WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR SEPTEMBER 2015
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Pip - looking good!0
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Omg I'm totally crying now. I just checked my cell Cuz I hadn't received any calls today and found out it had its volume turned down! I missed two calls from work called them back stupidly wondering whether they needed me to come in for someone and I HAD MISSED MY SHIFT! Omg I love my job! I wrote it on the wrong day on the calendar! They said they were surprised and got someone to cover for me and not to come in and I would have to have a conversation with my boss. I immaturely burst into tears on the phone cuz this was two minutes after my yelling at Joey and it was too much I guess. I wobbled out that I was so sorry. I'm sick about it and I can't stop crying. Oh God.
I am so sorry, u r human, things happen. Hopefully they will understand0 -
Cynthiat60- I love that profile pic of u, I have been wanting to tell u that.0
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Well, I was able to fold a small load of laundry. Bullwinkle and Floyd r so calm around me, they know something is up. Yogi is at school aka daycare, when he comes home he will jet towards the food then Kirby will have to watch him to make sure he doesn't ramble on me0
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Did 1 hr of ultimate weights training cardio workout DVD, then went and got my blood drawn, had grapes in the car, came home to breakfast, fed the cats, then made a deposit for Newcomers then volunteered at the Green Room. After leaving there went to the farmer's market (this is the last time they'll be there this year), then to Target to get litter.
The plan for tomorrow is to do an hour of water workout
Mary from MN - I ALWAYS have to look at myself in the mirror to be sure my form on my squats is correct. For the longest time I was doing them incorrectly and didn't know it until a personal trainer pointed it out to me. Now I have to be so conscious of it.
janetr - I'm not an alcohol drinker, either. I may have it once or twice a year. I do like a SWEET wine
katla - the last time Andy was here for dinner I made a fruit salad in addn to something else, but I figured at least he could have the fruit salad. He said that he couldn't. You know, I'm not so concerned if he couldn't deal with the fake sugar, I just know that I couldn't. When he was here I baked white and sweet potatoes, figuring a sweet potato would be better for him, but not making it a big deal since I like sweet potatoes. He ate the white potato
Penny - both you and Katla have suggested fruits, but he said he couldn't have the fruit salad, that it was too high in sugar. I never thought of fruits as being that high in sugar.
Linda - woohoo on being the biggest loser at TOPS
pip - it's so so good to hear from you. I know how good a shower feels. So....how's the shoulder? I bet much better than it was before. How long was the surgery? Lookin good, bet you look much better, too. I bet Yogi doesn't jump on you. Animals know.
Mary from MN - probably the biggest problem was that Andy either forgot or didn't know that we'd made plans so he was in Gastonia. By the time he got home, Amanda and Aiden were waiting in the driveway and he didn't take his insulin
Yvonne - hope those tomatoes make it for you. For DJ - isn't a moon garden a garden that has all white flowers in it? At least that's what a friend of mine calls hers
Heather - glad to hear that your rental wasn't as bad as you feared.
Alison - (((HUGS)))) What are you going to make them?
mtowne - I don't think you're an ogre at all. You followed thru with what you said you'd do. What would have happened if you hadn't? Then it would just be worse. Hugs. I would think that talking to your boss is their standard procedure. Lisa - what do you think?
Michele in NC0 -
Hi, I had the same problem once w my dryer...I won't insult you by suggesting u check the lint trap. But I will mention what I was shocked to find that the hose and duct going all the way to the outside had years of built up extra lint and could have burned the house down! Bc the duct cleaning guys were having a hard time getting it clear..old house too many turns in the duct work..we had a whole new duct put out to a new vent hole just to be safe. It's fairly easy to check just run the dryer and go out to the vent and see if a reasonable amount of steamy air is coming out..or if the vent has a flap cover that is shut unless the air being expelled opens it up sometimes the flap gets stuck. If u don't feel adequate air coming out you can take a tool like a broom handle w a wire bristle brush attached to it to insert in the hole and ream it out..if the duct is not straight they make them out of bendy rod too. Walk the dryer out also and step behind it unclasp the hose and make sure there isn't a lint jam in there too. It sounds odious but if it is what's happening fixing it could save her life.drkatiebug wrote: »My time with my sister is winding down. I'm doing her laundry and making chili today (leftovers in freezer for when I'm gone). I'm taking her to two appointments tomorrow and cooking vegetable soup (leftovers in freezer). I'll take her to get her prescriptions filled on Friday, then I'm heading home.
