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Instead, I'm just appalled at some of the talk here about how to tell whether someone is a "DB" as opposed to "really" having a mental disorder, implications that those with mental disorders must be having just a great time thanks to their "freedom" to "do/eat what they want" (REALLY?).
Try again
My comments were meant to describe what benefits a DB might obtain from such behavior, even though he may not have a mental illness. My repeated question on mental illness is to ask how you can tell that a person has one just by watching videos of them. Hopefully you're a tad less appalled now
'Try again'? Perhaps you'd do better to reconsider the fact that you're repeatedly using the initials DB (shortening them doesn't hide the fact that you mean *kitten*, which is rude at best, and just blatantly mean at worst). Considering that the discussion is about a person who might be mentally ill, it's incredibly offensive, and appalling, that you still can't figure out that it's just not acceptable to do that. A person who is eating himself into an early grave can't be considered mentally healthy. It's obvious that he has some sort of problem, and acting out is just part of his problem. Compassion should be part of everyone's makeup. Name calling is something that should have been left behind on the childhood playground, and even at that aren't we supposed to be teaching our children that it's part of bullying and should never be done at all?
I suppose the bolded answers my question. Is that your opinion, or some sort of established, widely known fact? Sources? Don't countless Americans essentially do just that every day? Are they all assumed to be mentally ill, too?
If I didn't call the person who was described as abusive in the post I initially responded to a potential DB, would it make you feel better?
BED is an established, widely known fact. And I believe that morbid obesity has been recognized as a disease, so yes, it is more than just my opinion.
Basically any morbidly obese person definitely has BED?
I think the argument that someone who has let themselves get to 800+ pounds clearly has something else going on. That just is not normal behavior. Many people reach an established weight based on the number of calories eaten and it becomes maintenance. It is something else entirely to reach 800 pounds.
Interesting. The way I see it, we all have something going on. I just wonder at what point do we ignore all prior transgressions and only see this poor morbidly obese guy who now needs to be pitied and helped. Isn't getting huge what happens when you eat too many calories on a prolonged basis? Isn't ruining your life what happens when you abuse and ignore those that try to guide you in the right direction? At what point does the flip happen when it's no longer something that's your doing / in your control and you're living the consequences of your daily choices and actions? At what stage does one get absolved of accountability and personal responsibility?
At this point we're probably just going around in circles. I suppose I understand the popular opinion that just by being XXX lbs overweight, it automatically means one has one or several mental illnesses. I'm actually doing some light reading on the subject matter - anyone that has any sources or other background on the subject, please feel free to share
Finally, I wonder how many participating in this discussion have actually watched videos of this man
I have. And?
Yes yes Shell, I know you have based on your earlier comments about this abusive man. So that's one. I suspect some of the others hadn't as of the time of posting their comments. I wonder if they experienced how truly vile he was coming across
I tend not to trust media portrayals of individuals too much, especially if it crap shows like Dr. Phil
Example: http://nypost.com/2015/01/18/contestant-reveals-the-brutal-secrets-of-the-biggest-loser/PeachyCarol wrote: »
Instead, I'm just appalled at some of the talk here about how to tell whether someone is a "DB" as opposed to "really" having a mental disorder, implications that those with mental disorders must be having just a great time thanks to their "freedom" to "do/eat what they want" (REALLY?).
Try again
My comments were meant to describe what benefits a DB might obtain from such behavior, even though he may not have a mental illness. My repeated question on mental illness is to ask how you can tell that a person has one just by watching videos of them. Hopefully you're a tad less appalled now
'Try again'? Perhaps you'd do better to reconsider the fact that you're repeatedly using the initials DB (shortening them doesn't hide the fact that you mean *kitten*, which is rude at best, and just blatantly mean at worst). Considering that the discussion is about a person who might be mentally ill, it's incredibly offensive, and appalling, that you still can't figure out that it's just not acceptable to do that. A person who is eating himself into an early grave can't be considered mentally healthy. It's obvious that he has some sort of problem, and acting out is just part of his problem. Compassion should be part of everyone's makeup. Name calling is something that should have been left behind on the childhood playground, and even at that aren't we supposed to be teaching our children that it's part of bullying and should never be done at all?
