Rude Dude Rant
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I see these posts all the time here .. waah waah waah, someone was judging me .. I know what they were thinking etc etc ...
Here's what you need to understand.. all those bad things you "knew" he was thinking .. They're all actually things you think about yourself. You just assign them to random people so you don't have to own them.
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This is to the douche who thought it was okay to scowl at me while I did my 6 mile walk around the lake:
I realize that you are very disciplined and in control, given your extraordinarily large muscles and fabulous physique. However, your orange oompa loompa tan does nothing for you.
I'm so sorry you had to go out walking that day, I'm so sorry you had to get very disappointed that not every chick with a nice face has a perfect body.
And when you scowl at me in disgust because I am a fat *kitten*, remember that I am working hard to change. I was not put on the earth to please you, therefore the fact that you may have had to go home and rinse your eyes out with battery acid after seeing me in my chunky glory, has no bearing whatsoever to my life.
You're right. I'm sorry. I can be an insensitive *kitten* that way sometimes. I can't help it. Forgive me?0 -
I do not get this thread. How do you know it was your physical appearance? Maybe the guy hates everyone equally?
Either way...great job walking around the lake. If I felt someone was being rude or glaring I would say something. I used to handle this very thing when I grew up in a bad neighborhood in Los Angeles and people get shot daily. Other guys would look at me all hard and I would counter that with something like " Hey Richard how are you doing" knowing this guy was not someone I knew or Richard. Then the guy would look like what in the world? or hey do I know this guy. That would diffuse the situation.0 -
Personally I find it more rude somebody is so self involved they think some random dude is scowling about you.
Get over yourself and realize don't care all that much. You'll enjoy life MUCH MORE that way.
THIS. I never understand why so many people think everyone else's world revolves around them, and especially a complete stranger? Who knows why he was frowning, and who cares?0 -
One day I was walking down the hall at work (evidently with a sour expression on my face) and a coworker said "Smile! It's not that bad!" I replied that I had just received a phone call telling me that my grandfather had passed away, and I was on my way home. Needless to say, she proceeded to apologize profusely.
Another time I lost my temper with my kids at the grocery store and yelled at them, and a bystander proceeded to lecture me on proper child-rearing (the phrase "lay off the caffeine, lady" sticks in my head for some reason.) I had just come from the doctor's office where I found out that I was having a miscarriage as we spoke (went for a routine appointment, had no idea there was a problem at all). It was all I could do not to fall apart completely, much less navigate the store with two kids.
OP, you may well be correct that he was a judgemental SOB and not ashamed of it. In that case, rant away. However, keep in mind that you have no idea what is going on in his life and so to respond with a smile and a wave was probably the best response. Otherwise you might end up eating crow for breakfast.0 -
I KNOW a mad-dog stare, directly in my eyes, that was real, like he wanted me off the planet. I don't read minds, but BODY LANGUAGE tells the truth. I wouldn't have taken it any way if I wasn't absolutely CERTAIN. The upturned lip and everything. No he wasn't trying to look like Billy Idol, it was a genuine look of disgust. I know the look, I didn't mistake it.
One time I thought this girl kept looking at me, smiling...I didn't know who she was...but she was attractive, was looking right at me, and so I smiled back. This happened a few times, then she waved for me to come over...I was very flattered and I almost got up, but then a girl's voice a bit behind me laughed and she got up and ran over and hugged the other girl...and neither of them even noticed I was there...the girl behind me was leaving some friends/family and the girl looking at me was trying to get her to come over. Boy was I glad I didn't get up...
Some people do actually look disgusted all the time, especially when trying to look tough as well.
I actually have been on the receiving end of baloney like this in school with overweight girls with an attitude thinking I was a buff guy laughing at them (I really didn't even remember seeing them, and I dont remember what I was laughing about), then going out of their way to show me attitude and tell me how I thought I was great because I was buff, blah blah, then start BS about me in school, when I hadn't even registered seeing them. I later found out it was all because they thought I was making fun of them when I hadn't even registered seeing the silly girls, very insecure and low of those girls! Of course then they actually were nasty fatties in my mind, but they weren't before.
