy up a few things before DGS get here.

Lillian in West Central Saskatchewan

csofled

ydailey wrote: »

...I'm not willing to give up those little indulgences, and that's why MFP has been so useful for me - I don't have to deny myself but I can still be aware of my intake. It makes the connection between exercise and calories in very, very clear! Everybody's got their own motivations, ...-Yvonne

Nicely said! Being on MFP allows me to not deny myself things that I crave, love or want to put in my mouth. As long as I am within my caloric total for the day I'm good to go. It may not always be the best nutritional choice but following this plan allows me to see what I put in and what I put out and still lose weight. I knew I could not engage in a "diet" that was all about restricting foods.

Cheri

Katla49

:flowerforyou:

fanncy0626

Morning ladies! Three more days of moving and we should be done. Still no appraisal on our house. We are supposed to close on Monday. They have two days left to make that a possibility.

Have a great day everyone!

Mary from Minnesota

cityjaneLondon

Hello my lovely ladies! Feisty or what? ! ! ? :flowerforyou:

Lisa - like you the grandchildren are not DH's "blood", but they couldn't love him more, especially DGS, and the feeling is mutual. He calls it his "unexpected blessing".

Kim - the train is intercity and takes one and a half hours. Then we have an underground and short overground journey to reach my son's house. The mainline station we arrive at and leave from is Waterloo, which has masses of food outlets, invluding sushi sellers and M&S where we bought our "feast". DH had something much less healthy, but he doesn't have to watch his weight. :noway:

Joyce - well done on catching that scam before it was too late. You did well and sharing your experience will help others. Sorry about the eating splurge, but I did something similar the other day and I am quite sure we are not the only ones. Just put it behind you and learn from it. :flowerforyou: With regard to your husband's behaviour, I know you have a heart full of compassion and are empathising with his distress, but he still does not have a right to speak to you like that. I feel for you, but you have to set some boundaries for your own mental health's sake and consequently your own delicate physical health, which in turn affects everyone around you.
Where that boundary is depends on you, but it could be, not going with him to restaurants at all and cooking your own dinner or immediately going home when he starts playing up and disrepecting you. This form of tyrannical behaviour is abuse and only you can call a halt to it. Firm, COOL, but kind is the way to go. Easier said than done, I know, but there are books on how to respond to that kind of behaviour I'm sure. You can still love him, but expect him to treat you right. He needs you now, more than ever, and that is frightening him. Don't let him wear you down as you need to be strong and have your self respect. Anyway I send you my very biggest (((HUGS))) and just think of us behind you next time he "tries it on".

Got in my 600 calorie exercise today. I too exercise largely so I can EAT and enjoy my food. I stick to a pretty consistent regime most of the time and have found this week particularly challenging. I also wrote this morning so I am feeling much more like my old self. Sent DH off to try to get the deposit for the French holiday to transfer into the owner's account and I will tackle my worst nightmare, a lot of legal forms for the sale of my rental. The solicitor keeps ringing me up to see if I have read everything so I'm thinking there must be something in the charges that I might query. Will look at that the minute I have finished on here.

Going to mash celeriac with carrots for veg tonight and have something green as well. The broad beans continue to produce and our gooseberry bush has gone mad! ! ! ! Having sea bass with sauce vierge.

Love Heather UK

margaretturk

Joyce thanks for the reminder that unless you call a person for help be skeptical.

Working in my garden the past few days. Today I get the desks from my mom delivered.

This is the paper I found in my mom's things.

The Senility Prayer

God grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked anyway , the good fortune to rum into the ones I do, and the eyesight to tell the difference.

Now that I'm older, here's what I've discovered...

1. Funny I don't remember being absent minded.
2. If all is lost where is it?
3. My wild oats have turned into prunes and All Bran.
4. I finally got my head together; now my body is falling apart.
5. If God wanted me to touch my toes he would have put them on my knees.
6. Some days you're the dog; some days the fire hydrant.
7. When I'm finally holding all the cards why does everyone else decide to play chess?
8. These days I spend a lot of time thinking about the hereafter...I go somewhere to get something and then wonder what I'm here after.
9. I wish the buck stopped here I sure could use a few.
10. Kids in the back seat cause accidents...Accidents in the back seat cause kids.
11. Only time the world beats a path to your door is when you are in the bathroom.
12. It's not hard to meet expenses... they are everywhere.

I had previously written one or two of these gems at a time. Someone else also recently gave us the Senility Prayer too.
Today I added #11 and #12. I had the time today to type it is one sitting. Hope you enjoy it.

