Scary Gym Moments!
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vadersaysno wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Mine was when this guy started disrespecting my wife because she was using a machine that he had decided he had to have dibs on because he was doing a "power set". He had nothing over near the machine or anything and started being rude to her. I stepped around and told him he needed to tone it down. He backed up and looked at me and said "this isn't your business. You need to go back over there" (and pointed to the machine I had been using). I replied "no, what you need to do is stop disrespecting my wife". A crowd started to gather around and he took off his glasses and rolled up his fists and started walking towards me. Keep in mind, I'm not built very big- he was about 2 inches shorter but much more muscular. I just stood there staring him down....waiting...as he kept stepping closer. Seeing that I wasn't going to budge, he stopped and says "next time just ask and it will be fine". I looked dead in his eyes and said "yeah, thought so"...as he started walking away to the other side of the gym (back to where he had been), my wife just yells "p*ssy!!". I wouldn't say "scariest" but that's probably my most prominent gym moment.
Love that you stood up for your wife, and love that you didn't back down!
Thanks...she said she can take care of herself and doesn't understand why guys feel the need to go into "protection mode". That's just how I was brought up- not gonna let some d-bag talk to her like that.
What good man is not going to defend their wife. At least you didn't hit the guy. You showed some self control that I will need to work on for future things like your story.
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daaaaaanielle wrote: »
Also, people would (and do) argue that anything worn to the gym by a woman that isn't a potato sack and baggy trousers has the potential to be distracting. I wear running tights to the gym because they're most comfortable for me and those have been called "distracting" plenty of times (ie in the OP's post where he said about yoga pants - my running tights don't fit any differently than yoga pants). As have my fitted tshirts, which are fitted because, again, that is the most comfortable for me. That's why I don't care for people who go "BUT SHE WAS WEARING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF CLOTHING!!!!".
Looking and staring are two different things. I think you're also blowing things up a bit too much. I understand you had a really bad experience (and I acknowledged that and think it's awful), but now it seems that you're really taking that anger out on any man that even considers looking in your direction. Heck, someone may even just be looking around the room, but if his eyes pass you "OMFG he's totally looking at me and needs to stop!". Try to relax some, geez. Sorry hun, not everyone is checking you out. In fact, it's pretty easy to notice when someone has a bad attitude. People might actually look at you and NOT check you out, but just wonder what your problem is instead.
I could tell the humor in the initial guy's post. I've actually been in the car before and realized I've left my headphones at home. I've actually turned around to go back for them. Everything doesn't have to go back and relate to your unfortunate incident. Not every guy on here is an attempted rapist. Sorry to burst your bubble.0 -
vadersaysno wrote: »Mine was when this guy started disrespecting my wife because she was using a machine that he had decided he had to have dibs on because he was doing a "power set". He had nothing over near the machine or anything and started being rude to her. I stepped around and told him he needed to tone it down. He backed up and looked at me and said "this isn't your business. You need to go back over there" (and pointed to the machine I had been using). I replied "no, what you need to do is stop disrespecting my wife". A crowd started to gather around and he took off his glasses and rolled up his fists and started walking towards me. Keep in mind, I'm not built very big- he was about 2 inches shorter but much more muscular. I just stood there staring him down....waiting...as he kept stepping closer. Seeing that I wasn't going to budge, he stopped and says "next time just ask and it will be fine". I looked dead in his eyes and said "yeah, thought so"...as he started walking away to the other side of the gym (back to where he had been), my wife just yells "p*ssy!!". I wouldn't say "scariest" but that's probably my most prominent gym moment.
Good for you, nothing worse than some roided up idiot posturing.
Was it a douchey move for the guy to disrespect his wife and think that he owns all the gym equimpent... absolutely but , but so is judging people, name calling and assuming that everyone that has muscles is "roided up" . Carry on.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Mine was when this guy started disrespecting my wife because she was using a machine that he had decided he had to have dibs on because he was doing a "power set". He had nothing over near the machine or anything and started being rude to her. I stepped around and told him he needed to tone it down. He backed up and looked at me and said "this isn't your business. You need to go back over there" (and pointed to the machine I had been using). I replied "no, what you need to do is stop disrespecting my wife". A crowd started to gather around and he took off his glasses and rolled up his fists and started walking towards me. Keep in mind, I'm not built very big- he was about 2 inches shorter but much more muscular. I just stood there staring him down....waiting...as he kept stepping closer. Seeing that I wasn't going to budge, he stopped and says "next time just ask and it will be fine". I looked dead in his eyes and said "yeah, thought so"...as he started walking away to the other side of the gym (back to where he had been), my wife just yells "p*ssy!!". I wouldn't say "scariest" but that's probably my most prominent gym moment.
