How do you get that gap between your thighs

rml_16

Even when I was in the best shape of my life I didnt have it, any ideas?

Liberal application of a cheese grater?

Seriously though, it's a silly fleeting fad that's unachievable without either a) the genetics for wide hips or b) great pain. File it under other stupid physical fashion fads like:



It's about as bonkers.

Have you ever read Snow Flower and the Secret Fan? Her very detailed description of the foot binding process made me nearly throw up.

nave002

Seriously? If thigh gap is all you have to worry about then I'd say you're leading a pretty awesome life...::bigsmile: I've never ever thought of it before until coming onto this site....

Rockstar_JILL

All this talk about thigh gap is funny. I don't have it as I have narrow hips and when my knees touch together my feet don't. I did, however, notice that when I am sitting with my knees together there is a slight gap though! Just a little!!

krisalyn117

You have to have wide hips AND thigh bones that don't come together. Which isn't common in most girls and women. Except me lol

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

Not in the least! I have tried to battle my build for many years and I have finally came to accept it for what it is. I will not apologize for my opinion. I'm sorry if you are offended by it but is what I think. If you feel that women with muscular builds are not attractive that is your right. I am comfortable with who I am and know that I am not everyone's cup of tea.

Saying "in my opinion" does not make an offensive statement less offensive.

Surely you realize that if an opinion is going to be offensive and tear others down then maybe it's best to keep it to yourself, or at least word it in a way that doesn't come off as mean-spirited. You could have just said "I think women with thighs that touch are beautiful" and left it at that (as many others in this thread did) instead of disparaging people who do have a thigh gap.

amy1612

Ok....let me say this. If my opinion offends you stop reading it. You are not going to change my mind on it. Just like I wouldn't change your mind on something you think. I don't appologize for how I think. Why should I? Women have constantly been told that barbie doll figures are the way to be and I have never yet heard an apology from the media or Matel nor do I expect to hear it. So if this "manly" woman's thoughts make you cringe I truely am sorry for the offense but not the thought.

I dont think you understand why people are getting annoyed with you.....It doesnt matter what your 'opinion' is, the fact is you insulted people based solely on a part of their body that they have not necessarily gone out of their way to get. Its the same as saying 'brown eyes are disgusting' or 'being fat makes people look like hippos'......its still body shaming. Shaming thin people is JUST as bad as shaming overweight people.....it seem recently people (including the 'media') have taken it upon themselves to have a backlash againt skinny people because they arent 'real'...whatever the hell that means. That is why people are saying you are offensive. Youre shaming their body.

stargazer008

It depends on your bone structure, you can't change that.

rml_16

An aside: Please excuse my quoting this morning, but I have a broken wrist and a laptop with no mouse, so highlighting and deleting large amounts of text is pretty much impossible right now!

Ashwee87

Photoshop

Maano79

^ This. Focus on what you have and what you can achieve and do not waste time pining after the impossible. You can file this under that category of "things girls and young women stress about that only they notice and men are oblivious to."
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I have cardio-vascular problems and on top of that I am four months into my stroke recovery. I really like your comment 'focus on what you have and what you can achieve and do not waste time pining after the impossible'

Very sensible advice and it's what I follow.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

I've always wondered what the facination with the gap is. Women are suppose to have curves and those curves don't just mean T&A!! To the ones I'm about to offend please forgive me! But to me the women who has this gap look like little boys sorry if I offended anyone. I know we all have our own ideal of what we want to look like but I hope that ideal is realistic for your body. I am 5'3'' with a natually muscular build. I will never have long lean dancers legs. Sure I can get my legs lean but they will never look like someone who is 5'11'' with a natually lean build...its just impossible. Please ladies make yourself the best you, you can be.....not the closest thing to what magazines say you should be.

<--- has a thigh gap, and curves. Measurements are 36, 25, 36.

Your comment that I look like a little boy is completely unnecessary.

Women who don't have thigh gaps are beautiful. Women who do have thigh gaps are beautiful too. There's nothing wrong with having one assuming it's just based on bone structure and nothing unhealthy was done to achieve it. I got mine when I hit 140 lbs at 5'4", so it's not like I was starving myself or even trying to get one.

I'm sorry that my opinion offended you. But that is all it was my opinion! I know too many ladies who try to achive the gap and always end up discouraged because they are not able to have it. If it is what you like, want and can attain it go for it. I just see too many women look down on themselves because they were born "wrong" in the eyes of magazines etc.