MNMargaret

janetr7476

UGH, so I did "it". I made the mistake of getting on the scale this morning. I try to do it only once a week, Saturday morning. So I am up 2.5 # from last Saturday. I have a horrible time with retaining fluid and I can fluctuate 2-3 lbs in a day. I know this, so why do I freak out so badly about it I take Lasix daily and have for years. I had hoped with the big weight loss, the fluid retention would get on out the door. It is better, but a long way from outta here. I sat for the majority of the day and evening yesterday with out my feet elevated. I know this causes retention so partly my own doing. Of course it's much worse in the warm weather. I don't add additional salt to any food I prepare but am not really vigilant in avoiding high sodium foods naturally or those prepared. So the goal for the rest of the warm weather months is to LIMIT my sodium as much as possible.

I love "Phat Chat".

Janetr, OKC

terewilliams

I’ve been a little yucky for the last two days. I had a partial hysterectomy 20+ years ago and every once in a while I would experience all the symptoms associated with a menstruation cycle – bloating, aching, upset stomach, acne, etc. It hadn’t happened to me in the last year but it sure got me Tuesday. I felt so awful that I left work early, took some Aleve and went to bed. I wanted all kinds of stuff instead of real nourishment some of which I gave in to like chocolate and cheese doodles. I did manage to restrict my intake to one serving of chocolate ice cream and cheese doodles thank Goodness. I am so glad it doesn’t happen very often. The SO kept asking me what was wrong and did I want to go to the hospital! All I wanted to do was punch him. Did I mention irritable? Today, I am over it.

Terri: Glad you are having fun. Sorry you lost your car. Great walking!

Mary: Sumo squats sound dangerous! It seems like you are smoothly moving along with the move. I am happy for you and the DH.

Poopy: I can’t type with a broken nail either. Love your nail design. I had acrylic on my nails for years and years and always had a design. Unfortunately, my asthma decided that it would not tolerate the fumes and I ended up on a respirator. Can you imagine how stupid I felt when the doctors would ask me to identify what had caused such a serious flare and I had to tell them I had my nails done? Now I get gel/shellac which lasts around 3 weeks regardless of what I’m doing but I haven’t been able to get a design.

DamitJanit: It was very difficult for me to accept the fact that you have to eat in order to lose weight. For years and years I thought if I could just stay under 1000 calories a day I would lose weight. Now I know all the harm that kind of dieting did my body. I believe the one word that applies to all things is “balance”.

Barbie: I like what you said about restaurant eating. I too am really picky about what I chose to eat at a restaurant and stay away from breading and sauces.

I missed suerontur3’s post but I sure am comforted by the strength of feelings exhibited in response. I want to assure all of you that I love all of you and am appreciative of the sharing support that I have experienced. Suerontur3 if you are reading I am sure by now you understand what a wonderful group of women this is and are trying to figure out what would happen if you decided to participate like a normal person!

Carol: Hope your arm and shoulder are better soon.

Joyce: I am continuously sending you hugs and support. It is so hard when the person we love it being awful. I am reminded of someone saying that we hurt the ones we love first because we know they love us and will eventually forgive us. How awful for him to feel so helpless. How awful for you to have deal with all of this. Don’t feel bad about the scam. It happens to the best of us even when we are trying to be super careful.

Tere in Richmond VA

mollywhippet

I only have a few minutes to write before I go pick up the kids for swimming. The walk with my friend was great this morning. I thought I would have to take it easy on her, because she's only 5 feet tall I figured my stride would be a little longer. (I'm claiming to be 5'4" at the moment.) And I didn't know what her fitness level is. NO WAY! She should have taken it easy on me! She's a little dynamo. She walked my sorry butt off. We are going out again next Wednesday because she's going out of town till then. That will give me a little time to whip myself into shape.

I keep thinking about what that unfriendly poster said about us writing a diary. I truly believe that EVERYTHING that touches our lives affects our health and therefore our fitness goals, so talking about it the way we do it very apporpriate. If she doesn't get that, then she's not serious about losing weight and keeping it off.

Gotta go! Have a great day!

Sylvia

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

Ah $#*T - did it to me again. Was typing a post; but, when I went backwards to see what had been posted (at least for the day) - it ate my responses to some of you. Maybe it is a way to keep my 'mouth' shut (or my typing to a minimum). Won't work ... LOL!

Had eye appointment, MD gave me Rx for drops 3x a day. Instant relief; got to go back in a week and have my re-check and my regular yearly eye exam.

