WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2015

miriamwithcats

Pip, great news.

Sylvia, when the kids' mother had her parental rights terminated, that made her have NO legal rights to the kids when your son passes. She would have less chance of getting custody of them than if she were a stranger. If her rights are terminated, your son can write a will giving you custody of the kids- it is his decision now UNLESS his current wife has adopted the kids. If she went through the process of adopting the kids, then she would have to make the determination. I would suggest sitting down with a family law lawyer and make sure all the bases are covered soon. It would be cheaper to do it now than to get in to a legal quagmire later. I know it is hard to plan for your son's death- I cannot imagine your pain. But you have those precious kids' well-being to secure. Your son should also not allow her to have the kids unsupervised, since if he were to die when she had the kids, she just might take them and run. He does not have to let her have the kids if her parental rights were terminated. She has NO RIGHTS now!

barbiecat

Pip, good news about Kirby coming home soon

Sylvia, you have taken the first step to being the legal person to care for your grandkids.....just keep taking it one thing at a time....I admire you so much.

Rori, good news about your husband's surgery

Carol and Mindy, I prefer staying home except for a few special things like my line dance class with familiar people....my darling husband offered to take me to a concert featuring a group that I adore and it sounded like the worst thing....it took me awhile to get him to understand that going to a concert sounded horrible.

we are having a lot of wind and rain...enough to land branches on our roof and on all the roads.....we've had to wait for breaks in the storm to take the dogs out....the bridge over the Hood Canal was closed for hours because of the high winds...Jake built a fire in the woodstove so we're warm and toasty in the house.

Barbie from beautiful NW Washington

pipcd34

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csofled

phyllis115

Hi everyone
Sylvia- Sending hugs and prayers to you. You are an awesome Grandma.

Pip- Glad to hear that Kirby is coming home!!

Barbie- I love the cartoon with the wind blowing in your post. I haven’t figured out how to do graphics yet.

I stayed up too late last night watching the home team (Cincinnati Bengals-Football) end their 8-0 winning streak. I’m not much of a football fan, but the team has been the talk of the town all year. I don’t engage in much “water cooler” talk at work but I like to at least know what the others are referring to.

Since I’m already exhausted, I forced myself to wash the dinner dishes and pack my lunch for tomorrow so I can sleep for a few extra minutes in the morning. I’m learning that I do better with less late night snacking if my kitchen is clean. I guess I am remembering my Mother saying that “the kitchen is closed” after the dishes were done and the kitchen was clean.

I have a Drs appointment on Thursday. My blood sugar was higher than it should have been 4 months ago and the Dr. said I was officially pre-diabetic. She’s been telling me for awhile that it was time to lose weight but this time I really heard her. I’ve been pretty diligent these last 4 months and have made some good nutritional changes but I’m nervous. I hope the blood test shows how hard I’ve been working. I hope her scale agrees with mine. (Mine says I’ve lost 10 pounds)

Can’t keep my eyes open any longer. Hugs and prayers to those who need them.

Phyl in Cincy

exermom

Did an hour of a 20-40-60 workout on the treadmill. Basically, it's speed intervals. We have a board meeting for the Newcomers tomorrow so the plan is to do a Kelly Coffee Meyers Shape Up DVD

Welcome everyone new

njsousa - are you from NJ? From what I've heard from others, there really isn't a whole whole lot to be gained by going to the premium version of MFP.

Alison - have a great time on Cape Cod. Got a good price, I see. I am on maintenance, but I find that if I don't continually log, I can easily fall into old (not good) habits.

Mary - things spinning is scary. I know this may sound weird -- but have you ever used debrox in your ears? I need to clean out my ears or else I get "the spins". Actualy, right after I use it I'm "spinning" but if I just lay down, it goes away. Your inner ear can really affect your equilibrium. Be sure you're feeling fine before you get up on a ladder. The last thing you (or us for that matter) needs is for you to suddenly get dizzy up on a ladder. I hope you are better soon

Vicki - that is so nice of you to make something for your neighbor. How sad, she was so young!

