Rude Dude Rant

This is to the douche who thought it was okay to scowl at me while I did my 6 mile walk around the lake:

I realize that you are very disciplined and in control, given your extraordinarily large muscles and fabulous physique. However, your orange oompa loompa tan does nothing for you.

I'm so sorry you had to go out walking that day, I'm so sorry you had to get very disappointed that not every chick with a nice face has a perfect body.

And when you scowl at me in disgust because I am a fat *kitten*, remember that I am working hard to change. I was not put on the earth to please you, therefore the fact that you may have had to go home and rinse your eyes out with battery acid after seeing me in my chunky glory, has no bearing whatsoever to my life.
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  • brit__2006
    brit__2006 Posts: 201 Member
    I absolutely love this.

    I live in a pretty small town, so on my walk I have a stretch of highway to walk. When people holler or honk (im assuming because they think they're funny) I just wave and smile. (Secretly thinking, well they thought I was pretty hot too)
  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
    You, my dear, are a beautiful lady...Don't let jerks like him have that much power over your emotional state. (hugs)

    "The difference between a good day and a bad day it YOUR attitude"

    (Oh yeah...helluva walk too)
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    someone allowed themselves to get really offended here...
  • nobadkitty
    nobadkitty Posts: 95
    I always go out of my way to smile at mean people, because they need it the most. So brit, thanks, I am with u 100% on smiling and waving too. :) (Of course they were probably honking cause you're hot!)

    Thank you harvo for the compliment and the hug! Very good advice - normally I wouldn't have cared but I was really huffing and puffing on the last leg of my walk, and it was the last thing I needed haha!! So had to get it out - I needed the catharsis. :) And you are so right about attitude, it's everything!
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    How do you know that he was scowling at you because of your size? It could have been any number of things. Maybe you reminded him of his abusive, alcoholic mother??
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Wow.

    This...


    this is real?
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    How do you know that he was scowling at you because of your size? It could have been any number of things. Maybe you reminded him of his abusive, alcoholic mother??

    LOL maybe he was trying to keep from letting one rip in front of you
  • KatLifter
    KatLifter Posts: 1,314 Member
    How do you know that he was scowling at you because of your size? It could have been any number of things. Maybe you reminded him of his abusive, alcoholic mother??

    How do you know he wasn't squinting into the sun, or thinking about a problem at work/his personal relationships/etc. There is about a 98% chance he wasn't even thinking anything about you, but you felt the need to post a topic insulting him?
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    So when did you realize you had the ability to read minds? I mean, you have to be able to this or it means this is just you using this guy to reflect your insecurities....
  • brit__2006
    brit__2006 Posts: 201 Member
    Nobadkitty: LOL THANKS
  • scruffykaz
    scruffykaz Posts: 317 Member
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  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    How do you know that he was scowling at you because of your size? It could have been any number of things. Maybe you reminded him of his abusive, alcoholic mother??

    LOL maybe he was trying to keep from letting one rip in front of you

    Or he's really constipated and was wincing...
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    someone allowed themselves to get really offended here...

    I think this has more to do with the OP's self esteem and less about said buff dude....
  • JessieMaeH82
    JessieMaeH82 Posts: 79 Member
    How do you know that he was scowling at you because of your size? It could have been any number of things. Maybe you reminded him of his abusive, alcoholic mother??

    How do you know he wasn't squinting into the sun, or thinking about a problem at work/his personal relationships/etc. There is about a 98% chance he wasn't even thinking anything about you, but you felt the need to post a topic insulting him?


    I agree with these 2! Don't compare your insides to other peoples outsides. You don't know what he was thinking about.
  • kellykw
    kellykw Posts: 184 Member
    Maybe he was checking you out and trying to look fierce.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    maybe he thought of something he forgot to do/didn't want to have to do, like wash off his orange tan??
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member

    therefore the fact that you may have had to go home and rinse your eyes out with battery acid after seeing me in my chunky glory, has no bearing whatsoever to my life.

    did he actually SAY he had to go home to wash his eyes out with battery acid?!? I mean, if he did, good googa mooga. If not, then you have a very active imagination.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Personally I find it more rude somebody is so self involved they think some random dude is scowling about you.

    Get over yourself and realize don't care all that much. You'll enjoy life MUCH MORE that way.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    I hope you feel better, but I seriously doubt he gave as much thought to you as you think he did.
  • Raynne413
    Raynne413 Posts: 1,527 Member
    Don't always assume everything is about you. . . I'm quite sure he wasn't scowling because he had to see you while you were walking. Instead, be sympathetic that the could have something bad going on in his professional or personal life and feel sympathy towards him.
  • salladeve
    salladeve Posts: 1,053 Member
    I agree that there may be any number of things he could have been thinking about and they had nothing to do with you. I have to wonder why you would immediately think he was scowling at you. Did you speak to him and he said something rude back? Did you smile at him and he didn't smile back? Did YOU say hi, and didn't get a response?