I suppose the bolded answers my question. Is that your opinion, or some sort of established, widely known fact? Sources? Don't countless Americans essentially do just that every day? Are they all assumed to be mentally ill, too?
If I didn't call the person who was described as abusive in the post I initially responded to a potential DB, would it make you feel better?
BED is an established, widely known fact. And I believe that morbid obesity has been recognized as a disease, so yes, it is more than just my opinion.
Basically any morbidly obese person definitely has BED?
I think the argument that someone who has let themselves get to 800+ pounds clearly has something else going on. That just is not normal behavior. Many people reach an established weight based on the number of calories eaten and it becomes maintenance. It is something else entirely to reach 800 pounds.
Interesting. The way I see it, we all have something going on. I just wonder at what point do we ignore all prior transgressions and only see this poor morbidly obese guy who now needs to be pitied and helped. Isn't getting huge what happens when you eat too many calories on a prolonged basis? Isn't ruining your life what happens when you abuse and ignore those that try to guide you in the right direction? At what point does the flip happen when it's no longer something that's your doing / in your control and you're living the consequences of your daily choices and actions? At what stage does one get absolved of accountability and personal responsibility?
At this point we're probably just going around in circles. I suppose I understand the popular opinion that just by being XXX lbs overweight, it automatically means one has one or several mental illnesses. I'm actually doing some light reading on the subject matter - anyone that has any sources or other background on the subject, please feel free to share
Finally, I wonder how many participating in this discussion have actually watched videos of this man
I have. And?
Yes yes Shell, I know you have based on your earlier comments about this abusive man. So that's one. I suspect some of the others hadn't as of the time of posting their comments. I wonder if they experienced how truly vile he was coming across
I watched the video, and it makes no difference in my comments. Whether he has a diagnosis or not, whether he is vile or not, he is still human. It doesn't matter how he comes across to us on TV. He still deserves to be treated like a human being and not called names, or have assumptions made about him.
Assumptions like he definitely has a mental illness, for example?
I suppose my position on the "name calling" that some of you find to be in poor taste is that respect is earned. This person comes across as abusive, extremely disrespectful, i.e. a DB for short. Either that, OR be has a mental illness and his behavior is out of his control. Honestly to me, it's actually disrespectful and dehumanizing to assume he has a mental illness for sure. Hey, you're fat and say things I don't like, can't possibly be in control of your faculties.
The behavior in question here is yours. Name calling, bullying, etc, are absolutely never, ever acceptable. No matter the behavior of another person, or the reason for that behavior, there is no justification for your decision to label anyone with a rude, offensive name. Two wrongs never make a right. I worked in a hospital for years, and I'll tell you this. Sometimes people act out because they have mental problems, and sometimes they act out because they are just miserable people. Regardless of why they act the way that they do, acting rudely back to them never makes you any better. Acting compassionately and empathetically, understanding that they are acting the way they are simply because they are so miserable, can make you a better person, and can actually make you and others feel better.
Don't worry, others feel great around me
So let me get this: someone could be, say, a rapist, and since we don't understand all the details that contributed to their situation we can offer nothing but kindness and respect with regards to their predicament? Poor guy, poor guy, I wonder what went wrong to make him be so awful. I can only imagine what it must be like to offer this kind of unconditional respect and compassion. I can't say such sainthood interests me much. I guess good for you, and you do you, okay? In my world, you reap what you sow, and if you don't want to come across as a DB, you investigate the tools to resolve whatever issues you might have going on and adjust your behavior. No, I don't automatically have compassion for someone who verbally abuses his own father and multiple people unfortunate enough to come across him. And if that makes you a better person than I, I can live with that
You obviously know very, very little about mental illness.
And rape.
This is one of the most offensive posts I've ever read on here.
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Sunny_Bunny_ wrote: »ColinsMommaOC wrote: »GaleHawkins wrote: »The sad thing this guy can not live in an SUV for years to come. I was talking to a guy that smokes and one doctor told him if he did not stop smoking that he would stop seeing him. It seems doctors are in their right to withhold service after the patient proves to be noncompliant.