Heather - fantastic that you got your money. Sounds like things are moving along for you

NCCarol - does your daughter go into the alcohol places and try to buy alcohol to see if she's carded?

janetr - can't say that I'm envying your daughter at all....lol Hope you feel better soon

terri in milwaukee - yea for your hubby!!!!

pip - how wonderful that Kirby is coming home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sylvia - how wonderful that you got the POA! Those kids are sure lucky

Rori - so happy for your husband

So many times there are things that I'd like to say, but before I even get a chance, someone has already said it!

Michele in NC

bjkidfun

trisH_7183

Janet. Sending sympathy for the loss of your beautiful Max.They are such a part of our lives......be gentle to yourself. Pat

kimses2

Hi -- I stayed on track today. I was going to complain about it being cold when I went for a walk, but then saw the picture of the snow in CO, so I'll refrain.

Logged all food
1 hour on the elliptical
20 minute walk

Feeling a little less mopey today. Getting out in the middle of the day for a walk helped. I'm just not thrilled about work right now. It's not as fun as it used to be. But you know, it's a job. Lots of other things to focus on. Looking forward to my daughter coming home from college on Friday for the holidays.

See you tomorrow.

Kimses in MA

barbiecat

The reason most people fail instead of succeed is that they trade what they want the MOST for what they want at the MOMENT.

Strategy is stronger than willpower.

Stats for today:
12,000 steps
116 minutes of dog walking
123 minutes riding the exercise bike


Phyl, graphics are really easy---let me know when you want a lesson on how to add them to your posts.

clh72569

Hello ladies, these are pictures of my Sedona, AZ vacation. I went hiking Devils Bridge, Chuck Wagon, and Broken Arrow trails by myself. It was great! I gained 13 lbs while on vacation and have already lost 7 lbs. Currently trying to figure out maintenance.

clh72569

Oh sorry,

Cat from San Diego

Annr

You are all amazing ladies I am strengthened by your perseverance in all that you face. I think we all do what we must to carry on. Cheers to our Kirby, and the fact that you are getting to re-cooperate soon in the comforts of home. Pip you are the best caregiver I know! Janetr glad you are feeling better! Silvia (((hugs))), you are one of those people that take the next step in caring to a whole new level.
Everyone seems to be attacking the weight machines (noticing peoples STAT's), so I went with my husband to the weight room today. I did most of the circuit weights and then the bicycle machine for 30. The machine had a "weight loss" option so it did some resistance hills so my stomach is really feeling that. Between swimming laps, aerobic water exercising, weight training, and on Thursdays they have water Zumba, I shall never get bored over this rainy winter! The only problem is that my suit is fading quickly! Hopefully it will last until December when I will order a new one. Unless anyone has a suit they have outgrown?? I am presently a 20-22W... I have a hard time spending $50-70 on a suit. My brown suit is now not brown anymore but a *kitten* tan.. lolol the downside to swimming at a pool with chlorine...

I am trying to get back on track to logging everyday. Its tough, but I am doing it. Had peanut butter twice today, but I logged it. Drank my 64 oz of lemonwater, so I feel proud about that!

Becca
in wet and stormy Oregon

Katla49

Mary: I've tracked the gifts down but haven't placed the orders yet. That is tomorrow's agenda. :embarassed:

Terri in Milwaukee: Sorry that work has been toxic. :flowerforyou:

Pip: Congratulations! I'm so happy that Kirby is coming home Friday.

Sylvia: It sounds as though you're getting things done that need doing. Getting a POA for the grandchildren's care is a very wise thing. I admire your good sense and commitment to your DGK. :flowerforyou:

Barbie: It is wet and windy here, too, but not the strong wind you've been dealing with. I'm glad you are safe and warm. :flowerforyou:


I've been in the dumps today and haven't gotten much done. For example I've found the DGK's boots but haven't ordered them yet. Time of year plays a role because of the darkness. I'm looking forward to Thanksgiving travel on the one hand, but stressed about the cost, being a houseguest for so many days, and so on. Worry wart zone for me. Time to woman up and get things done!