Of course her dryer doesn't work right either. It's tumbling and putting out heat, but it's just not drying the clothes. I don't know how she lives with so many things broken. She has a good job and makes a great salary. I guess it's just a matter of priorities. And to top it off, I broke her dishpan and her salt shaker broke while I was here. I'm claiming the dishpan, but I don't think I broke the salt shaker. Nevertheless, I went to the store and bought her a new dishpan, and new salt and pepper shakers.
I will be so glad to get home.
Mindy
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Cyborg Pip... glad you're home and up to communicating....0
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Hi all: Getting cloudy here and supposed to rain. Didn't seem to get much done today other than groceries but must get guest bedroom bed made as DGD is coming to spend the night tomorrow night.
Pip - Did they not send you home with a nerve block? I had no pain at all for the first 24 hours with the block. Feeling for you. Interesting hardware they used.
Janetr - You are going to wait 6 weeks to get back in the water? I was in the pool 2 days postop with both knee replacements. We have an ortho in Sioux Falls who puts his knee and hip replacements in the water first day postop. It is so much easier to move and people do really well with water therapy. You should check to see if there is somewhere near you for aquatic therapy. Can you tell I used to work in aquatic rehab?lol
Miriam - Hope you can finally get that paperwork. Sounds like everybody is losing patience and frustrated.
Healing angels to all who need them and congratulations to those with victories. Sue in WA0 -
Hi everyone. I'm sorry I haven't been around much lately. Things are slowly stabilizing in my life, so I can start to breathe again. I had to go see my new primary care doc in order to get a referral to the specialist in Kansas City. She was very nice about it, and gave me some things to mention to the gastro- gal (the new doc is a woman who's first name is Daisy...doesn't that sound nice?) I've been having some charley horse type cramps in my gut and she thinks they may be related. She is concerned that I might still have some adhesions that are causing problems, so I should be sure the new doc looks at that. She also prescribed miralax and told me to stay on it till my appointment in KC. That is scheduled for November 10th, so it's a long way away.
My DGD is failing ALL of her classes and has appointments to see two different counsellors. One from mental health and one from the sheriffs office. Apparently nobody is in a big hurry about this except me, but at least they are taking it seriously. I have to step back a little and focus on my own sorry self first.
Hubby and I got our flu shots yesterday, along with shingles shots. I've been meaning to get one for years and just now managed to do it. Now that I'm 60 the insurance covers 100% of it, too. I always forget and have them give me shots in my left arm, and I sleep on my left side, so it was a little sore last night.
I've been having big problems with hip pain lately, so today I went to buy new shoes and new inserts. Why are my feet getting longer?!!! I used to wear an 8 1/2, and the shoes I bought today are an 11! This is nuts. But at least I don't need wide shoes anymore. I'm looking forward to walking in the morning to see if the shoes make a difference.
Pip, the X-rays look SO much better! I hope your pain eases up quickly. You have really been through the wringer!
Mary, I love the red sumac pics. There is a community college that bought an old night club behind our house for a satellite facility, and it included a big vacant lot that abuts our back yard. When the school bought it they came and told us that they were planning to trim up that lot, and I asked them to leave the sumac and some of the "trash trees" that were growing there, so they did! I thought that was very nice of them. We really enjoy those sumacs, especially this time of year. It makes a nice screen from our yard to theirs too. I don't know why landscapers don't use sumacs. They are so pretty. The road between our town and Joplin is lined with sumac in all different shades of reds, yellows, orange and brown.
Well, I'm going to get some dishes started before I go to bed. Have a great evening!
Sylvia
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Sylvia - I'm glad that you are going to a specialist! Sorry to hear about your DGD. Take care of yourself so you can be there as grandma. I had heard that the sumac was like poison ivy. But since I have them all around me I researched them and found that the sumac with white berries and by swamps are the poisonous ones! Good to know. They are pretty!