Most people would be surprised how little random others who seem to be reacting to them are actually thinking of them as they pass...0 -
Maybe some people are just bad at smiling. I'm going to start making random faces at strangers just to see how they react. If I'm lucky, I'll encounter a MFP local who will dedicate a topic to me.0
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maybe he just has a case of b*tchy resting face.
I get this a lot. People think I am scowling, or pissed off all the time. I'm generally not. It's effective with employees though.0 -
I'm lost in my own little world when I work out and tend to look pissed as well. Walking the track one day some chick stopped me to give me hell for judging her called me an ugly b*tch for judging her ect ect when in reality I never even noticed her the times I passed her. I wonder if she ran to some site to post about how horrible I was.0
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Please do not let your own insecurities make you think you can assume what a persons motivations are.0
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just gotta stop in and say that when people are running and im not lucky enough to be doing the same thing cause im driving & I can see they're working hard i honk and roll down the windows and woo at them. I also highfive strangers that pass me running the oppopsite way. so if you get honked at someone might be trying to encourage you. might just be percieving it a different way.0
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I see where you insulted him and where you insulted yourself, but not where he insulted you. Honestly, how do you know he didn't just lose his job or that his 16 year old Jack Russell didn't just have to be euthanized, and he's angry at himself because he had to be the one to do it?
You ever think maybe the tanning stuff his wife got for him turned him orange and he scowled because he would tell you were judging him about it, and he's very self-conscious? Clearly, you were judging him about it. You did call him a name.0 -
Lets all be friends lol0
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Dear lady, who got mad at me today.
I saw as you were walking, that you looked very angrily in my direction. It confused me for a bit because I couldn't figure out why you were judging me. "I don't know." I thought. "Maybe it's because she has something against really buff, muscular and in-shape guys." I checked myself for offensive stains, but no...all clear. It really offended me for a bit, and then I remembered that at that precise moment, I was scowling in disgust.
"I bet that's what it was!" I thought. I felt terrible for judging you and getting offended at what was surely my own misconception. What you don't know, is that I wasn't scowling in disgust at you. As you were walking, in the yard behind you this was happening:
Please accept my apology for being offended at something I thought that you might have been thinking, and also for not being more mindful of every single person in the area before I make a face with no apparent reason. Clearly, neither of us are mind readers.
Sincerely,
Rude Dude
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maybe he just has a case of b*tchy resting face.
this is a real thing! my babys dads resting face allways looked angry - that was just the way his face was. everyone always thought he was mad0 -
Maybe he forgot his sunglasses and was squinting.0
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You should see me at boxing. My mind is busy focusing my energy on hitting the punching bag, and sometimes I'm fueled by events that have upset me. I'm certain I've given others "scowls" in my class, but it was nothing other than my frame of mind during class. Afterwards, I smile and say hi to them.I KNOW a mad-dog stare, directly in my eyes, that was real, like he wanted me off the planet. I don't read minds, but BODY LANGUAGE tells the truth. I wouldn't have taken it any way if I wasn't absolutely CERTAIN. The upturned lip and everything. No he wasn't trying to look like Billy Idol, it was a genuine look of disgust. I know the look, I didn't mistake it.