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

November Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.

fanncy0626

clh72569 wrote: »

Cat from San Diego

Thanks for sharing the beautiful pictures!

Michele - no that did not sound weird at all we even thought about that. I do have some of that here if it happens again tomorrow I will use it. I have had a nagging headache all day.

Have a great night everyone!



Mary from Minnesota

csofled

nccarolb

Michele - That is right! Katherine attempts to but alcohol to see if they will card her. If they do, she claims she left her ID in the car. If they don't, she pulls a $1 bill from her pocket and says she thought it was a ten and will be right back. In either case, I am the getaway driver!

Pip - Good news!

Sylvia - Awesome at being proactive!

Rori - Glad things went as well as they did. Update is on your travel status when you can, please?

I have an eye that is producing copious amounts of mucus. Unfortunately, it is the eye that requires a contact. Miserable!

I had the demon PT this morning so I am worn out. Good night, everyone!

Carol in NC

pipcd34

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oceanmelody

So glad to hear the good news about Kirby...we all need an upbeat story right about now, too! yay!
Betty ROC

Lagopus

I've managed to subjugate the evil autocorrect function now. What a relief! It's a terrible fate for an editor to be unable to spell correctly. Still, I'm glad to hear that my desperate struggle the other day resulted in a few giggles. No cloud without a silver lining.

I've been reading everything for the past couple weeks, though not posting because of computer issues. My heart goes out those of you who are struggling. Joyce and Sylvia and DJ come to mind first, though I know there are several others.

Truly happy to hear about the housing issues that have resolved themselves in various ways (Gloria, Heather, Lisa). No, that's not fair. They didn't resolve themselves: you resolved them! Let's give credit where credit is due.

Also great to hear that Kirby will be heading home soon.

I'm back in Stockholm now, teaching like mad for a couple weeks. As I suspected, the scale at the hotel in Bangkok was a liar. I'm up about 2 kg after all the good food in Asia. But I'm also back to logging, now that I myself am in control of what I eat, and will be walking to and from the teaching venues as much as possible. The weight will come off again.

I forget who asked (I've been reading mostly on my cell phone, which makes it more difficult to keep track of who's who) but we were in Singapore and Bangkok on business. At least my husband was. I went along mostly because if I didn't, we wouldn't have seen each other at all for nearly six weeks. What a life! So we spent more time indoors than out. I managed to get into one swimming pool in Singapore and one in Bangkok. We also went to Singapore's fantastic botanical garden one afternoon. I'll see if I can post some pics.

Catch you later!

/Penny, closer to the north pole than for a long time.

(My link to the gif of the north pole is on my injured computer. I'll retrieve it later.)

GodMomKim

Sylvia – congrats on talking to the kids and breaking the myth that just men are vets!

Pip – oh dear, a nicked airstream and more work with the gofundme…. Grrrr Later – Sounds like Kirby is making great progress!!! ** Later headed home!!! Yeah!!!!

Sue – I’ll come and use your tub for you!!! I’ll private message you about the embroidery

Carol – peach --- glad you are able to accept Mom the way she is and enjoy the stories as great fiction…

Gloria – excellent news!!!!

Dj – my sympathies on the passing of Max… it is so hard!

Betty ROC – thank you.

Katla – Lifepaint would be good for those of us who walk in the dark too….

Fearlessfaith – welcome

Penny – LOL at your Swedish English post… I am sure it was frustrating but reading it was fun!

Sylvia – you know this is the place to vent, I am sorry to hear about the situation with your son, he sounds like he is depressed too… Power of attorney is a very good choice. I just saw Miriam’s post to you, she is full of good advice.. My 86 year old mom is raising her grandson and she would agree – it is not as bad as she feared and the kids get it.



So I have been missing for a few days, and read all 10 pages of posts but did not comment much… there is more to write, but wanted to post something… and it is after 10pm a busy day tomorrow… so good night.