Mary from Minnesota0 -
Pip!!!! YOU are the BONIC WOMAN girl!!! Tell your man...."Im your Jamie Summers, and you can be my Six Million Dollar Man!" Um you have to sing that with a TWANG too....its LAW!! Glad everything went ok sweetie! (((((hugs)))))
Becca
your token nudist friend...(that is freezing her butt off in Oregon)0 -
Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening Ladies,
Tallves, welcome. I don’t know if you have been on MFP before or also in this forum but we are happy to have you. Do you log the food and drink that you consume? So you can keep up with your calories… the log every bite refers to that. The swallow I’m not too sure about? LOL If you don’t swallow it, I’m not sure you have to log it? Please tell us a bit more about yourself so we can get to know you. Come often and join right in.
Miriam, thanks for the garden info. I know you are all getting frustrated about your son’s living arrangements. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
Heather, Way To Go on resisting the chocolate and biscuits. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Try to think positive on selling the rental. ((((Hugs))))
Penny, I love your description of the moon garden. It sounds magical and I can picture Tinkerbell and her friends flying around the flowers.
Allison, sorry to hear about your friend.
Joyce, so glad Charlie is at least trying to eat. Is he getting frustrated and angry? My DH has a tendency to do that when he is sick. Not a good patient at all.
Irish Terri, it’s wonderful to hear how well you did with your knee surgery. You are to be commended because I know it didn’t all happen by itself. Your local charity group sounds terrific. I have never belonged to a group that gets that kind of attendance. That is wonderful.
Linda, I must have mis-read your post??? It sounded like you were reading this message board at work and I know that’s not right. *Tee hee hee* You can always make your notes on an email and send it to yourself at the end of the day so you could add your art before you posted it.
Vicki, you enjoy wearing your team shirt to work. It’s fun to be able to do that. Where I worked in Charlotte, they used to sell the opportunity to do that and the money went to charity.
Pip, thanks for letting us know you are home. I hope you have some good pain meds to get you through the first few days. Take care and feel all the healing thoughts we are sending your way.
Mindy, I think you acted responsibility. If young people aren’t made to face consequences how will they ever learn? Everyone loses it and yells sometimes. I say, don’t give that another thought. The young man would be sleeping on the street if it weren’t for you. Sorry about you missing work. Hopefully that will work out.
Pip, interesting x rays. It looks better so lets hope it feels better. Hope you feel better soon!!!!! Can’t you just sit down and relax for the day of surgery? I’ll bet the laundry will wait until tomorrow. Good grief, lady!!!
Sylvia, so glad to hear that things may calm down. Glad you like your new doctor and are getting to see the specialist. Sounds like your new doc is at least smart enough to have some ideas about your problems. And yes, you need to take care of yourself or you sure won’t be any good to anyone else. Hope the new therapists can help DGD and get to the root of the problem. Also hope the new shoes make a difference. (((Hugs)))
It has rained all day most of the time and the heavy rains are due the next two days. I stayed dry because I never left the house. Should be good sleeping weather.
Sending the best thoughts to all of you and I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Couple of days behind…. So catching up by speed reading!
So I have committed to participating in a holiday craft faire and will have a booth and sell some embroidery stuff. Should be interesting, I have only done things to order or for myself and gifts… exciting and scary to take on more work…
Disclaimer: this is whiny, and doesn’t relate to you all my online friends, but is about the “physically here” friends…
The faire has gotten me thinking about the upcoming holidays, and as a result I am very depressed. Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays are very tough for me, I have been in counseling for months working on this issue, but from the direction of leaving behind &/or limiting the time with toxic friends, and replacing them with friends who can be supportive and nurturing. I do see that I have made progress – I have a couple of new groups, broadened the group of folks I do stuff with, and I think there are some very nice folks – but they are new to me – my big issue (some of you may remember this from last holiday season) is I am alone for the holidays – my bio-family would have me, but it is not safe, my brother has a history of beating me and that’s not worth it, and my local friend have their traditions and they don’t include me. So today’s meeting with my counselor had her asking me a question that I could not really answer, so I am throwing it out for you… do you spend the holidays with the same people every year, or have a regular rotation? I always assumed that folks did, but she says that is not true for around 50% of the folks. What about you??? Share some stories, what have you done? Are planning on doing? And is it the same each year?