Just for proof that this is all a genetics game I'm an inch shorter than you with very similar measurments and the only way I have it is if I lean forward.

But do you not understand that you're doing the exact same thing but in reverse? I didn't try to get mine, it's genetics. You're making it sound like women who have one look "wrong" even though there's nothing we can do about it.

No, what I said was IN MY OPINION I see it that way. If you have it and you like it more power to you. I just hate seeing women try so hard and get discouraged when they can't! I personally don't like the way they look and TO ME it doesn't look like MY ideal of what I want to be. So with that lets just agree to disagree.

So you seriously do not understand how what you're saying is just as bad as what you're complaining about?

Example one: girls without thigh gaps look fat.

Example two: girls with thigh gaps look like 12-year-old boys.

You don't see that these are both offensive statements for the exact same reason? You're tearing people down for something they can't control.

Ok....let me say this. If my opinion offends you stop reading it. You are not going to change my mind on it. Just like I wouldn't change your mind on something you think. I don't appologize for how I think. Why should I? Women have constantly been told that barbie doll figures are the way to be and I have never yet heard an apology from the media or Matel nor do I expect to hear it. So if this "manly" woman's thoughts make you cringe I truely am sorry for the offense but not the thought.

I didn't call you manly. If I did I'd be doing the same thing you're doing.

I don't expect you to change your opinion, but I do hope you'll think about some of the points made in this thread and how vocalizing that opinion in the way you have done here may be just as damaging to young girls as the media bias you dislike so much.

ninerbuff

Even when I was in the best shape of my life I didnt have it, any ideas?

Blame your parents.

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ILiftHeavyAcrylics

Stating that you're more attracted to less hairy men is not the same as saying men with hairy chests are disgusting. Even if it's what you think, most people have a filter between their brains and mouths/fingers that prevents them from saying mean, hurtful things to others.

Stop making sense!:flowerforyou:

Agreed. We don't make sense here, this is MFP. :flowerforyou:

rml_16

Stating that you're more attracted to less hairy men is not the same as saying men with hairy chests are disgusting. Even if it's what you think, most people have a filter between their brains and mouths/fingers that prevents them from saying mean, hurtful things to others.

Stop making sense!:flowerforyou:

Agreed. We don't make sense here, this is MFP. :flowerforyou:

BeachIron

^ This. Focus on what you have and what you can achieve and do not waste time pining after the impossible. You can file this under that category of "things girls and young women stress about that only they notice and men are oblivious to."

I have cardio-vascular problems and on top of that I am four months into my stroke recovery. I really like your comment 'focus on what you have and what you can achieve and do not waste time pining after the impossible'

Very sensible advice and it's what I follow.

Good luck on your stroke recovery. My father had his at 37 and recovered fully. My great uncle was debilitated by one, and I have a friend who was also hit in his late 30s and was in great shape at the time. He's walking and functioning quite well, though his speech is still affected. Be good to you.

Sarauk2sf

Aaaahhh - looks like ignorant people making body shaming statements are still alive and kicking on MFP.

Sarauk2sf

To elaborate... thigh gaps are largely down to body structure. Most anyone with wide hips will end up with a thigh gap once they've slimmed down a bit.

If Jessica Ennis and Beyonce don't need a thigh gap....neither do you. No one ACTUALLY cares about thigh gaps. You don't look at someone and go 'she's hot. but im not interested cos she hasn't got a thigh gap'.

Spoiler: a lot of photos taken of girls showing off their 'thigh gap' is actually just them leaning forwards a bit. Try it. Stand in front of a mirror, tilt your upper body forwards slightly. Tada....now you have your 'thigh gap'

^^this.

If you are a healthy body weight, whether you have one or not is irrelevant and genetics. If you naturally have a thigh gap at a healthy weight, it will be attractive. If you naturally do not have one, that will also be attractive. The details (muscularity, level of BF% etc) is personal taste.