I to not get the going on TV/news media part even if there was $$$ involved.
As someone that works in media, yes there was most likely a cash payout given to the father/son in return for their story. So the guy got paid to badmouth a hospital that kicked him out (rightfully IMO) for violating the terms of his agreement.
To the people that think we should continue to fund this man's (NOT BOY/KID) hospitalization;
Programs like these are generally run on public funding with some supplementation from donations. They ask for applicants to fill the 5-20ish spots in the program that they have available. They get hundreds of applications and only take as many as they can before putting the rest on the wait-list or outright rejecting them. The out of pocket cost for the person applying is generally nothing to very minimal amounts. He was given 3 months to show that he was committed to the program and making an effort. He failed. Why some people would have those hundreds of wait-listed people continue to wait so this self-centered spoiled MAN can continue to cheat and not care about the program is beyond me. Does this man need help? Yes. Should we continue to give him help after he repeatedly showed not only that he did not want the help, but a contempt for the help he was getting? Absolutely not.
First, I am a "Colin's momma" too, spelled the same, which for some reason most people mispronounce all the time and I don't understand it...
Anyway, I totally agree with this. I think about other lifesaving medical interventions and wonder if as many people would be as sensitive to an extreme alcoholic, with no intention to stop, getting a liver transplant, while someone else, making every effort for health, waits on the list.
I recognize the mental health aspect of this condition but it doesn't make them entirely faultless. The same is true of alcoholics as well as many other over consumption/abuse behaviors. I have very close family that are recovered drug addicts and the turning point for them came with taking full responsibility for their actions even while they were out of control and on drugs. In both of their cases, they were forced to get clean, but were provided with counseling opportunities that they took advantage of. I don't know if these hospitals are also providing therapy for the underlying mental illness, but they certainly should be. There should be coaching on how to cope with the inevitable feelings of deprivation and "withdrawal" from their comfort foods. There should be sponsors/mentors assigned that can be called for support when needed. Visits from family and friends should be limited and those people should be expected to have bags checked and should be held responsible if caught bringing in food by being banned from future visits for some time. The patient could be on a continuous glucose monitor so they would know if food was eaten.
The patients should be told, very bluntly, that they are expected to do their part and that it will not be easy and they are not there to be nursed back to health by the team but to get their own health back with the support of the team. I can't imagine people aren't told these things. The person has to WANT IT. That means they have to be willing to go without things they want, probably often, especially at first. They have to be willing to endure whatever pain comes with physical rehabilitation. And they have to understand that regardless of mental/emotional issues, they are responsible for their actions and that is good news because because it means you do have the ability to control your behaviors. It means they can be strong and achieve the health they need. They just have to learn to cope and need to use the resources available for support. And those resources need to be made more easily available. But even online support, like MFP is helpful and can be enough for a lot of people. Like many of us. Isn't that what we are doing here? Looking for support and like minded people that understand our journey that we can learn from or maybe offer something to...
Support is important, but people aren't going to come lay it in our lap. We have to seek it out and participate in it and we have to be ready to get really, really honest with ourselves about what we want and we are willing to do to get it.Sunny_Bunny_ wrote: »ColinsMommaOC wrote: »GaleHawkins wrote: »The sad thing this guy can not live in an SUV for years to come. I was talking to a guy that smokes and one doctor told him if he did not stop smoking that he would stop seeing him. It seems doctors are in their right to withhold service after the patient proves to be noncompliant.
I to not get the going on TV/news media part even if there was $$$ involved.
As someone that works in media, yes there was most likely a cash payout given to the father/son in return for their story. So the guy got paid to badmouth a hospital that kicked him out (rightfully IMO) for violating the terms of his agreement.
To the people that think we should continue to fund this man's (NOT BOY/KID) hospitalization;
Programs like these are generally run on public funding with some supplementation from donations. They ask for applicants to fill the 5-20ish spots in the program that they have available. They get hundreds of applications and only take as many as they can before putting the rest on the wait-list or outright rejecting them. The out of pocket cost for the person applying is generally nothing to very minimal amounts. He was given 3 months to show that he was committed to the program and making an effort. He failed. Why some people would have those hundreds of wait-listed people continue to wait so this self-centered spoiled MAN can continue to cheat and not care about the program is beyond me. Does this man need help? Yes. Should we continue to give him help after he repeatedly showed not only that he did not want the help, but a contempt for the help he was getting? Absolutely not.