Janetr – great pic!
Joyce – is there any way you could get some help? Just someone to come in once every 2 weeks to clean, change beds? You are doing an amazing job! But it is a lot for any one person. Could you get Charlie to drink an “ensure” or something like that for the times the food isn’t working for him? That would help with the nutrition.
Gawworth… - Great job on the weight loss!!!
Penny at the Pole - LOL at the idea of a pastor without a shirt being a big deal (guessing they don’t wear pants in the shower either!)
Lisa – hope the days get better. Later --- well, it sounds like it was an awfully long day but probably for the best that the gal quit… sometimes these things work out for the best.
Cynthia – I am so bad about remembering who is missing…. But you are loved by this CA gal. Later*** you can get that weight off! I know you can!
Katla – this may be too late, but a metal door is nice for a spot like that… and sometimes cheaper.
Gayle – I think I’d let them call it what ever they want and still keep track. Gayle what is it you are referring to with the letters ED? I know what it is with the ads for the little purple pill, but I don’t think it is that type of ED that you are referring to.
Cynthia and Gayle – thanks for the definition of ED!!!!!
Alison --- so this quote from you, I am sure is a typo but got me giggling you were referring to his new glasses “ if he needs adjusting”
Thinking of you and the passing of your friend.
Pip – I am too late to wish you well, and now see that your home and hurting, take your pain pills, do not try to “tough it out” sending peaceful thoughts
Mindy – you are not an ogre – you set boundaries and then enforced them… maybe the first time he has ever experienced this, but stick by your guns, also remember that there can be reactions – they could move out, be destructive, …. AND Breathe!!! Talk to your boss, apologize and hopefully all will be well.
Heather – Glad things worked out better than expected with your rental… and that you have a plan… The electric thing is so different here, we have a company (different one in different parts of the country) and you get a bill monthly, so you pay it online, or via mail, and at the end of the month you get the next bill for what you used the prior month.
Comments/questions on diabetic treats – I have a diabetic friend and if he will or will not have a sweet is dependent on both what the sweet is but also what the rest of his day was like, did he exercise? What else has he eaten, how much protein, how much carb? So for him at least it is hard to judge.
September Goals:
Walk everyday –try to hit 180 miles (dog is injured- will skip this this month)
Log everyday –
Twice a week do floor exercises
Weekly fun things –
W1 –
W2 – went hiking, went to nephew’s football game
W3 – went hiking, football game!
W4 –
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Kim from N. California
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Heather I forgot who mentioned the charging cord to you and she is absolutely correct. In fact not long after the boys got their tablets the connector inside the tablet became loose so the charging cord would no longer work on it. Luckily the Blackberry can also be charged with an external charging stand so that took care of the problem, What I have been told happened about charging cords is that the government told all of the companies that they needed to use the same kind of charging cord so people were not always having to buy new ones when they changed phones. Well I think they chose the worst charger so now we just have to keep replacing it. They should have gone with the big iPhone charger that never comes out of the phone when charging or even better the old LG charger that actually locked on the phone. These little chargers are terrible no matter what phone they are from. I need to replace my charger for my Kindle because if I don't turn it so the charger is on top it won't charge because it's too loose.
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Pip, oh my goodness, does that thing stay in there? Wow,
Janetr0 -
Hi, ED is eating disorders. Wish it could be fixed with a little purple pill!!!! Thanks for asking! Gayle Minneapolis0
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Janetr - You are going to wait 6 weeks to get back in the water? I was in the pool 2 days postop with both knee replacements. We have an ortho in Sioux Falls who puts his knee and hip replacements in the water first day postop. It is so much easier to move and people do really well with water therapy. You should check to see if there is somewhere near you for aquatic therapy. Can you tell I used to work in aquatic rehab?lol
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I can't even get the incision wet in shower for several days, have to keep it covered. Doc doesn't want it to get infected. Not sure I'd want all that chlorine in the incision either. I guess every doc is different.