Not losing is better than gaining. I only lost 1lb; but I was down on my 'fat' by 7lbs and gained one pound of muscle. Nurse/MD are very happy with my progress. I know I will have a hard time when we go out to Louisiana to visit DS and DDnL and DGD. That will happen about 3 weeks after we take our DGDs to the beach for a long vacation weekend the end of July.

Whenever I have a salad (other than at Olive Garden) I take my dressing on the side; I barely touch the surface of the amount in the little dish. When I go to Olive Garden I will eat the salad, as my entrée, and then take an appetizer home for a meal the next day. I try eating as slowly (chewing) as I can; and put the fork down between bites. That seems to help me. Usually, when I go out (with a friend, or even with just my DH) I will cut the entrée in half and bring it home in a 'doggie bag'. I'm not embarrassed to ask for one - I've paid for that meal and it is a shame to just leave it on the table. Splitting a big hamburger with a friend also helps. My downfall is when we go to Sonny's for BBQ. I have to plan carefully what I think I will be eating during the day. I have some leftovers that I need to eat at lunch today ... so I have to figure out if I can eat them and keep the lunch down to 550 or less in caloric intake. I think I can do it and then add a nice piece of tomato along with it. Will throw out the remaining. Don't like eating something over the 3rd day; even when I know it will still be good (and safe) on the 4th day. By that time, I am sick of it.

My MD said that I was not 'hydrated' enough and for a while I was supposed to go 'pee' or try to every 10 minutes. Surprisingly, it helped and now I can drink 8 8oz glasses of water and not feel that I must drink it while I am sitting on the john.

On the nail issue ... when I was still working I had my nails done almost weekly (or a fill-in); but, I had beautiful nails then. But, the worst thing was when I had to stop it after my income dropped so drastically when I became disabled/retired. I had had the gel polish done as well; but, both required sanding the nail beds. It took my nails 3 years to get over the trauma and abuse of getting them done like that. Now I have my own nails and use a 'hair, nails, and skin' vitamin and they are almost as pretty as when I was having them done weekly. I don't polish them (with color) because 'if' I do, my nails will generally break. I polish one coat of a nail hardener on them that is basically clear. I think the colors make it so my nails can't breathe and I've noticed the same when I have had a pedicure - if they use color on them; I generally develop the signs of an ingrown nail. The podiatrist has already had to take part of a big toenail off. I doctored it as he had instructed; then I broke the other part of the nail off; and now I'll have to wait at least 6 - 8 month before I have a pedicure; because it looks like my nail has been broken off way back into the quick. I always wondered 'if the nail tech' is wearing a mask; how come she doesn't offer me one? I think most of the mall nail salons use so much acrylics stuff that they have to wear masks. My regular lady doesn't do all that, she'll do regular manicures and pedicures and the gel nail polish but that is it. She isn't any more expensive than the mall salons ... and I wonder just how clean some of those mall salons are with the foot tubs they use. She has one of those and I have seen her clean it (right after I have had my toes done and she goes to a whole lot of trouble to do so, not just throwing in some sort of whatever and swishing it a couple of times and filling it back. She scrubbed it down and filled it up about twice before she finished cleaning it ... then she dried it, too.

I had someone at the hospital in town (or a MD's office) use my ID once to get an income tax refund that neither of us were entitled to. I know it had to come from one of those sources because I don't use my 'legal' name on anything else and that is what the 1040 was in ... thankfully my BF was an IRS Agent. Otherwise, I would have never been able to get to the information to prove that it was a case of 'fraud'. I had someone calling me from supposedly the hospital to gather information (updating their records). I told her that I did not plan on giving her such personal information. She gave me a number to call (the business office); but, when I looked it up, it was not the main number to the business office. I called the one in the phone book and asked for a supervisor and told him what the call had been about; and 'if' they really were from the hospital, they had all my information. He said that 'he knew where it came from', and that it would 'be taken care of, they don't call for personal information'. I bet as mad as he sounded there were a few heads rolling out the door with 'pink slips' that day. I don't give my personal information out to anybody. My DL is not my SSN and I will tell a clerk that she can't ask me that question any way as it is now against the law to do so (at let in GA).