First, I am a "Colin's momma" too, spelled the same, which for some reason most people mispronounce all the time and I don't understand it...
Anyway, I totally agree with this. I think about other lifesaving medical interventions and wonder if as many people would be as sensitive to an extreme alcoholic, with no intention to stop, getting a liver transplant, while someone else, making every effort for health, waits on the list.
I recognize the mental health aspect of this condition but it doesn't make them entirely faultless. The same is true of alcoholics as well as many other over consumption/abuse behaviors. I have very close family that are recovered drug addicts and the turning point for them came with taking full responsibility for their actions even while they were out of control and on drugs. In both of their cases, they were forced to get clean, but were provided with counseling opportunities that they took advantage of. I don't know if these hospitals are also providing therapy for the underlying mental illness, but they certainly should be. There should be coaching on how to cope with the inevitable feelings of deprivation and "withdrawal" from their comfort foods. There should be sponsors/mentors assigned that can be called for support when needed. Visits from family and friends should be limited and those people should be expected to have bags checked and should be held responsible if caught bringing in food by being banned from future visits for some time. The patient could be on a continuous glucose monitor so they would know if food was eaten.
The patients should be told, very bluntly, that they are expected to do their part and that it will not be easy and they are not there to be nursed back to health by the team but to get their own health back with the support of the team. I can't imagine people aren't told these things. The person has to WANT IT. That means they have to be willing to go without things they want, probably often, especially at first. They have to be willing to endure whatever pain comes with physical rehabilitation. And they have to understand that regardless of mental/emotional issues, they are responsible for their actions and that is good news because because it means you do have the ability to control your behaviors. It means they can be strong and achieve the health they need. They just have to learn to cope and need to use the resources available for support. And those resources need to be made more easily available. But even online support, like MFP is helpful and can be enough for a lot of people. Like many of us. Isn't that what we are doing here? Looking for support and like minded people that understand our journey that we can learn from or maybe offer something to...
Support is important, but people aren't going to come lay it in our lap. We have to seek it out and participate in it and we have to be ready to get really, really honest with ourselves about what we want and we are willing to do to get it.
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Death by obesity however is a slow-moving train wreck. Do we have the fortitude to look away?
Interesting point of view. I like it. Something definitely worth thinking about.
Like I said earlier, I've worked with some super morbidly obese at my job. I just see them as regular people, as we chat and joke and exchange ideas and experiences in the normal course of a day's work. They are just as varied and individual within their personality spectrum as anyone else. Some are more likeable than others, yeah. One thing they all have in common is they've offered to share their food with me when they've ordered take out and have also offered to pay for a meal to be delivered to me from their own very limited funds. I decline politely, as I have to professionally, but I always feel humbled, amazed and warmed when they do this. Dang, my eyes are filling up typing this.
I forget that they once lived on the outside when they still had some mobility, even if it was using a motorized scooter. I've watched shows like 600 pound life a few times and see how it's commonplace for average people to openly stare at them and shout out demeaning things in stores and on the street. When I think of the people I know and have known experiencing this, I feel sick and sad.
It makes me wonder, when I'm out and about outside of work - who among these everyday people walking down the street and shopping in stores would actually respond in such a way to a super morbidly obese person? Publicly humiliating them and laughing with their pals? I'd like to think less than 10% of them but when I've watched 600 pound life and some other reality shows, the percentage of people who enjoy doing this seems a lot higher.
I think it is so very important to build a social connection with the morbidly obese, to talk about things that have nothing to do with weight. My experience is that very heavy people are socially adept, articulate, and nice. They have to, or they are ignored. And their self-esteem has taken more shots than any person deserves.0 -
Death by obesity however is a slow-moving train wreck. Do we have the fortitude to look away?
Interesting point of view. I like it. Something definitely worth thinking about.