Janetr OKC0 -
Kim, on the subject of holidays, I know that many people are disappointed and sad because they have expectations of how the holiday celebration should be. I think the first thing you need to do is take personal inventory of what you are looking for as a celebration of a holiday. Consider starting new traditions for yourself. Reach out to anyone you know who is geographically or emotionally far from their family. Find out about community events and think about attending with a new friend or volunteering to help. My whole attitude about holidays changed when I made the decision to stop using food as recreation.Pip, happy to hear that you are home after your surgery. Take the recovery one day at a time and keep us posted.
Joyce, I'm sorry that Charlie isn't being more aggressive about his own recovery and leaving you feeling like you've failed him by not providing the right food. Today was my regular dental cleaning appointment at the periodontist. She said that my teeth were looking better but still gave me a dozen suggestions of how to do better caring for my teeth---a routine that will last about 20 minutes at bedtime.
Barbie
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Barbie -
An inventory is easy,
1. dinner with people I know, and that will be nice to me and to each other.
2. no police at event who got there lights and sirens.
3. yummy desserts
4. Must be on the day ( I don't mind celebrations on other days too...but my need is for the actual holiday)
5. Sorry on the day I will not help with a charity event INSTEAD of a celebration meal time, I would be willing to do it in addition to #1 above.
The problem I have with reaching out, is that at this point there are few folks I know who are far from family, and those with a group here - I approached tons last year (I started keeping a tally and got a no from 25 people) and all turned me down flat. No they were not interested in doing a meal on the holiday at my house and sorry but they had their group and I could not join in... So it's me and Levi, and he is a great friend but just not enough.... So what I am trying to do is broaden my attitude, and part of that is to see what others do... While I am more than in awe of the fact that you have made the food changes you have, they are not changes I am ready to do, and because I am a moderator, not changes I think I need to make, so what is your tradition?
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Barbie,
sorry that re-read sounds really harsh... I am just hurting so bad, I can't see out - so I am sorry - but I am hoping if I hear others traditions maybe something will sound good to me and I can see a way to make a new list... of what I want.... I just can't find the ladder out of the hurt right now. I don't want to seem mean or unfeeling... sorry! 0 -
mtown002: You are not an ogre. The kid is pushing your buttons on purpose to see if you'll cave. He's used to getting his own way. You have a big challenge with him and I'd suggest considering what you will do if he fails to comply frequently. You may have to send him away. :flowerforyou:
Pip: Wow! Your x-rays really tell a story. After is much better. I hope you heal quickly.
Michele: I guess your guest wanted and needed to be in charge of his situation. Sorry my advice didn't turn out to be right.
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Sylvia: Your DGD has a road ahead of her and healing to do. It will take what time it takes but your love and support will make a difference even if she doesn't say so. :flowerforyou:
Annr: It isn't even chilly in Oregon yet. The breezes and damp are very effective at cooling a person off. You might want to be nude indoors until the weather is better.
Kim: Regarding the holidays, we're in the process of recreating the calendar and life. DD lives too far to visit us unless she flies, and that is very costly, especially now that she has two kids. DS is in the military. He's been here some years and gone others. Last year we celebrated Christmas early with DS and DDIL and they went to her parent's place for the real holiday. I went to DD's house and DH stayed with his sister. We've spent a couple of Christmases alone. I don't enjoy it and neither does DH. DS has suggested the three of us spend Christmas together this year as his wife will want to be with her parents in KY. He wants to travel to some exotic destination. We don't have firm plans in mind. It appears this will be a continuing issue for us. If you think of something brilliant, be sure to share. 
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Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
September Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.
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Katla - is SF area "exotic" you and DH and DS are more than welcome here!0
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Barbie,
sorry that re-read sounds really harsh... I am just hurting so bad, I can't see out - so I am sorry - but I am hoping if I hear others traditions maybe something will sound good to me and I can see a way to make a new list... of what I want.... I just can't find the ladder out of the hurt right now. I don't want to seem mean or unfeeling... sorry!