Kim
November Goals -
Attend yoga each wednesday evening
Walk everyday –would like to see 160 miles
continue counseling and hold my weight where it is as I deal with my current set of emotional issues
weekly fun things
W1 – football – we won! Working on craft show crafts
W2-
W3-
W4

jmkmomm

njsousa, welcome to our family here. I believe that some one that was here, CRS, was a beta tester of it. From my experience of just trying to ad extra calories is that you can actually add the exact nutrients but with the free version you just add calories. You need to send us pictures of your dog. VEry unusual combination. His poor little legs. That's a big dog on those little legs.

Charlie and his brother were Durable power of attorney for health care for his Mom. It took a lot for her to do it but we were all glad when she did it. We had all talked about it but it was the nursing home that actually fascilitated it. Sometimes those social workers can be the best advocate for the patients. My sister and I were the ones for my Mom. She wanted both of us because my sister would use her heart and I would use my nurses brain.

Great news!!!! Charlie has worn his diaper pretty much all day. for some of you that may be TMI, especially you new ladies. His best friend and member of the 'Over the hill gang' with him called to see if he was going to go tomorrow night and sing with them. Different Karaoke hosts have been asking for the group but it's only been the two and they just don't sound the same. So he told Allen that he would have to wear a diaper to do it. So when they hung up he went and tried it on and since supper on is his worst time he just left it on. When we joined AARP they sent us a small black bag, it has a strap that can be made longer or shorter. So it just fits 2 diapers, a gallon sized zip lock bag. With what all that is going on today, I am sure that some one might miscontrue it as a suspicious looking bag for a man to carry into a bar. If they want to inspect it they will find a diaper and be embarrassed. But I really want him to get back to his regular schedule of singing. And you really can not tell when you look at him that he has it on. It is disappointing that there is nothing but 'fabric' on the sides.

Sylvia, so glad that you have finally got a signed and notarized document that you have permission to care for the children.

Pip, I hope you don't actually think that if the hospital says he will be discharged at 11 AM that he will be! I hope you are right but it's a hospital and I have never seen one operate like that.

I always love my Tuesday nights and I can watch the 2 NCIS shows. I loved it when all 3 were on Tuesday nights but they moved one to Monday night.

Joyce, Indiana

GloworminWA

Allison I am still laughing at the thought of your DFIL baptizing people with his coffee!!!

dreamwriter

Made it through page 37

Joyce - I'm not sure how the at home sleep test works. I'll find out on Friday.

Glo - Someone is smiling down on you. Enjoy your good fortune.

Heather - I'm sure your DS won't be out of a job for long. So glad you got back safely from the "Jungle".

DJ - Max looks like he was a lovely companion. I'm sorry for your loss.

Betty ROC - Helmet for me. I lived close to a home for the head injured and that convinced me.

Pip - Glad Kirby is doing so well. He's a strong guy and he's lucky that he also has you.

Allison - Darling photo of Homer.

Lisa - I'm glad the day was a success. May there be many more.

Sylvia - Hoping things improve for your DS. I'm glad you are putting a plan in place. I wish you didn't have to worry about all of this. Praying for the best out come.

Rori- I'm glad your DH is doing so well. It does sound very painful.

Today was crazy at work. I was late for hair appointment. I hate that. I don't want any one to think that I think my time is more important than theirs.
Crazy winds today, at times 110 km/hr. Then thunder, lightning and hail. It shook our door.

-Sharon in Alberta

Sunnygirl_2015

Stats for the day-
• Gym weight circuit- full body workout concentrating on legs. Upper body is weaker so start out with lower weights.
•. Add 10% more weight each week if I'm stronger
•. 30 minutes on the exercise bike
•. 5300 steps

Rosie

grandmallie

morning ladies~
dont go into work until 1 pm..
but will go see DFIL this morning didnt go yesterday as I had to go to work early..
have laundry in the dryer.. and will take care of that before I go see him..
not much to add..

Peach1948

Becca, you might can find a suit on eBay that would do for a while.

Sylvia, so glad you got the POA. Sounds like you had a better day and going to your friend's house for tea and kitty pets must have lifted your spirits. Hope you will find a class for exercise that your GD will enjoy.