Like I said earlier, I've worked with some super morbidly obese at my job. I just see them as regular people, as we chat and joke and exchange ideas and experiences in the normal course of a day's work. They are just as varied and individual within their personality spectrum as anyone else. Some are more likeable than others, yeah. One thing they all have in common is they've offered to share their food with me when they've ordered take out and have also offered to pay for a meal to be delivered to me from their own very limited funds. I decline politely, as I have to professionally, but I always feel humbled, amazed and warmed when they do this. Dang, my eyes are filling up typing this.
I forget that they once lived on the outside when they still had some mobility, even if it was using a motorized scooter. I've watched shows like 600 pound life a few times and see how it's commonplace for average people to openly stare at them and shout out demeaning things in stores and on the street. When I think of the people I know and have known experiencing this, I feel sick and sad.
It makes me wonder, when I'm out and about outside of work - who among these everyday people walking down the street and shopping in stores would actually respond in such a way to a super morbidly obese person? Publicly humiliating them and laughing with their pals? I'd like to think less than 10% of them but when I've watched 600 pound life and some other reality shows, the percentage of people who enjoy doing this seems a lot higher.
I think it is so very important to build a social connection with the morbidly obese, to talk about things that have nothing to do with weight. My experience is that very heavy people are socially adept, articulate, and nice. They have to, or they are ignored. And their self-esteem has taken more shots than any person deserves.
This, exactly. What people seems to forget is that they are just people. Regardless of weight. Similar things happen to the disabled. It's as if people assume that being obese or disabled has somehow affected the brain and that gives everyone permission to treat them differently.
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I think part of the horror is that people like this man exists. He's embodying a deep-seated fear in all of us. Could we become so ensnared in our own hedonistic desires to eat ourselves to death?
We do have laws to try and protect people from themselves, like traffic signs and tobacco tax. People who bypass these laws sometimes get caught. Some very determined people manage to kill themselves before they smarten up (run through a red light, throat cancer). With traffic accidents however, the results of someone's foolishness is pretty instantaneous. We then are most concerned that the fool did not take out any innocent bystanders in their demise.
Death by obesity however is a slow-moving train wreck. Do we have the fortitude to look away?
What if the father (enabler) has Munchhausen's by proxy?
Now that you mention it I think a goodly part of the horror too is that this particular type of overindulgence can be plainly seen.
You can't tell if I'm a bad driver by looking at me. You probably couldn't tell if I was an alcoholic, or a drug addict either (assuming I wasn't too far gone).
Mental illness can be very discrete, but throw an ED on there and you are suddenly displaying your problem for all too see.
I am a pretty awful driver, well not driving, parking. I suck at parking HARD, but you can't tell looking at me. You can tell that I eat too much though, it's right out there.0 -
crazyjerseygirl wrote: »I think part of the horror is that people like this man exists. He's embodying a deep-seated fear in all of us. Could we become so ensnared in our own hedonistic desires to eat ourselves to death?
We do have laws to try and protect people from themselves, like traffic signs and tobacco tax. People who bypass these laws sometimes get caught. Some very determined people manage to kill themselves before they smarten up (run through a red light, throat cancer). With traffic accidents however, the results of someone's foolishness is pretty instantaneous. We then are most concerned that the fool did not take out any innocent bystanders in their demise.
Death by obesity however is a slow-moving train wreck. Do we have the fortitude to look away?
What if the father (enabler) has Munchhausen's by proxy?
Now that you mention it I think a goodly part of the horror too is that this particular type of overindulgence can be plainly seen.
You can't tell if I'm a bad driver by looking at me. You probably couldn't tell if I was an alcoholic, or a drug addict either (assuming I wasn't too far gone).
Mental illness can be very discrete, but throw an ED on there and you are suddenly displaying your problem for all too see.
I am a pretty awful driver, well not driving, parking. I suck at parking HARD, but you can't tell looking at me. You can tell that I eat too much though, it's right out there.
Excellent point. My failure (to lose weight) was apparent for all to see. I consoled myself at the time for holding on to those qualities that could not be taken from me, like integrity, kindness.0 -
crazyjerseygirl wrote: »I think part of the horror is that people like this man exists. He's embodying a deep-seated fear in all of us. Could we become so ensnared in our own hedonistic desires to eat ourselves to death?