I hate change!!! Having hard time too, people moving, dying, changing their plans n not including the old. People say have a new adventure, I liked the old. Life changes so guess we have to go with the flow. Always feared being alone, traditional gathering are of the old. This sounds really negative, think I'll go to bed!! Gayle Minneapolis0 -
@Katla49 I have only been an Oregonian since 2012, and before that I was a displaced Oregonian in California for 21 yrs. I was born in Oregon, but my skin got thin in California! When it gets below 50' I am putting on longsleeves. I do however wear shorts for most of the year. Oh and I am pre-mentalpausal tooo....so Im like my own transportable heater. Nothing like your husband planting his feet firmly on the middle of your back to warm them up!!!0
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Gayle - I'm with you! I actually am ready to jump in the flow - but can't find it... I'm telling you alone sucks, one year I made fancy expensive gourmet meals for just me, and that doesn't cut it, one year I cleaned the whole house, washed drapes- hands and knees on the kitchen floor, the buffer on the hardwood, etc... and while I wore off calories and was tired, it wasn't really satisfying either.
You can come here with Katla and her family I have a queen in the master, a double bed futon, and 2 twins in the guest room - Levi and I can sleep in the office. So if everyone likes each other I can sleep 6 on beds!
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@Katla49 our traditions are quite strange when it comes to Thanksgiving. I take my husband and son to the grocery store, and lovingly point them to the frozen section where they both pick out some Swansons Hungryman Turkey Dinners. You know the kind with the ONE PEA in the cranberry cobbler? On the special day we are thankful for each other, and I turn on the oven and put those babies in. Christmas time we usually have something completely strange for New Years Eve dinner like Chinese food or pizza. Many years we had Christmas celebrations whenever the sons could come home on leave from the Navy. The Navy does not wait for holidays, you have your holidays whenever you can squeeze them in!
Becca
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Becca - do you decorate, do the tree and all that? or with the holiday working around the Navy do you just save gifts or not? or? And if no one's home on Christmas day, is that ok with you or ??? Can you tell I am into details LOL
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Mindy, you did no wrong with those kids. They have to understand who is the boss and their behavior causes repurcussions. I know how you feel about yelling at him and calling him a loser. I did that with Charlie tonight, not those words. Later on that.
Pip, it looks like you have a mechanical bug on your shoulder. One word of advice, and I don't know what you can do about it now. These are public forums and your xray has your hospital number on it. that could lead to some possible identity theft. Doubtful, but possible.
Kim, about holidays. Every family is different. But you must take care of what is right for you. Let your therapist guide you. A holiday is not something you should dread and if you then how you do it needs to be changed. Our famiy thinks it is very important to be together. When our kids first got married and in laws came into the picture then we realized we needed to make a change. Thanksgiving would be at our parents home. But Christmas would be at in laws or where ever you chose it to be. Now the ones who are in town will get together and have a small meal together just because we do feel a little depressed that it seems like every one around us are celebrating. So we have a simple meal and just enjoy each other's company. But December 25 isn't the day Jesus was born. It is a day that some group at some time decided to put down as Christmas day. We celebrate it when it is the most convenient for the family as a whole. When my brother was in the Navy there were many years he couldn't come at alll but we made sure that the box we sent him from the whole family was a celebration in itself. WE let kids decorate the box, there were a lot of fun things in there. My brother and his family knew our love was in that box. One year the submarine they had jsut built in the state of Washington and being transferred to I think Virginia(smart government). The battallion was broke into two groups, I'll say A and B but I think they were something else. Anyway, the A group took the sub down through the canal and up the Atlantic, B group went across land. My brother was in B group!!!!! That was the first time in 5 years he would be able to pass by us. So that is when we had Christmas!!!! Lot's to celebrate that year. My daughter's thought it was so cool. But we have always had it here where we live now. The main reason was because that's where Mom and Dad lived before they died. So it became the family home. My sister and Iive here and both of us have one child here. Our house is the biggest of the 4 homes so we always have it here. It has been nice the last couple of years how my sister and I can pretty much just sit down and watch it all happen. Our kids and nieces and nephews all do it now. So we enjoy the babies. Last year there were over 30 people here and it was to big so with a very heavy heart we know we have to have the dinner somewhere else but the gift giving is to special. It will stilll be here. We all still feel that we need to always remember the true meaning of Christmas and not have the main part of Christmas, gift giving, in a commercial setting. Plus our home has the toys, play areas, nice chairs for older people to relax in and everyone stays around and socializes before everthing breaks up and they all go to thier own hotels. One year before Mom died, we had the whole thing some where else because she couldn't handle my house and as soon as gifts were open, everyone left because of a big arguement that happened and caused some hurt feelings. Mom died shortly after that and everyone remembers that and are so sorry that Mom didn't have a good Christmas that year. So we are planning on having dinner at my sister's church and gift exchange here.
