Significant other and their habits..Break up or Suck it up??
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Wow. Just... wow.
I really feel bad for your SO. How difficult must it be for him to live with a woman with such high expectations that his poop doesn't smell.
I'm sorry OP, but you're waaaaay out of line. You're willing to throw away a 15 year relationship over HIS dietary choices? That's ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous.
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That is a TERRIBLE reason to abandon your SO. I feel so bad for him for having such a selfish woman in his life who is willing to break up with him for something she should never have expected from him at all.0
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Kissimmee_Disney wrote: »Has anyone here had to deal with a significant other who just isn't "heading the same direction" I have become a vegetarian, trying to go vegan eventually.And my SO just keeps on eating meat.I have changed so much that just the thought of kissing someone who has chewed on meat kind of grosses me out.It has made me actually reconsider if this person should even be in my life.And let's not even mention the way the bathroom smells after they use it.(I am sorry if it sounds gross, but dead carcass coming out smells worse than going in! And my children are also vegetarian and the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here..15 years is what I have in the relationship, but after all this is my health and my life and I want someone who is at least CLOSE to heading my direction. And my SO generally likes "bigger" women which I am planning on NOT being ever again.Am I being too harsh or does anyone else have an opinion? Thanks ~~Kissimmee Disney~~~~
I think there are other issues here besides the different eating "habits". I think sometimes when you lose interest in someone random things that usually wouldn't matter become big problems. Maybe you lost interest in him in general and are using the differences in diet as an excuse or it is something that irritates you on top of a relationship that is already failing.0 -
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PikaKnight wrote: »I feel really bad for the guy. OP, please break up with him so he can find someone better.
Just wow.
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What if you change your mind about vegan/vegetarianism in the future? Don't end a 15 year relationship over food preferences, I see major regret written all over your future, if you do.0
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I guess the real issue is, why can't you just buy some lysol air spray? Is your husband both against vegetarianism and against taking 2 seconds to spray the air while using the bathroom?0
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They say true love is blind. I believe that. Ending your relationship because of his food choices? Sure doesn't sound like a lot of love going on there.
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You're even forcing your kids to be vegetarian?
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This post isn't turning out the way you had hoped, is it?
He married you as a meat-eater. That is what he expected from the marriage. YOU changed. That isn't HIS fault, so you don't need to act like it is.0 -
I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.0
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PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?0 -
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PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?
That would be my guess.0 -
When we make a lifestyle change, we can expect our SOs to be supportive of our change. But we cannot expect them to conform completely to it. There is always a "healthier" way to live. I think you are expecting more than just support and want your SO to completely adopt your lifestyle. I don't think that is reasonable. Many people post here about how their friends and family are unfairly judging them for their change in lifestyle. Your post comes off as you unfairly judging your SO for not conforming to your new lifestyle.
15 years is a long time and breaking up over something like this after 15 years seems extreme. However, if your relationship is in a deteriorated state where you would consider this, perhaps it is better to end it now.0 -
UltimateRBF wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?
Impossible. It has to be a man. Girls don't poop.0 -
UltimateRBF wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?
Impossible. It has to be a man. Girls don't poop.
Crap. I never got that memo. No wonder The Man looks at me with such disgust after I walk out of the bathroom saying "Daaammn, don't go in there for awhile".0 -
That doesn't sound healthy, and I'm not talking about your husband's eating habits.0
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Kissimmee_Disney wrote: »Has anyone here had to deal with a significant other who just isn't "heading the same direction" I have become a vegetarian, trying to go vegan eventually.And my SO just keeps on eating meat.I have changed so much that just the thought of kissing someone who has chewed on meat kind of grosses me out.It has made me actually reconsider if this person should even be in my life.And let's not even mention the way the bathroom smells after they use it.(I am sorry if it sounds gross, but dead carcass coming out smells worse than going in! And my children are also vegetarian and the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here..15 years is what I have in the relationship, but after all this is my health and my life and I want someone who is at least CLOSE to heading my direction. And my SO generally likes "bigger" women which I am planning on NOT being ever again.Am I being too harsh or does anyone else have an opinion? Thanks ~~Kissimmee Disney~~~~
Get a scented candle or some air freshener. Get some professional relationship counseling.