We do have laws to try and protect people from themselves, like traffic signs and tobacco tax. People who bypass these laws sometimes get caught. Some very determined people manage to kill themselves before they smarten up (run through a red light, throat cancer). With traffic accidents however, the results of someone's foolishness is pretty instantaneous. We then are most concerned that the fool did not take out any innocent bystanders in their demise.
Death by obesity however is a slow-moving train wreck. Do we have the fortitude to look away?
What if the father (enabler) has Munchhausen's by proxy?
Now that you mention it I think a goodly part of the horror too is that this particular type of overindulgence can be plainly seen.
You can't tell if I'm a bad driver by looking at me. You probably couldn't tell if I was an alcoholic, or a drug addict either (assuming I wasn't too far gone).
Mental illness can be very discrete, but throw an ED on there and you are suddenly displaying your problem for all too see.
I am a pretty awful driver, well not driving, parking. I suck at parking HARD, but you can't tell looking at me. You can tell that I eat too much though, it's right out there.
Excellent point. My failure (to lose weight) was apparent for all to see. I consoled myself at the time for holding on to those qualities that could not be taken from me, like integrity, kindness.
Ha! I compensated by being an *kitten* sad to say! Gave people a better reason to ignore me than the fat!
Probably should work on that particular character flaw!0 -
crazyjerseygirl wrote: »crazyjerseygirl wrote: »I think part of the horror is that people like this man exists. He's embodying a deep-seated fear in all of us. Could we become so ensnared in our own hedonistic desires to eat ourselves to death?
We do have laws to try and protect people from themselves, like traffic signs and tobacco tax. People who bypass these laws sometimes get caught. Some very determined people manage to kill themselves before they smarten up (run through a red light, throat cancer). With traffic accidents however, the results of someone's foolishness is pretty instantaneous. We then are most concerned that the fool did not take out any innocent bystanders in their demise.
Death by obesity however is a slow-moving train wreck. Do we have the fortitude to look away?
What if the father (enabler) has Munchhausen's by proxy?
Now that you mention it I think a goodly part of the horror too is that this particular type of overindulgence can be plainly seen.
You can't tell if I'm a bad driver by looking at me. You probably couldn't tell if I was an alcoholic, or a drug addict either (assuming I wasn't too far gone).
Mental illness can be very discrete, but throw an ED on there and you are suddenly displaying your problem for all too see.
I am a pretty awful driver, well not driving, parking. I suck at parking HARD, but you can't tell looking at me. You can tell that I eat too much though, it's right out there.
Excellent point. My failure (to lose weight) was apparent for all to see. I consoled myself at the time for holding on to those qualities that could not be taken from me, like integrity, kindness.
Ha! I compensated by being an *kitten* sad to say! Gave people a better reason to ignore me than the fat!
Probably should work on that particular character flaw!
I'm all for successful strategies. My sister-in-law uses the same strategy you do (to hide her disability). She enters a room mouth first. You don't have time to notice what she can't do. I like her.
http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20150813-the-secrets-of-extraordinary-survivors
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kshama2001 wrote: »NAMI has been a big support to my mother over the years.
NAMI is awesome, and has been a support to my extended family as well.
As far as the offensive comment linking mental illness to rape, I wonder why mental illness does not have a spectrum (like autism.) My sister facilitates NAMI peer-to-peer classes and she said the range of mental illnesses is fairly vast. It would seem beneficial to have a spectrum, so that any grievous "lumping together" of people with brain disorders would be minimized.
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crazyjerseygirl wrote: »crazyjerseygirl wrote: »I think part of the horror is that people like this man exists. He's embodying a deep-seated fear in all of us. Could we become so ensnared in our own hedonistic desires to eat ourselves to death?
We do have laws to try and protect people from themselves, like traffic signs and tobacco tax. People who bypass these laws sometimes get caught. Some very determined people manage to kill themselves before they smarten up (run through a red light, throat cancer). With traffic accidents however, the results of someone's foolishness is pretty instantaneous. We then are most concerned that the fool did not take out any innocent bystanders in their demise.