OK, about me blowing up at Charlie. I feel so bad and so selfish. As each day goes on and I realize that fi he were at the rehab, the doctors could have been treating his very low blood pressure, lack of eating and drinking, etc in a better setting. I wouldn't be as tired trying to grocery shop, cook, put it all away uneaten, worry, etc, etc. But I remember so much Charlie insisting on him being discharged and making that his goal and he met that goal pretty well as far as the muscle rehab. But his words, I won't be a burden to you, I promise I won't be. Thgey just resonate in my head. Even afte I tried to explain how tired, exhausted I was and I wasn't ready at all to have him home. And now here he is, blood pressure 80/40 most of the time, very dizzy, hard to walk, not doing at all as well as he was at rehab, diarrhea, having to clean up after him. So I sit at Sams pharmacy today waiting on new drug for him and just got to feeling more and more sorry for myself. So by the time I got home I was in a big pity party. I got in, gave him a pill, asked him if he had eaten since he said he would try to while I was gone. No he hadnt. So I jsut went down stairs and left him alone. ALL evening. When I came up, his blood pressure was good, he ahd eaten a good meal and even that made me mad. Why couldn't he have done that before????? So I jsut told him about all the stuff I was mad at and that how terrible I felt that I should feel like that. I said I felt so selfish. His response to that???? Well you should feel selfish! So now he has gone to bed without saying anything to me and me not saying anything to him. And that makes me feel bad. I see a theme here. I feel bad!
But he did eat some and his blood pressure did go up and I should praise God for that. Maybe tomorrow will go differently.
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Joyce, thanks for all the description and the kind words! I feel selfish, now wallowing in my pity party while you are dealing with Charlie, and him being a DH (d not for darling) I know you are glad his blood pressure was better and that he ate, but really to tell you that you should feel selfish You are the most unselfish person!!!! I know you can't ignore him but I want you to know that his view is just one point of view.... and it is NOT my point of view.
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Hi Girls,
Thanks for the support earlier. He did scramble out and mow for over an hour. And when the newly weds came home and heard about my actions they jumped in and Marq weed whacked until it was dark and Summer cleaned the upstairs tub. By the sounds of it w a toothbrush. That girl was scrubbing for well over an hour. It wasn't spiffy but seriously I would've had that baby sparkling in about fifteen minutes. They told me she is a little OCD about cleaning and that's a plus for me. Go Summer! (Yup that's her name and she is stunning). Joey never did come up to apologize for his laziness and I'm. To sure I'm going to demand it as I crossed the line calling him a loser. Loudly. Ugg and as far as the work thing goes...pride cometh before a fall. I just hope when she talks to me I don't cry cuz I tend to and it is very embarrassing and unprofessional. I just really want to do well with the opportunity they have given me and I am so acutely disappointed in myself.
To go onward I wish to backtrack for a minute...Dr Katibug...I'm sorry that I landed yet another potential chore in ur lap when u are already doing so much for your sister. I realized after I read it that though I intended it for an FYI for all it came across as a to do lecture. So sorry.
Joyce I think your amazing. But getting a little help sounds like good advice to me. Lisa your situation and what your dealing with puts my situation in perspective. It will help me even though I am horribly mortified to know that you continue to go in to this ugly situation and handle things to the best of your ability and with grace than maybe I can too. Pip. When I had my right elbow reconstructed..I had shattered it falling while out for a walk, I came home to two babies, one and a half and six months...it sounds like you might be doing to much perhaps bc your on pain meds and can't hear your body's pain? I did that the first couple of days and realized I had to downgrade to Advil Cuz I was to itchy britches to let things wait to get done until perhaps someone could come do them. The pain kept me from doing to much too fast which I think ultimately healed me faster. Anyway you mystify me with your resilience. About the ED thing and counting calories...I think the counsellors might be concerned that an obsession with eating very little (anorexia) or excersize bulimia might develop? JanetR. Good luck with your knee...very motivational story. The pic of you on the mountain stirred the call of the wilderness in me. That at the moment I can't answer. Out of college I hiked just under two thousand miles of the Appalachian Trail. I was in the woods for four months but broke my foot at the border of NH and Maine and never went back to finish ay Katadin. Has anyone seen Wild w Reese Witherspoon. Or read A Walk In The Woods by Bill Bryson? The latter just came out in the theaters on the east coast. Holidays are complicated but it's not too early to start planning thanks for the nudge Kim.