Love that you stood up for your wife, and love that you didn't back down!
Thanks...she said she can take care of herself and doesn't understand why guys feel the need to go into "protection mode". That's just how I was brought up- not gonna let some d-bag talk to her like that.
What good man is not going to defend their wife. At least you didn't hit the guy. You showed some self control that I will need to work on for future things like your story.
I won't ever take the first swing. Someone else swings first it becomes self-defense.
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I've fallen off the treadmill. A couple of times. I'm not even a huge gym-goer, just a huge klutz.0
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Thinking it was a fart.0
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My scariest gym moment was doing X walk's with a band, snapped and flew up and hit me in the eye. Not good, eye didn't stop watering for 4 days, Dr. visit, and a sweet scratch in it.0
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vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »
Also, people would (and do) argue that anything worn to the gym by a woman that isn't a potato sack and baggy trousers has the potential to be distracting. I wear running tights to the gym because they're most comfortable for me and those have been called "distracting" plenty of times (ie in the OP's post where he said about yoga pants - my running tights don't fit any differently than yoga pants). As have my fitted tshirts, which are fitted because, again, that is the most comfortable for me. That's why I don't care for people who go "BUT SHE WAS WEARING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF CLOTHING!!!!".
Looking and staring are two different things. I think you're also blowing things up a bit too much. I understand you had a really bad experience (and I acknowledged that and think it's awful), but now it seems that you're really taking that anger out on any man that even considers looking in your direction. Heck, someone may even just be looking around the room, but if his eyes pass you "OMFG he's totally looking at me and needs to stop!". Try to relax some, geez. Sorry hun, not everyone is checking you out. In fact, it's pretty easy to notice when someone has a bad attitude. People might actually look at you and NOT check you out, but just wonder what your problem is instead.
I could tell the humor in the initial guy's post. I've actually been in the car before and realized I've left my headphones at home. I've actually turned around to go back for them. Everything doesn't have to go back and relate to your unfortunate incident. Not every guy on here is an attempted rapist. Sorry to burst your bubble.
My feeling on what the poster is saying is NOT that every guy is an attempted rapist, and I don't think that she thinks that every guy is staring at her being a creep.
Women, in general, have been told that our bodies are distracting, that we're *kitten* up your life and you can't concentrate in math class (or at the gym, or wherever) because our pants are tight or our shoulders are showing, or whatever. How about society drops the idea that women are responsible for what men think about at any given time? Bootie shorts are only distracting if you let them be.
I can see a dude with a great body and then MOVE ON. It doesn't stop me from learning/working/lifting weights. It should be the same for men. And if you're response is that you're able to do that too, then change the way you talk about it.0 -
vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »
Also, people would (and do) argue that anything worn to the gym by a woman that isn't a potato sack and baggy trousers has the potential to be distracting. I wear running tights to the gym because they're most comfortable for me and those have been called "distracting" plenty of times (ie in the OP's post where he said about yoga pants - my running tights don't fit any differently than yoga pants). As have my fitted tshirts, which are fitted because, again, that is the most comfortable for me. That's why I don't care for people who go "BUT SHE WAS WEARING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF CLOTHING!!!!".
Looking and staring are two different things. I think you're also blowing things up a bit too much. I understand you had a really bad experience (and I acknowledged that and think it's awful), but now it seems that you're really taking that anger out on any man that even considers looking in your direction. Heck, someone may even just be looking around the room, but if his eyes pass you "OMFG he's totally looking at me and needs to stop!". Try to relax some, geez. Sorry hun, not everyone is checking you out. In fact, it's pretty easy to notice when someone has a bad attitude. People might actually look at you and NOT check you out, but just wonder what your problem is instead.