Death by obesity however is a slow-moving train wreck. Do we have the fortitude to look away?
What if the father (enabler) has Munchhausen's by proxy?
Now that you mention it I think a goodly part of the horror too is that this particular type of overindulgence can be plainly seen.
You can't tell if I'm a bad driver by looking at me. You probably couldn't tell if I was an alcoholic, or a drug addict either (assuming I wasn't too far gone).
Mental illness can be very discrete, but throw an ED on there and you are suddenly displaying your problem for all too see.
I am a pretty awful driver, well not driving, parking. I suck at parking HARD, but you can't tell looking at me. You can tell that I eat too much though, it's right out there.
Excellent point. My failure (to lose weight) was apparent for all to see. I consoled myself at the time for holding on to those qualities that could not be taken from me, like integrity, kindness.
Ha! I compensated by being an *kitten* sad to say! Gave people a better reason to ignore me than the fat!
Probably should work on that particular character flaw!
I'm all for successful strategies. My sister-in-law uses the same strategy you do (to hide her disability). She enters a room mouth first. You don't have time to notice what she can't do. I like her.
http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20150813-the-secrets-of-extraordinary-survivors
I just have to learn to use my mouth for good, not evil.
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vivmom2014 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »NAMI has been a big support to my mother over the years.
NAMI is awesome, and has been a support to my extended family as well.
As far as the offensive comment linking mental illness to rape, I wonder why mental illness does not have a spectrum (like autism.) My sister facilitates NAMI peer-to-peer classes and she said the range of mental illnesses is fairly vast. It would seem beneficial to have a spectrum, so that any grievous "lumping together" of people with brain disorders would be minimized.
I wasn't lumping them together, though. I haven't even agreed to automatically assume that the 800 lb man, or anyone, really, has a mental illness. I wanted to know if there's no threshold for unconditional compassion and respect when someone is behaving or has behaved poorly. At what point to we hold people responsible and accountable for their actions at face value. Is there a limit to this, regardless of one's behavior? I've got some pretty cool answers to that
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vivmom2014 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »NAMI has been a big support to my mother over the years.
NAMI is awesome, and has been a support to my extended family as well.
As far as the offensive comment linking mental illness to rape, I wonder why mental illness does not have a spectrum (like autism.) My sister facilitates NAMI peer-to-peer classes and she said the range of mental illnesses is fairly vast. It would seem beneficial to have a spectrum, so that any grievous "lumping together" of people with brain disorders would be minimized.
I wasn't lumping them together, though. I haven't even agreed to automatically assume that the 800 lb man, or anyone, really, has a mental illness. I wanted to know if there's no threshold for unconditional compassion and respect when someone is behaving or has behaved poorly. At what point to we hold people responsible and accountable for their actions at face value. Is there a limit to this, regardless of one's behavior? I've got some pretty cool answers to that
On the flip-side, is there no threshold for what is acceptable to do to someone that has done something wrong? If there is a threshold above which we, as a society, should not do to someone regardless of the crime, than your answer is yes, there is threshhold for a minimum compassion and respect we give any human being for the sake of being a human being, regardless of past deeds.0 -
That's one of the reasons why people are moving away from saying "mental health" and "mentally ill" and are supposed to speak about degrees of wellness. Criminals used to be separated as "criminally insane" but insane hasn't been used for a long time.vivmom2014 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »NAMI has been a big support to my mother over the years.
NAMI is awesome, and has been a support to my extended family as well.
As far as the offensive comment linking mental illness to rape, I wonder why mental illness does not have a spectrum (like autism.) My sister facilitates NAMI peer-to-peer classes and she said the range of mental illnesses is fairly vast. It would seem beneficial to have a spectrum, so that any grievous "lumping together" of people with brain disorders would be minimized.
Most people with mental illness are not criminals, just as most people without it aren't. Many who commit a crime have done it accidentally and it's rarely one that hurts anyone.
Some people who are locked up are just people who have been or expect to soon be indicted for this or that crime and are trying to set up an insanity defense. There is no mental illness.
