Significant other and their habits..Break up or Suck it up??
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Kissimmee_Disney
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Has anyone here had to deal with a significant other who just isn't "heading the same direction" I have become a vegetarian, trying to go vegan eventually.And my SO just keeps on eating meat.I have changed so much that just the thought of kissing someone who has chewed on meat kind of grosses me out.It has made me actually reconsider if this person should even be in my life.And let's not even mention the way the bathroom smells after they use it.(I am sorry if it sounds gross, but dead carcass coming out smells worse than going in! And my children are also vegetarian and the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here..15 years is what I have in the relationship, but after all this is my health and my life and I want someone who is at least CLOSE to heading my direction. And my SO generally likes "bigger" women which I am planning on NOT being ever again.Am I being too harsh or does anyone else have an opinion? Thanks ~~Kissimmee Disney~~~~
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Eating meat is not a habit. You are being too harsh.0
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Sounds like you already made up your mind.
But dumping someone after 15 years (and possible kids) is a bit rough.0 -
I wouldn't break up my kids' home over pork chops. If you're at that point it seems like there's more to the story than food and size preferences.0
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I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately. Anyway, go for what you think is the best for your relationship. As for my husband, he may have things I hate. For example! Leaving the bathroom floors wet, snoring really loud at night, hoarding all three blankets in our bed, farts in the car without notifying me, and I can go on forever. However, I love him. All the good things he does outweighs everything else I hate.0
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Abby_C2014 wrote: »I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately.
Am I misunderstanding this? If your husband eats something off plan you lecture him until he agrees he did something wrong?0 -
I think a more mature person would know that just because you change yourself shouldn't mean your SO should be forced to change as well. I have chosen to become healthy and eat healthier but I am not going to force it onto my SO. I think if this is bothering you this much than there sure is way more than just this that is bothering you. Also if its not something else than meet him in the middle say hay if you want to eat meat that's up to you but please brush after you do so there is no after effect getting to you.0
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It's really unfair of you to expect your partner to make all of the same changes you are making. He is his own person, he's not obligated to change his life just because you've changed. What if he suddenly developed a moral aversion to something you've always done and consider normal? Would you think it fair for him suddenly be mad at you for not giving up that thing, just because he doesn't like anymore?0
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You should probably talk to a professional about this instead of coming on to a calorie tracking website to vent. This is a serious situation you have here, and no one here is qualified to give you advice that will affect the future of both yourself and your children.0
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JBU0
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Abby_C2014 wrote: »I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately.
Am I misunderstanding this? If your husband eats something off plan you lecture him until he agrees he did something wrong?
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Abby_C2014 wrote: »Abby_C2014 wrote: »I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately.
Am I misunderstanding this? If your husband eats something off plan you lecture him until he agrees he did something wrong?
So your situation is actually not similar to the OP'S because your husband wants to change his eating habits and has delegated responsibility for managing that change to you.0 -
Kissimmee_Disney wrote: »Has anyone here had to deal with a significant other who just isn't "heading the same direction" I have become a vegetarian, trying to go vegan eventually.And my SO just keeps on eating meat.I have changed so much that just the thought of kissing someone who has chewed on meat kind of grosses me out.It has made me actually reconsider if this person should even be in my life.And let's not even mention the way the bathroom smells after they use it.(I am sorry if it sounds gross, but dead carcass coming out smells worse than going in! And my children are also vegetarian and the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here..15 years is what I have in the relationship, but after all this is my health and my life and I want someone who is at least CLOSE to heading my direction. And my SO generally likes "bigger" women which I am planning on NOT being ever again.Am I being too harsh or does anyone else have an opinion? Thanks ~~Kissimmee Disney~~~~
if i look at this post**juuuuust so** it almost resembles an actual real thing0 -
Abby_C2014 wrote: »Abby_C2014 wrote: »I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately.
Am I misunderstanding this? If your husband eats something off plan you lecture him until he agrees he did something wrong?
So your situation is actually not similar to the OP'S because your husband wants to change his eating habits and has delegated responsibility for managing that change to you.
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Abby_C2014 wrote: »Abby_C2014 wrote: »Abby_C2014 wrote: »I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately.
Am I misunderstanding this? If your husband eats something off plan you lecture him until he agrees he did something wrong?
So your situation is actually not similar to the OP'S because your husband wants to change his eating habits and has delegated responsibility for managing that change to you.
Who's attacking anybody?0 -
If this is not a joke, you should hang on to that guy.0
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Abby_C2014 wrote: »Abby_C2014 wrote: »Abby_C2014 wrote: »I am the same with my husband, but we are not vegans. I only have a problem when my SO eats something that isn't in our meal plan. What I do is I initiate one on one talk with him in regards of "What foods to avoid" then explain all the reasons behind it. My husband is an understanding man so he agrees immediately.
Am I misunderstanding this? If your husband eats something off plan you lecture him until he agrees he did something wrong?
So your situation is actually not similar to the OP'S because your husband wants to change his eating habits and has delegated responsibility for managing that change to you.
Who's attacking anybody?
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Im sorry, but if someone is even thinking about leaving a partner over something as minute as eating meat because of your lifestyle choice, I think you would be doing him a favor by leaving.0
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jennifer_417 wrote: »It's really unfair of you to expect your partner to make all of the same changes you are making. He is his own person, he's not obligated to change his life just because you've changed. What if he suddenly developed a moral aversion to something you've always done and consider normal? Would you think it fair for him suddenly be mad at you for not giving up that thing, just because he doesn't like anymore?
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Kissimmee_Disney wrote: »Has anyone here had to deal with a significant other who just isn't "heading the same direction" I have become a vegetarian, trying to go vegan eventually.And my SO just keeps on eating meat.I have changed so much that just the thought of kissing someone who has chewed on meat kind of grosses me out.It has made me actually reconsider if this person should even be in my life.And let's not even mention the way the bathroom smells after they use it.(I am sorry if it sounds gross, but dead carcass coming out smells worse than going in! And my children are also vegetarian and the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here..15 years is what I have in the relationship, but after all this is my health and my life and I want someone who is at least CLOSE to heading my direction. And my SO generally likes "bigger" women which I am planning on NOT being ever again.Am I being too harsh or does anyone else have an opinion? Thanks ~~Kissimmee Disney~~~~
You're being judgy and unfair in my opinion. You're not a vegan yet, but imagine if some vegan started talking all snotty about you and your odors and bathroom habits because you're still unwilling to give up animal byproducts.
Now imagine that person is your SO of 15 years. And then try imagining that your vegan SO made a post about you online behind your back about it, about how you gross him out.0 -
If being with him makes you unhappy for any reason, leave. Life is too short. JMO0
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