    I find that there are all sorts of people where I usually walk, I always smile and nod or say hello, sometimes they answer, sometimes they don't. Some smile, some seem to be frowning or scowling as you stated. I have never taken it personally, I don't know them at all, why in the world would they be frowning or scowling at me?

    Don't take it all so personally......
  • MSeel1984
    MSeel1984 Posts: 2,297 Member
    You know, sometimes I just look pissed.

    I had a fight with my husband, my puppy pooped in her crate for the MILLIONTH time and I had to scrub it out, my other dog ate the baked goods I just made, I am having a bad day at work, some jerk cut me off on my way to go hiking...My husband ate the remainder of the marshmallow fluff...

    On the one hand, I do know some people are jerks and don't treat people based on the fact that they're a good decent human being, but on the fact that they are certain size...on the other, there's a good chance he had a bad day....maybe you remind him of an ex or a person he really can't stand?

    Dunno...I've been the person to fly off the handle at someone when they weren't really trying to piss me off...*shrug* It could have been something else.
  • nobadkitty
    nobadkitty Posts: 95
    I KNOW a mad-dog stare, directly in my eyes, that was real, like he wanted me off the planet. I don't read minds, but BODY LANGUAGE tells the truth. I wouldn't have taken it any way if I wasn't absolutely CERTAIN. The upturned lip and everything. No he wasn't trying to look like Billy Idol, it was a genuine look of disgust. I know the look, I didn't mistake it.
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    This is to the douche who thought it was okay to scowl at me while I did my 6 mile walk around the lake:

    I realize that you are very disciplined and in control, given your extraordinarily large muscles and fabulous physique. However, your orange oompa loompa tan does nothing for you.

    I'm so sorry you had to go out walking that day, I'm so sorry you had to get very disappointed that not every chick with a nice face has a perfect body.

    And when you scowl at me in disgust because I am a fat *kitten*, remember that I am working hard to change. I was not put on the earth to please you, therefore the fact that you may have had to go home and rinse your eyes out with battery acid after seeing me in my chunky glory, has no bearing whatsoever to my life.

    oompa loompa shaming?

    really??

    have we stooped THAT low now?

    smh.gif
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Are you sure he was really scowling at you? I've never actually seen this happen in real life, who has the energy and why would he care?

    I hear this kind of stuff all of the time with people who are insecure going to the gym or whatever..."oh, everyone is staring at me and laughing." No they're not...it's just your warped perception (I don't mean that in a bad way..I mean warped as in not real). Really, people are just pre-occupied with what they're doing and not really paying any attention to you whatsoever. I know...I used to be one of those self conscious people who thought everyone in the world was laughing at me...turns out they hardly knew I existed.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Some people just do not wave and smile. Many of them scowl. I think you took this a bit too personally.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I KNOW a mad-dog stare, directly in my eyes, that was real, like he wanted me off the planet. I don't read minds, but BODY LANGUAGE tells the truth. I wouldn't have taken it any way if I wasn't absolutely CERTAIN. The upturned lip and everything. No he wasn't trying to look like Billy Idol, it was a genuine look of disgust. I know the look, I didn't mistake it.

    You should work for the FBI as an interviewer then. they need people that just "know" these things. Best of luck on your fitness goals. Hope you are able to work pass these insecurities and narcissism. :flowerforyou:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    This is to the douche who thought it was okay to scowl at me while I did my 6 mile walk around the lake:

    I realize that you are very disciplined and in control, given your extraordinarily large muscles and fabulous physique. However, your orange oompa loompa tan does nothing for you.

    I'm so sorry you had to go out walking that day, I'm so sorry you had to get very disappointed that not every chick with a nice face has a perfect body.

    And when you scowl at me in disgust because I am a fat *kitten*, remember that I am working hard to change. I was not put on the earth to please you, therefore the fact that you may have had to go home and rinse your eyes out with battery acid after seeing me in my chunky glory, has no bearing whatsoever to my life.

    oompa loompa shaming?

    really??

    have we stooped THAT low now?

    smh.gif

    :laugh:
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    someone allowed themselves to get really offended here...

    Because it IS offensive. She has every right to be a touch p!ssed
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    My best smile looks like a scowl.

    You really gotta go out of your way to be offended by a passing look.