I could tell the humor in the initial guy's post. I've actually been in the car before and realized I've left my headphones at home. I've actually turned around to go back for them. Everything doesn't have to go back and relate to your unfortunate incident. Not every guy on here is an attempted rapist. Sorry to burst your bubble.
Dude, I specifically said there is a difference between looking at someone and staring at someone and that it is specifically staring that makes women uncomfortable, not a glance in our general direction. I also don't recall saying that LITERALLY ALL MEN ARE CHECKING ME OUT. 0/10 for reading comprehension there.
@Katiebear_81 hit the nail on the head so I don't think I was unclear with what I was saying.
So perhaps you're just a little bit touchy about this? If you get so riled up as to try and totally misrepresent what was said as if it was an attack on you, perhaps thou doth protest too much?0 -
daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »
Also, people would (and do) argue that anything worn to the gym by a woman that isn't a potato sack and baggy trousers has the potential to be distracting. I wear running tights to the gym because they're most comfortable for me and those have been called "distracting" plenty of times (ie in the OP's post where he said about yoga pants - my running tights don't fit any differently than yoga pants). As have my fitted tshirts, which are fitted because, again, that is the most comfortable for me. That's why I don't care for people who go "BUT SHE WAS WEARING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF CLOTHING!!!!".
Looking and staring are two different things. I think you're also blowing things up a bit too much. I understand you had a really bad experience (and I acknowledged that and think it's awful), but now it seems that you're really taking that anger out on any man that even considers looking in your direction. Heck, someone may even just be looking around the room, but if his eyes pass you "OMFG he's totally looking at me and needs to stop!". Try to relax some, geez. Sorry hun, not everyone is checking you out. In fact, it's pretty easy to notice when someone has a bad attitude. People might actually look at you and NOT check you out, but just wonder what your problem is instead.
I could tell the humor in the initial guy's post. I've actually been in the car before and realized I've left my headphones at home. I've actually turned around to go back for them. Everything doesn't have to go back and relate to your unfortunate incident. Not every guy on here is an attempted rapist. Sorry to burst your bubble.
Dude, I specifically said there is a difference between looking at someone and staring at someone and that it is specifically staring that makes women uncomfortable, not a glance in our general direction. I also don't recall saying that LITERALLY ALL MEN ARE CHECKING ME OUT. 0/10 for reading comprehension there.
What if staring is mutual appreciation?
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yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »
Also, people would (and do) argue that anything worn to the gym by a woman that isn't a potato sack and baggy trousers has the potential to be distracting. I wear running tights to the gym because they're most comfortable for me and those have been called "distracting" plenty of times (ie in the OP's post where he said about yoga pants - my running tights don't fit any differently than yoga pants). As have my fitted tshirts, which are fitted because, again, that is the most comfortable for me. That's why I don't care for people who go "BUT SHE WAS WEARING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF CLOTHING!!!!".
Looking and staring are two different things. I think you're also blowing things up a bit too much. I understand you had a really bad experience (and I acknowledged that and think it's awful), but now it seems that you're really taking that anger out on any man that even considers looking in your direction. Heck, someone may even just be looking around the room, but if his eyes pass you "OMFG he's totally looking at me and needs to stop!". Try to relax some, geez. Sorry hun, not everyone is checking you out. In fact, it's pretty easy to notice when someone has a bad attitude. People might actually look at you and NOT check you out, but just wonder what your problem is instead.
I could tell the humor in the initial guy's post. I've actually been in the car before and realized I've left my headphones at home. I've actually turned around to go back for them. Everything doesn't have to go back and relate to your unfortunate incident. Not every guy on here is an attempted rapist. Sorry to burst your bubble.
Dude, I specifically said there is a difference between looking at someone and staring at someone and that it is specifically staring that makes women uncomfortable, not a glance in our general direction. I also don't recall saying that LITERALLY ALL MEN ARE CHECKING ME OUT. 0/10 for reading comprehension there.
What if staring is mutual appreciation?
I have no idea what that is meant to mean.
Staring is bad. Glancing and moving on is fine. If two people wanna stare at each other then they can do that. The point is that not everyone is okay with being stared at and so the best option is to not stare at people.0 -
Ooooh a funny/scary moment…my friend and I were using the balls and she was bouncing on it saying hey I hear this is exercise and it popped and she plopped onto the floor. One of those do I laugh or maybe sure she hasn't fractured her coccyx moment.