Not everything in this world is about you, OP :flowerforyou:0 -
JUST STOP. Seriously it probably had nothing to do with you, and if you keep making assumptions no matter how much weight you lose you are going to have a long bitter and miserable existance.It was this y'all:
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Unless he said something to you, why take offense? Smile and move on.0
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Unless they say something directly to you, you can't be sure what they're thinking. In all of the years of being the fat girl in the gym, sweating all over everything, I've only had one person say anything rude to me (that was Thursday when a scrawny, little, no-nothing called me a fat *****).0
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I KNOW a mad-dog stare, directly in my eyes, that was real, like he wanted me off the planet. I don't read minds, but BODY LANGUAGE tells the truth. I wouldn't have taken it any way if I wasn't absolutely CERTAIN. The upturned lip and everything. No he wasn't trying to look like Billy Idol, it was a genuine look of disgust. I know the look, I didn't mistake it.
fo realz, doe?0 -
This made me really sad to read. The likelihood it was about you is slim, if it was then f&ck him!......I think its best to assume the best about strangers instead of the worst. Here you are pissed and angry and spending WAY to much time thinking about this, and he is just going about his day and likely has thought about you AT ALL, completely u aware he had any impact on you.0
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I KNOW a mad-dog stare, directly in my eyes, that was real, like he wanted me off the planet. I don't read minds, but BODY LANGUAGE tells the truth. I wouldn't have taken it any way if I wasn't absolutely CERTAIN. The upturned lip and everything. No he wasn't trying to look like Billy Idol, it was a genuine look of disgust. I know the look, I didn't mistake it.
I stare at people like this when they're walking in the middle of the "lane", are veering all over the "lane", refuse to move when I'm approaching on a narrow path and indicate they need to move, they're wearing too much perfume, didn't wear deoderant, I'm bloated, I have a side stich, my stride is off, my knee hurts, I can't feel my feet, sweat is in my eye, I'm running out some anxiety/agression, etc.
Just because I wear a size 6 now doesn't mean I didn't used to wear a size 22.
His life doesn't revolve around you, and I'm sure that he's not given you another thought while you're here ranting about some dude who mean-mugged you for whatever reason.0 -
I like how many people had a *****y response to this post... do you realize how hypocritical you are being?? LOL.
OK that being said I understand OP but I also agree with everyone who said he could have had something else on his mind or not realized how he looked (RBF was the first thing I thought of so I'm glad someone already posted it... I need to send that to someone I know).
Sometimes I worry about this happening... but it never has. Not that I noticed anyway. I usually smile and nod at people walking by. Older people tend to be friendlier. It feels so awkward walking up to someone on a trail sometimes like ok... try not to stare until I am closer and can greet them. I'm not too worried if they don't acknowledge me though.0 -
TL/DR - but I have to agree with the posts I did read...it prolly had nothing to do whatsoever with you, your pretty face or *kitten*. But you know there are some dudes out there that are just dcanoes and there just isn't any exercise in the world that takes care of that. I got called "fat *kitten*" but a carload of teenage boys when I weight 105lbs and wore a size 0...so..yeah, whatever...did I take it to heart or flip the bird...nope, because they were obviously stupid and I try not to be mean to the mentally challenged.
Don't let anyone hold you back.
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Ain't no STOPPING us now!!!
I was projecting, I am narcissistic, terrible self esteem, it was a reflection on me, forgive me MFP, for I have sinned and insulted someone AND I am a complete attention-seeking hypocrite! LOVE IT!
The next person who doesn't smile at me when I walk is getting punched.0 -
Some folks just aren't good smilers.
My great-niece is almost two and when you ask her to smile, she just bares her teeth. It's hilarious.0 -
The next person who doesn't smile at me when I walk is getting punched.
This I absolutely agree with.0 -
No offense to the OP because I'm sure we have ALL been overly critical of ourselves and projecting those emotions on other people at some point or another, but this post made me crack up. When I'm working out, especially when I'm doing my C25k, I am lost in my music and am not caring about you in any way.
I can guarantee you when I'm working hard and my face is all red and I'm sweaty and trying to convince myself that I'm not going to die in the next 5 minutes and I'm giving myself the drill sergeant treatment in my head, "you better earn those expensive running shoes and keep moving that jiggle!"
If you specifically make eye contact with me I will give you a smile and nod but I don't want to chat and I'm sure I do not look like the sweet personable girl I usually am. It has nothing to do with you. I probably won't even remember our encounter when I drag myself home.0
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