Setting goals
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superhockeymom wrote: »Ok so u are correct it is supposed to be only 1
I think you could legitimately combine two by making your one goal "Net 1200 (does not include wine.)"0 -
Smart, experienced, sensible, caring people are telling you to shoot for 1-2 goals right now. Please please listen.0
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How about reframing your list so that the most important goal (let's say Net 1200), is this week's goal, and all the others are on the list for future weeks. If you happen to manage to meet all goals, well great, but it's only the top one that you are going to judge yourself by. Next week, it becomes the top two goals. And so on.0
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Cutting out alcohol will improve sleep. But give time to adjust.0
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kshama2001 wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »Ok so u are correct it is supposed to be only 1
I think you could legitimately combine two by making your one goal "Net 1200 (does not include wine.)"
This just this0 -
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goldthistime wrote: »How about reframing your list so that the most important goal (let's say Net 1200), is this week's goal, and all the others are on the list for future weeks. If you happen to manage to meet all goals, well great, but it's only the top one that you are going to judge yourself by. Next week, it becomes the top two goals. And so on.
Works for makes much more sense. I just came up with a list while I walked spreading them out really will be better.0 -
If your target is to net 1200 (should be much more) and you are walking 15000 steps you are going to have to eat around 1800- 2000 calories
Just focus on that
For one week
Just that
Skip the steps of it happens it happens
For this week. Net 1200 limit the wine I have an open bottle in the fridge so when it's gone it's gone0 -
Net 1200 not counting wine calories.0
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kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.0 -
blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.0 -
You don't consume enough to exercise!0
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MondayJune22nd2015 wrote: »You don't consume enough to exercise!
I am currently over. My goal is not to gain weight. I still need to slim down to get to a healthy BMI and then some.0 -
Increase water consumption is not a goal; it's a wish. Drink 1, 2, 3, 4.... 7, 8 glasses of water is a goal.0
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Ok for s goal 8 glasses of water per day. That is 7 more than I drink now.0
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You just need a total other mind set and should work on that.
Not i try....but i will....
And that is for one babystep only for some weeks
I WILL EAT AT LEAST 1500 CALORIES TODAY! OR TODAY I EAT 1500 CALORIES!
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superhockeymom wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.
That wasn't tough. That meant that you can eat the 1200 and still have one glass of wine.
You already have a deficit built in, you will not gain because you go a little bit over 1200, you will gain if you eat above maintenance. Have you figured out what your maintenance calories are? Based on my personal experience, I would guess around 1800? Eat a healthy supper.
PS, I drink very little water, on average less than a cup per day, and it never stopped my weight loss. I do drink milk though, usually 1.5-2 cups per day.
450 of your calories are from beverages. You need to give your body the nutrients it needs.0 -
Can your first goal be to net 1400 calories per day minimum pleaseGetting calories under control (or raised, if you've been undereating) is always the first step, IMO. Work on that for a few weeks. You could add water, but I'd limit it to those two things.
If you're undereating, take that as seriously as other people take their overeating. Both the raising and lowering are hard to do. 1200 is a nice goal, but you should think about going higher, if you can.Liftng4Lis wrote: »How bout just eating more food everyday. Start there.And yes: step more = eat more. Because, math!I'm proud of you for making attainable goals. I agree with the 1200 net/15000 steps being at the top.
At the end of the day, you'll have to eat probably at least 1600 calories, so keep that in mind, ok? No breakfast and 300 calories at lunch will leave you 1300 for dinner, which might be overwhelming. (Or, some people enjoy that 1300 dinner.)
I myself shoot for 600-800 calories BEFORE dinner. So if I haven't been active, it means a 500-ish calorie dinner. But if I HAVE been active, dinner would be 1000 or so calories.
Good luck, P
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kshama2001 wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »Ok so u are correct it is supposed to be only 1
I think you could legitimately combine two by making your one goal "Net 1200 (does not include wine.)"goldthistime wrote: »How about reframing your list so that the most important goal (let's say Net 1200), is this week's goal, and all the others are on the list for future weeks. If you happen to manage to meet all goals, well great, but it's only the top one that you are going to judge yourself by. Next week, it becomes the top two goals. And so on.kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.MondayJune22nd2015 wrote: »You don't consume enough to exercise!BurnWithBarn2015 wrote: »You just need a total other mind set and should work on that.
Not i try....but i will....
And that is for one babystep only for some weeks
I WILL EAT AT LEAST 1500 CALORIES TODAY! OR TODAY I EAT 1500 CALORIES!
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It is rare that there is a consensus of opinion on MFP
EAT MORE
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blankiefinder wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.
That wasn't tough. That meant that you can eat the 1200 and still have one glass of wine.