And as for people staring, I'm of the school of who cares. My "gym" is the skating rink and I personally love it when people stop to watch me since it's my thing and I just really like performing. So if I am at a gym which i haven't been for years, I really don't mind because it just makes me work harder. I do get that lots of women and men are self conscious and direct their eyes to the floor and want to have nothing to do with anyone and it's equally men and women. Women stare and check out the men as much as the men check out the women. So it's a two way street and I think it's just about being respectful0 -
daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »
Also, people would (and do) argue that anything worn to the gym by a woman that isn't a potato sack and baggy trousers has the potential to be distracting. I wear running tights to the gym because they're most comfortable for me and those have been called "distracting" plenty of times (ie in the OP's post where he said about yoga pants - my running tights don't fit any differently than yoga pants). As have my fitted tshirts, which are fitted because, again, that is the most comfortable for me. That's why I don't care for people who go "BUT SHE WAS WEARING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF CLOTHING!!!!".
Looking and staring are two different things. I think you're also blowing things up a bit too much. I understand you had a really bad experience (and I acknowledged that and think it's awful), but now it seems that you're really taking that anger out on any man that even considers looking in your direction. Heck, someone may even just be looking around the room, but if his eyes pass you "OMFG he's totally looking at me and needs to stop!". Try to relax some, geez. Sorry hun, not everyone is checking you out. In fact, it's pretty easy to notice when someone has a bad attitude. People might actually look at you and NOT check you out, but just wonder what your problem is instead.
I could tell the humor in the initial guy's post. I've actually been in the car before and realized I've left my headphones at home. I've actually turned around to go back for them. Everything doesn't have to go back and relate to your unfortunate incident. Not every guy on here is an attempted rapist. Sorry to burst your bubble.
Dude, I specifically said there is a difference between looking at someone and staring at someone and that it is specifically staring that makes women uncomfortable, not a glance in our general direction. I also don't recall saying that LITERALLY ALL MEN ARE CHECKING ME OUT. 0/10 for reading comprehension there.
What if staring is mutual appreciation?
I have no idea what that is meant to mean.
Staring is bad. Glancing and moving on is fine. If two people wanna stare at each other then they can do that. The point is that not everyone is okay with being stared at and so the best option is to not stare at people.
I mean two people who stare at each other one day and notice the work that was put into their goals.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »
Also, people would (and do) argue that anything worn to the gym by a woman that isn't a potato sack and baggy trousers has the potential to be distracting. I wear running tights to the gym because they're most comfortable for me and those have been called "distracting" plenty of times (ie in the OP's post where he said about yoga pants - my running tights don't fit any differently than yoga pants). As have my fitted tshirts, which are fitted because, again, that is the most comfortable for me. That's why I don't care for people who go "BUT SHE WAS WEARING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF CLOTHING!!!!".
Looking and staring are two different things. I think you're also blowing things up a bit too much. I understand you had a really bad experience (and I acknowledged that and think it's awful), but now it seems that you're really taking that anger out on any man that even considers looking in your direction. Heck, someone may even just be looking around the room, but if his eyes pass you "OMFG he's totally looking at me and needs to stop!". Try to relax some, geez. Sorry hun, not everyone is checking you out. In fact, it's pretty easy to notice when someone has a bad attitude. People might actually look at you and NOT check you out, but just wonder what your problem is instead.
I could tell the humor in the initial guy's post. I've actually been in the car before and realized I've left my headphones at home. I've actually turned around to go back for them. Everything doesn't have to go back and relate to your unfortunate incident. Not every guy on here is an attempted rapist. Sorry to burst your bubble.
Dude, I specifically said there is a difference between looking at someone and staring at someone and that it is specifically staring that makes women uncomfortable, not a glance in our general direction. I also don't recall saying that LITERALLY ALL MEN ARE CHECKING ME OUT. 0/10 for reading comprehension there.
What if staring is mutual appreciation?
I have no idea what that is meant to mean.
Staring is bad. Glancing and moving on is fine. If two people wanna stare at each other then they can do that. The point is that not everyone is okay with being stared at and so the best option is to not stare at people.