N Pole Penny, it sounds like you and your DH have such an interesting life. What do you teach?

Rori, thinking of your DH and hope that he continues to do well.

Pip, good news about Kirby.

Lots of wind and rain expected here today!

Carol - Peach

lhannon062709

Penny – glad to see you posting again, your “voice” is definitely one I seek out.

Sylvia – so glad you’re getting Power of Attorney sorted out for your grandkids. I hope your worry about your son is misplaced, but there may be some tiny peace of mind for you in being prepared for those things you can prepare for… I can’t even begin to imagine having to be prepared for the death of a child. You are, as Miriam said, so much stronger than you know.

Rori – bless your heart and your DH! My very fertile imagination provided an unlovely picture of a unicorn with its horn removed. Hope the two of you are both ok; safe travels, my dear.

Pip – so glad Kirby’s coming home on Friday. Take care of yourself, too… I know you’re hearing all of us urge you to do that, but we’ve all taken care of others to the point of our own collapse. He needs you to be at your healthiest, so taking care of yourself is, at very deep levels, the best possible thing you can do for that man you love so much.
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Speaking of which, I’ve got to go get rolls made out and rising from the bread dough I let thaw overnight. While they’re rising, I can run a couple miles, then get bread in the oven and sandwich rolls baked for the DH before I head for the warehouse. Mouse and Squeak, the kittens, are being relocated today with me to the warehouse, and I’ll spend the night there again. Will be nice to have some company. Not sure how all that is going to go. We’ll see.

Getting a new cellphone in by FedEx today, and they don’t come in until after 3 p.m. in Fort Stockton. With it getting dark by 6 p.m., just makes more sense to stay in town. Hopefully, I’ll be able to get used to being in town by myself a couple nights a week, especially with the kitties. Trying to make it so my schedule is to drive into town on Monday, stay the night, leave Tuesday late afternoon for the ranch, go in Wednesday and stay the night, back to the ranch on Thursday afternoon, then pop in Saturday to check out the garage sales and check on the furbabies, and settle into a routine. So two nights a week away from the hubby gives me four days availability at the warehouse, and cuts my commute expense nearly in half. Even with gas at $1.99 here, $30 to $40 a week in gas adds up fast.

Speaking of the need to make money, batting around ideas about using the warehouse as a package pickup, and even a gift-wrapping station for Christmas. Also have one of my writers who lives in town who is desperately in need of part-time work, but can’t pay her anything yet. Perhaps I can work out some kind of profit-sharing thing to have her presence there when I can’t be. Still thinking about it. Otherwise, package pickup just is not an option; there has to be someone there at least five days a week, six would be better.

Off to my chores, my chickens. Fingers crossed the kitties don’t just absolutely flip the heck out while I’m getting them into town. Picked up a large metal crate at a garage sale last week to transport them, and am putting a bunch of not-needed, not-useful stuff aside for a garage sale at a later point, so can probably sell it for more than I bought it. Have I mentioned I’m big on negotiating?

Oh! And I lost that next pound, DJ – hope you’re doing well, too… Only four more pounds, and I’ll be at “overweight” instead of “obese.” I know I shouldn’t focus on the numbers, but man I want that to be “normal,” just once in my adult life! That, however, is another 31 pounds away, and that sounds daunting from here. Then I remember I’ve lost ten more than that already and I feel better. Roller coaster day!

Lisa in West Texas - sunny and 70 degrees today, sunny and mid-60s tomorrow. Yay!

Elaine352962

Just found your site. I am 63 and I am struggling to lose 2 stone. Kimperry I agree with every word you say. I am sick of my waistline flab and a not so flat stomach. I keep trying not to eat the obvious foods that are not good for me but if I see a biscuit packet open it is impossible to resist. I need help.

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

Slept right through my 3 favorite shows ... The Voice, first showing of Chicago Med, and Chicago PD. BooHoo! But, I needed to catch up on my sleep as I had not been very good to get it at night. Louis told me to get up and go to bed, which I finally did and he let Cracker out before putting her into her crate. She loves to go outside when he is outside with her. She's gotten what it means for me to open the door and let her go outside now. Whew! No longer have to stand out there with her. She's a quick study!