You already have a deficit built in, you will not gain because you go a little bit over 1200, you will gain if you eat above maintenance. Have you figured out what your maintenance calories are? Based on my personal experience, I would guess around 1800? Eat a healthy supper.
PS, I drink very little water, on average less than a cup per day, and it never stopped my weight loss. I do drink milk though, usually 1.5-2 cups per day.
450 of your calories are from beverages. You need to give your body the nutrients it needs.
Patti, yes, I'm certain you will still be in a deficit if you net 1200 calories plus calories from four ounces of so of wine. What are your maintenance calories?0 -
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Yes eat more I get it but and this one is for me no more wine. So in the end they are both for me eating to fuel my body with good food no wine because it is just a waste helps me not eat is not something to live on ( since I actually eat so little). So I hear you yes eat but do you hear me! So I reiterateIt is rare that there is a consensus of opinion on MFP
EAT MORE
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Net 1200
No Wine.
Just think how much more actual food I will be eating! Win win.
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kshama2001 wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.
That wasn't tough. That meant that you can eat the 1200 and still have one glass of wine.
You already have a deficit built in, you will not gain because you go a little bit over 1200, you will gain if you eat above maintenance. Have you figured out what your maintenance calories are? Based on my personal experience, I would guess around 1800? Eat a healthy supper.
PS, I drink very little water, on average less than a cup per day, and it never stopped my weight loss. I do drink milk though, usually 1.5-2 cups per day.
450 of your calories are from beverages. You need to give your body the nutrients it needs.
Patti, yes, I'm certain you will still be in a deficit if you net 1200 calories plus calories from four ounces of so of wine. What are your maintenance calories?
Really I know that. Cutting out the wine is more for me. I just think in the end the wine enables me to eat less. I'm not saying forever maybe just a Sunday-Thursday thing but for now I need to see how much that is making a difference. And I actually figure I will be eating more healthy food, getting better sleep which in turn will give me more energy so I will actually feel like working out more that will make me hungry and I will be burning more calories and I will eat even more. The thing that I think is hard for people is I really love food. I guess it's something I don't really understand yet either I just can't wrap my head around it why I deny myself. I guess if I really knew why I wouldn't. Such a strange thing. I would love to just wake up everyday and not be me,0 -
I would recommend re-framing this thought.superhockeymom wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.
That wasn't tough. That meant that you can eat the 1200 and still have one glass of wine.
You already have a deficit built in, you will not gain because you go a little bit over 1200, you will gain if you eat above maintenance. Have you figured out what your maintenance calories are? Based on my personal experience, I would guess around 1800? Eat a healthy supper.
PS, I drink very little water, on average less than a cup per day, and it never stopped my weight loss. I do drink milk though, usually 1.5-2 cups per day.
450 of your calories are from beverages. You need to give your body the nutrients it needs.
Patti, yes, I'm certain you will still be in a deficit if you net 1200 calories plus calories from four ounces of so of wine. What are your maintenance calories?
Really I know that. Cutting out the wine is more for me. I just think in the end the wine enables me to eat less. I'm not saying forever maybe just a Sunday-Thursday thing but for now I need to see how much that is making a difference. And I actually figure I will be eating more healthy food, getting better sleep which in turn will give me more energy so I will actually feel like working out more that will make me hungry and I will be burning more calories and I will eat even more. The thing that I think is hard for people is I really love food. I guess it's something I don't really understand yet either I just can't wrap my head around it why I deny myself. I guess if I really knew why I wouldn't. Such a strange thing. I would love to just wake up everyday and not be me,
If you aren't happy with things about yourself, that's fine and normal. But stop wishing to not be yourself. You CAN do this and be yourself, but maybe just you+. When you're ready, write down the kind of person you want to be. The kind of person who exercises every day. The kind of person who chooses to recycle. The kind of person who is always kind to waiters. Whatever. After you have that list, write down the things you do every day. Brush your teeth, take out the trash, watch CSI. Does list B match list A? If not, then you already have a list started of things you can do different. It's not just about food. It's all the aspects of your life where you get to choose your actions every moment of the day and choose to move towards the person you want to be, if you don't wake up every day as the person you DO want to be.
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I would recommend re-framing this thought.superhockeymom wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.
That wasn't tough. That meant that you can eat the 1200 and still have one glass of wine.
You already have a deficit built in, you will not gain because you go a little bit over 1200, you will gain if you eat above maintenance. Have you figured out what your maintenance calories are? Based on my personal experience, I would guess around 1800? Eat a healthy supper.
PS, I drink very little water, on average less than a cup per day, and it never stopped my weight loss. I do drink milk though, usually 1.5-2 cups per day.
450 of your calories are from beverages. You need to give your body the nutrients it needs.
Patti, yes, I'm certain you will still be in a deficit if you net 1200 calories plus calories from four ounces of so of wine. What are your maintenance calories?