Nobody is lumping all people together. Even if someone tried to do that, they couldn't...but I don't think anyone even tried.
I don't believe that JaneiR had any malice in her heart.
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vivmom2014 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »NAMI has been a big support to my mother over the years.
NAMI is awesome, and has been a support to my extended family as well.
As far as the offensive comment linking mental illness to rape, I wonder why mental illness does not have a spectrum (like autism.) My sister facilitates NAMI peer-to-peer classes and she said the range of mental illnesses is fairly vast. It would seem beneficial to have a spectrum, so that any grievous "lumping together" of people with brain disorders would be minimized.
I wasn't lumping them together, though. I haven't even agreed to automatically assume that the 800 lb man, or anyone, really, has a mental illness. I wanted to know if there's no threshold for unconditional compassion and respect when someone is behaving or has behaved poorly. At what point to we hold people responsible and accountable for their actions at face value. Is there a limit to this, regardless of one's behavior? I've got some pretty cool answers to that
You can hold someone accountable for his actions and still treat him like a human being with compassion and dignity. The two aren't mutually exclusive.0 -
washingtonexaminer.com/report-u.s-most-obese-in-the-world-fattest-kids-by-a-mile-tops-for-poor-teen-health/article/2573993
It seems the USA has more 'super sized' people than all other nations.
While 800 pounds is extreme clearly we are going to have to address obesity some way some how like NOW. I started with me.0 -
That's one of the reasons why people are moving away from saying "mental health" and "mentally ill" and are supposed to speak about degrees of wellness. Criminals used to be separated as "criminally insane" but insane hasn't been used for a long time.vivmom2014 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »NAMI has been a big support to my mother over the years.
NAMI is awesome, and has been a support to my extended family as well.
As far as the offensive comment linking mental illness to rape, I wonder why mental illness does not have a spectrum (like autism.) My sister facilitates NAMI peer-to-peer classes and she said the range of mental illnesses is fairly vast. It would seem beneficial to have a spectrum, so that any grievous "lumping together" of people with brain disorders would be minimized.
Most people with mental illness are not criminals, just as most people without it aren't. Many who commit a crime have done it accidentally and it's rarely one that hurts anyone.
Some people who are locked up are just people who have been or expect to soon be indicted for this or that crime and are trying to set up an insanity defense. There is no mental illness.
Nobody is lumping all people together. Even if someone tried to do that, they couldn't...but I don't think anyone even tried.
I don't believe that JaneiR had any malice in her heart.
In fact, people with mental illnesses overall are less likely than the general population to commit crimes or harm someone. For many mental illnesses, the only increase in chances of harming someone is self-harm.0 -
apnews.myway.com/article/20151013/ri--800-pound_man-hospital-9c7611c7e2.html
Sounds like he needs to order all pizza with anchovies.
He may be a media hound.0 -
vivmom2014 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »NAMI has been a big support to my mother over the years.
NAMI is awesome, and has been a support to my extended family as well.
As far as the offensive comment linking mental illness to rape, I wonder why mental illness does not have a spectrum (like autism.) My sister facilitates NAMI peer-to-peer classes and she said the range of mental illnesses is fairly vast. It would seem beneficial to have a spectrum, so that any grievous "lumping together" of people with brain disorders would be minimized.
I wasn't lumping them together, though. I haven't even agreed to automatically assume that the 800 lb man, or anyone, really, has a mental illness. I wanted to know if there's no threshold for unconditional compassion and respect when someone is behaving or has behaved poorly. At what point to we hold people responsible and accountable for their actions at face value. Is there a limit to this, regardless of one's behavior? I've got some pretty cool answers to that
I guess I would say that compassion and respect are two different things. Mental illness can present with a host of infuriating components - extreme stubbornness, distrust of change, rampant self-centeredness, refusal to cooperate, lack of awareness of being sick. And yet, it is often unbridled terror driving all of these formidable emotions/behaviors.
I think that the young man who is 800 lbs. is awash in fear, despite his bluster and odious personality. He needs a lot of help and, yes, compassion. I admire anyone working the front lines of mental illness (or living with a sick loved one) because it requires nearly super-human patience.
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