BondBomb

Something I try to remember as I go through life...
When the general consensus is that I'm being an a-hole the problem is always me. Not them.

vtmoon

I heard having a lot of slamming sex helps.

littlepinkhearts

hmmmmm when i was growing up i absolutely HATED my "thigh gap". I thought i walked funny. It was just another horrible body flaw. Kids used to tease me that they could see through my legs and they couldn't hide behind me when playing hide n go seek. Funny how things change. I still hate my "thigh gap" though. And yes, it's caused by having wide hips.

skinnydreams19

Then you don't need it! It really depends on the shape of your hips and the only way that I can think of to widen your hips is childbirth...but don't go getting pregnant just to change your bonestructure!

whierd

I don't understand why my comment was deleted. It was factually true, all thighs gap if there is something between them.

MsPudding

Have you ever read Snow Flower and the Secret Fan? Her very detailed description of the foot binding process made me nearly throw up.

I have...and it was grotesque.

Us women have done, or endured, all sorts of totally mad things in the pursuit of what was fashionable for bodies at the time. IMO the most important thing is being fit and healthy - nobody, but nobody has the perfect body and if we women spend our time worrying that we don't then we let life slide by in unhappiness and frustration.

rml_16

To elaborate... thigh gaps are largely down to body structure. Most anyone with wide hips will end up with a thigh gap once they've slimmed down a bit.

If Jessica Ennis and Beyonce don't need a thigh gap....neither do you. No one ACTUALLY cares about thigh gaps. You don't look at someone and go 'she's hot. but im not interested cos she hasn't got a thigh gap'.

Spoiler: a lot of photos taken of girls showing off their 'thigh gap' is actually just them leaning forwards a bit. Try it. Stand in front of a mirror, tilt your upper body forwards slightly. Tada....now you have your 'thigh gap'

^^this.

If you are a healthy body weight, whether you have one or not is irrelevant and genetics. If you naturally have a thigh gap at a healthy weight, it will be attractive. If you naturally do not have one, that will also be attractive. The details (muscularity, level of BF% etc) is personal taste.

Exactly.

Before MFP I never really paid much attention to whether someone had a thigh gap and never thought about it as something to strive for, beyond just wanting my thighs small enough not to chafe in the summer while wearing a dress, which is a comfort thing, not a vanity thing.

Because it gets talked about so much here, I find myself noticing them more on other women. I've seen a lot of women with thigh gaps who have beautiful (and even curvy) bodies and I've seen a lot of women with no thigh gap who have beautiful bodies.

I have big boobs. Short of surgery, I can't do much about them. I have learned to work with them and almost love them. That doesn't mean I have to tear down women whose boobs are smaller or bigger than my own just to feel better about what DNA gave me.

littlepinkhearts

Have you ever read Snow Flower and the Secret Fan? Her very detailed description of the foot binding process made me nearly throw up.

I have...and it was grotesque.

Us women have done, or endured, all sorts of totally mad things in the pursuit of what was fashionable for bodies at the time. IMO the most important thing is being fit and healthy - nobody, but nobody has the perfect body and if we women spend our time worrying that we don't then we let life slide by in unhappiness and frustration.

I agree with this. It's taken me 45 years of abuse to finally decide to step off the " i hate my body" downward spiral. The problem is climbing back up to the top. It's a long hard road. The self shaming that a lot of us have done to ourselves over the years is downright senseless and boggles my mind to think of it. I have a 23 year old daughter whom I see headed in the same direction. What a shame that in this beautiful world all some of us can think of is how we don't measure up to society's standards.

Hexahedra

She's gorgeous, intelligent, and has a well toned body, but she doesn't have a thigh gap so the deal is off.

-says no man ever

da_bears10089

I will never have a thigh gap due to my structure and I am okay with that

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MyChocolateDiet

Well I for one am grateful that I have the thighs I have now with no thigh gaps because they can still climb stairs like a bada$$ and fill my jeans nicely.

I was also grateful for the thighs I had in high school that had the thigh gap because they could jump me to the top of a mount, and also make really good dance moves for my routines.

I will also be grateful for whatever thighs I end up with at goal weight even if it's thigh gap, no thigh gap, or one side thigh gap, one side not, I DON'T CARE, I'm just happy I can effing walk after not being able to for a couple of years. So to me my thighs are beautiful, strong, and awe-worthy just because they work and don't have a dam sciatica pain going down them anymore. I LOVE MY THIGHS! Thank you Dr. Anonymous-neuro-surgeon for fixing me and my thighs and back.

tinylittlelove

Step 1. Put 1 chicken thigh on one side of your plate.
Step 2. Put another on the other side.

Then enjoy with fries or healthier options, whatever floats your boat.