15 years is a lot of history together I would assume. I'd have an open, honest conversation with your SO about your changes and how you both feel about it. It may be that your relationship is done because you both want different things. I don't know.0 -
MommyL2015 wrote: »They say true love is blind.
And now we know it lacks the sense of smell too.0 -
I agree with those who have said that there is clearly more going on than just food, especially since you've been together so long. I think you should sit down and talk about everything on your mind (and your SO's, as these things are rarely one sided) and decide as a couple whether it's worth working on.
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Self disclosure: I've been a vegetarian for 15 years now.
I only focus on the food I put on my plate. It is not my place nor role to focus on the food someone else puts on their plate. Sometimes we can be so focused on the changes we are making that we want to bleed those choices on others in our life. It's not right. It's not fair.
I will also say in all blunt honesty, if this is a deal breaker for your relationship than it says more about the relationship than the meat issue. I have made it clear to people I have dated that I am not preparing meat, but what they choose to do....is up to them. I respect our differences and all that jazz.
Also, as a vegetarian....beans, tofu and the like can smell just as stinky coming out. Just sayin.... Buy some Poo Pourri.
QFT. I'm a vegetarian too. I'm also married (coming up on 25 years) to a meat-eater. Guess what? I even cook it for him. Our son eats meat, our daughter is also a veggie. We all respect each other.
If you can't respect that your husband has just as much right to make his own choices and that his choices are as valid as your choices, do him a favor and leave. Respect is fundamental to a marriage. Your children do not need to see you passing judgement on their father like this.
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UltimateRBF wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?
Impossible. It has to be a man. Girls don't poop.
SNORT!0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »UltimateRBF wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I'd like to point out that she's not married to him, and it doesn't even sound like they live together as she says "the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here". I'm thinking he's dodging a bullet on both counts there.
I'll also point out, the OP's language doesn't even say it is a him. Also, she refers to the kids as her kids, not their kids, so maybe the kids aren't the SO's?
Impossible. It has to be a man. Girls don't poop.
Crap. I never got that memo. No wonder The Man looks at me with such disgust after I walk out of the bathroom saying "Daaammn, don't go in there for awhile".
Maybe SO in this case means Stinky Octogenarian or Stinky Octopus.0 -
Kissimmee_Disney wrote: »Has anyone here had to deal with a significant other who just isn't "heading the same direction" I have become a vegetarian, trying to go vegan eventually.And my SO just keeps on eating meat.I have changed so much that just the thought of kissing someone who has chewed on meat kind of grosses me out.It has made me actually reconsider if this person should even be in my life.And let's not even mention the way the bathroom smells after they use it.(I am sorry if it sounds gross, but dead carcass coming out smells worse than going in! And my children are also vegetarian and the only time the home reeks is when the SO is here..15 years is what I have in the relationship, but after all this is my health and my life and I want someone who is at least CLOSE to heading my direction. And my SO generally likes "bigger" women which I am planning on NOT being ever again.Am I being too harsh or does anyone else have an opinion? Thanks ~~Kissimmee Disney~~~~
if i look at this post**juuuuust so** it almost resembles an actual real thing
That was my thought too.
And this ...UltimateRBF wrote: »Wait, wait. I had to re read this thread just for fun.
You're LITERALLY saying that as a vegetarian, youre superior...because your *kitten* don't stink. Good lord, that is rich.
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UltimateRBF wrote: »Wait, wait. I had to re read this thread just for fun.
You're LITERALLY saying that as a vegetarian, you're superior...because your *kitten* don't stink. Good lord, that is rich.
So glad I am not the only one who noticed this.
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He should dump you for being a complete whack job.0
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OP sounds like you need help not your SO and your poor kids.0
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