Good Night All
MindyHiDid an hour of incline intervals on the treadmill today. Then had a Newcomer board meeting. The magnetron on our microwave died so the service guy is coming today to measure for a new microwave. You have no idea how many times I've gone to use the microwave and then reminded myself "oh, that's right, I don't have a microwave.
The plan for tomorrow is to do an Ultimate Weight Training and cardio DVD. Afterwards, I need to go get my blood tested (routine stuff). Unfortunately, it's a fasting blood test. I know that I'll be starving by the time I get home. Then tomorrow later in the morning I volunteer at the Green Room. Afterwards I'll go to the farmer's market (this is the last time they'll be there) and then stop at Target to get one more container of litter on sale plus I have a $5 store credit and a $2 coupon
Gayle - I don't have an ED so I find your posts so very fascinating, things I would never have thought of
janetr - ((((HUGS)))))]
Glo - I'm sure you gave pip the idea of using the Airstream if she didn't have it already. I certainly can see her doing that. I know that I would. Do hope the wellness coordinator gets back to you soon.
Welcome everyone new. Glad to have ya with us
Brenda - sounds like great goals
TerriRichard - I'm sure your physio has taken care of this, but if you're working out on your own, you do need to give your muscles 24 - 48 hours to rebuild themselves.
Lisa - oh no! Wish your other crew chief had at least let you know that she wasn't going to come in. Great that you can look on the bright side. Congrats on the weight loss.
terri - I would have scarfed up that tofu in no time at all. I freeze it all the time. Yes, it does change the texture a bit. So instead of the firm I would probably have gotten the extra firm. But you didn't know that it could be frozen. Do hope it's still on sale next week.
Heather - I don't think counting calories equals an ED. Maybe a bit of an obsession, but certainly not an ED
mia - I park further alway from the store not so that I can get my steps in but so that it lessens the chance that another vehicle/shopping cart will make a dent/scratch in my car. I didn't do this and after having my car for about 5 years I had to pay something like $2,000 to get all the dings taken out. So for $2,000, I can walk a little bit. Of course, Jessica thinks I'm crazy for not parking as close as possible. Just read DJ's response that everyplace in NO is air conditioned. It's the same way in FL when we go down there. Silly as this may sound, I always take a sweater with me. I'm not sure if it's going from the warm outside to the cold inside that makes it feel colder or if they, in fact, keep it cooler, but I always have a sweater with me.
DJ - once we went to dinner with Denise and Pete and it was so cold that I asked the waitress to turn down the a/c. She said that even she was cold. By the time we left, they had turned down the a/c
pip - so excited for you. Check in is at 6:30 -- you'll probably be there 5:30. Be thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way. So sorry you won't be able to watch the surgery, I know you would have loved to
Heather - giving gd cake decorating tips, are we?
Need to read fast thru the posts, get dinner ready, then eat early since we have ceramics tonight. Boy, Vince is really into it
katla - when Vince had the ablation, he just had a twilight anesthesia but he could see all the monitors for his heart. He said on one side of the room there were like 9 and on the other side another few. He found it interesting, but he did tell them "now listen here, before this operation starts, I don't want to hear the word 'oops' at all
One of the nice things about living in NC is that we do have a change of season but the winters aren't nearly as bad as in PA. If it snows, it's usually gone by midday
Mary from MN - you're welcome in NC
Yvonne - Vince absolutely loves cargo pants/shorts. He says that they're the best invention. I just prefer something more form fitting. I double Vince will ever give them up, either
I agree that there's no distinction between need and want when you go shopping. Or if something is on a great sale -- you just may need/want it one day.....
karen - the more you lose, the colder you get. Barbie can tell you, she's perpetually cold.
drkatiebug - how nice of you to be cooking and freezing food for your sister to have when you aren't there.
Michele in NC
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