I always check my receipts against my cc bills. I've found that a gasoline place in another town would not take my cc; and I was told to see the clerk. Thankfully, after she unlocked the pump I went in to get a receipt. Sure enough the next month that 'odd' amount of gas I bought on that day, showed up twice on my card. I've had others try to place charges on my cc that I know are not mine. I always dispute a charge if the number beside the charge isn't something I have bought from them (especially if I call it and there is no answer, or if I get a message that the number has been disconnect). This world has not only gotten a lot meaner; there are people out there whose job it is to get your personal information in order to misuse it. I'm glad that my ID was 'only' USED and not STOLEN. I went though several hoops just to clear this up. Police Report, Federal Trade Commission Report, changing all my cc and getting new ones; and putting passwords on some of them. I made the mistake of writing to cancel them; and then realized that I would not have one in the event of an emergency. Only one was willing to allow me to re-open the account and they sent me a new card with a new number and that one has a password. I have frozen all but one of my cards. WTM interest to be paying on all of them. Changed them to one that did not charge me interest the first year; and then only charged me interest for what the balance was when that year expired. Unfortunately, I did not realize there'd be a charge in order to have the balances move over. But, the interest rate is still a lot lower than on any other card I had at the time. If I don't have the cash, or can't get the cash, to pay for something, I figure I don't really need it.

Love the Senility Prayer! I can think of a few of those types of people.

I don't think I could stay with any man who did not show me respect - whether it was 'at home' or 'out in public'. Most men won't change (and to think you can change them when you get 'married' you are very wrong). My husband has always treated me with respect. We brought up our sons to respect their women. My newest DDnL was amazed at the manners shown by my son - while they were dating and especially after they were married. She says that she loves him more and more each day that she sees things in him that she never expected that any man would be or do. When my son asked her Daddy for her hand in marriage; he told him ... 'as long as you don't hurt her'. They have a 'great' relationship with one another, too. DDnL was not expecting him to ask her Daddy for her hand in marriage, since she had been married before. I don't think her Daddy really approved of the first marriage and then when it ended badly - he really did not like him for hurting his daughter (several times during their marriage). That said a lot! I think she was surprised that he 'asked her Daddy for her hand in marriage'; but, this is something that my DH did with my Daddy and it is only the proper thing to do. Not that I would have changed my mind - I was IN love - I just wanted my Daddy to approve of the man I had been asked to marry (43+ years ago).

Well, I've written a book here - feeling a bit 'chatty' today. Welcome to all the newbies and thanks to all for being so supportive about everything.

As for the actor in the movie about the Baby Ruth bar - it might have been a John Belusi movie or that 'gray-haired comedian who played the fireman with a very long nose (can't even remember the woman in the movie, can see her face - blond - hasn't been in too many movies lately). Oh, Darrel Hannah (or Darrel something or the other).

Chow for now!
Lenora

KateKyi

@Tere in Richmond VA I think suerontur3 just got over awed how chatty we all can be. Me personally love to read what you all write. I love the community we have built up. The little bits and bobs we learn about each other. The incredible support I personally get because I spend a lot of time on my own. Its a good place to just come hang out for a while and not eat while I do so.
I dont know why but Im having a difficult week this week. Im staying under my 1500 but its getting close to it. My 2lb lost per week is 1350 which I am trying to stick to. The trouble is I want curry and chinese food. I make it in bigger portions telling myself I will save it but because its a food I love, I end up having seconds. At the end of June Im not expecting a great loss but am happy that I am feeling healthier. Off for my 8 mile bike ride even though I dont wanna lol.
Kate

cityjaneLondon

DH went off to the bank to make the international transfer and they sent him off with a flea in his ear. So I rang my bank and asked them how to do it. Turned on my laptop and it froze. DH tried on his, but he evidently hadn't registered his mobile phone for the code, so I had to unfreeze my laptop and do it myself. Yeah me! (I HATE all that kind of thing, scares me).

Then I tackled the legal papers. Filled those in and looked carefully at the charges. I will query them tomorrow when he rings me. So PROGRESS! ! ! ! ! ! !
I also was sent the details of my flat. Doesn't look too bad in the photos, or not as bad as I'd feared. I haven't seen it for 7 years! I was expecting the worst! Onwards and upwards!

Margaret - Just love that senility prayer! :flowerforyou:

Kim - when you do online dating you don't have to give away a lot of personal info. I met about a hundred men in my search, mostly for a cursory coffee just to give them the once over. You must meet them almost immediately, not spend loads of time emailing as that creates a false impression. Phone chat can help weed out the sheep from the goats! :laugh: When I met them I just said, "I don't think this is going to be a great romance, do you?" I went out with a few and one lasted 18 months. It's a numbers game. I couldn't be happier with my DH.

Off to make dinner.

Oh, by the way, my weight is still at target though I have regained my "safety" pound. I'm back on track now.

Heather in sunny and warm Hampshire in the south of England. UK