I mean two people who stare at each other one day and notice the work that was put into their goals.
Well if both parties are staring at each other and neither is bothered by it then fine? Like I don't care what people do as long as everyone involved consents. I'd rather the people who like to stare at others stick to staring at each other.
But considering that it is near impossible to gauge whether someone is okay with being stared at (without explicitly asking which is, in and of itself, a weird thing to do) I don't think it's unreasonable to tell people to just not stare at people and concentrate on their own work out.0 -
Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.0 -
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I have fallen off a treadmill and I have been so sore I am walking slow - not good when I am alone in a parking lot. Pretty scary. From my point of view (older single female) I enjoy looking at age appropriate men, working out. It motivates me to work harder. I don't want to talk to them. I just want to enjoy the view. Ladies let's be honest - I know I am not alone in this.0 -
is it just me or is the word "staring" getting annoying?0
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vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.0 -
daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.
I actually read somewhere that said that "women distract men lifting with cloth type" can actually help men improve in their workouts. Especially when you see them staring at you.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.
I actually read somewhere that said that "women distract men lifting with cloth type" can actually help men improve in their workouts. Especially when you see them staring at you.
You mean when women stare at men? I can believe that might make some men want to show off and therefore perhaps lift heavier than they normally would.
Still doesn't somehow make staring at people in the gym okay...0 -
I've got one. I'm having the time of my life in my Zumba class, dancing my pants off, and my boobs decide to come out for a peek-a-boo... OMG... so embarrassed. I re-zipped my sport bra and continued to dance my *kitten* off!!
BTW, I'm ok with some "looking", but right off creepy staring would definitely make me uneasy.0 -
No staring or leering - just enjoy the view
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daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.
I actually read somewhere that said that "women distract men lifting with cloth type" can actually help men improve in their workouts. Especially when you see them staring at you.
You mean when women stare at men? I can believe that might make some men want to show off and therefore perhaps lift heavier than they normally would.
Still doesn't somehow make staring at people in the gym okay...
Also best way to cause an injury. 0 -
vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.
I actually read somewhere that said that "women distract men lifting with cloth type" can actually help men improve in their workouts. Especially when you see them staring at you.
You mean when women stare at men? I can believe that might make some men want to show off and therefore perhaps lift heavier than they normally would.
Still doesn't somehow make staring at people in the gym okay...
Also best way to cause an injury.
I didn't say heavier weight. There more to improving a workout then just weight increasing. Also people just tend to stare at the outlier at the gym. The person who I guess through there eyes is using the most weight they ever seeing someone use to do a workout. It comes with the territory of lifting heavy weights.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.
I actually read somewhere that said that "women distract men lifting with cloth type" can actually help men improve in their workouts. Especially when you see them staring at you.
You mean when women stare at men? I can believe that might make some men want to show off and therefore perhaps lift heavier than they normally would.
Still doesn't somehow make staring at people in the gym okay...
Also best way to cause an injury.
I didn't say heavier weight. There more to improving a workout then just weight increasing. Also people just tend to stare at the outlier at the gym. The person who I guess through there eyes is using the most weight they ever seeing someone use to do a workout. It comes with the territory of lifting heavy weights.
I was just kidding...but we all know there are the guys that would increase their weight to try to show off in front of someone. Those people end up on the show "Ridiculousness" haha0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.
I actually read somewhere that said that "women distract men lifting with cloth type" can actually help men improve in their workouts. Especially when you see them staring at you.
You mean when women stare at men? I can believe that might make some men want to show off and therefore perhaps lift heavier than they normally would.
Still doesn't somehow make staring at people in the gym okay...
Also best way to cause an injury.
I didn't say heavier weight. There more to improving a workout then just weight increasing. Also people just tend to stare at the outlier at the gym. The person who I guess through there eyes is using the most weight they ever seeing someone use to do a workout. It comes with the territory of lifting heavy weights.
You're following a strange train of thought here and I don't think you're really paying attention to what anyone was discussing here.
I am not an outlier at the gym in any capacity - I'm on the treadmill running at a relatively slow pace or lifting weights of 15kg which is hardly a weight that's going to impress anyone so nobody is looking at me because I'm doing something out of the ordinary. Looking at someone because you're impressed with their ability is very different to someone leering at your body.