Really I know that. Cutting out the wine is more for me. I just think in the end the wine enables me to eat less. I'm not saying forever maybe just a Sunday-Thursday thing but for now I need to see how much that is making a difference. And I actually figure I will be eating more healthy food, getting better sleep which in turn will give me more energy so I will actually feel like working out more that will make me hungry and I will be burning more calories and I will eat even more. The thing that I think is hard for people is I really love food. I guess it's something I don't really understand yet either I just can't wrap my head around it why I deny myself. I guess if I really knew why I wouldn't. Such a strange thing. I would love to just wake up everyday and not be me,
If you aren't happy with things about yourself, that's fine and normal. But stop wishing to not be yourself. You CAN do this and be yourself, but maybe just you+. When you're ready, write down the kind of person you want to be. The kind of person who exercises every day. The kind of person who chooses to recycle. The kind of person who is always kind to waiters. Whatever. After you have that list, write down the things you do every day. Brush your teeth, take out the trash, watch CSI. Does list B match list A? If not, then you already have a list started of things you can do different. It's not just about food. It's all the aspects of your life where you get to choose your actions every moment of the day and choose to move towards the person you want to be, if you don't wake up every day as the person you DO want to be.
True and well said I'm just very frustrated with myself right now. I know what I need to do, what I have to do but there is still something holding me back. I'm not sure what. Then I was thinking that maybe I am clouding things. So drop the stupid glass or 2 of wine have a root beer maybe just maybe it will all click. And yes this was discussed with a professional that was all for it I think mostly because it was my decision and probably the only good one I've made in a few weeks.
So that's where I am and I feel pretty good about it. So when I say I want to wake up and not be me it pretty much means I hate that I even have to think of these stupid things.
A year ago I was a very happy all be it overeating person. But at 208 I was concerned for my health. As was my Dr. Pre Diabetic high blood pressure asthma out of control
Click funny how it happens so fast.
So although hsppy with the weight loss all the other things are gone it's not really any better. So my frustration. Sorry to unload I figured it was high time to be honest.
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superhockeymom wrote: »
I would recommend re-framing this thought.superhockeymom wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.
That wasn't tough. That meant that you can eat the 1200 and still have one glass of wine.
You already have a deficit built in, you will not gain because you go a little bit over 1200, you will gain if you eat above maintenance. Have you figured out what your maintenance calories are? Based on my personal experience, I would guess around 1800? Eat a healthy supper.
PS, I drink very little water, on average less than a cup per day, and it never stopped my weight loss. I do drink milk though, usually 1.5-2 cups per day.
450 of your calories are from beverages. You need to give your body the nutrients it needs.
Patti, yes, I'm certain you will still be in a deficit if you net 1200 calories plus calories from four ounces of so of wine. What are your maintenance calories?
Really I know that. Cutting out the wine is more for me. I just think in the end the wine enables me to eat less. I'm not saying forever maybe just a Sunday-Thursday thing but for now I need to see how much that is making a difference. And I actually figure I will be eating more healthy food, getting better sleep which in turn will give me more energy so I will actually feel like working out more that will make me hungry and I will be burning more calories and I will eat even more. The thing that I think is hard for people is I really love food. I guess it's something I don't really understand yet either I just can't wrap my head around it why I deny myself. I guess if I really knew why I wouldn't. Such a strange thing. I would love to just wake up everyday and not be me,
If you aren't happy with things about yourself, that's fine and normal. But stop wishing to not be yourself. You CAN do this and be yourself, but maybe just you+. When you're ready, write down the kind of person you want to be. The kind of person who exercises every day. The kind of person who chooses to recycle. The kind of person who is always kind to waiters. Whatever. After you have that list, write down the things you do every day. Brush your teeth, take out the trash, watch CSI. Does list B match list A? If not, then you already have a list started of things you can do different. It's not just about food. It's all the aspects of your life where you get to choose your actions every moment of the day and choose to move towards the person you want to be, if you don't wake up every day as the person you DO want to be.
True and well said I'm just very frustrated with myself right now. I know what I need to do, what I have to do but there is still something holding me back. I'm not sure what. Then I was thinking that maybe I am clouding things. So drop the stupid glass or 2 of wine have a root beer maybe just maybe it will all click. And yes this was discussed with a professional that was all for it I think mostly because it was my decision and probably the only good one I've made in a few weeks.
So that's where I am and I feel pretty good about it. So when I say I want to wake up and not be me it pretty much means I hate that I even have to think of these stupid things.
A year ago I was a very happy all be it overeating person. But at 208 I was concerned for my health. As was my Dr. Pre Diabetic high blood pressure asthma out of control
Click funny how it happens so fast.
So although hsppy with the weight loss all the other things are gone it's not really any better. So my frustration. Sorry to unload I figured it was high time to be honest.