When my son got custody of his (at the time) 14-year-old ... it was a very touchy 2 weeks before it occurred after DOGD had signed the petition for the custody to be changed. First week, she had left the state to go visit with her other Papa; and then the next week was her mother's time to have her. If her mother had gotten wind of what was about to transpire, she could have stayed in TN and the DOS would have had to have gone there to file for a change of custody and might have lost her. That Friday when they called the Sheriff's Office and told them they could go ahead and serve her because they had 'physical custody' of her; they did serve her mother with the papers that gave them temporary custody until a Rule Nisi Hearing was scheduled in another 2 weeks. She was PISSED! More so because Taylor had acted like nothing was going on and even more irritating to her is that she signed the papers on her 14th birthday. In the Rule Nisi hearing the custody change became permanent and child support and arrearage was done so that the past due child support she had claimed was applied to what she would have had to pay for the next 4 years that DGD was with her Daddy. She claimed he owed her, this money was applied to the child support she would have owed son, if she was able to pay child support for the rest of the time that custody would be with her Daddy. Because DDnL#1 was cashing the checks for her and giving her cash without getting a signed receipt or making out the check and having her endorse it they did not make him pay her anything. DDnL#1 said she was 'trying' to help her - only making things worse for son because he did not have any proof that she had been paid. Her comment to the Judge was that all he had to do was pay her this money and she would have given her to him. Another lie - she, in essence, basically told the Judge 'well, I would have sold her to him'. DOS & DOGD had to have a police escort to go to get DOGD's clothes and other belonging. He wasn't very sympathetic towards her.

Since then, she has also lost her other 2 girls to DFACS and they are now with their own fathers (actually one is with her father's mother) to raise. All have come so far with the changes. DOGD got to see her youngest half-sister about a month ago when she and her boyfriend went to TN to see his father and to get things that had been in his house when it burned. Middle half-sister had already been with her paternal grandmother for over a year when DFACS stepped in. DOGD gets to see her more often because she lives near-by and she has told her mother to stop contacting her, she wants nothing to do with her. She's already been 'in jail' 3 or 4 times since losing custody of her youngest daughter a little over a year ago. DOGD says her youngest half-sister is almost 'scary smart' and she has thrived living with her Daddy. Middle half-sister has finally realized that what her mother writes to her is just a pack of lies. She's not going to change her situation and now all 3 seem to know it. She was ordered by the court to 'move' to a more suitable place, get a job, go to AA and NA and not to expect any changes of custody back to her. DFAC has knowledge that She has always made good grades but when she started living with her Dad, her grades got her onto the "Headmaster's Honor Roll' making all "A's". She was the "Star Student" for her school as well, which means she made the highest score on the SATs in her class. She was more proud of that than anything. So were we.

She's been on the Dean's List her first year in college and probably this year as well. Her GPA is about 3.8 now. Organic Chemistry has kicked her fanny! But, she still thinks she should skate by with a "B". She said she'd never take 2 hard courses during summer ever again - it was very difficult for her and missed making a "B" by 1 or 2 points. We're just very proud of her for making good grades anyway. She's planning on becoming a vet; but, worries about having to take out loans in her undergraduate work; but, like I told her - she's got to get there first - and this is the only way she can do so. She gets HOPE which pays for most of her tuition, etc.; but, she is living off campus this year - but her rent is less expensive than living on campus where she had to buy a meal ticket and other matriculation costs. All Freshmen have to live 'on campus' that first year.

I need to clean out the bottom of my closet so I can find things like the 2nd shoe in a pair of them. I wish we would do that closet thing to make it easier to find things. Summer and winter clothes have to be in there. DYS's closet is also full (have to put linens and towels in there; and he has a trunk-full of baseball cards in there as well. Probably has close to 10,000 of them, some are full sets of them. He won't take them home with him, dammit.