Also, any time I've saw a guy blatantly trying to show off in front of women in the gym, he's gone for heavier weights. Always fun when that backfires on them.0 -
I've got one. I'm having the time of my life in my Zumba class, dancing my pants off, and my boobs decide to come out for a peek-a-boo... OMG... so embarrassed. I re-zipped my sport bra and continued to dance my *kitten* off!!
BTW, I'm ok with some "looking", but right off creepy staring would definitely make me uneasy.
Lucky you didn't take your eye out
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daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »daaaaaanielle wrote: »vadersaysno wrote: »Im not particularly touchy and thank you for scoring my post- it meant absolutely nothing to me. Try reading what you replied to me from a different perspective other than your own. Obviously your reading comprehension was also low because what I said is that SOME girls do go to the gym or otherwise wear things just for the attention that it draws. You absolutely cannot tell me that I'm wrong. Your comment to the original poster of "it wasn't funny when"....no we obviously all agreed that a near attack on you was not funny in the very least.
Personally, I try to mind my own business when I'm at the gym. As I said- I'm already self-conscious enough about how I look and have had to get past my own insecurities that I think people might be staring at "that goofball over there" (talking about me or making fun...well, because that's what happened to me growing up, so it's a bit ingrained at this point). If someone looks good they look good, period. You cant keep your eyes to yourself 100% of the time At the gym I go to, for a while there was a girl there that no matter what time or when I went, she always seemed to be there. Apparently she noticed the same thing- so we'd speak when we saw each other. Did she look good, yeah, but I wasn't trying to hit on her or get in her pants. I don't see a problem with being friendly at the gym. I, personally, am not going to sit and stare at someone while I'm working out- I need to get through my workout so I can get on with the rest of my life.
Not sure what you mean by "scoring" your post.
Anyway, unless you have specifically polled these women, you cannot say for sure what their motivations are for wearing certain clothing. If they wear what they wear because they want to be looked at then that's their decision. But my point still stands, if you're a fully grown adult, you should be perfectly capable of keeping your eyes and mind on what you came into the gym to do, instead of blaming women for being so very "distracting". Just because (you think, based on no hard facts) some women "want" to be looked at, does not give you, or any other person, a free pass to stare at all women.
I think the fact that you know that being stared at is uncomfortable, you should be capable of appreciating why my (and many, many other women's) opinion is what it is. And again, I never said that glancing or looking around is a bad thing - AS I SAID, people do sometimes glance and that is fine, the problem arises when you specifically stare. You do not need to stare at someone to notice that they seem to go to the gym at the same time as you (and also nobody said anything was wrong with "being friendly" either).
You seem to be spending a lot of time trying to defend YOURSELF from criticism of PEOPLE WHO STARE. If you don't stare at people, that's great, I was never talking about or criticising YOU. Again, thou doth protest too much, methinks.
I actually read somewhere that said that "women distract men lifting with cloth type" can actually help men improve in their workouts. Especially when you see them staring at you.
You mean when women stare at men? I can believe that might make some men want to show off and therefore perhaps lift heavier than they normally would.
Still doesn't somehow make staring at people in the gym okay...
Also best way to cause an injury.
I didn't say heavier weight. There more to improving a workout then just weight increasing. Also people just tend to stare at the outlier at the gym. The person who I guess through there eyes is using the most weight they ever seeing someone use to do a workout. It comes with the territory of lifting heavy weights.
You're following a strange train of thought here and I don't think you're really paying attention to what anyone was discussing here.
I am not an outlier at the gym in any capacity - I'm on the treadmill running at a relatively slow pace or lifting weights of 15kg which is hardly a weight that's going to impress anyone so nobody is looking at me because I'm doing something out of the ordinary. Looking at someone because you're impressed with their ability is very different to someone leering at your body.
Also, any time I've saw a guy blatantly trying to show off in front of women in the gym, he's gone for heavier weights. Always fun when that backfires on them.
I was just giving examples on why it could be the case "staring". I have been going to the gym for close to 10 years. I have seeing a lot there. Usually every state or country I have been to I have seeing some sort of fitness establishment and worked out there.
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Hmmmm.... I guess the other ladies can't own the fact that they too look at gentlemen. Now can we move away from eye candy?
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