But what caused you to go from overeating, to severe under eating; instead of just eating at a reasonable deficit?0 -
You say that if you knew you why you deny yourself then you wouldn't, but (I mean this nicely) that may not necessarily be true. Im not out to derail the thread, so I'm adding my thought and leaving it alone, but this is why people have recommended therapy. Simply so you can get to the root of the "why", and learn ways to fix it without it impacting your health.0
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I wish I knew but I went right back to being 16. Maybe it was the shock of how out of control things had become. Because it really is all about comtrol. It's really hard to explain its like playing a game with yourself. I know I should eat but I win if I have enough control not to.MondayJune22nd2015 wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »
I would recommend re-framing this thought.superhockeymom wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »superhockeymom wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Net 1200 not counting wine calories.
This is exactly what I was going to post.
You guys are tough Well for today I am already over at 3:15. Guess I better start walking or I am going to be very hungry tonight. The new goals are not really to begin until tomorrow but I still would like to try for today.
That wasn't tough. That meant that you can eat the 1200 and still have one glass of wine.
You already have a deficit built in, you will not gain because you go a little bit over 1200, you will gain if you eat above maintenance. Have you figured out what your maintenance calories are? Based on my personal experience, I would guess around 1800? Eat a healthy supper.
PS, I drink very little water, on average less than a cup per day, and it never stopped my weight loss. I do drink milk though, usually 1.5-2 cups per day.
450 of your calories are from beverages. You need to give your body the nutrients it needs.
Patti, yes, I'm certain you will still be in a deficit if you net 1200 calories plus calories from four ounces of so of wine. What are your maintenance calories?
Really I know that. Cutting out the wine is more for me. I just think in the end the wine enables me to eat less. I'm not saying forever maybe just a Sunday-Thursday thing but for now I need to see how much that is making a difference. And I actually figure I will be eating more healthy food, getting better sleep which in turn will give me more energy so I will actually feel like working out more that will make me hungry and I will be burning more calories and I will eat even more. The thing that I think is hard for people is I really love food. I guess it's something I don't really understand yet either I just can't wrap my head around it why I deny myself. I guess if I really knew why I wouldn't. Such a strange thing. I would love to just wake up everyday and not be me,
If you aren't happy with things about yourself, that's fine and normal. But stop wishing to not be yourself. You CAN do this and be yourself, but maybe just you+. When you're ready, write down the kind of person you want to be. The kind of person who exercises every day. The kind of person who chooses to recycle. The kind of person who is always kind to waiters. Whatever. After you have that list, write down the things you do every day. Brush your teeth, take out the trash, watch CSI. Does list B match list A? If not, then you already have a list started of things you can do different. It's not just about food. It's all the aspects of your life where you get to choose your actions every moment of the day and choose to move towards the person you want to be, if you don't wake up every day as the person you DO want to be.
True and well said I'm just very frustrated with myself right now. I know what I need to do, what I have to do but there is still something holding me back. I'm not sure what. Then I was thinking that maybe I am clouding things. So drop the stupid glass or 2 of wine have a root beer maybe just maybe it will all click. And yes this was discussed with a professional that was all for it I think mostly because it was my decision and probably the only good one I've made in a few weeks.
So that's where I am and I feel pretty good about it. So when I say I want to wake up and not be me it pretty much means I hate that I even have to think of these stupid things.
A year ago I was a very happy all be it overeating person. But at 208 I was concerned for my health. As was my Dr. Pre Diabetic high blood pressure asthma out of control
Click funny how it happens so fast.
So although hsppy with the weight loss all the other things are gone it's not really any better. So my frustration. Sorry to unload I figured it was high time to be honest.
But what caused you to go from overeating, to severe under eating; instead of just eating at a reasonable deficit?
Why this happens I do not know. But sometimes I guess you never do know.
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You say that if you knew you why you deny yourself then you wouldn't, but (I mean this nicely) that may not necessarily be true. Im not out to derail the thread, so I'm adding my thought and leaving it alone, but this is why people have recommended therapy. Simply so you can get to the root of the "why", and learn ways to fix it without it impacting your health.
I am in therapy. We are still working on it but that does not solve the problem. I do know it is because i feel that I have lost control. I am a control freak as my family lovingly calls me. I also am always right. so now you get my personality. I was a very shy kid yet had a great group of friends at all times. I was a super competitive tom boy I never lost EVER .
I was a bully contradicts the shy thing but???
I was a very competitive athlete in both both swimming and track
All of these are not bad things well except the bully thing and we turned into best friends.
I really think it is losing control so I need to get that back in my life so I can then just be regular.
I sound stupid. Do you have any idea how much stupid things are said in therapy session. It's crazy funny when I think back. Sometimes things come up latter and it's like a lightbulb and then I realize the total manipulation to get me there but it works.
Sorry so long.
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